| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/20/2006 7:15:33 PM | Being alone and being lonely are two different things. Lonely is expecting someone else to forfill your life. This is not needed and is quite needy. Sharing your life and soul with another should complete your life, not fix it. We are all alone and can not expect some one else to take on the impossible task to "make you happy." Be happy with life and yourself first and then when two come together it is a celebration of life not a dependency.
Yearning is not lonelyness. To yearn for a man's touch, for the happiness you have when you see love in a man's eyes, for the warmth of a man's laughter, for the sharing of ideas and stories is yearning for a wonderful relationship. There are plenty of couples that are still lonely due to not being happy with themselves and projecting this upon their mate. Finding all the wonderful things in yourself and the world leaves little time for lonelyness and gives you so much more to share when a man is by your side. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/20/2006 10:54:35 PM | "Finding all the wonderful things in yourself and the world leaves little time for lonelyness"
Except you still go to bed alone.  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/22/2006 12:22:11 AM | | And here I was wanting to move to Missouri papa... hmmm.. .I guess I could just saddle my horse up and ride around there until someone came along!! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/22/2006 7:49:00 AM | Well, as Bob Barker would say,"Come on Down" There's a lot of nice riding grounds here for both horses and bikes. But I would wonder why in the world someone would trade the Florida weather for Missouri weather. I'm sure if you came riding around here, someone would definatley come along as you put it. I don't know about where your from, but around here horse people are a breed of thier own and are pretty close knit. I think the best times in my life as far as fun goes, is when I had my horses. Didn't matter what the weather was, there was always get togethers and the shows and just pure down to earth riding. A bunch of us used to start riding around midnight around the river bottoms and ride until sunup. We had about a 10 mile stretch where we would make pit stops at each others houses along the way build a small fire and just have a ball. At X-mas time we would go caroling on horseback. Didn't matter if it was raining or snowing. Just good ole clean fun. The local News Teams would eventually find us and we would be on the news every year.
So yes, if you can handle the weather change ride on down. Just be prepared to hear a lot of,"Save a Horse and Ride a Cowboy"  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/22/2006 8:54:31 AM | mesnafugal said:
And here I was wanting to move to Missouri papa... hmmm.. .I guess I could just saddle my horse up and ride around there until someone came along!!
Damn Mes! And here I was gettin' ready to move north to your are and round you up and here ya go ridin' off to Missouri on me! Dang it anyhow!
So tell me girlfriend...Is the wedding off? LMAO
Luv Ya mes!  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/22/2006 10:50:18 PM | Awwww.. .Jim... had you already packed??? I haven't packed up for Missouri yet, maybe you can change my mind... lol
Papa.. we've done the exact same thing caroling on horseback and stopping at peoples houses for munchies and stuff. We also moonlight ride especially in the summer months becasue it's too hot and buggy during the daytime. Trust me, the weather here in the summer is horrible.. toooooooooooooooooooo hot. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/23/2006 3:58:33 AM | | I'm over 60 and alone. The problem I have found at my age is that many of the women that I have met on POS above the age of 45 are either looking to replace an ex-husband or dead husband, want a lifetime commitment, are ready for the rocking chair on the porch, have dedicated their life to their grown kids or grand kids or both, have such mass drama in their life that it is being made into a soap opera, or they are just plain bitter. I recently changed my profile to address these areas. Probably won't here from anyone now, but it will damn sure beat wading through the crap to find out where someone stands. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:44:40 PM | heyyyyyyyy you make 51 sound like we are old ladies , i for one am not , i am 51 and very pleased with myself , i have alot off confidents, fell comfortable with who i am and what i have become after my divorce . I have no regrets , at least none that i will let spoil my self esteem
Yes at 51 and divorced i feel great !!!!! , no kids , great job , lots of friends , not bragging just wanted to let you know that life does not end at 40-50- it has just begone andi intend to enjoy this journey to they fullest . so relax it only gets better . | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/23/2006 10:02:08 PM | Mes Said:
Awwww.. .Jim... had you already packed??? I haven't packed up for Missouri yet, maybe you can change my mind... lol
You know I love you Mes. Sure, I'd do my best to change your mind! You know I'd be on my knees in front of you any day! Now please don't go! Shucks... I have been turned down for marriage proposals 2 ties in the same day! I'm countin" on you girl! I'm saddling up right now!
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/24/2006 11:53:14 AM | I suppose you're right. I've been separated since 1986,and my wife finally divorced me in 1996.
I'm still not over her. I think of her and miss her every day. I don't think I'd mention her on a date though unless something brought the subject up. When you're that closely bonded to someone are you EVER really over it? I dunno maybe I'm obsessive. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/24/2006 12:14:34 PM | countrygal45 - I suspect that what she means is that she's not looking to date arround permanently but only until she finds that someone special. Kind of like looking for a long term relationship and not a dateing lifestyle.
It's not that hard to figure out. Or, since that describes me, maybe it's more obvious to me.
On the other hand I'll never marry again. If I was ever in a relationship again, (it'll never happen), I wouldn't try to chain the butterfly. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/24/2006 12:28:04 PM | | Sooo, Your profile states; " You are here for the Fourm, not a Date," This could be your part of the reason there are no guys at your door step!" | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/24/2006 4:27:04 PM | | this behaviour is typical of all men,not just those of an advanced age.who does`nt like "doing what they want to,when they want to"!c`mon let`s get real here! perhaps if you were able to find interests of your own instead of loooking for a man to "complete" you,you would understand! stand up! be a woman! a real woman! take a mans word for it, when they see how uninterested you are,you will suddenly become "veeeerrrry interesting! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/24/2006 7:15:31 PM | | Truth I am sure that you are in the wrong forum.....but thanks for the sermon.....and its only friday night....lol....What I have been finding in my experiences is....alot...but not all...that the fellas that contact me are looking for a one night stand...or a bed buddy....because they are really looking to have the showpeice hanging from their arm....ya know...that foofoo high maintenance gal that the fellas all say that they detest....LOL....so I am very happy with myself, my job and where I live and my family.....sure I get lonely...but I would much rather live on my own than get stuck with the wrong one..... | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/24/2006 8:44:00 PM | | Truthforall, if you are going to give sermons, the least you can do is show yourself. Might help your credibility a little. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/25/2006 9:21:27 AM | I AGREE, GET OUT THEIR AND FIND SOMEONE, DO SOMETING, BE ACTIVE, SITING HOME, YOU WILL NOT FIND SOMEONE!!! THE MORE PEOPLE YOU MEET, THE CLOSER YOU ARE TO FINDING THE PERSON YOU WANT, WITH EVERY NEW PERSON YOU MEET, YOU LEARN, GOOD AND BAD. LEARN AND GROW WIT LIFES EXPERIENCES, EVERY DAY IS A GIFT NOT A GIVEN, ENJOY IT!!!!PJ | |
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| tnshylady
Posted: 3/25/2006 2:35:42 PM | | Perhaps the problem that you women...and men...have in finding a compatable lifemate is that your view of life and what it has to offer is a bit too narrow... for instance you say you want a man with conservative morals who's decent and honest..intelligent and fun... but you keep looking for him in trashy places like dumpy bars and scummy partys...becuase thats YOUR lifestyle...well... people who are of decent principals and have good jobs dont hang out in low class trashy places....so if thats where you looking..perhaps its you..and not the opposite sex..that has problems that need to be addressed.... and its like i told this drop dead foxy chick in college who complained all the guys she dates treat her like crap... if you date jerks...you going to get jerked ..... its nobodys fault but your own... and guys...if your one of the rare few that has some class..a good job..and morals..( i doubt you would even be here reading this..but..) ..if you date the female version of a jerk... you get what you deserve....sooner or later.... 99% of our dating and relationship problems are becuase of OUR choices.. not what the other person did... if we hadnt made a bad choice to begin with..they couldnt have done it to us... eh ? | |
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| tnshylady
Posted: 3/26/2006 5:20:02 AM | | So I guess you consider internet dating to be classy? myself, I have very limited means to get out and meet people,unless I took some serious risks by going to bars alone. I think the women who are my age and in my type of situation- no close friends-who do that are braver than I am. so I consider the internet to be a blessing , but I would never think they are 'trashy'. | |
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| tnshylady
Posted: 3/26/2006 5:22:19 PM | | I consider this means of communicating absolutely fascinating.....I am in no hurry to meet Mr right....cuz with anything....its a risk....I like to do the forums....I wont go to a bar by myself either....it is not because I fear going out alone or anything...that is not a big deal....just dont want to go and sit there looking at nothing for the half hour or hour to sip on my drink......I can do that at home....watching a hockey game......I do not think that sites like this designed to meet peaople are trashy at all.....some of the people might be...but the site itself isnt | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/27/2006 5:22:32 PM | Been twice for me now....... I think commitment doesn't mean what it used to ..... both found out the grass wasn't so green after all. Now the dating for me has been busy !!!!!!!!! I still haven't found the sparks though, I just am not giving up just yet. tnshylady, you shouldn't either. I like my freedom to but compromise is good to as both could find they share a common interest of enjoyment beyound what they knew before. Good luck searchin in tn.  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/27/2006 5:45:48 PM | I think the older we get, the more requirements we have for the right fit.
My soloution is to broaden my area, and look farther from home.
I am looking for my next relationship to be easy, because if you have that click, all else just sort of comes together, right? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 4/12/2006 8:04:49 PM | Well [if its ok to start a sentence that way.]
there always is the fact that I have been alone in my head since birth
and I'm sure to be that way when I'm in a hearse
despite what I've read there is no reverse from dead
time though it may be contrived still keeps on making us older.
we keep looking over our shoulder for that moment of truth
though we know youth is fleeting some keep on cheating
thinking they need a new after glow
the reaper's ready to go don't you know
you can only harvest what you have sown
but after 50 some odd years
some things are very clear
others haze and get lost in the days
you look for that sprocket
you left in a pocket
well ... you get the picture.
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 4/12/2006 8:47:17 PM | | I don't think our requirements really change with age. Hasn't changed much for me in the past many years. If it feels right for me then it is. Everyone has a different comfort level, at any age and so we should follow that. If there are any flags, then you should heed them, no matter. Good luck to all! :) | |
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