| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 8/31/2006 8:14:38 PM | | You Know I have wondered that myself...Personally for me I think I see allot of people that think because I am overweight that I am a couch potato. All I can say to them is their loss cause I am certainly not! I have taken the time to write several emails and gotten very few responses either. To those that have sent me an email that I have not responded to it is because they are from different countries. There are allot of people on these sites I have found that will say they are from you area and then when you respond you find out that they are from another country (meaning they are scammers looking for money!) ran into several of those already. The other thing you see is the ones that send an email basically wanting to have cyber sex or something like that. All that all I can tell you is look at it as it is their loss they are being so shallow that they are missing out on a great person with allot to offer that is what I do! | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/1/2006 11:44:03 AM | I reply to most, but got one today that said I sounded deliscious & to get back to him.
The guy has contacted me three times & not sure he is aware of it, but I am. 1st time
I read his e-mail & didn't reply immediatly so I got a "What your not interested? " back from
him. Sounded a bit desperate to me & a big turn off. Then I got another later on saying
he liked my profile & if I was interested to write him at his home address, can't recall is home phone was also included or not. Now I get the " I sound Deliscious" a few weeks later. I was going to replay with a smart ass comment but I don't want to play any head games, so I just deleted it. I will not reply to someone who is trying to push me to replying !!!!!
You sound like a nice young man & now that you have a pic up maybe you'll get more replys.
Good Luck To You !!!
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/1/2006 4:56:46 PM | People are not here to meet & date anyone. Haven't you figured it out yet? They're just here to look at each other while dreaming of the life they used to have with someone else and dreaming of a life they want with someone new yet never get because they
1: never give or take a chance on meeting anyone.
2: have over-blown expectations & ideals of who they're going to meet in relation to who they are.
3: if they do meet you - they expect chemistry to be instant & so intense that they have an orgasm the instant they meet you but if it doesn't happen = they claim "no chemistry".
4: want written in stone contracts upfront that you're going to marry them before meeting.
Good luck.
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/1/2006 8:09:41 PM | | I think the main reason is or at least what I have encountered is that the women on here seem to be looking for the "perfect" guy to come sweep them off thier feet, instead of giving "real" men the chance to prove who they are and what they want. I am new to the dating scene but this is what I am experiencing from the women that I have seen not only on here but other places. | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/2/2006 5:58:13 AM | LOL, Honky: Do you really except many woman to respond? Your profile comes off as SEX, SEX, SEX. AND...........no photo?
Which is fine, but maybe rethink the complaining part, if 1 out of 20 responses, then I think you did pretty darn good. JMO! | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/2/2006 6:04:29 AM | Sorry, have to jump in here one more time.
Bullrider, ever think it's the other way around, the men in MI. are, or might be looking for Miss perfect?
I've been on here for maybe 6mths now, the # of men from Mi who have contacted me.......3.
I have a good profile, not that bad to look at and have a great sense of humor.......BUT, my down fall, travel. Seems men in Mi. who state they like to travel, well they must mean by plane, because being up here in God's country, thats the first thing I here, Your to far. LOL.
Thats fine, to each is own, I just wanted you to look at both sides, thats all. | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/2/2006 10:45:30 AM | It's just easier to ingnore those we don't think will work out.
Not saying that is how I am, I do write a sort reply. At the same time I don't want to hurt someones feelings. I don't think many of us that have been in broken or down right bad relationships want to "settle" for less then 100%. These things are very hard places to meet people. But what can you do? I don't date people I work with, not into bars, don't attend church and if I talk to a pretty lady on the street it is uncomfortable for them.
If they don't reply they are not interested..fact. move on!!.....don't be a stalker  | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/2/2006 1:52:59 PM | In all reality, one-on-one contact on the internet is slightly an overwelming thing. These "date sites" are a great concept, and I am positive they have worked great for many that have had patience and persistance to follow through. I have heard the phrase, "for every "NO" you are only closer to a "YES", then I see all my "no replies" as a "NO" and maybe my timing is just not right with those.
Maybe I contacted them a day too late, and they have just had a meeting with someone else, (not saying even they will continue contact) and they are dropping all contact from other "potentials" to be true towards what can be possible.
I like the concept of these forums on these sites, and the forums for group gatherings. The more outings for fun that are specificly set up for these "dating sites" I feel have better impact than trying to meet "one-on-one".
Also, these forums are great for the fact of each person speaks their mind on these, and if you like and agree what that person's opinion is, that's a great conversation piece to include in your email to them.
On the picture deal, I feel that if a picture is posted, and I am interested, I will read the profile that is attached to the picture, (I sell ebay, and have learned that if people don't see pics, many pass right by the item without reading the description!!) And I'll admit, my profile pics here are on the "quirky" side, (by the way folks, thnks for the votes!!) but I've tried to post pics where I am not looking like I am having a bad time!! Many photos I have seen here and other sites, many people look very depressed and unhappy. Yes this is true, if you weren't unhappy you wouldn't be on here, but its hard to read a profile of someone who has a "bubbly, "easy going" "goes with the flow" "happy" and believe it with a pic of someone looking upset.
So to all you Michiganders, I will be working towards singles gatherings around the mid-Michigan area!! No falsified profiles to hide behind, just you knowing that others are there just like you, to meet and have fun!! Any help from anyone would be a great plus getting things going/places to meet, I'm all ears!!
Hope my opinion and outlook helps in any way! I'm out! | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/2/2006 4:38:57 PM | | It's too bad, Greeneyezz, that you have such cynical reasons for being "here" on POF. Your reasons for being "here" are not mine. To spread the idea that everyone is as cynical as you seem to be is really quite unfair. Of course, what would such a cynic care about fairness?? | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/2/2006 10:02:53 PM | ^^^^^ Shabat Msg: 37
Another one without a sense of humor. Take note ladies - dude above has NO sense of humor whatsoever - could you see yourself living with a guy that can't take a joke?? He's also "directly" personally attacking and self-righteous (shown above by his personal attack directly on me). Sound like a fun guy??
Good luck with that.
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/2/2006 10:11:08 PM | Shabat......i see that you are a newbie here at POF. Well welcome to POF and the Michigan forums. :)
Regarding your post on Mr. Greeneyezz.......he is just a big ol goofy butt and more often than not mostly posts with silly remarks. Yeah,,,i think sometimes there may be a grain of truth spun into his answers,,,but for the most part,,he's just a big goof so please dont take offense. You'll see and you'll get the gist of some of the regulars on here once you start getting your feets wet! :)
greeneyezz,,,behave will ya!? LOL
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/3/2006 3:24:05 AM | ^^ heehee Kinda cute when you stick that lower lip out and pout yanno lol
oh and OT lol : its reallly not a 'Michigan' thing as it happens ev-ery-where! Also not a gender issue,,,,this happens to women too. Shrug your shoulders and merrily walk away. :) | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/3/2006 4:39:49 AM | Shabat,
One thing you may not have realized is how this site has morphed from a "find a date" matchmaking service into a kind of "community" site. While this shrieks junior high school with its factions and cliques, the point is people are more comfortable acting silly or serious as the mood strikes them than they might be if this were... I dunno, the Suicide Hotline?
POF is a very open environment with people from many age groups and backgrounds, and I think everyone looks at it a little bit differently. Expect pretty much anything within the site's Terms of Service. | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/3/2006 6:01:22 AM | | WELL IT DOES SEEM IN MY EXPERIENCE THAT PEOPLE ARE JUDGING MY BY HOW I LOOK..THEY DONT WANT TO TAKE A CHANCE TO EMAIL ME BEACUE THEY THINK IM A GANG BANGER OR THUG..WHATEVER..I GUESS ITS JUST THEIR MISSING OUT ON A GREAT GUY.. | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/3/2006 9:36:02 PM | | I'm sorry for the misunderstanding, AnyRealWomen, but that was what it looked like to me. Especially with the do-rag on your head, I would think that other people might assume the same thing. Just an observation, maybe you'd get better responses with your other pictures, they are nice. | |
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