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Posted: 9/9/2006 10:18:04 AM | Although, I am not really offended by Rocky's post....I think it's funny how it's "OK" that he is only looking for a bbw...if he would have posted something about only wanting a "Barbie" then eveyone would be ripping him a new a-hole. Because it shallow. Works both ways.
Yes, most people do have a preference........But, please for the love of chocolate people realize that fat or lack of it doesn't dicate the persons, heart, soul and mind.....
Back on point.....
Yes, a good written email does get more back from me as well...I answer 99% of all of them...But, "Thanks and good luck to you" will be all I write unless the author has written a little bit more than "hi" or S'up...or I like your profile...
Ima has great points too....People especially adults have lives...are busy and don't have hours to answer emails....and yep...dating online does mean you need to NOT be too thin skinned...... | |
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| Why dosn't any one in Michigan reply when you send them mail.
Posted: 9/9/2006 10:25:05 AM | I agree, if you don't have a picture on your e-mail, you can expect a lot of 'no replys'.
While we're on the subject of pictures, I've found there are a lot of people that are posting pictures of themselves (or someone else) years before their age now. To those people (and those that don't even post one) I say, 'You are setting yourself up for disapointment'. Think about it, would you like to set up a first date with someone just to have them turn tail and run when they see you don't look like your picture? Personally, I would be more descrete, but no matter what a great personality you have, or how little you've changed, showing me right off the bat your a liar is all the indication I need that your not for me. | |
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| Why dosn't any one in Michigan reply when you send them mail.
Posted: 9/9/2006 6:28:59 PM | Well, where I am when I do a search, 99% of my matches are in Ontario. Not many on here from the Eastern Upper Peninsula. Its a sad day when you get your matches and it defaults to a state level match.
Hopefully I can meet someone from within 75 to 100 miles from The Mackinac Bridge. | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/9/2006 9:16:47 PM | | Hey Clark....I can see your point about the material stuff. But being a bartender by trade, I think its more about rejection. Whether you are into friendships, one-nighters, or a full blown relationship thing, NO one likes rejection..... | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/9/2006 11:25:06 PM | This is an interesting discussion. Me personally, I don't post my picture for a few reasons. Mainly, because I like my privacy. I prefer to share my picture with folks I'm interested in, and I don't want all of my personal details viewable by...say...people I work with. But that's just me.
I don't expect to receive emails from females w/o a picture, that's a given. Frankly, I don't have problems meeting people of the opposite sex. What I hoped from this website was to meet a girl who fit into my specific "want" list.
Anyway, I think I've emailed 4 or 5 girls who piqued my interest. Each time, I take the time to carefully read their profile and send them a message that has some thought to it. And of course, attach my picture. I'm a clean cut attractive guy (I think!) and, to date, have received no responses.
Which is ok, it doesn't bother me or hurt my feelings at all.
But it surprises me that adults in the 30+ crowd would not take the time to answer someone who expresses a measure of interest in them in a mature and nice way.
I don't have alot of experience to base this on, but I think that many people who use this website are here not to meet someone, per se. But maybe to gauge how attractive they are to the opposite sex? IE see how many folks are interested in them...enjoy getting email?
It's that or the people who interest me get so many responses they just don't have time or inclination to write back. Either way, human nature is a funny thing.
I will say that the message forums here are interesting. Hearing the points of view of other people, particularly females, on various subjects is eye opening and quite interesting. | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/10/2006 4:10:27 PM | i always reply to every e-mail i get whether it has a picture or not. i just kinda look at it as , you never know who you're gonna meet. i'm only on here to use the forums and heve a good conversation with people so i don't think it is important to have a picture. i will have one up as soon as possible though because i do think that having a picture is a bit more personable and makes it easier for people to approach you. | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/15/2006 8:09:53 PM |
Geeeez, I can't have no fun anymore - I'm taking my tonka's outta the sand box and goin home now.
Thank you, Greeneyezz. I am sure somewhere, somehow you are a nice guy but your predilication for being sarcastic and cynical is rather off putting. I would rather be with someone who wants to smile rather than someone who seems to hate the world and all in it. Good luck with your search | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/16/2006 5:48:00 AM | | I think you have to be careful to write an interesting introduction note and then have an interesting profile to back it up. Tease a bit and sometimes turn the photos off until you've gotten a bit further. It also seems like there are not that many women of color on POF... Is that true? | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 9/17/2006 8:06:45 AM | | I have to agree with your complete statement....I can gaurentee that If i post my pic....I'll get many who respond, and I believe it's based upon looks only....Im not a 10 either, because I do believe that we can all improve in every aspect, but I'm tired of of the "compliments", and would like a conversation NOT based on looks..it goes both ways here....read the profiles to see how a conversation might begin other than physical....Personally..I'd like to bring back the good-ole-fashioned days of dateing....Opening doors, holding hands, picnics, laughing.....things we all have in common....We tend to become lonely and "settle"....there is someone out there for everyone...when you quite looking..it may happen..Good Luck..be patient. | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:20:18 PM | Hey bigkelv,sorry to hear about you not getting any replies bro,but don't say it's a Michigan thing man we got enough problems in Mich,so no need to knock our Lovely Ladies .Maybe it's what you say to them.Me myself I do not even have a picture up but I have gotten some responses from a few Ladies.And I understand when they do not reply.Man it's called Plentyoffish so rebait your hook and through it back in you'll get a bite soon. | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 10/9/2006 8:35:02 AM | | I live in michigan and reply to most of mine. I will reply if you dont have a picture if your profile is new or you actually have it filled out with just more than the where you live and your age. Also if your message is on the lines of hey wanna f**k or something similar I do not respond. Just be yourself and Iam sure your responses will pick up. | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 10/9/2006 11:43:06 AM | Then let me be the first Michigan lady to reply and say hello big guy! I don't know why you guys aren't getting emails. I came looking for friends, but keep getting guys who want more... I'm married, not happily, but not able to leave, so I don't need any extra stuff to complicate things. But that's just me personally. But I know I personally don't like it when I get a message from someone who doesn't take the time to get to know ME, and is all like "so when we going out"? and "come to meet me here...." (like us women are so stupid and desperate to go driving all around the state meeting strangers... You never know who is on the other end, and I value my hide more than that! lol!) I hope your not taking this wrong, I'm not saying this against you, I'm telling you what happens to me on here. Plus I don't come here that much any more, I am having too much fun on myspace. I really like it, and have made alot of nice friends. Any ways guys, I gotta go, I hope you have a great week, and an even better weekend! ttfn!
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:06:25 PM | | Do you believe in honesty,loyalty and truthfullness,then look no further. I am looking for someone with good communication, open and honest. I am looking for my a friend, best friend and lover. I want someone romantic and who is a a single un-attached female who has no kids but would like to have some some day for a possible relationship and preferred age range around 25-37 years of age and from around the saginaw,midland,mt.pleasant or sanford area and must be from Michigan and either a hispanic caucasian,native american or a oriental or a middle eastern. Someone who likes to kiss, cuddle and hold hands. I am open and honest and have a good heart.I want someone who also likes playing computer or online games like everquest,reading,writing,travelling, bowling,chatting,walks on the beach,jet-skiing,and many other things. I want someone who likes to travel. I am ready to settle down. Well, I hope to hear from you and my email is massaman@earthlink.net | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 10/15/2006 2:31:44 AM | I believe when you get this many people in one place you also end up with the bad ones too
personally the married people looking to skrew there whole family lives up , make a big percentage on any site......then you have your lookie loo,s, people looking for SEX,.ugh arnt we all just not on the first date....you have your cinical people who want but wont take the steps,......Your insecure people who perhaps cant think enough of themselfs and there for do not write back,........ah yes then we have people whom think way too much of themselfs for who wrote,....... , then add the fact that a person may or may not like or want kids,.
then belifes come into play,......weather there tall or not,....blad or not,.LOL the list goes on....wanna know why its so hard,........ well those are just a few to name
and were not even talking about "sexually compatable",..........
and the truth is,...weather some one thinks your hot or not when it gets there
its not looks that make your partner scream,.....its compatability,......
but looks,...and i dont mean hot knock down drag out hotties,....
its about attraction,.........frankly rocky was being honest,...he likes big girls,.....
loves them he said,.thats his preferance,.........
his attraction,.........a lady was upset because he directly stated his preferances,....
you know up front hey if im skinny he isnt going to be interested,....honey with the extra pounds stop being so hard on you for being heavy and stop attacking the men who love you relax enjoy and grab that date!!.........
remember the grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence,.and even if you looked like demi moore, with the attitude , you still wouldnt get a date that way,.....
we all have eyes and we all see things with those eyes,......its a natural things to like beauty,....but that will only carry so far,......a present may look great till you unwrap it and if theres nothing in there,.well theres nothing to want.
Im glad when some one not interested doesnt write back , tells me all i need to know and to move on.....who wants some one who doesnt want us??....... | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 10/15/2006 7:25:34 AM | You should check your grammer and your sentence structure on your profile. I know it sounds silly, but reading the profile is the "dirst impression" that someone is going to see about you, and if your sentences don't make sense, and you sound unintelligent, the person reading your profile is going to just go to the next one - this isn't just for you..........this is for everyone, and this is from my own personal experience. I give people the benefit of the doubt, but if there are a ton or errors just in 1 tiny sentence, then I don't even respond!!
Hope that this helps, and if you want me to look over your profile, I would be happy to do so.
~Julie | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 10/15/2006 2:55:29 PM | | Because some people are just plain rude.. I have had the same thing happen on more than one occasion. If they think they can do better? Well I just feel then let them..Cant judge a book by its cover. But alot of people here apparently are into the visual thing. So, whatever let them be..... | |
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| Why don't any one in Michigan reply when you send mail on here
Posted: 10/16/2006 4:00:18 AM | Hey bigkelv ~ I don't know, either. I met my actual soulmate within a half hour of registering on POF but I guess I got extremely lucky. My best suggestion would be to be patient and talk to everyone, especially the ones you get an 'inkling' about; she's out there, believe. Bleu  | |
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