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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/27/2008 10:44:26 AM |
The great thing about dating a high maintenance attractive guy is that you can borrow their beauty products...
Yeah, right. I was married to one of those guys. It's amazing, when I divorced him , I noticed I didn't have to buy no where near as much hair product or facial creams. So my point is, they usually borrow yours, but hey what could I expect from a cop with the nickname "Fluff". | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/27/2008 12:08:24 PM | Women aren't afraid of nothing today. I'm just concerned that women are perhaps a little too bold today.
Attractive men or not...women could care less. They will still use their mouths, still bare their breasts, still shake their hips.
The real question is, how much of their hearts are truly into us men? | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/27/2008 3:46:38 PM |
Women aren't afraid of nothing today. I'm just concerned that women are perhaps a little too bold today.
Attractive men or not...women could care less. They will still use their mouths, still bare their breasts, still shake their hips.
The real question is, how much of their hearts are truly into us men?
Wow...nothing like painting the opposite sex with a broad brush, huh?
As long as you are not bitter, hon!!!!!
Afraid? I think that may be the wrong terminology.
Extremely attractive men can be intimidating. For one thing...every women you walk by is looking at thim.... Since there is always someone better looking or worse looking than you out there? That can get a little old, and can make a woman feel a little insecure..... But that also...depends on the man...he is either into you? Or he isnt. That becomes very obvious very quickly.
A lot of women care very much. I use my mouth to talk, shake my hips on the dance floor with friends, and as far as baring my breasts? LOL...
Well...eventually I will find someone again who is worth it. For now? Those are private, and a little bit of cleavage is the most thats going to be shown.
Hearts?
Gosh, sweetie....
Isnt that what we are looking for?
Someone to share our daily life with, and someone safe to give our hearts to?
Personally? When I find the right man? My heart is "into" him 100%.
And I can only hope to get the same in return.
Looks?
Dont have everything to do with it....
But a perfect looking man is hard to live up to...
Since perfection isnt my goal.
I gave up the trophy wife thing a while ago.
JMO | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/27/2008 4:43:36 PM | | depends, but most of the time if a guy is seriously attractive, it can be intimidating. I am not unattractive, but not sure i can handle a guy who is hotter than me. | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/27/2008 5:03:04 PM | I'm in no way bitter. Forgive me if you think bitterness is part of my forté. But, if you think about your mother...my mother...the women of our past generations....they wouldn't have been so face-forward about even asking this question. Furthermore, they wouldn't even have batted an eyelash at my question.
I'm not really painting every woman with a broad paintstroke. It just seems that it's justifiable that women seem very outspoken today. I don't say them to condemn anyone. We men are no angels. But, women today are commanding respect in ways that are far more ferocious than in previous time. | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/29/2008 5:32:49 AM | I have to agree with this guy! Theres just something about being able to brag to your girlfriends about how U found a "loser" and turned him into a winner huh?? Or as I have seen women on here claim they are "looking for a diamond in the rough"
Ugh...not me, I always wanted my "diamond" to already be cut and polished by the time I got him. LOL! I'm not good with "fixer-uppers," I wanted everything to be in place when I got there. I've never quite understood the attraction that some people have to being a "rescuer" or a "fixer." (there are many men who do this too, look for a "damsel in distress" so they can play the hero.) Who needs that?? Why not just find someone you can enjoy being with, not someone who is going to be a lot of work.
And I seriously doubt that going out with an average guy is going to turn him into some kind of monster, but if it makes you feel better to think that, knock yourself out. I wouldn't say it out loud if I were you though, because it sounds more like sour grapes than anything else. | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/29/2008 6:01:56 AM | Yes, I am afraid of attractive guys; I just find myself; too ugly to be with an attractive guy. I get nervous and just think the guy must be crazy if he is talking to me, and he is attractive. | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/29/2008 6:34:24 AM | I have heard others speak of this on other sites...........like if a very attractive man joins everyone says there is something wrong with him or that isn't his real picture. Which strikes me odd...........it makes me wonder what they think of them selves if they think attractive people shouldn't be on a dating site.
I am not a super model or anything close, but I would like to think that combined with looks and personality I would be able to find anyone that is right for me..........whether or not they are super model good looking or just the average man. | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/29/2008 6:52:38 AM | I don't think I would say I am afraid of them. I have plenty of really good looking guy friends. But it might look as though I am because I am stupidly shy when I meet anyone for the first time.
Overly attractive guys are good for one thing. Looking at.
That's about as far as it goes with me. Some of them are so wrapped up in themselves I don't see the point trying to form anything other than a friendship. | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/29/2008 10:01:46 AM | So am I wrong but is the OP male?
I would be curious WHY the question was asked in the first place.
I also find it funny that the OP does not have a pic.
Define "attractive".
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
This whole thing could bring up some interesting psychological issues. | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/29/2008 3:28:13 PM | Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes, but we can all agree when there is natural beauty that stands out and that is what I would call attractive.
Am I afraid of an attractive man? No not really. I would say I can be intimidated by a man that I am attracted too only because I get a little nervous at first and eventually that wears off. However beautiful people in general do not threaten me.
I believe if you are afraid of an attractive person then you have your own demons to deal with about self confidence.
Just a thought...did you ever notice that when you show confidence in yourself that you attract more people and people find you more attractive?  | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 10/29/2008 3:50:59 PM | | It's the attitude that goes along with it. I am attracted to better looking men, I admit. Though when they were "too good looking.." way to much drama. Especially meeting online. Because of their looks.. there is arrogance, they are usually not very serious, and again "drama." The same can probably be said with very attractive women. | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 2/19/2009 11:41:38 AM | | attractive women are without a doubt. spose thats why you see so many great looking guys with plain girls and visa versa. all it takes is courage and confidence. | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 2/19/2009 12:26:38 PM | I have to laugh at someone stating that to date a ugly man means you have control... I would say that's not true.... and I've seen ugly men who think their sh_t doesn't stink either.... and they are just as likely to walk away as a good looking man...
It's a fine combination of both... that mellows the man/woman into being a decent fun person to be around... all of my female friends are gorgeous and none are stuck up...
but I'm not going to have a gorgeous airhead in the group either, there was once a beautiful man who fawned over me.... he was a fabio.... but the poor guy had not a bit of intelligence to him... couldn't stay.... sigh... | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 2/22/2009 2:02:30 AM | | I consider myself a decent looking person, but yeah, if the guy is prettier then me, it's intimidating. I just don't feel like I'm in his "league" if he's really attractive and I'm just "ok". | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 2/22/2009 8:59:44 AM | | I wouldn't say afraid but there are some men on here that I won't message because I am intimidated by their physical appearance. | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 2/22/2009 9:40:33 AM | | Not a woman, but, I think, yeah. And why? Because they're afraid that attractive guys have many, many options for attractive women (they do) and they will cheat on them (which, often, they do, BECAUSE they have many, many options). | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 2/22/2009 11:22:35 AM | Good topic to dig-up. I've considered this myself.
I think it should be; Do women really avoid good looking men.
Let's not use the term *attractive* because this is a tad vague. Attractive means different things to different people and different genders too. It comes to mean different things as we get more mature and older as-well.
I'm talking about a man who's physical appearance is just incredible to a lady.
Do you avoid this kind of guy? Is he intimidating to you?
I think many do, why? Because many believe he's not a good relationship and / or provider prospect. They tell themselves this story that this guy has an amazing amount of time to work-out, go to the gym, look good, take care of his body and his appearance, etc., etc. Suddenly many imagine that this guy must be unemployed -under-employed or just a bum living in his mom's basement. They fictionalize and rationalize that he has too much *free time* on his hands (unless they believe he's a personal trainer or something).
I'm almost willing to bet that's what many women tell themselves too. They also consider the amount of competition with other women they would really have as-well. The notion of this guy receiving all this attention is threatening to them. They still fear that even though they believe they have this guy *pegged* as an unemployed loser, many, many women will still want to jump into bed with him. They really want him but they've already talked themselves out of taking the risk.
Close to the mark? Hmmmm
Maybe this is why we so very often see the real super model types with the not so great looking yet very financially successful type of guys. Likewise we often see below average and even ugly looking women with these real great looking guys.
Men see an extremely good looking woman and tell themselves stories too. We build up these notions about them based on appearance to the point that we can actually talk ourselves out of even trying. Examples: She must be high maintenance, she's arrogant and narcissistic, she expects too much - has entitlement issues, she has lots of men after her, she doesn't work, she's dumb, she's a slut, she's a big baby, she'd never make a good housewife or mother, she's lazy, she'd be too hard to keep - too much work to be with, she's a player, etc., etc. We really want her but we've already talked ourselves out of taking the risk.
That's why I said let's not use the term *attractive*, since it's come to mean something more to me than strictly *good looking*. I don't know how attractive a person is until I know a bit about her. Otherwise it's just her outward appearance. I've known some very ugly women that looked real good, and vice-versa.
If I'm telling myself stories about someone based on their looks alone, then I'm being judgemental and very un-fair to myself and to them. I owe it to myself and to them to find out *who* they are and not judge people. That's how we end-up feeling intimidated, because we tell ourselves stuff we don't know for a fact.
Mike | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 2/22/2009 11:58:27 AM | I also have noticed that it is actually *true* that good looking people are much more used to being approached and receiving attention. This means they tend to take it for granted much more and this is also why it's even more important to be as direct, up-front and honest as possible. Unless, you just want to be friends.
Mike | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 2/22/2009 12:18:02 PM | | I have dated two well-known very handsome men, both who you would know, One was in politics and the other in movies. They were both charming...I met both in Dallas when I lived there and we had wonderful dates. I am sure they knew they were handsome but they surely were not full of themselves. I think that they take took their looks for granted and that they did not want women to date them for their looks or their occupations. They wanted to be "just regular guys". | |
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| Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 2/22/2009 12:36:47 PM | I dont find what normal ppl think as really attractive as attractive, i like the long haired bearded manly men .. and no they dont intimidate me ...
people who are obsessed with there looks bother me though | |
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