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Posted: 12/8/2004 8:56:55 PM | It is way better now... I hit my sexual peek at 28.. and had experimented alot with my Ex. But once I became single at 32 and saw that I had alot to learn about myself, thats when everything seemed to kick in for me. A year afterward I knew who I was as a person and now I can enjoy all the delights of ME lol. I loved sex beffore... but now that i know me as well as what my body likes... it makes that much more of a difference... Yeahhhh for being in my 30's lol.... I am sure moving into my forties will be just as good if not better :) | |
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Posted: 12/8/2004 10:41:19 PM | | this is so silly, but i didn't know women had orgasms until i was 20 years old. i had 2 kids already and never knew what i was missing. maybe that doesn't say alot for my boyfriend, but he was young too at the time. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2004 12:41:59 PM | Not unusual at all Michelle...........
I was the same I had my first orgasm at 23....... I swear to God.
AND>>>> I had to do it myself!!......lmao... probably too much info here but seriuosly it's not uncommon.
Being younger and more nervous...uncertain and not having as much confidence it's not uncommon for women to have to wait till a little later in life ... Not always the case mind you...
So don't feel bad. | |
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BCGray
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Joined: 12/1/2004
Msg: 29 | |
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Posted: 12/9/2004 3:39:00 PM | Oh pretty angel Pleeeeeeeeeeeeese come over to my “Rock” and teach old BC about that orgasm thingy, I have the organ right here, it’s the SM thing I is a missing  | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 30 | |
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Posted: 12/9/2004 3:55:11 PM | Since I've hit 30 plus... I am much more into forplay... taking my time... soft flirting... more apt to look the woman direct in the eyes during sex. I guess you could say... more mature about sex in general.
I had learned those things before then... but didn't really want or feel the need to apply them.... Now... I want and apply them.
Tayven, | |
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Posted: 12/9/2004 3:59:39 PM | | ((BLUSH)...BC!!!! down boy!! | |
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BCGray
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Joined: 12/1/2004
Msg: 32 | |
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Posted: 12/9/2004 4:14:22 PM | | Can I ask just one question which leg do you want down, I trust my dear angel, has heard Ralph Harris?????? Made me do it I promise | |
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Posted: 12/9/2004 4:49:41 PM | )blush) ...boy I really put my "foot" in it here..... lol....not in "touch" with my sexuality at this moment!! | |
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Posted: 12/9/2004 6:08:21 PM | | Well, I'm definately more interested now than I was 10 years ago, but unfortunately have very little actual experience of sex over the age of 30 *sigh*. would love to change that with the right person .. boy do I have very definate ideas about what I'd like! | |
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Posted: 12/9/2004 11:18:22 PM | WAY better now...
as an "old guy" I may not be into the marathon sessions that I once was(but, hey, who says we have to get out of bed at all on a sunday??) but its much more satisfying now. I am much more attentive, derive much of my pleasure watching my partners eyes roll back into her head(gawd am I speaking out of school here) and relishing the tender moments.
I've also found that thru age/maturity/experience, I'm much more in tune with those little subtle hints that my lady gives... you know the "c'mere and make me glad i was born female" looks, the way she grabs me and throws me down on the floor...
Oh, she's going to be blushing, and I'm going to be in sooo much trouble | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 7:01:29 PM | "c'mere and make me glad i was born female"....
now whatever the age, you know you've got a great lover when you think..."wow, you really know how to make me feel like a woman!" I've said that to a guy before, really a big compliment from me, since I feel like such a tomboy, not very feminine, and have penis-envy...I feel nothing but womanly after some really good sex. and at this age, I really appreciate it.sometimes I even say "oh sh*t,thank you!!"...now how weird is that? | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 7:29:40 PM | | I think it is much better...when I was younger....and my body all young and perky...I was so very self consious...always worried about how I looked if I was doing it right etc.... now I am not so self consious... I was always worried about pleasing the person I was with and now wanting them to do anything they didn't want to.... now I realize that the person I am with may actually enjoy giving me pleasure.... that I am allowed to enjoy it.... and that it can be a wonderful experience...fun exciting....and oh so very pleasureable.... if you are with the right person.... someone you trust... feel safe with... | |
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w8in4u
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Joined: 10/11/2004
Msg: 38 | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 9:48:47 PM | | I'm in my late 30's and enjoy it now much more than ever before. Could be my lover but I think it's also my confidence. Plus, I reached a point where - well, I agree with every sukari said. ^^^^^^^^^ | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 9:43:37 AM | much better.
again, like it has been said before....with age comes experience, confidence, maturity. no games.
the only sad thing is this.........
men are in there prime from 16-26.
women are in there prime in there 30's......
you guys are never going to know how good we really were.
LOL!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 6:24:22 PM | | never say never | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 7:24:11 PM | Its a much more enjoyable experience, I think you are in tune with yourself and are intrested in the experience, not the act, and that mutual pleasure is so much more important. When I was younger a quickie was a good thing :)
But Now It is like a great meal, it needs to be savored and experienced, all the wonderful flavours need to come out. It has to have many courses. Each needs to be explored and tasted.
I am much more aware of my lovers body and needs than I was when I was younger. And I know my own needs as well. Its soo much better now. And I think all this crap about your sex drive disapearing as you age is indeed crap! I have deeper desires now than I did in my twenties and I'm more open to new experiences and willing to please my partner more. Some things get better with time and I think sexuality is one of the best!! | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 7:32:51 AM | Hmm.
Chemistry is what's changed for me.
My sex drive is still what it was when I was in my 20's, and I still by and large like the same things....I'm just not as much in a rush to get to them as I used to be. :)
But chemistry with a capital C is -everything-. When I was younger I don't think it would've mattered who my partner was, so long as they wanted sex and so did I. Now, as much as I still have a lustful eye for women, I'm much more particular, much more selective. And to my pleasant surprise, I'm much more interested in the person than I might be about the sexual side of things.
I think that has to be it, really. To find that person who you click with rather than the one you can just -physically- click with. And as much as the passion is still there for me, I like taking my time to talk with a woman, get to know who she IS before anything else. I've come to find that's important in the sense that I'm becoming emotionally fulfilled by knowing this person before anything happens sexually, if it does at all. I've always maintained to myself that if I were to become involved with someone, I should be their friend first and foremost, and then if they became a lover, then that would sit equally alongside that first initial relationship.
I've come to ENJOY talking and being with someone. I've come to enjoy it because it enriches my life and hopefully enriches theirs.
Ach...to say more would probably take me about ten thousand more words and probably embarass me because I'm realizing as I write this how powerful that change is, even if it's been a subtle one over the years.
That being said...I'm grateful for it. | |
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Posted: 12/14/2004 1:11:29 PM | | it's more stimulating | |
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Posted: 12/15/2004 6:38:14 PM | Yeah thanks to you :) ^^^^^^^  | |
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Posted: 12/17/2004 6:08:57 PM | To answer my own question ...
I have always enjoyed sex, but now as I am older, I am more open to try more things because of the fact I already know what I like, and if you can improve what I like, then hey I am all for at least trying it, but if it hurts - even if it sounds like it will hurt, then helllll no... | |
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Posted: 12/17/2004 7:43:23 PM | | my longing seems to be much stronger-but I don't know if it's age related, or just because I'm not married and have it there all the time to take for granted... | |
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Posted: 12/24/2004 6:08:08 PM | | I can't help you here... LOL... the last time I had sex was when I was still 29! Though, if my appetite is any gage, I would say it's probably just as good, maybe better! | |
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Posted: 12/25/2004 2:50:09 AM | Time and the elements have take a bit of a toll on the body, but ever since 30 it's just got better. Confidence in myself, and experience. Can't beat it.
And I would need one big load of persuading to date a woman under 30.
Oh, and I have laughed a lot more about, after and during sex since I turned 30. I can't believe that I was so earnest in my 20's... | |
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Posted: 1/1/2005 5:51:48 PM | | Hummmmmm know how to say it not sure i remember how to do it | |
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Posted: 1/1/2005 7:09:57 PM | Hey, I can still hold my own !!!! | |
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