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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/17/2008 2:23:21 PM | | Of course there are good men left. But they are often quickly rejected because they have a bald spot, they are 1-2 inches too short, they don't make a certain amount of money, there isn't instant chemistry within 5 seconds of meeting them etc. LOL. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/17/2008 2:43:45 PM | Oh yeah baby, karaoke time - yipee
Where have all the good men gone
And where are all the gods?
Where's the street-wise Hercules
To fight the rising odds?
Isn't there a white knight upon a fiery steed?
Late at night I toss and turn and dream
of what I need
I need a hero
I'm holding out for a hero 'til the end of the night
He's gotta be strong
And he's gotta be fast
And he's gotta be fresh from the fight
I need a hero
I'm holding out for a hero 'til the morning light
He's gotta be sure
And it's gotta be soon
And he's gotta be larger than life
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/17/2008 2:46:08 PM |
I find, more often than not, that our good points are underappreciated, and our bad points are over scrutinized.
Trust me, sweetie, we women find the same situation.
Of course, not every dating situation that doesn't turn into a relationship, or relationship that fails, means that someone was not a good person. It just means they weren't good together.
But I do have to acknowledge that there are also men and women who have developed faulty ways of coping with life...they may not MEAN to cause distress and hurt, to screw up other people's lives, but they DO. You have to learn to look out for them,and to retrieve your life if you do happen to get caught up in that kind of situation,without letting that experience totally f*ck with your head for the rest of your life. All too often a couple of not so positive relationships cause mistrust and suspicion, not just of the other gender ,but of one's own motivation and judgement as well.
Do I believe that there are some good men left? Of course there are.
Cindy O | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/17/2008 3:49:37 PM | but in my definition they are scum, but then again I'm christian
With all due respect AL, but my Christianity prevents me from defining anyone as scum. It seems to me that Christ himself ministered to prostitutes, granted salvation to the thief crucified beside him, andsaid something about sin and casting stones.
And,again, with all due respect, if you feel guys are scum, why are you on a "general public" dating site? Wouldn't you be better served to join some of the Christian dating sites, or eHarmony?
I know that the forums here are a big draw, but surely there must be places you can go to participate in online fora, message boards, blogs, whatever, that have nothing to do with dating and relationships?
Speaking directly to the topic, I'm quite sure there are good men who are NOT TAKEN( as opposed to 'left' LOL).
Cindy O | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/17/2008 4:01:00 PM |
they are 1-2 inches too short,
Now hold on just a cottonpickin' minute, here! That tape measure on my belt is NOT for measuring height, it's for measuring....OOPS! Never mind!
Cindy O | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/17/2008 4:18:20 PM |
guys call themselves "good guys" but in my definition they are scum, but then again I'm christian so of course are definitons will be different
Wow, are you sure you shouldn't be a none? I mean, a nun?
Uh... What kind of Christian are you, standing there judging all men as scum? That all your definitions would be better, or as it seems in your mind, better? And, WHY would the definitions be different for you than others? I really want to know what KIND of Christian you are, because most of us believe a little differently than you seem to. Must be some new church or doctrine that we haven't been enlightened to, yet!
Would you tell your pastor that he's a good scumbag to his face?
Are you two-faced?
I pity the man who falls prey to you, lady.
-damoN- | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/17/2008 6:53:21 PM | | I believe there are good men, but they get overlooked just like those of us whom are good women. I am a good woman, I have a good job, I am able to support myself, I am a good cook, and I am affectionate (without going overboard) I get overlooked all of the time. Unfortunately it is the facts we face on a dating site, it is easy to be picky there are literally millions to choose from. | |
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Msg: 844 | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/17/2008 9:23:44 PM | I'm one of those extra good guys but a bit hardened by people that take generosity, understanding and such for weakness. Then there's the women that just seem to want to be not treated so good. I don't smother or move too fast and I am very thoughtful/romantic in many ways when in a relationship. Every girlfriend I have lost has always come back after a round or two with a bad boy or boys. Always too late for me of coarse but as I am getting older I find this to still be true. Yes I have broken a few hearts but I always did my best to try and work any problems out.
They say communication is the key to any relationship but I find 90% of the time it just doesn't happen and not due to me not trying. I have a philosophy, if you can't agree on something then compromise. It's a shame but it seems like the less caring and romantic I am, the more the women want me.
I know I'll probably get blasted a bit for this post and many women will say "a thoughtful/romantic guy, " that's the type of guy they want but I have to ask them. Have you ever had a guy like that and if so where is he now? Anyway, I don't think I'm explaining myself very well but hope you get the gist. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:25:11 AM | First of all, I sincerely hope that my posting upon this subject doesn't send me directly to the ladies' "Pathetically Needy" bin. What the heck, I've had a date this month.....I'm good.
Gentleman, this is just my opinion.....and it is MINE.....that a woman might could possibly get tired of constant kindness. Correct me if I'm wrong, ladies, but don't the random acts of kindness lose their purpose when they happen all the time, thus becoming repetitious, expected, and boring? Is a "Good Man" one who smothers a woman with affection.....or one that knows when to say when?
Then, one night, out of the blue......some rude, disrespectful, but yet new, different and seemingly exciting man is making some noise somewhere, and your smothered-with-kindness honey turns her head and thinks.....something different.....something new.... "Ooh, I like THAT." And just like that, you're sleeping alone.....which you should be doing anyway if you arent married.....I'm gettin off subject.
I mean, be nice, be a gentleman, but don't look like youre TRYING to be a gentleman. Get the door, but dont snap a quad trying to rush to the door to do it. Be kind but don't do so many favors to the point they think YOU think that they can't do it themselves.
Perhaps I'm wrong. But I dont think I am.
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:18:29 AM | | absolutely! I know many. More good ones than bad ones as a matter of fact or maybe the bad ones just don't float around in my circle. I've heard stories of bad but to me it's just a "one bad apple spoiling the bunch". people only **** when they aren't happy. when they are they are off enjoying the bliss and keeping their mouth shut. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:04:37 AM |
I mean, be nice, be a gentleman, but don't look like youre TRYING to be a gentleman. Get the door, but dont snap a quad trying to rush to the door to do it. Be kind but don't do so many favors to the point they think YOU think that they can't do it themselves.
Actually there is a lot to this observation. "Gentleman", and "good man" are ways of life, not an act that you put on like the suit you keep in your closet for funerals. And yes, if you overdo the chivalry thing you run the risk of either coming off as smarmy, or sending an (unintentional)(?) message that you think she can't manage her life without male assistance &support.
Of course there are good men out there. You know them by the way they treat their families, their pets, their neighbors,the service people they interact with( a man who is rude or takes a demeaning attitude to clerks and waitpersons is dead in the water with me). They aren't doormats or kiss asses,but they manage to stand up for themselves without being obnoxious or more forceful than necessary. When there's a problem they focus on solutions, not on who or what is to blame for it. They are not saints, they are not perfect, but they do their best to treat people as they would want to be treated
Then, one night, out of the blue......some rude, disrespectful, but yet new, different and seemingly exciting man is making some noise somewhere, and your smothered-with-kindness honey turns her head and thinks.....something different.....something new.... "Ooh, I like THAT." No, sorry, rude and disrespectful is not exciting, it's LAME. I could excuse it if the man were responding to rude and disrespectful behavior directed towards himself or if it's uncalled for. But I'm IMPRESSED with the man who is a big enough person to give the rude/disrespectful one that " I can't believe you are such a clueless idiot" look, and walk away. Women who think that rude,disrespectful,mean men are "exciting" are pathetic.
Cindy O | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:05:40 AM |
I mean, be nice, be a gentleman, but don't look like youre TRYING to be a gentleman. Get the door, but dont snap a quad trying to rush to the door to do it. Be kind but don't do so many favors to the point they think YOU think that they can't do it themselves.
Actually there is a lot to this observation. "Gentleman", and "good man" are ways of life, not an act that you put on like the suit you keep in your closet for funerals. And yes, if you overdo the chivalry thing you run the risk of either coming off as smarmy, or sending an (unintentional)(?) message that you think she can't manage her life without male assistance &support.
Of course there are good men out there. You know them by the way they treat their families, their pets, their neighbors,the service people they interact with( a man who is rude or takes a demeaning attitude to clerks and waitpersons is dead in the water with me). They aren't doormats or kiss asses,but they manage to stand up for themselves without being obnoxious or more forceful than necessary. When there's a problem they focus on solutions, not on who or what is to blame for it. They are not saints, they are not perfect, but they do their best to treat people as they would want to be treated
Then, one night, out of the blue......some rude, disrespectful, but yet new, different and seemingly exciting man is making some noise somewhere, and your smothered-with-kindness honey turns her head and thinks.....something different.....something new.... "Ooh, I like THAT." No, sorry, rude and disrespectful is not exciting, it's LAME. I could excuse it if the man were responding to rude and disrespectful behavior directed towards himself or if it's uncalled for. But I'm IMPRESSED with the man who is a big enough person to give the rude/disrespectful one that " I can't believe you are such a clueless idiot" look, and walk away. Women who think that rude,disrespectful,mean men are "exciting" are pathetic.
Cindy O | |
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