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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:25:11 AM | First of all, I sincerely hope that my posting upon this subject doesn't send me directly to the ladies' "Pathetically Needy" bin. What the heck, I've had a date this month.....I'm good.
Gentleman, this is just my opinion.....and it is MINE.....that a woman might could possibly get tired of constant kindness. Correct me if I'm wrong, ladies, but don't the random acts of kindness lose their purpose when they happen all the time, thus becoming repetitious, expected, and boring? Is a "Good Man" one who smothers a woman with affection.....or one that knows when to say when?
Then, one night, out of the blue......some rude, disrespectful, but yet new, different and seemingly exciting man is making some noise somewhere, and your smothered-with-kindness honey turns her head and thinks.....something different.....something new.... "Ooh, I like THAT." And just like that, you're sleeping alone.....which you should be doing anyway if you arent married.....I'm gettin off subject.
I mean, be nice, be a gentleman, but don't look like youre TRYING to be a gentleman. Get the door, but dont snap a quad trying to rush to the door to do it. Be kind but don't do so many favors to the point they think YOU think that they can't do it themselves.
Perhaps I'm wrong. But I dont think I am.
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:18:29 AM | | absolutely! I know many. More good ones than bad ones as a matter of fact or maybe the bad ones just don't float around in my circle. I've heard stories of bad but to me it's just a "one bad apple spoiling the bunch". people only **** when they aren't happy. when they are they are off enjoying the bliss and keeping their mouth shut. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:04:37 AM |
I mean, be nice, be a gentleman, but don't look like youre TRYING to be a gentleman. Get the door, but dont snap a quad trying to rush to the door to do it. Be kind but don't do so many favors to the point they think YOU think that they can't do it themselves.
Actually there is a lot to this observation. "Gentleman", and "good man" are ways of life, not an act that you put on like the suit you keep in your closet for funerals. And yes, if you overdo the chivalry thing you run the risk of either coming off as smarmy, or sending an (unintentional)(?) message that you think she can't manage her life without male assistance &support.
Of course there are good men out there. You know them by the way they treat their families, their pets, their neighbors,the service people they interact with( a man who is rude or takes a demeaning attitude to clerks and waitpersons is dead in the water with me). They aren't doormats or kiss asses,but they manage to stand up for themselves without being obnoxious or more forceful than necessary. When there's a problem they focus on solutions, not on who or what is to blame for it. They are not saints, they are not perfect, but they do their best to treat people as they would want to be treated
Then, one night, out of the blue......some rude, disrespectful, but yet new, different and seemingly exciting man is making some noise somewhere, and your smothered-with-kindness honey turns her head and thinks.....something different.....something new.... "Ooh, I like THAT." No, sorry, rude and disrespectful is not exciting, it's LAME. I could excuse it if the man were responding to rude and disrespectful behavior directed towards himself or if it's uncalled for. But I'm IMPRESSED with the man who is a big enough person to give the rude/disrespectful one that " I can't believe you are such a clueless idiot" look, and walk away. Women who think that rude,disrespectful,mean men are "exciting" are pathetic.
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:05:40 AM |
I mean, be nice, be a gentleman, but don't look like youre TRYING to be a gentleman. Get the door, but dont snap a quad trying to rush to the door to do it. Be kind but don't do so many favors to the point they think YOU think that they can't do it themselves.
Actually there is a lot to this observation. "Gentleman", and "good man" are ways of life, not an act that you put on like the suit you keep in your closet for funerals. And yes, if you overdo the chivalry thing you run the risk of either coming off as smarmy, or sending an (unintentional)(?) message that you think she can't manage her life without male assistance &support.
Of course there are good men out there. You know them by the way they treat their families, their pets, their neighbors,the service people they interact with( a man who is rude or takes a demeaning attitude to clerks and waitpersons is dead in the water with me). They aren't doormats or kiss asses,but they manage to stand up for themselves without being obnoxious or more forceful than necessary. When there's a problem they focus on solutions, not on who or what is to blame for it. They are not saints, they are not perfect, but they do their best to treat people as they would want to be treated
Then, one night, out of the blue......some rude, disrespectful, but yet new, different and seemingly exciting man is making some noise somewhere, and your smothered-with-kindness honey turns her head and thinks.....something different.....something new.... "Ooh, I like THAT." No, sorry, rude and disrespectful is not exciting, it's LAME. I could excuse it if the man were responding to rude and disrespectful behavior directed towards himself or if it's uncalled for. But I'm IMPRESSED with the man who is a big enough person to give the rude/disrespectful one that " I can't believe you are such a clueless idiot" look, and walk away. Women who think that rude,disrespectful,mean men are "exciting" are pathetic.
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/18/2008 4:52:30 PM | double posting? really wanted to get that point across, eh? I'm not gonna sit here and whine about good guys....bad guys....I'll leave that to the ladies.....and professional wrestling. Heh.
Point was that people can grow tired of the royal treatment. Ya gotta find the healthy medium.
"Hey hon.....is it my turn or yours to get the door?"
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/22/2008 4:51:21 AM | | Most men that are left are divorced men. They must be bad ,that is why they were dumped. But if I would have a chance to a divorced man, I will not just make him a good man but the best man a woman can have. " What others junks is some one 's treasures".. This opinion is a sure h e l l fire that will invoke the anger of some women ,hey! I know what I am talking about , men are human being like me... There is a good and bad in me. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:35:20 AM | The good men a afraid of their own fvcking shadows and simply contact all the good women.
So my advice to all those good guys. Never be afraid of pi$$ing a woman off. Never. Don't say things aimed at seeking her approval or wanting her to like you. Stop that. Just say what you may without being nasty of course. If anything you will come across as ORIGINAL. And Original is much better than NICE. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:43:42 AM |
They must be bad ,that is why they were dumped.
If that's your logic, then should we conclude that you're single right now because there's something wrong with you, or you're bad? I've got a news flash for you: not all men are divorced because they wanted to be, nor because they did anything wrong. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:55:29 AM |
Posted By: OutMind on 9/22/2008 10:35:20 AM
Message: The good men a afraid of their own fvcking shadows and simply contact all the good women.
So my advice to all those good guys. Never be afraid of pi$$ing a woman off. Never. Don't say things aimed at seeking her approval or wanting her to like you. Stop that. Just say what you may without being nasty of course. If anything you will come across as ORIGINAL. And Original is much better than NICE.
An actual "Good Guy" doesn't need that advice. That's for the "self-proclaimed" nice/good guys. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/22/2008 8:21:18 AM |
An actual "Good Guy" doesn't need that advice. That's for the "self-proclaimed" nice/good guys.
The last thing in this planet that any guy should try to be is the "self proclaimed" Nice, good guy. If that is how you come across. Just shot yourself. Hehehe. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/22/2008 8:30:30 AM |
Do I believe that there are some Good Men left... i think so.. like there are some Good Women left.
No, there are none of either left. There is also no good chocolate left. And there is no good coffee left. Only the bitter chocolate and weak coffee that tastes like soap is left.
But there are a few good cars left, mostly Toyotas and Hondas. At least there is that. And there is a good BBQ beef sandwich left, with a moderately good sauce on the side for a good price. Just look, you'll see. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/22/2008 8:59:12 AM | Indehills: You should read all of what I wrote,of course I am single or I won't be here in on line dating, there is something wrong with me ,because I am a widow? Or I am bad? Why are you here ? I bet you are single too, Something wrong about or you are bad? You are correct ,not all men wants to be divorce, wondering why they get divorce in the first place ,if the did not do any thing wrong, perhaps they did not do any thing right for their wife to keep them if they did not want to be divorce. Yes it takes two to tango.. Why the ex wife is looking for replacement of her ex ? I wonder why. Where are these good men ? This is my logic You have to treat a man with respect ,honor, love ,understanding, and kindness and a woman will bring the best in him ,for he is a human being of being love and to love and that treatment goes to women too. >>: Do You Believe That There Are some Good Men Left? It is philosophical question the indept of it makes you think what really your intention for a relationship as a woman. I stick on my previous post and this post. Indehills you be the first to pick up that stone to throw at me if you think there is no blemish in you... this one will take any single man with no criminal background. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/22/2008 9:42:22 PM | | I think too many women expect a "good" man to hit at or near 100% of a list of traits to be considered as such. I know a few guys who, to me, should have the ladies knocking down their doors. However, simple shortcomings like height, job, etc somehow spoil their entire chance of getting dates. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/27/2008 6:04:12 AM | After my breakdown of my marriage and going through what I did i lost all faith in men..lol then I came on here and lost it all over again and ran fast many of times on first meets...lmao but you know Its been regained and yes there are still good men out there far and in between but I found someone fabulous on here and its been going well for a few months.... You can ask"Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? But you could ask the same of women.. What everyone needs to do is ignore what society has to dish out as in whats exceptable....put the sex aside and really get to know someone for who they really are and you will be amazed at what you find.. Cheers just my thought... Happy fishing | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 9/27/2008 1:42:13 PM | There are good men left just read their emails on how good their prowess is
Seriously there are decent and caring guys out there as one gal put it so aptly sometimes ya gotta kiss some frogs. Personally I hate frogs' legs
Ha life is a lottery you have to know how to call their number sometimes. Have met some really nice guys here couple of others well best left alone
There is that old thing called chemistry, the reaction for each of us varies so vastly it is amazing at how differently each of us might perceive the same person. One might view a guy as real gem while another would think they had encountered a piece of coal.
Basing your reaction on a first meeting is good instinct but sometimes that just second or third time maybe a spark that was smoldering but didn't have enough initially to fan the flames.  | |
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