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nonees
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Joined: 1/22/2009
Msg: 1051 | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/6/2009 3:08:49 PM | | all I can say is that I know I am and the friends I have are.rather picky about who I hang with and call friend.I have been rather disalusioned with the whole online stuff.haven't had any luck and don't understand why really.had one person say my picture was kinda scary.ok,well you got me there,so posted more.it seems I get no responses to e-mail and that is rather discouraging.I am a very down to earth fella,devoted to family and friends.mostly to wy kids and have custody of them.I have been a member of this site for a few months to no avail.that is sad because I know I have alot to offer and know how to treat a lady with respect and dignity.and am a very outgoing individual with a great sense of humor,have to have to in family full of cut-ups.not to sound concieted because I'm absolutely not.but some just don't know what they could be missing,and ya never know if you don't give someone a chance and find out it could be the one for you afterall.JMO but you can't judge a book by its cover and besides looks may have something to do with attraction but is not the whole package. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/6/2009 3:10:55 PM | Yes, I do. As a woman though, you need to decide if youre looking for a "good man" or a man that you connect with on all levels. Physically, sexually, mentally... Thats far more important than saying "I'll only date a good man.." Ok, with that being said... what defines a Good Man/Woman in your minds? - 
Inquiring minds want to know................. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/6/2009 3:25:49 PM | 43 pages on this post. Good man is a matter of interpretation. Looks and money talk these days. We have to be honest on this one. Most women say they want a good man but many don't know when they see one.
From a guy's perspective, very few women really would give a good man a chance or even the time of the day.
Possible interpretation of a good man:
1. Has to be number one - good looks = i will give you the time of the day
2. Money - drives a nice car and good job
3. Buys me stuffs
4. Nice, polite and funny
5. A combination of the above
So in reality and if a lot of women were honest, they would say in order for me to consider a guy, option 1 above is 90% my choice. I know some who would tell me 'well i dated a guy who was not good looking, who i wasn't attracted to..........' well good for you, and I applaud you for giving the guy a chance.
Good guys on this board, what's your success rate? And then tell me if you think women on here are looking for a good man. If they were, my fellow 'good guys' , you would not be on here for long.
It's all about who gives you the time of the day and want to get to know you. But many don't. I may sound a little bit bitter but I just wanted to inject a dose of REALITY in this post.
I'll  to that | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/6/2009 3:49:45 PM | | Eerm, maybe. I never find them. Problem is the instinct to go for good looking sexy guys, but these are the ones who treat you like rubbish. The ones that arent so good looking can treat you like a princess but if the psysical attraction isnt there, well nothing will impress will it? Shame, I meet men I SHOULD be with but there's no spark. Can't be helped. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/6/2009 3:55:46 PM | Great feedback ..... I want to reply but I think just I'll use my inside voice on this one.
HOWEVER... I'm compelled to say, when youre right, you are right! Looks play a significant part of attraction.. and connection.
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toyoux
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Joined: 5/28/2006
Msg: 1058 | |
| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/6/2009 4:31:34 PM | This post started on December 5, 2004.
Though I'm SURE the OP has left the building...............I must say it's an absolute STUPID question! Of COURSE there are NO good men left!! I mean........HOW COULD there be? Just as there are NO good women left.......on the ENTIRE planet!!
I am currently dating a brussel sprout..........and am very happy. He's having his "outer leaves" removed later this week.......so we can.....well.............you know.  | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/7/2009 2:02:13 PM | If there are good men left I want to know where they are hiding.
Not saying there aren't any but just would like to know where they are.
There are perverts, losers, game players, married guys on the prowl,
drunks, drug addicts, smokers, bores, guys who put women down,
narcissists, guys looking for a rich woman so they can stop working,
guys who are rude, use crude language in every sentence,
guys begging for sex, etc etc etc. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/7/2009 2:10:29 PM |
I am currently dating a brussel sprout..........and am very happy. He's having his "outer leaves" removed later this week.......so we can.....well.............you know.
That was priceless!!!
There WERE good ones left. But I'm of the market now.
Sorry ladies! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/7/2009 3:21:18 PM | It's all about who gives you the time of the day and want to get to know you.
As I've been saying for years in response to many threads. If you are interested, BE interested. There's nothing worse than someone who emails you a few times and doesn't ask you any questions. Admit it, men and women, someone who acts interested in you (as well as you both being attracted to each other) is a biggie.
In order for many of us to even consider a first date, we need to see some effort. Asking questions, being interested is how you show that. Hence the reason people complain about crappy emails.
The last man I went on several dates with on here asked me alot of questions and I him. Both in our emails and on our dates. We found we weren't compatible romantically, but we did remain friends. In the beginning, we were excited to learn more about each other and we showed it.
But again, this logic will be lost on many. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/7/2009 5:04:51 PM |
If there are good men left I want to know where they are hiding.
Not saying there aren't any but just would like to know where they are.
There are perverts, losers, game players, married guys on the prowl,
drunks, drug addicts, smokers, bores, guys who put women down,
narcissists, guys looking for a rich woman so they can stop working,
guys who are rude, use crude language in every sentence,
guys begging for sex, etc etc etc.
Wow....... If that is what you are finding perhaps you need to refine your search technique or take a look at where you are finding men.
For every man that has some of the characteristics you mentioned there are many more that have the opposite, more positive traits. There are so many men on this site that are good men, good Fathers and good son's to their parents., They work hard and believe in integrity and morals...... However, many of them are not the most glamorous men in this pond. Most of us good men might be short, balding, or overweight...... They may not have the most glamorous jobs or the most lavish lifestyles.....
If you are smart enough to look beneath the surface and beyond the obvious you might just be lucky enough to be loved by one of these men....... lucky enough to be respected and admired, treated well and admired and most of all be loved unconditionally. There are so many good men out there that are ready, willing and able to love, and love well if given the chance......
Perhaps the question should be are the women out there wise enough to see all of the good men that are left............ | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/7/2009 5:09:03 PM | | Many of us are good women, who seek good men. They do not seem to give us a chance if we do not meet their specifications as far as height, weight, hair color, age, etc.-----they need to look beneath the surface. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/7/2009 9:56:06 PM | Yes, I still believe there are still Good men left - I have met them online and offline... Actually, one of them at the church whom I had the biggest admiration for.  Nice guys DON'T always finish last. The guy whom I met a month ago proved to me not all guys are complete jerks but the last 2 who broke my heart well, I had some faults why that relationship didn't worked out and I was responsible for choosing the wrong guys.
I'm still hoping... I'm still waiting for him out there. But by constantly looking 'too hard' for it, the more you aggressively search, you will never find it. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/8/2009 7:47:43 AM | | I definetely agree. there are good men out there. You just have to look and bypass all the glitter. some look good on the outside and may not have it on the inside and vice versa. I am starting to do is look at those I would not have considered a few years ago. Hopefully I will have something good to tell everyone soon. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/8/2009 8:02:12 AM | Yeah !
My father, My brother , My brother in law.
The bus driver , The Chinese and pizza delivery guys, the guy that runs the corner store, some of my co-workers
All responsible for their actions and get the job done.
The rest are undiscovered territory | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/8/2009 8:23:42 AM | "If you are smart enough to look beneath the surface and beyond the obvious you might just be lucky enough to be loved by one of these men....... lucky enough to be respected and admired, treated well and admired and most of all be loved unconditionally. There are so many good men out there that are ready, willing and able to love, and love well if given the chance......
Perhaps the question should be are the women out there wise enough to see all of the good men that are left............"
That was an awesome response and so true. And it also goes both ways of course. | |
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Nyda
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Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 1070 | |
| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/8/2009 8:25:05 AM | She can be a great person and he can be a great person, but they may not be great together. Instead of whinning about the lousy quality in men, look to yourself and see what you are lacking, fix it and step up to bat again.
I am positive there are good men out there that meet my criteria. Just because you haven't found the one that meets yours, doesn't mean all men are rotten. Bad attitudes and behaviors attract like qualities.
I didn't like that all I was attracting were overweight men/couch potatoes/cry babies. I looked at myself, lost 50 lbs (still losing) and reinvented myself into someone I would like to know.
Act on a situation, not react to it.
Good luck! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/8/2009 9:33:29 AM | Here's a question for the men: Do many of you see women writing "looking for a kind-hearted/good man" as a headline? I'm curious.
I see a ton of men writing that as their headline. Honestly? It comes across pretty bad. As soon as I see that, I'm rolling my eyes. I don't need to write things like that, I give people the benefit of the doubt that they are nice. I'm not so jaded that I need to point out that I'm looking for a good man.
These people that need to stress they are looking for a kind, no games honest etc., kinda worry me. Isn't that a given?! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/8/2009 10:22:50 AM | | Many men have been burned by a lot of women who use and abuse them, hence the "looking for a good woman" headline. This usually turns me off, as they have been unable to avoid the users and abusers and/or are attracted to woman who are dysfunctional and/or like the drama and living in turmoil. A good man is able to weed out the wheat from the chaff so to speak, and is seeking an emotional healthy woman who does not use and abuse others. I have met my share of men who either attempted to use and abuse me, or were targets for women who mistreated them. Either situation became apparent quickly, and I ended the relationships. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/8/2009 2:00:49 PM | wild heart, I see a lot of profiles like that in my matches, I don't even bother because right away I know they are jaded about past relationships and to me, it puts guys into situations where we're guilty until proven innocent. Definitely not the way to catch potentials, to me anyway.
In my past experience, the instant I stopped asking girls on dates based on the fact on how they looked (I tried to remove lust as the first factor of attraction), I've had better luck finding great girls.. As a result, I had less dates, but the quality of my dates shot up big time and it didn't feel like I was talking to uninteresting brick walls.. Now I won't even ask a girl out on a date until I see where their head is at.
But I don't think the majority of girls are wired that way, so it might be more probable for guys to be this way. The only girls I know who approach it by removing lust as the first factor, are girls that have been in bad relationships or bad situations and/or grew out of judging potential suitors based on looks or physical attributes. One of my good friend is going through that right now, and I'm always asking her how things are going in the dating scene (I have no interest in dating her), and the quality of guys she's been going on dates with have been much better, which is great to see because she's had her fair share of jerks, losers and a$$holes. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/8/2009 2:15:05 PM | | I know they're hiding-I've talked to too many of them and frankly-I don't blame them. Between the social stigmas, poor T.V. commercials, bad press and women critisizing them for everything under the sun, they appearantly can't do anything right so why bother . In short what's in it for them-nothing.! | |
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