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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/10/2009 9:14:36 PM | I am a teacher, and never made a C in any course that were required in my program of study. A grade of B or higher was required to remain in the program. I daresay that you have not interviewed every teacher and ascertained that each one is a "C" student.
We recently got rid of the "C" in the White House, which is a great thing.... | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/10/2009 9:33:46 PM | wildheart,
Sorry, but I disagree. Lots of nice guys go to the bars just to go somewhere. I happen to know some of them. Many women I know met their husbands in bars and have been together since that first one night stand.
Absolutely agree. It's a HUGE MYTH that you can't find someone at "the bar". Bars vary SO MUCH in types of crowds, it's ridiculous to lump them together. They're basically saying anyone who goes to a bar from time to time is undatable!
I think it stems from the fact that there are the bad apples in the bunch at some bars.. you know, the guys or gals who get too sloshed, and people don't like being associated with certain stigmas such as "the bar". Also, gals don't like it because it's an opening to find someone (just like they don't like a majority of their emails; they don't like a majority of guys at a bar and that's in person!). | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/11/2009 1:19:59 AM | There definitely are good men out there. However, many women have been burned by players types and don't recognize the good men when they see them.
One of my male friends complains to me all the time about how messed up the women are who he meets. It is definitely hard to meet a good woman! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/11/2009 4:16:05 AM | I absolutely love men and I believe there are alot of GREAT men out there..sometimes it is just a matter of putting yourself out there to meet them. I think it is appropriate to say that everyone has a history; and their "love life" history is just what it is...
That being said, for most of us I think that we are attracted to "who we are attracted to". It is not to say that the ones we are not attracted to but do not respond in kind are "not good". To someone else they may be the man for whom they have searched all of their lives.
Personally, I don't like to carry baggage although I will keep in mind what I have learned from my past mistakes made while dating men. It is often so much easier to point the finger away from us and not recognize that we just may have not made the right choice. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/11/2009 7:44:11 AM | | There are many GOOD MEN who are boring, annoying and just being good is not enough. I am sure that if you met such guy, you would not be pleased. It is all about the whole "package". And that would be a rare finding. A friend of mine knew a good man, but he irritated her because he was too gentle (she wanted the REAL MAN) and skinny. As I understood she wanted a man who would look and behave like her father. Once she turned down a guy because she did not like the way he dressed himself. But when he got married and his wife dressed him up, my friend became attracted to the guy...... | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/11/2009 11:39:04 AM |
I am absolutely 100% positive that there are a lot of good men left! I just think the women who complain that there aren't any, are ignoring the "good" ones, and then saying they don't exist.
This is exactly right. I can't tell you how many women i have come across over the years that are always saying they can't seem to meet a good man. But they toss away and ignore every good decent man that shows any interest then jump right in the lap of some sorry bum that wouldn't work in a pie factory tasting. I honestly do believe there are some women that don't know a good thing when they see it and they live for the drama of trying to keep a sorry man. Don't get me wrong' I know a lot of men are out of work right now. But if a man works' takes care of his business like he is suppose to' loves his wife/girl friend like he is suppose to' stays out of trouble and keeps drama to a minimum' Then he is a decent/good man. Some people seem to think because a man falls under the category of "good" he must be a **** or weak. Not so. To me a man who falls under the above' won't work' treats his wife/girlfriend bad etc'etc is the one who is a **** and weak because he isn't willing to step up to his responsibility like he should. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/12/2009 7:09:23 AM | Yes! And I nabbed him
In all seriousness, Of course there are.... Just like good women still left. Sometimes you just have to kiss a lot of frogs
It appears quite a few of us have found our Mr/Ms Wonderful lately. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/12/2009 7:39:48 AM | ABSOLUTELY! 100% certain there are some amazing men out there. I've met a few of them off this site, it's whether or not they are "good" for me and I'm "good" for them. It's all about complimenting each other.
Frankly Ladies and Gents saying they don't exist is the easy way out...SpokenFor said it perfectly:
I just think the women who complain that there aren't any, are ignoring the "good" ones, and then saying they don't exist. And vice versa with men who whine that there are no good women. There are plenty of good women, they just don't get that much attention from men. If you're meeting someone online, it's an opportunity to meet someone on a whole new level take advantage of it. Learn as much as you can, the "good" men are right in front of you...give each other a shot!  Happy Fishing! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/12/2009 7:47:01 AM | I believe there are many good men out there and by a good man, I mean honest, hard-working, caring, faithful, and compassionate. However, finding a good man you are compatible with is a lot harder to do.
I have several male friends who are wonderful and would make darn good partners for somebody, but we don't have enough things in common, the chemistry is not there, or our moral fibre are so polarized that a relationship would never work.
Anyway, finding that great man who laughs with me, cries with me, struggles with me and rejoices with me...not too mentions, will sit through an entire day of baseball games or packing up the car on a whim for a daytrip or will mow the front lawn while work on the back...would be finding a true treasure chest of a man! A rare gem, indeed!!!
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/13/2009 8:36:10 AM | Eddie, you left off the part of my post about how MEN do the exact same thing. There are a billion profiles on POF belonging to men, asking "are there no good women left?" "where are the honest women?"
They are being IGNORED by most of the men, and especially the ones who are asking those questions. those guys keep emailing women who are falling out of their clothes in their pictures, sprawling nearly naked across their beds, etc, and think they are going to find a decent and wholesome woman that way. And then they are whining because they can't "find" a decent woman. They can find them, they just don't want them. They want the skanks. They just can't understand it when said skanks don't turn out to be "life partner" material.
When I was actively looking to meet someone on this site, my profile was positive and upbeat, not too long, not too short, and my pictures were recent. I rarely EVER got an email from anyone, and if I emailed someone, it was read and ignored. I discovered what was probably the problem. There are probably 20 or so women in my area that have (what I would consider) indecent pictures up, and I'd bet that those 20+ women were getting all the attention. I wasn't about to lower myself to that, because I didn't want a guy who was looking for THAT type of woman.
This is NOT just a problem with women. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/13/2009 1:40:15 PM | Of course there are good men left...Want to know how I can tell?
WE'RE THE ONES YOU WOMEN CRY TO WHEN YOU END UP DATING A DOUCHEBAG AND HaVING YOUR HEART STOMPED ALL OVER.
We listen and hug and let you cry and give you advice when you ask. Then we smack ourselves in the forehead the next time you make the same mistakes and date the same douchebags.
In all honesty, it's tiring being a nice guy. But we do it and love it, no matter if we'll never get out of the Friend Zone. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/13/2009 3:04:36 PM | I'd like to think I'm a good man and the girl I'm seeing says I'm a good man. But I can't say I've ever let a girl that I was interested in cry on my shoulder because she was dating some douchebag. Guys/girls not security blankets and guys/girls are not break glass for emergency tools.
As bad as it may sound, I actually don't care and won't give the girl a time of day if I was interested in her and she wanted to cry on my shoulder for going after a douchebag, serves her right for falling for the old lust at first sight trick. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/13/2009 5:45:47 PM | No. They were married off along time ago. All that's left is clearance--men nobody else wants.
goodness! I nearly had cola shooting from my nose from laughing at this post!
I used to believe there were good men left. Not so sure anymore.
Oh and just an FYI...I dont go to any guy to cry about another guy 'breaking my heart' or blah blah. I did once and the guy tried to 'comfort me 'by pinning me to the bed and telling me the best way to get over one was the give it up to him. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/13/2009 6:10:16 PM | There are good men out there, I just don't know where, I haven't met one yet that was right for me, I feel discouraged alot; I'm not looking for marriage, but I wouldn't mind a companion, they seem to be difficult to find these days! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/14/2009 7:06:48 AM | | There are many good men around, however many seem to attract women who are not good women and they date them and then whine about how the women mistreated them. This is not appealing to emotionally healthy "good" women. We want good men who were smart enough to walk away from these women when they saw that they were bad for them or too emotionally unhealthy to date, rather than try to change them or take care of them, etc. There is a difference between being a good man and a man who is clueless about what both people need to bring to the table in order for the relationship to be emotioanally healthy and happy, etc. These men tend to be doormats who lack the fortitude to stand up to someone or who think that being used and abused in a relationship is normal and/or get some gratification from someone taking advantage of them. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/15/2009 5:06:41 PM | RE:1112
Eddie, you left off the part of my post about how MEN do the exact same thing. There are a billion profiles on POF belonging to men, asking "are there no good women left?" "where are the honest women?"
Excuse me' I stand corrected.
Your right. Thank god i am not one of them.
We want good men who were smart enough to walk away from these women when they saw that they were bad for them or too emotionally unhealthy to date, rather than try to change them or take care of them, etc. There is a difference between being a good man and a man who is clueless about what both people need to bring to the table in order for the relationship to be emotioanally healthy and happy, etc. These men tend to be doormats who lack the fortitude to stand up to someone or who think that being used and abused in a relationship is normal and/or get some gratification from someone taking advantage of them.
fifi' Your right to. Just the other day i had to pull away from a woman that i really liked. The reason being i am one of the serious guys. I really want a relationship. She said she did to. But when it got right down to it she ran. She wasn't ready for a relationship after all. All she wanted to offer me was being her friend. I had to tell her NO. That's not what i am here for. I want the whole thing. I also told her that i wouldn't be her door mat. If she wasn't ready for a relationship then i had to move on. Your right. lots of men don't have guts enough to do that. They will hang around thinking she will finally come around to his way of thinking when all the time she is getting sick of the push over door mat. She will lose respect for him because he didn't have guts enough to move on and let her go. It's hard to let go of someone you really like. In my case she was scared. Afraid she would get hurt again. Me' I'm not gonna sit around and wait for a woman to make up her mind. Time to move on. Life is to short to sit around waiting for someone to realize your right for them while they try to take advantage of you. Been there and done it before. Learned the hard way. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/15/2009 5:50:03 PM | OP...yes good men exist ;-) I have met some great ones that I am just platonic friends with, that are at 'different places' in their lives. Despite life's occurences for me personally, I believe in it. I am an optimist naturally though. As for 'looks' and such, as I've seen some post on here, that is NOT always what it's all about. Depends on the woman too and where 'she is at' in her own life!! I know for me, it's about personality, intellectual level(conversation, can we carry a good stimulating conversation), and then physical attraction. A person can be absolutely great looking and I don't have interest-no matter how much he pursues me, because of the other things lacking. Some(few) men that are misunderstood can be mistaken for 'bad men'(the ones that just are not ready to settle down) and then there ARE bad men, yes....but see, for me it's 33%, 33%, 33%....my own analysis  from my own experiences of course ;-). One day, I will meet that one in the upper 33% that is 'ready' and attraction for both of us is there on ALL levels!! A person must take the time to actually get to know someone and learn them(being friends first)-instead of jumping in head first. At least that is my opinion and what my life's experiences and single life have taught 'me'.
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 3/16/2009 7:56:27 PM | well i feel there arent many positive things said on this forum - and i may be a bit premature ...............................
but YES there are some good men left - I met one yesterday and i am hooked - cant wait to see him again - it was my first 'meet' and it was the best day i spent in years - walk on the beach / chat over a drink / something to eat / etc etc etc
so i say girls - there is hope for us all yet | |
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