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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/5/2009 10:42:35 AM | lol; why all the assumptions that we are sitting here totally picky waiting for the next Prince Edward? And that life is a biological clock ticking that will expire if we don't hurry up and settle for anyone so we get someone at all?
I have never blown off an email, I TOTALLY appreciate everyone for what they bring to the table, and I don't want a bad person unless they really are bad; not a good person pretending, because I value authenticity most of all.
but all that being said, yes, absolutely. I think most men are good men; at least the ones that are a: actually single and not pretending while behind the keys of a computer and lying about it b: respectful and c: not someone with so many chips on their shoulders that I or any other woman they interact with will do nothing but pay for the crimes of everyone else who's ever done them wrong. (and it's not that they are not good, they are just wounded; and will not treat a person right because of it; they become bitter and angry and closed; this goes for some women as well I know).
But other than that, everyone has beauty, everyone has amazing traits and talents, and everyone has strengths that make the world a better place. I like finding out what is amazing in anyone I meet, male or female, that I come across in life, it's like discovering the hidden nugget of gold in the sometimes dirt looking river. It's almost always there, it just sometimes takes a little extra care and attention to find it.
it's all good. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/5/2009 10:58:43 AM | | I am a good man and I am still waiting for my princess! I guess all the bad men have made it harder for us good men that are left to get dates and a serious long term relationship | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/5/2009 1:22:29 PM | | YES, there are still plenty of good and even great men out there. We just need to give them a chance and stop being so hard on men in general. I work for one of the "good ones". I work with many "good ones". My brother is a "good one". I have male friends that are "good ones". They are all over the place. Just open your eyes and make an effort to actually "see" them. They aren't invisible. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/5/2009 3:33:53 PM | | Yeah, there's good men left, we just tend to get looked over for either not being overflowing with charisma, overflowing with money, looking average, or a plethora of other things that I can only theorize on. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/5/2009 3:40:51 PM | I can't help but wondering...
I keep hearing how many times people say that good guys or nice guys don't get the good ones.
But there is so much defeatism and negativism in those statements, I can't help but wonder what kind of "vibes" are being sent out...
When a person looks outside themselves, makes it about the other person, not how the other person looks at them, and makes it their goal to find special qualities in other people (again, rather than the whole "how are they looking at me, I don't have a chance" mentality),
I think the vibes given off would be a whole whole lot more positive, and those positive vibes can be very powerful.
I know rejection hurts and some women can be jurks, but not all women are, and every single person is someone's hero in the making. Be a hero, get comfortable in your own skin KNOWING that you are going to knock someone's socks off, and then quit worrying about it. Interact for interactions' sake, not for "finding's" sake. You will end up drawing people, and it will not longer be about you; it will bea bout them. It takes the pressure off.
You know?
Imvho | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/5/2009 8:33:26 PM | | So after having sat an read of these replies the only thing that comes to mind. Is yes there are good men left. And hell there are even good ladies left out in the world. The problem I believe is that once one hits a cirtain age and has been through relationships, every one takes alittle bit away. You begin to build your gaurd. Guys you are just as guilty of this as us ladies are. We continuously build this wall, making it almost impossible to let anyone in. You begin to concentrate more on yourself than you do on the possibility of finding someone else that could just possibly hurt you yet again. Problem with finding good partners in life is for all of us to let those walls down and begin giving eachother a chance. I am not your ex, I'm not all those other girls. And you are not mine or all the other guys. That simply is my opinion on why it's so hard to find someone these days. Dating and broken promises, and broken hearts make us all sour. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/5/2009 8:35:11 PM | | There are tons of good men out there I don't care what some women say. I hate it though when women complain about how they can't find a good guy. They probably already found him, and a few of em, but the guys couldn't deal with their games. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/5/2009 9:40:33 PM | moonbeamlover said
I can't help but wondering...
I keep hearing how many times people say that good guys or nice guys don't get the good ones.
But there is so much defeatism and negativism in those statements, I can't help but wonder what kind of "vibes" are being sent out...
When a person looks outside themselves, makes it about the other person, not how the other person looks at them, and makes it their goal to find special qualities in other people (again, rather than the whole "how are they looking at me, I don't have a chance" mentality),
I think the vibes given off would be a whole whole lot more positive, and those positive vibes can be very powerful.
I know rejection hurts and some women can be jurks, but not all women are, and every single person is someone's hero in the making. Be a hero, get comfortable in your own skin KNOWING that you are going to knock someone's socks off, and then quit worrying about it. Interact for interactions' sake, not for "finding's" sake. You will end up drawing people, and it will not longer be about you; it will bea bout them. It takes the pressure off.
You know?
What you say here makes good sense. Nothing wrong with it at all. But there is one thing' I have been here for 2 years and apparently i am one of the lucky ones because i don't have this problem as bad as other guys. But' Also' Let me say this. You have to also look at it from a guys point of view. Most of the guys here get there ego stepped on daily by women who can't even muster up a few words to say back to someone. There are a lot of rude women here. After a while of being ignored by most every woman you message' It gets to some guys. After a while some start to wonder if something is wrong with them. Now me personally' I could care less if a woman answers me or not. No skin off my ass. I move on to the next one and never give it another thought. But all guys are not like me. After a while the rejection gets to them. One more thing just for the record. I might be straying away a little bit here. But the excuse that women give for ignoring another person that also has feelings to' Some jerk said something nasty because she turned him down. It's a bullshyt excuse to be rude to someone who doesn't deserve it. Two wrongs don't make a right. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/5/2009 9:50:00 PM | I do apologize for anyone that can't bother to at least say thanks for writing, I am sorry about that. It is rude, you're right. It would take 20 seconds to just say SOMETHING. I have never not responded to an email (except twice, when they were all out propositions). There are way more like me than not. The assumption the woman is either not going to respond, or they are not going to be interested, it's almost like that self fulfilling prophecy... a guy can end up closing a door himself before she even sees that it's open, assuming it's going to be closed. I understand gunshy, and I'm sure it can be brutal (both genders), but it feels like if there was genuine interest in just TALKING to the other person, taking the time to get to know them, see how they tick, for the sake of just making a friend and starting to get out there, it will take the pressure off of whether or not it will be "the one", and there will be less riding on whether the person responds or not.
Do you think it could help, when a person gets to the point of gunshy, but doesn't want to quit looking altogether? I hate to see anyone get hurt, but I also don't want anyone killing their own chances assuming it's not going to matter anyways. With that mindset, it won't. They will create their own invisibility.
Don't be invisible, nice guys. Hold your heads up high; be interested, be interesting.
For the sake of talking, not just meeting.
imvho, but it can't hurt, right? (eddie, sounds like you have it down; but I am hoping others who have more "riding" on every single email can understand it's truly all good.)
very best of luck, to all nice guys out there :) | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/7/2009 1:07:47 AM | Back in the day when i use to do my bar hopping' I have always been the kind of guy that met no strangers. Out going i guess you would say. I talked to women that i wasn't necessarily interested in. They were nice ladies' Just didn't flick my bic. But i still made a point to talk to everyone who i could talk to. I call it "Social Net Working" Making friends because that friend you make might lead you to something else. I've met women through other women many times. But one thing i have noticed here is peoples inability to "network". There all on here to find that romance that has eluded them. But if a man speaks to them they run like 16 year old high school girls. It's like they don't know what to say. I've tried to talk to some women here' Not all are this way' But a great deal are' Well' It would be more easy to whack of my penis off with a rusty hatchet than it is to drag a few words out of someone that claims they want to talk to me. These i call "Conversationally Challenged". Then you have the shy ones' Then the attention seekers. The ones who thrive on seeing how many favorites list they can get on without answering the first message ever. Then the sneaking around/married women. Then the weirdo space cadets. Then the other miscellaneous nuts and loose screws. As you can well tell that leaves a very little amount of "datable" women. Men on here seem to think that there are more women here than they are men. Well' Only in numbers. But in "datable" women. The decent ones that have there head down out of the clouds and screwed on straight' Not Many. Everything i have said above goes for the men to. I don't mean to pick on the women. But that is the reason it is so hard for a decent guy or gal to meet someone decent. There is more of the "nutty" of both genders at any given time on here that they are of the "unnutty" It's hard all around. Especially when people refuse to talk to one another and network.
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/7/2009 8:22:40 AM | I know there are good men out there. I too found one.
He isn't the most handsome man I ever dated. He does not have the best body. He is not the most educated, nor does he have the best job or the most money.
He does however have a way about him that makes my heart sing. When he holds me in his arms I melt. His kisses draw me in. What makes this man so special is his heart, and soul and mind and spirit. If I was looking at him just on the surface I would have missed out on something truly wonderful. He is clearly a diamond in the rough, that just needed the right lady to see how priceless he was beneath the surface.
There are plenty of good men. Women just need to realize that it is what lies underneath the surface that is the real prize. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/7/2009 12:19:58 PM | There are plenty of good men. Women just need to realize that it is what lies underneath the surface that is the real prize.
AMEN!
I couldn't have said it better myself.
It goes back to what i have said many times before. As far as here goes' If you look at a picture and a few words in a profile and decide from there that your not interested then you lose. Because there is no way of knowing whether a person is right for you or not until you have a chance to see who they really are. That takes a little time. Talking to the person' meeting etc' etc'. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/8/2009 1:34:50 AM | | yes i believe so, every man and every woman are good just for their perfect mach not every one is capatable, if they were you could just walk down the street and grab the next available of the opposite sex. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/9/2009 3:59:25 PM | There are plenty of good men left. Unfortunately, the vast majority of women want great men, and no, there are none of them left. See below.
The Husband Store Joke
A store that sells husbands has just opened in New York City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates. You may visit the store ONLY ONCE!
You may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the Building! So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband...
On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.
The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.
The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 114,363,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor.
This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 4/9/2009 4:38:42 PM | Yes they are good sex partners. Good friends trust worthy relationship blocks for building a friend ship. Trust him to trust you. Give a chance. Who was the worst you have ever given a chance. Start thinking she likes this guy,(that is you) you are worth it.  | |
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