| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 5/18/2009 3:41:51 PM |
I've been on this site on and off for over a year and really find very little here... or offline for that matter.
Now this is what i am talking about' To a point. I don't mean this as a personal attack. But this lady says she has been here for over a year off and on. And finds nothing. Out of the millions that sign on here from the UK and not one that she has anything in common with. I have been out with many women from here. Had a lot in common and had a good time with each and every one of them. They just wasn't the "one" There are plenty here. Again' Not trying to attack you' But when someone says something like this the first thing i think of is they just can't see what's right under there nose. Yes' It's true' There are a lot of men out there that just want sex. Yes' You have to sift through them. It just goes with the territory of dating. But not every man is that way. I can't help but wonder what has passed right under your nose but you just didn't recognize it. It's happened to me several times over the years. I think it happens to everyone. A opportunity is presented to us. It may not be in the package we thought it would be or what we though we wanted. But it's what we need. But a lot of times we don't recognize what we need. We can only think about what we want. We get so busy thinking about what we want that what we need slips past us. Then after a few years passes by and we still haven't found what we want' We start to think that what we want isn't out there. That all men and women are alike. When all the time what we need can still be found. We just have to change our mind set. Stop thinking about what we want and what the package looks like and that it has all the right bows tied around it. Start thinking about what we really need. Piss on the package and whether it has a big red bow around it or not. Start thinking about what's in it and if it fits what you need. When you start thinking that way dating gets a lot easier. Not perfect' But easier. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 5/18/2009 5:00:49 PM | | I hope that I am one and I know there are more like me. HOWEVER, realize 99% of woman even though they say they would date us wont till we take on the assh*le role. I tried being nice, and tried the other i got more responces from being a pain. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 5/18/2009 10:26:24 PM | | I do, but as a woman I believe you are correct. Which makes the online dating a little harder. We do not see the whole picture. Sometimes it takes getting to know a person from the inside out to truly see their all beauty. And I hope when a man looks at me, he wants to see it all!! We put too much emphasis on the outward appearance, but have to really think is it worth it, if they have nothing inside!! Is this how we want to be treated the rest of our lives?? Think about what you are willing to give up for a pretty boy!! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 6:32:49 AM | I do, but as a woman I believe you are correct. Which makes the online dating a little harder. We do not see the whole picture. Sometimes it takes getting to know a person from the inside out to truly see their all beauty. And I hope when a man looks at me, he wants to see it all!! We put too much emphasis on the outward appearance, but have to really think is it worth it, if they have nothing inside!! Is this how we want to be treated the rest of our lives?? Think about what you are willing to give up for a pretty boy!!
Said so perfectly. The thing is, the landscape of dating has changed and won't go back. More and more everything is based on appearance. And when a man for example lacks in that dept, then he figured if he has money then he can lure the woman. Sad but true.
More and more we look at people, and think because he/she is so good looking that they must be a great person, etc.
Then we get to know the person and what we find out is they are empty inside, no interests etc.
Many women watch tv shows and get thier views on what type of man to date by those. Many watch The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, The Hills, Sex and The City for example and these shows are filled with the Beautiful People. But because it is in front of you, that is what is thought to be the "Best man to find"
Men give up, get more jaded because most were told as they were growing up that a woman wants a decent man who will treat her good. Whereas now, not so true.
So a Good Man is hard to find because of the long list of what is expected of a good man. A list that puts too much emphasis on material, status, money. But because that is what is thrown in front of us, this is what is expected.
Women will say they are traditional, yet they leave out all the things in that meaning.
Women will say the man should approach me, pick me up, take me where I want to go, pay for dinner and nights out. They forget to add that she should be cooking dinner for her man when he comes to her place, she should do his laundry for him. Ahh but no way. He has two hands he can do that himself.
So again the Good Men are getting frustrated as well as what matters is his wallet, vehicle, and having no say in the matter.
Battle of the sexes is what is happening in dating nowadays. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 6:58:07 AM | Well on the flip side, what do you consider not a good man??
Everybody has good in them, some we clash with, some we click with, some we jive with, and some we just connect with. If you clash with someone doesn't mean they aren't good....so with that being said you just haven't found the one you 'connect' with and in time you will, when the time is right!!
And YES he is out there somewhere~ | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 9:04:22 AM | who are these 'good men' Ive never met one ! or seen one! ? Anyone that good could never be intersting enough to stay alive let alone go out with
Im a good guy-please date me-
good guys are dead-feminsim killed them-the only thing left is an empty shell hanging on their mothers apron stringsto fullfill the wife and kids game that their friends have been suckered into.
Independent thought and character are what you should be asking about, if you have the guts. Not wooses and kiss asses. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 11:55:38 AM | | To all the women who ask the question are there any good men left ????? I am tired of hearing that question I am ready to scream. The reason I say that is because I am one of those good guys and yet when it comes to getting to know women they pass me by because I dont look like a model or I am not a millionare. I cant tell you how many times I have tried to get to know a woman and nothing. I dont know if its something I am doing or saying and its gotten to the point at the age of 40 I have given up. I would like to meet a woman who doesnt play head games and wants to get to know me | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 12:08:38 PM | | All that's left are the ones on "clearance" like the clothes nobody wants. Only once in awhile I find a cute little pair of shorts at Walmart for $5 at the end of the season. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 12:41:53 PM |
All that's left are the ones on "clearance" like the clothes nobody wants. Only once in awhile I find a cute little pair of shorts at Walmart for $5 at the end of the season.
Yep that would be me. But hey when you are single for so long, it is the same as the product on the shelf no one wants. Can't do much about it. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 1:47:54 PM |
Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Plenty. But they're not on the market for long. (both men and women)
They're in high demand.
It's an open market.
A lot of good guys are no different than good gals. They know their worth on an open market, look at what the other person brings to the table, and go with the highest bidder.
It ain't rocket science... | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 2:39:39 PM | | I know there are still a lot of good men out there , you just need to stay positive. My best friend is a man and he is a great guy who would never lie or cheat or treat with any kind of disrespect. Because of him i still have faith in men. Just waiting till i find him. Instead of letting every bad relationship sour you , learn from it. That way no relationship is ever bad. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 2:46:17 PM | | I absolutely believe their are plenty of good men left. Finding the right person takes time and patience. Just because you don't hit it off with someone doesn't mean the guy isn't a good guy either, he's just not the right guy for you. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 4:27:27 PM | "There are nice guys out there but some of them appear to be too busy for whatever reason... or you just don't have enough time for one another & vice versa. If you want something to work out you both have to make equal amount of time."
That is part of the reason we are good. We have other things going on in our lives. Trust me, for the "right" person (different for everyone) a man will make time to spend time with you.
Another poster said about making a man #1 good men don't need to be made top priority, just a priority.
What is a good man anyhow? It's too general a question. Are we going for lowest common denominator here? | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 10:00:59 PM | | Absolutely there are good men left. It's a matter though, of finding the right one for onesself. What one person may consider a good man, another may consider a complete twerp. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/6/2009 11:02:21 PM | yes there are good men, I know my two sons are good guys, my brothers, and other men I know professionally ...
men are not that different than women in what they really want. I truly believe this. they want love just like we do. unfortunately by our age, often life has left many marks on folks, and make it hard to see the good in others...we all push each other away in creative ways so afraid to love and risk again. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/7/2009 5:30:11 AM | I hate these types of questions. One woman's opinion on what a "good man" could differ entirely from another woman's opinion. Take two of my friends for example. One friend is a homebody and wants a man who has a good job, his own place, morals, etc. My other friend is spontaneous, a wild child, clubs 5 nights a week. Both their opinions of a "good man" are entirely different.
So yes, every SINGLE man on earth is a good man in at least one woman's eyes. Whether or not you'll meet your mate is up to you. The more you put yourself out there and the more you make yourself visible the more opportunity you have to meet that certain individual. But I can almost promise you that sitting inside and hoping that the man of your dreams HAPPENS to sign up on the same website as you and HAPPENS to come across your individual profile when there's tens of thousands of others... well, let's be honest.. the odds definitely aren't in our favor. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:42:10 AM | | I define good as being perfect for me. I am nowhere near perfect, and I do not expect a man to be perfect. Some people are hung up on appearance being the indicator that someone is perfect for them, even though the person underneath the facade may or may not be a good person, or good person for them. I am not saying that physically appealing people are not often good people, nor am I saying that someone who is not physically appealing to someone may or may not be a good person, like many of us here, I seek a man who thinks my perfectly imperfect self is a fit for him, and he for me. | |
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