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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/10/2009 2:30:15 PM | Sure there is. He's having coffee down the street with James Dean, Elvis , the Easter bunny and Santa.
I hear he plays doubles tennis at the club on Saturday mornings. He may still be teamed up with Prince Charming. ( I'm sure you heard him and Snow White are having problems)
well I should hope Prince Charming and Snow White are having problems; the guy's married to Cinderella for pete's sake...
(wonder if Cinderella's consoling herself with Shrek, poor thing...) | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/10/2009 4:06:13 PM | Sure there is a few of us "Good guys" left.The question goes both ways ladies.Thats a fact.
The problem is alot of women that have been abused are full of drama and bs from the ex.They are so used to that lifestyle and when they do meet a good guy.The good guy always says the hell with the drama and ex bs.And yes,guys do it too but,give someone a chance to prove themself to you.Actions speak louder than words.:)
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/10/2009 4:45:35 PM | cubic, you make an excellent point:
Yes, there are good men left. There are good men that have been burned, and that are are afraid of giving "their all." This is evident. However, the same holds true for women. Dealing with this does not start with the other person, it begins with "self first."
I would add something from a Christian prospective.
Good men are rare. Proverbs 31:10 can be written to state, “A capable, intelligent, and virtuous man—who can find him?”
Good has nothing to do with gifts, money, homes, or wining and dining. That’s defining a good date, not a good man. All the money in the world won't fix a hole in your heart. Needing someone in your life will never fill a need -- only prayer and faith can fill a need.
A good man has respect for me and strength of inner character. He’s willing to bring his heart to the table and protect mine in the process. He follows the campfire rule in our relationship and seeks to have my life enriched by knowing him.
He’s out there. I haven't been introduced to him yet. But when I’m finally with him, God be praised. While there may be POF in the sea, the sea is vast and only some parts of it are even worth fishing. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:27:14 PM | Absolutely!!!!!!! My last status was "the best is not meant to be easy to find" if it were what fun would that be?? We all need a challange it keeps our blood pumping....
Learn to appreciate what you're learning through all the frogs popping up out of the swomps....because when your prince finally does show up it will be well worth the lessons you had to face in order to get the charm just right!! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/11/2009 2:11:39 AM | Of course there are good men left in the world, there are tons of them all over the place. I've been told many times that I am one of them and I have also known a bunch of them. So don't give up hope we're out there.
Some of the posts that I read talked about how women always seem to go for the jerk rather than the nice guy. It's not that women want to have all of the negatives that go with dating a jacka$$ but some of these guys are fun to be around, I have known a lot of them too and in my experience, there are more fun out of the ordinary jerks than there are fun out of the ordinary good guys. There also seems to be some truth to women wanting the challenge of taming a wild thing. Lets face it, good guys aren't typically wild.
I noticed that there are some very common things that women on this site list as desires in a person, stuff like respectable, honest, trust worthy etc... I know that guys (like myself) with these qualities have written non offensive hello's only to be read/deleted more times than they can count (also like myself) gotta admit I'm a little bitter about it but that's not what gets me. What does is that after repeated rejections I finally said to h.e.l.l. with this, deleted my account, buried myself in work for 6-8 months,decided to give POF another try only to find the same women on here but now with messages saying how they are tired of games, jerks and guys with bad teeth?!?! So in regards to that i say women please broaden your horizons, go have a coffee with someone who doesn't have the perfect profile. The same goes for guys too, the title could easily be "some good women left". | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/11/2009 2:33:01 AM | A Few Good Men,
Wasn't that a movie?
You know, all the "nice guys" can whine all they want. It's not gonna change a thing. Either a woman is attracted to you , or she isn't.
Expanding on this topic, other threads have guys whining about how a woman wants "this and that" from a guy, but when a guy possesses "this and that", the woman inevitably rejects them for a jerk.
I'll repeat what previous posters have said, when a woman says they want "this and that", you must always add "in a person I find attractive". Same thing goes for guys who are looking for "that and this", women need to add "who I think is hot" to it. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/11/2009 8:34:44 AM | Well from experience, i know i am a nice guy, but i learnt that being nice, a good guy or whatever you call it is no where near as important to women as looking good is or having money.
I am a big guy, which i clearly say in my profile, i don't have money either, but i know that i am a good guy, i respect women, not many guys can even say that without it being a lie.
but it seems that nice guys and even really good guys that volunteer on their spare time at different charities is no where near good enough if they are not what the media deem as attractive.
Thats what i have learnt with just being on this site for as long as i have, which is why i am personally on the edge of not even bothering with dating at all.
Alot of women ask for a gentleman, but go for the hot guy that hurts them and wonders what they do wrong... | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:18:35 AM | So many times I read the utter almost disillusionment of those who have reached out and been blown off. I wish more people took the time to respond; and at least say soemthing; but not everyone does or can (I'm lucky I can type 120 wpm, so maybe that's an unfair advantage in being able to respond across the board; but it would never occur to me not to).
But having the mindset that a person "knows" they will be wasting their time, but do it anyways, it is almost self defeating. The person gives off a "vibe" of going through the motions, but "knowing" that it won't matter.
I can't even imagine how frustrating and difficult it would be (though obviously from what I read in here its' very very common), and it must be tough to stay positive.
but if mindset can shift from reaching out "for something" to reaching out "just to reach out", don't say hi but have in the title line the subject of something about their profile that resonated; and write briefly about how something in you resonates back, don't ask if there is interest when you write; just express appreciation for something they said in their profile or a forum post, it will not put them on the defensive of not wanting potentially hurt if they have to make a choice without even knowing who you are; and then when you do get a response it's a positive, not a negative.
Women DO like nice guys (just as I'm sure men like nice women too). But creativity in expressing who you are, passion in expressing appreciation for who they are, and most of all (this is HUGE), positivity and optimism. The "I kno w you're going to reject me but i"m going to try hard and go through the motions anyways"? Those you may as well delete yourself; you are closing your own door without meaning to.
Think positive, think THEM not their reaction to you, and be creative in your expression.
And most of all? don't look at whether it was read or not. Once you send it? Let it go.
back on topic, but I just feel so bad for all the people who express frustration and give up on dating and women (or men) , not understasnding some of what they are experiencing is their own vibes and self fulfilling prophecy; slight tweaks will help a LOT in how they carry themselves, and the responses they will get back.
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:29:16 AM |
Good men are rare. Proverbs 31:10 can be written to state, “A capable, intelligent, and virtuous man—who can find him?”
Or, we can just keep the original :)
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
Proverbs 31:10 | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:23:31 PM | | Hi Bela I liked your post. Its so true and the same goes for a g9od woman. Unfortunetly I have not been able to find such a rare gem, I get alot of email from, rude, crude, lude, men with bad attitudes. I wondered was I too picky. Sadly I am not I could not settle for someone who does not respect women. | |
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Joined: 6/19/2009
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:26:49 PM | Yes, of course!!! Same with us, I am a nice woman, and have many quialities, however, if I reject a man, he won't have a good feeling about me. You have not found the right one yet. Also, sometimes we are atracted to the wrong person, and that makes a difference when it comes to have good perception about men.
Give them same chance!!! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/17/2009 6:36:05 PM | I am of the opinion that there are many Good Men left. I have met many really good men on this site and through other activities. It's unfortunate that many of these men were not the "fit" that I was looking for, or, I was not the "fit" they were looking for.
I look at it this way, I am a lady and a good catch, so why would I allow myself to think that there aren't any good men out there? It almost like having the mindset that you cannot do something before you do it. It creates a sense of loss/dispair before you even try to do something.
I prefer to be and think positive and I know that with each man I meet who is not "the one" puts me one man closer to the one who is. I think its like great sex its 80% mental attitude and 20% physical. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/17/2009 7:02:55 PM | I'm sure there are plenty of good single men out there, just like there are plenty of single good single women too. It's all subjective though, I like to think that I'm a good man but that doesn't mean that every women would agree with me. However, there are also a lot men and women out there who are good people and yet still get ignored or turned down over very trivial things. For example:
The "I know you're going to reject me but i"m going to try hard and go through the motions anyways"? Those you may as well delete yourself; you are closing your own door without meaning to.
A little bit of insecurity seems like a very trivial reason for a good person be rejected over, in my opinion, but that's obviously not the case for everyone. Everybody is looking for different things.
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 7/18/2009 6:41:40 PM | | There are TONS of good men all over the place. How is it that I'm like the only one able to see that?? I mean, how high ARE your expectations? Do you want a superhuman male? I can tell you this, it's not going to happen. | |
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