| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 10/9/2005 12:29:38 PM | | I think that people are more selective these days because they have more options overall, including internet dating and remaining single. In some ways this is very healthy because it gives us the freedom to take our time and select people with whom we might best find what we are looking for. Unfortunately, we don't always use are freedom well. Sometimes we select based on faulty criteria; sometimes we don't put the work into a relationship that could be worthwhile. We all make mistakes in life. Hopefully, we learn from them and move on to do better next time. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 10/9/2005 1:11:33 PM | Well, if that was intended for me - ty. Sorry, but I am confused. I remember reading your posts on several threads, and I can believe we probably do not see eye to eye on some things, but I didn't realize we were not getting along, so maybe you mean someone else. Or maybe I have offended you because I am opinionated and I tend to be better at being direct than I am at being tactful. If so, I apologize. Either way:
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 10/9/2005 1:14:05 PM | Lol I do have to say this is one of the better sites out there. I tend to just go by my favorite saying.....'
There is plenty of fish in the sea, but watch out girl the waters polluted. LOL | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 1:16:39 PM | @heehee
ROFLMAO-well said! I continue to believe there are some good fish out there in all the mess though. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 10/9/2005 1:37:47 PM | heeheec.....PMSL
coke on the computer again demmit!
Keep on fishing folks the water is jumping! | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 10/9/2005 2:00:16 PM | | Hi, well I think my opinion might be quite similar to other ones, but yes I agree with you Calendargirl. I think that the internet in particular is making people become more picky (me included) and I am not yet sure whether it is good or bad. Good because we are now allowed not to settle for the first man we meet, but bad because we become so picky we forget what really matters sometimes. The internet has helped me to meet many more people that I could have in normal circumstances as I am very shy, so I am thankful for that, but on the other hand it has made me become disillusioned on whether I'll ever find my fish as I have met too many and I sometimes forget the most important thing which is that I am looking for chemistry, and that is hard to discover in front of a pc, so missing that, I end up having a list of traits a man must have and if he does not have them all I tend to loose interest... The same goes for men in regards to women I think though. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 2:08:07 PM | Well, if I look as good as you in five years (my 42nd is next month, yay!) then I wouldn't mind if I'm still paddling around in the waters, stirring up fishes. I sorta consider this my time to have fun. For the first time I have disposable income, vacation time, my health is great, and wow, all the fellers! It's a great time to be alive!
Rap (loving the buffet!)
P.S. And shame on you, HB1. You shouldn't be doing coke while surfing. Hee hee. Just jankin'. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 10/9/2005 2:10:14 PM | I stir up the fish everywhere I go and very few believe I'm 45...
You all look good and I can see the waves forming now! | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 2:19:21 PM | | I totally agree with callendargirl. I couldn't have said it better myself. I was beginning to think there was something wrong with me. It is nice to know other people have the same problem. No one seemed to stick around for more than a week. You meet someone once and they move along to someone else. You never hear from them again. Now I know why. Everyone is always floating around to find someone better than the last person they got to know. Most people don't even know what they are looking for. They use someone until someone else they think is better comes along. It doesn't really matter how you approach it, how good looking you are, what you say in your profile - true or not - or where you come from, everyone is looking for the perfect person in the perfect situation with the perfect body. No one seems to realize that the perfect person doesn't exist. They continue fishing for years and years thinking they are going to find it if they look long and hard enough. You think you find someone right for you, but the person you find is always looking for someone better. It is just a big fishing game. Everyone throwing everyone back because they don't think they are perfect. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 10/9/2005 2:23:04 PM | Not everyone expects someone perfect......
I simply know what I want and refuse to "settle" for less.
I "settled" before and I deserve better as do each and every one of us.
So don't be angry because ppl are searching for the right match.
It's what you should be doing too. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 2:28:46 PM | I think the online "thing" makes it harder... It's like tuning into the shopping channel, only it's people, not just things... And I "****ed" about this on another thread... Go out with a guy once or twice, things seem cool~~~You don't hear from him for a month (but he's online the whole time), and then he calls again, saying you were the best date he had out of 20 or so~~~~~Its happened to me 3 times in the last 2 years and I find it insulting... you know>? Like comparison shopping>? They could have at least stayed in touch somehow, not just disappeared for a month>>> Or am I being unreasonable>? This dating stuff is NOT my thing ~~~~   | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 2:34:21 PM | | livewire I've had that happen more times than I'd care to count. I actually did a thread called recycling contacts, apparently hit a nerve, it happens to everyone. And man we think alike, I call it the Date Shopping Channel, people use the internet like they're shopping for something. I've had them disappear for as high as 2 years, never met this guy, apparently not interested enough to meet for just a coffee, half a friggin hour. Starts writing calling TWO YEARS later. I said delete all my contact info, I don't believe ANYONE is that busy he's not president or anything..geez...and you just weren't that interested, so quit bugging me. He protested, giving more blah blah, I don't see a reason for you to ever call or contact me again. Wrote me a week or so ago, Just wanted to say hi and see how you were doing. Yeah right, NO response, block, delete. Don't they get it? I don't want to have you bother me ever, okay? I think that's a pretty clear message. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 2:34:35 PM | You mean you're not dating/talking to others too?
Of course we're comparing all the time otherwise we'd accept the first one to come along and be satisfied
I notice restrictions on the profiles so ya'll have preferences too.
Bucs...yes that does happen all the time.
I handle it this way:
I think we met already and really didn't like each other at all.
He: Yeah we did! It lasted about 35 minutes right?
Me: Yeah...lol Later
And it's cool.
It just wasn't a fit and we both move on. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 2:55:44 PM | | I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one who feels like this~~ I'm not a jealous person, and I'm not looking for a husband~~~Just a little respect... I've had a few guys contact me by e-mail (never met in person, though) and they have done the same thing.... Then, when they contact me again I just tell them to never contact me again ~~~ I"m not a bit##...REALLY.... I just know what I absolutely won't put up with..... The Shopping Network....~~~LOL~~~ Soooo, if you're out shopping, go right by my profile>>>> | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 3:04:26 PM | | HB My recyclers are ALL men I've never met. I was the one who wanted to cut to it, and they ALL contacted me first, were just so excited and so "into" me hahaha, and happy I returned their email. I'm just not gonna drag out the email phone stuff for 2 months or longer, yeah, they're busy, oh not this week, I have a meeting...lalalala. Well what the frick are you doing emailing women for dates, then? That's a line of BS, you're that busy take down your profile and leave me alone. Man, you find a woman that you SAY you think is incredible, she writes back and you can't meet for half an hour over a drink? Get outta town....they're lying about one thing or another, they're NOT that busy or they're NOT that interested. Either way, I don't care, meet me, or move on and don't waste time by trying to contact me again. That's the way it is. And I'm not sitting home desperate and dateless in the meantime, my inbox is always active, so why would I wring my hands over someone who won't do me the courtesy of getting his butt off the computer and meeting me for a drink. hahah Yeah, that's not happening. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 10/9/2005 3:17:09 PM | well yes Bucsgirl
There is that.............
Ok all you women ....
get 3 of your women friends on here, please
cause the ratio is 4:1 men to women
and that is lame
LAME
but it is fun to chat
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 10/9/2005 3:17:17 PM | well yes Bucsgirl
There is that.............
Ok all you women ....
get 3 of your women friends on here, please
cause the ratio is 4:1 men to women
and that is lame
LAME
but it is fun to chat
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 10/9/2005 3:36:56 PM | I have 4 looking at you right now 
There are so many available that I just don't sweat it anymore.
Why would I?
If that's the way they are then I don't want them. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 3:50:25 PM | | Actually guitarman, someone started a thread about this, and admin posted numbers. It was logins, ratio of men to women and guess what, it was 1.7 men to every 1 woman who had logged in. That's just people logging into the site. Yes, lots of variables, but consider that maybe the men log on more and are more active because they're traditionally the "pursuers". So the odds really aren't that stacked against the men. Look, I'm not questioning or arguing with you at all, but where did you get your numbers? That's the only solid figures I've seen admin, Big Fish the owner of the site post. If you have another post you could refer me to, I'd be happy to go there. I'm not trying to say you're wrong or challenge you, just telling you what I've seen from the owner of the site. If you have other info, I'd be more than happy to see that. | |
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