| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/20/2008 3:47:04 AM | | Plenty of Fish the best? Hardly! Mostly sharks on this site which is why I'm not on here much at all. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/20/2008 6:05:39 AM | ^^^^ Uhm, sharks are fish, too.
More like too many freaks in the circus!
One can never have too many freaks at the circus. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/20/2008 12:44:11 PM | Before I met my boyfriend. I didn't have many fish to pick from. Memory sucks but I think my boyfriend and one other were the only one's who messaged me. Anyone I messaged first wasn't interested aka just didn't reply. Alot are picky on what want in another person, so to me cause of that, there's not much fish to pick from.. Alot who won't take the bait.. or just can't hook anyone.
In the end I think it depends on who you are, where from, interests of how many options you have... not everyone has oodles of options to pick from. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/20/2008 12:46:55 PM | | It good that there are many fish in the sea....it allow a man to not get so obsess with just one woman and get **** whip. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/20/2008 1:52:16 PM | I think the vast number of people online brings with it an elite of good looking people.
This puts the thought in peoples head that they can get someone like that.
Sadly most end up being very disappointed and bitter. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 6/8/2008 6:43:40 PM |  I Think There Could Be A Lot Of Very Very Nice Ladies In The Pensacola
Florida Area Looking For An Honest Single Guy Who Wants A Relationship With
No Head Games !
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:33:47 AM | or too many sweets in the sweet shop?
I know once (If it ever happens) someone is serious about me, then I'm off here. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 3:58:29 AM | | OP, I think it gives you an opportunity of finding a life partner you are truly compatible with, whereas in the old days we were more likely to settle for what we could get. Surely it's better to be more picky rather than less when it comes to spending your life with a person?. In the past people settled for compromises, but you only have to look at the divorce statistics and single parent statistics to realise that wasn't necessarily a good thing. Going back even further to the days of traditional values, allot of people stayed in relationships because it was shunned upon to get a divorce or be a single parent in those days, so couples were more likely to just put up and shut up. Now we have freedom to choose, and this freedom is made possible in part through online dating, so we either use this opportunity, or don't, it's up to each individual, but personally I see it as a blessing. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 5:22:34 AM | CalendarGirl
In my seven years of being single , i have had three long term great relationships, and all long distance. As soon as they were solid , and i saw we had something, i was out of the dating scene, and when i meet him, i will be again!
-- if this has truely been your experience, then you might consider that (perhaps) these men are seeing something in you (when they finally meet you) that you're not portraying abut yourself in your profile. Reference the Buyer Beware warnings from Consumer Protections Agencies -- there are Lemon Laws to protected you when you purchase a car that isn't what you had believed it to be -- when someone deceives you in the dating scene, what would be the proper response? I'd say that it's to Cut Bait and Run. I know that it's hard to accurately portray who you REALLY are in your profile -- Lord knows that I've edited my profile numerous times -- reality is (I'm afraid to say) -- Dating Sites are like Hedge Funds or (better yet) LayAway Plans -- there's a whole lot of LAYING, then AWAY they go!!! Just kidding (I couldn't resist that one!), but I think you can see what I mean -- there's no incentive to focus on what you have in your hand when fish keep flopping themself on your deck -- Hey, that's Deck -- with an "E" --  Sorry again -- I'm just in one of those moods -- hey, it's July 4th, let's have some FUN!
Now, having said all of that, I need to say that it appears that the people on POF are in a vicious cycle of feeding off each other -- Nice girl get's played by a Jerk, then she's bitter and spitefull to the next (well-mannered) guy who approaches her. This guy gets Instant Rejection, and the cycle continues -- spiraling Out-of-Control. Can't we just get back to that "Boy Meets Girl" feeling?
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:16:11 AM | | ^^^^^^^^^Amen to that. Another problem is too many people want to jump straight from dating into 'relationship' mode, and I honestly think they should bring back boyfriend and girlfriend mode for middle aged people. People don't seem to accept that there should be an in between time from first date to commitment. We should bring back girlfriend and boyfriend, the time of getting to know each other, and finding out whether we like (or don't like) the person without it being assumed that we are b*stards or b*tches for not wanting to continue seeing them. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:22:16 AM |
my question is.,,, ARE THERE TOOOOO MANY FISHES IN THE SEA!!!. Are we becoming too picky now that we have so many choices?
I'm rather picky, but it's NOT because there are so many choices, it's because I've had to "settle" in a relationship before, and I was miserable. I think MOST people here would agree that they would rather be single than be with someone and be unhappy, unless they've never been in an unhappy relationship and don't know what it's like. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:40:56 AM | Is the glass half full or half empty? You can choose to see fishing in a postive light or look for the negatives. Personally, I love coming here and seeing the different responses from various people on the forums. That's what makes it such an interesting experience and a fun pond to play in.
In terms of dating, I don't mind a little competition. If a guy is playing the field online, he would likely be doing it elsewhere as well. At least online you can figure it out alot sooner than later. For this I am grateful.
I agree it isn't the same as the olden days of courting. You don't have the instant chemistry and it is a broader market but times are changing. I would much rather meet someone at the supermarket and maybe I will but until then I'll keep the bait dangling and wait for my playboy piranha. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:23:16 AM | I think online dating gives you the illusion that your choices are unlimited. And also gives you the illusion that with just a couple more clicks, you're gonna meet someone who's so much "better" than the person you're currently seeing. You have the illusion that your "soulmate" is waiting for you if you just look through enough profiles, if you just keep looking. You have this illusion that you're gonna "trade up".
In real life, your choices are limited. Really, how many people do you meet in real life in a week that are even single? or that you find attractive? or even remotely interesting? How many would you care to have a cup of coffee with? How many would give you a second look?
Realistically, your choices online are also limited, even though you have this illusion that you're in a shopping mall and can pick anyone you want. Really, how many people do you meet online that are even single? or that you find attractive (after you see more than the thumbnail pic) or even remotely interesting (after you've read their profile or had a few emails)? How many would you care to have a cup of coffee with? How many are gonna give you a second look?
Toooooo many fish in the sea? Just an illusion.
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:28:23 AM | If we examine Pof fishing as compared to real fishing, there are some amazing similarities: 1. tournament fishing= the person fishing is interested in catching , tagging and releasing as many fish in the shortest amount of time. these people are usually interested in fishing vessels that reach high speeds and are equipped with the latest sonar and navigation technology. they tend to fish in large bodies of water holding large concentrations of prey. they listen to fishing reports constantly and keep track of the newest and best fishing lures
2. trophy fishing= the person fishing is in not as interested in numbers as in specimens that boast of the persons taste and wealth to their "friends". Often, they have guides searching for the trophies and are ready to pay any amount to have the next trophy.
3. recreational fishing= this fisherman includes everything from one on a shady bank with a cane pole to ones with boats and advanced tackle, only the purpose is different. they obey the fishing regulations and take no more fish than they need.
4. illegal fishing: this person cares nothing about the regulations, destruction of fish populations or destruction of habitat, they will use whatever means necessary, from chemicals to suffocate fish, electric shock devices, and illegal nets.
5. commercial fishing: mostly looking to take fish from wilderness areas or bodies of water where food and shelter are lacking to support commercial consumption or viewing.
Sadly, many fish are mishandled during the time out of the water, and tho released, suffer severe and or permanent injuries, making them unwanted, uncatchable, or vulnerable to predators.
When we cast on POF, we need to keep in mind our quarry is people, and fish for what wants what we want.
And as fish, Go ahead and bite sometime, and take care you know the intent of the person fishing , and that you are handled carefully if that is what you are after.
Unlike fishing, POF fishing has little regulation enforcement | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:34:38 AM | there is Not too many fish in the sea....And using the past, your parents & grandparents as a comparison to today just doesn't fly.....i would never go back to the past.....
i like having choices.....heck, the divorce rate is over 50%, i want to be much more selective next time I become committed or marry.....so I am picky & won't settle....I'd rather be alone than be with someone and not be happy.....
And like you said, if the fish isn't the right one, throw the line out again.....
 
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:39:38 AM | Now, you hit the nail on the head. My family from the North always said....if we lived back on the farm we would all be married. (this is when we were younger).
Fewer to pick from and there was just not an option to be picky. You just picked or were picked. Or you would be an "Old Maid". Oh, no not that!
Good thing. As we get older we all change for the better or worse but we do change in our bodies and our minds. Hopefully, we can learn tollerance and to see the person behind the face and the ever changing body (within reason ). Maybe we can stop the continual looking for something better around the corner when a great person was standing right before you. I chose to start really looking at those I meet. I will maintain my integridy and I still know what kind of man I am looking for but I certainly am more tolleranate of differences. I can still live my life even if he... xxxxxx. We just need to learn to communicate. Now, if I can just live by all of this. 
Now, what is it that is a deal breaker and what are those things that really are not that big of an issue? I think we can still be picky and we don't have to settle. I do believe that we can look a little deeper at each other and have that happy ending in more ways than one.
Keep looking.... make friends, find lovers, make a partner a life long love affair. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:43:43 AM | Caskey: AWESOME comparison between POF fishing and real fishing!
Sadly, many fish are mishandled during the time out of the water, and tho released, suffer severe and or permanent injuries, making them unwanted, uncatchable, or vulnerable to predators.
Sad, but too true. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:13:25 PM | | we all have to realise that a trophy hunter or angler is seldom satisfied by the trophies in the trophy room, sooner or later thinking of the next stalk | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 1:57:12 PM | | We have so many choices that we can never sellte for just one and we keep looking for someone better. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/4/2008 2:55:37 PM | I dont see it this way at all.
There is no such thing as too picky. And i dont mean I look for perfection, as that does not exist. I would like someone who would add to my life, not take away from it.
When granma met granpa, the world was a very different place with different expectations. I prefer 21st century, thanks.
And also these thousands of options - do you personally have or know someone who has thousands of options, who live at a reasonable distance, you like them, they like you, there is some sort of chemistry? Lucky you! | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/6/2008 5:51:04 AM | I wholeheartedly agree with the fact there are wayyyy too many fish in the ocean. Now I'm not one to cheat on someone or use someone...but when you first start dating someone...If someone else comes along and shows you more affection/attention than the person you are actually seeing does..its hard not to think..hold on a minute .. what am I doing with this guy..when that guy is 1ox better....
However You could go with that guy who's 10x better and then come across another guy who's 10x better than him....
I think that's where i've been going wrong... I'm always looking for mr perfect... Someone who is better than all the others.. But there is no mr perfect, there are some lads who aren't as good as others but does that make them a bad catch? no.
I've literally tossed some guys back into the ocean like fish....which is pretty nasty of me! When really i wish i could turn back time and go back to that person and say "look i made a mistake..i thought u wern't what i wanted..but really u were".
To be honest... I think i'm starting to just become ....PICKY! but with this many fish in the ocean....who can blame me! lol
Saying this tho...... the amount of lads who do this to women... the amount i've had do it to me..is unreal... when they say they haven't got a girlfriend when they actually really have! and when they use you just to talk to... ahh its like a game we're all playing..but its a hurtful one. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:11:23 AM | | I totally agree with what your saying, was dating a guy for a couple of months and he would not delete his profile after I did, He said he just went on to view my pictures. lmao ok so I made up a fake profile and set the hook, sorry to say he bit!! He offered to pick her up on his motorcycle and the whole nine yards. He swore up and down that he was not talking to other woman on the sight but of course I knew the truth, I had it in writing. So yes there are alot of fish in the sea but what they find out that there are also alot of carp so I say keep fishing too and play their little game. Im glad it happened now and moving on. His loss not mine. happy fishing. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:12:24 AM | | should be called Plenty of Freaks!!! but there are a few prize fish out there just have to keep setting your line. | |
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| 'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:21:05 AM | ^^^^^^ Haha I love the 'plenty of freaks' comment!!!!!!
I think the danger of this internet dating is how easy it is to get what you want. I mean it may take ages to find a decent partner on here but once you have found him/her how long before one of you is back on here looking for a bit on the side or merely something better? Sex is so freely available on here and most of us know it.
I dont think its wrong to be picky. Why should anyone settle for less? I dont think its right to hurt people by continuing to look for better. Maybe we should be certain that he/she is the one before committing to them!
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