| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 3/31/2006 11:39:11 PM | I am a guy and here's what my half-size brain can give you:
If I have a loving feeling for you, I'll find it sweet and be tender and try to comfort you through your first experience of penetration.
If you play this as a card for postponing intimacy, then I'll just note you're scared of intimacy and figure out if it's possible to help you through the fear or if I am being sucked into a game.
Sleeping with someone to get it out of the way is kind of unloving towards yourself I think. Find someone you want to experience closeness and pleasure with.
See, sex wouldn't be a big deal at all if it wasn't for the puritans and makewrong and stuff. It's fun and pleasurable. Everybody does it... even your mom did. and even bad sex is at least funny.
Go have some!
-- just be warned, iKilledMrRight | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 3/31/2006 11:48:05 PM | Yeah, a guy should kill himself because he's never had sex. 
How did our culture become like this?
I think the double standard exists because a lot of guys fantasize about deflowering someone.
Don't worry about it. No one has to know. Your sex life is no one's business but your own. I find that the people who make a big deal about it are guys who rarely if ever get laid. You'll make love when you make love. There is no rush.
In fact, I think this whole "you must lose it or else" track of thinking has a lot to do with why there are a lot of STD's and unplanned pregnancies among the youth. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:35:05 PM | That is my story, except I am 38 almost 39 years old and still a virgin.
The only difference is I am a guy. Guess I am slow to start and slow to finish. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:52:26 PM | Well, you got to figure out what you really want to do first.. You said you would regret if you did loose your virginity or if you didn't you would probably feel like you missed out on something..
Well basically it comes down to what you really want to do and go with the feeling that's comfortable for you...
As for telling a guy the first date wouldn't something I would do if I was a virgin.
I'm a guy, so most guyz would love to take your virginity..
Just wait for the person you are comfortable with and tell him after a while. If he's a little bit of a man he doesn't have a problem with you being a virgin whatsoever. If he does then he just isn't the right guy for you.. But make sure you don't tell the first date.. !!!! | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/1/2007 3:01:26 PM | sex isnt its all its cracked up to be , one night stands yeah can be great but usually very disapointing in the long run and you end up feeling cheap and lousy in the morning hold on to that virginity girl keep it for someone special and you will feel truely respected when it finally happens.....good luck | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/1/2007 4:20:03 PM | | If I were you, I'd hold on & continue waiting for the right guy--you've made it this far--why not keep waiting?!. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:01:42 PM | choose a close friend. and get it over with. or u could be 40 before the one comes along.. than 50... and so on.
someone u can trust. someone who trusts u.. and care for each other. know anyone like that? | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/1/2007 8:25:36 PM | You're almost 31 and still a virgin? That's nothing to be ashamed of, it's admirable.  | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/1/2007 8:28:11 PM | | There is nothing to be embarrassed about, that's just the way things are; however, something to keep in mind is that sex gets better the more you do it and isn't necassarily mind blowing the first time, consequently you may be dissappointed or discouraged from doing it again when you finally get around to doing it. My advice to you is to find someone you enjoy and trust and go with it. If it doesn't work out, find someone else. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/3/2007 8:31:03 AM |
Do I tell the next guy I date, (if I ever find one!) about this, or not?
No.
Let him find out the hard way.
Michael | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/3/2007 8:32:03 AM |
In fact, I think this whole "you must lose it or else" track of thinking has a lot to do with why there are a lot of STD's and unplanned pregnancies among the youth.
It is better than being a virgin at 90, that is for sure!
Michael | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/3/2007 10:47:24 AM | | well there is nothing to be ashamed of personally I have had just a few encounters and a true love this is it though I admit being nothing special for the ladies...:) | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/5/2007 8:05:35 AM | Definitely tell. You want it to be special and there will be a bond there for the rest of your life. The other person has a right to know. But that shouldn't come up until you have decided to have sex, and are talking about sexual diseases and protection.
The way I see it you have been missing out. I don't agree with having sex with every guy that wants to. I do beleive that it is as natural as eating and shitting. We should be doing these things as adults. Keep in mind that respect and consideration are essential to a good experience. The best sex is had by those who are in a secure relationship.
I have had great sex with male friends, I found unsuitable for a long term realationship, but had the key ingredients: respect and consideration. don't give it away to just anyone. But you could be 57 before you find your guy/girl and miss out on an important part of your life until then. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/10/2007 1:35:57 PM | | Well...this is MY thought. I wouldnt feel embarrassed at all but to me....I think your missing out! I have a friend who was a virgin and waited till she was married to have sex. BUT he is all she knows...he could have a small wee wee or either just completly suck in the sack..she has NO idea what else there is. I feel you should do it when YOU want to but test the waters so to speak..every man is different and they each have something to offer the other doesnt! I would hate to always wonder what else there is! | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/10/2007 1:43:23 PM | | I have to say you are definitely a rarity. Don't wait too long, sometimes you need to test drive the product before purchasing. Just test drive Mercedes Benz's, BMW's and other assorted expensive new cars. Stay away from the old Ford's, Chevs and Dodges. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/24/2007 7:10:42 PM | | TheOtherWhiteMeat said if a guy is still a virgin he should kill himself! Well I'm a guy, and 44, and STILL a virgin. But I have a question..... If I kill myself, can I lose my virginity in the afterlife or will I still be a virgin for eternity?? I guess I could hire a necrophile in advance to do it with me in the morgue, but then I wouldn't know anything anyway! Unless I can have an out-of-body experience and watch from up above or something....... | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/24/2007 8:39:36 PM | | Hi, I'll be 31 in August and I'm still a virgin myself. It certainly isn't for lack of opportunity, I've had plenty. But I want to be in love and vice versa and I want it to feel right. So far I haven't been with a man that I feel is worthy enough to sleep with. I'd rather make love and not just f*ck. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/25/2007 7:51:06 AM | Nothing to worry about...when you find the right one, you'll have more sex than you ever dreamed of.....
Hang in there and try not to find women, with the hope of losing you're virginity - find them cause you really like them. That will help ease the tension....also don't tell anyone that you feel will not understand.....hang in there. If you need help with you're profile, or just talk contact me anytime.
f_r_a_n_k_i_e@hotmail.com | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/25/2007 12:40:32 PM | "Chastity..the most unnatural of all the sexual perversions...."
--- Aldous Huxley | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 4/25/2007 6:03:55 PM |
Hi, I'll be 31 in August and I'm still a virgin myself. It certainly isn't for lack of opportunity, I've had plenty. But I want to be in love and vice versa and I want it to feel right. So far I haven't been with a man that I feel is worthy enough to sleep with. I'd rather make love and not just f*ck
How does your family feel about this?
Michael | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 5/7/2007 9:52:15 PM | It would seem you are afraid of more than just losing your virginity to the right guy, you are afraid of relationships, dating and men in general...to be 31 and to never have been in atleast one relationship in your lifetime says it all..sooner or later you need to confront your issues, and when you do get out of the house and start dating, you will have to admit to one guy (hopefully) in your lifetime you are a virgin..some guy will understand, and perhaps be honored to be your first!! | |
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