DSW77
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Joined: 1/25/2008
Msg: 76 | |
| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/9/2008 6:02:46 PM | | 'Never compromise your integrity!!!' I heard this quote years ago!! and yes sex is much much much better when its with someone you care about!!! trust me! | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/13/2008 5:39:00 AM | A part of me wants to just go out and sleep with someone and get it over with! But another part of me is afraid I will deeply regret that. What would you do if you were in my situation?
That is a stupid reason and will be one of your biggest regrets. You lived thirty one years and never had sex and now you are going to have a one night stand purposely just to lose your virginity. Why? If you want to have sex for sex that is a different reason but to have sex just to say you are no longer a virgin and that you are just like everyone else you know is the wrong reason. Forget you are a virgin and try to meet someone for a relationship. Stop putting so much thought in being a virgin. Remember, the only person who knows the truth is you no one else has to know. If they ask you just tell them the truth. But till they ask you do not have to volunteer the information. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/13/2008 6:45:37 PM | I wonder how many people realize that they are posting to someone that isn't even a member of this site anymore............who are all you people talking to.  | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/14/2008 9:37:41 PM | 30 and still a virgin, hmm Madonna is also a virgin at 45, no disrespect but u may end up with Mr soo soo wrong, Good girl never meet Mr. right and the other way around, there is no moral in this world to be waiting for Mr. morally righteous, go get some and over with it or u gona end up say I kept it so long just to lose it to a jerk.  | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/16/2008 7:51:38 PM | | If you are waiting for the right one, you may never lose your virginity. I would say you judge each man as if he could be your husband and then you would give it up, like after marraige. Too few men are going to marry you without sex first, so your numbers are limited. I would say go for it, get laid, but with your next boyfriend. Do it after you know him well enough but before it's too late and you break up. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/17/2008 5:17:08 PM | | there is no mother-f uckin right one and societys rule is at 15 you should be playing with dolls but at 16 if you are a virgin youre under developed as we have no middle ground. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/18/2008 3:20:04 PM | Nudog & vinny low....could you please repeat that in English so the rest of us can understand you?? 
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:29:37 PM | In any event, if you feel the need to ask what you should do- in your heart you know the right answer.....wait.
I am in the same boat you are in, Sweetie! I am a 34 year old virgin (Hooray for us!!  ). When I hear that a woman is still a virgin, I think "She is a truly special woman...she is saving herself for the right person". Do not listen to these guys that say "Duhhhh....do it!" Wait until you know in your heart that the moment is right. If that moment never comes, so be it. But it is better than 'doing it' with a guy that never meant anything to you in the first place.  | |
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dcdiag
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Joined: 10/2/2007
Msg: 84 | |
| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:35:00 PM | I (as a guy) and in my very early 50's, think this is absolutely marvelous.
1) You don't catch any diseases with this policy
2) When you do get with the right person and you get married, you have saved yourself for him, and for yourself
3) Waiting, at least you don't have hangups and expectations bothering you.
4) In the end, you will be a lot happier with yourself.
A Kinder Man | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/27/2008 9:53:43 PM | I'm all for giving the whole nasty deal a complete miss - you are not missing anything worth bothering with. If you want children go for IVF, stay STD free, stay hassle free.
I must say I am really really sorry I ever bothered. 13 years of marriage left something I thought should be special/sacred/intimate and happy as being left in pain feeling like a toilet and being cheated on. Life is just so much better without it.
Yes there are skilled professionals out there who have slept around with more women than they can count - they're quite expert - but not worth it, just soooo not worth it.
There is nothing embarrassing about refusing to service scumbags, and nothing wrong with refusing to be a service at all. Men don't have a capacity for love and bonding - so there sure isn't anything in the deal that is a plus for a woman - just ugly and uglier plus the obligatory cheating and nasty attitude, oh yes and the obligatory std. By 30 most of the men have had 3 or more stds - the stats are there...and damn hell the last thing on earth a man will ever care about is the health and happiness of a bed partner.
His dog, his truck, his mates etc etc etc will all come before you - always - and the more loving you are, the worse he will be. | |
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| almost 31 and STILL a virgin
Posted: 2/28/2008 8:56:25 AM | My ex-husband was a virgin when we met.
I wished that he had told me before our first time, though...
(I actually didn't even know until after we divorced!)
I realized much later that he "sort of" tried to tell me, but it never really registered at the time. It was fun, but not special. I would have wanted to make it special for him!
You want someone to take their time and warm you up properly, be gentle, etc... so you should tell him! Save the more adventurous stuff for your second time! 
Whether you decide to take the plunge, or wait for Mr. Right, you will not regret telling him. If he shies, he wasn't the right one for the job anyway.
Good Luck! | |
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