| | Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?Page 13 of 13 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13) | My Honey is retired from the military after serving for most of his adult life. He possesses a lot of character traits that I find very desirable and have found lacking in many men in our age group.
He believes in and practices things like loyalty and dedication, commitment, optimism and working hard and as a team. He understands the importance of ensuring that the people he loves and cares about, know how he feels. And he lives each day with joy and gratitude that he has the opportunity to do so.
Military life requires that people place a higher value on the greater good as opposed to focussing solely on their own wants and desires. It teaches people how to sacrifice and how to appreciate that those sacrifices will ultimately create a better life for everyone, including themselves. And it teaches that life can be snatched away when you least expect it so don’t waste a second of it on bitterness and anger over things you can’t change or aren’t willing to change.
Not everyone who serves in the military learns and becomes instilled with these principles but those who do discover that when applied, they are the same principles that create successful relationships.
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 4/13/2008 10:18:39 AM | | I would be hesistant to date a man in the military. People in the military are often away and/or constantly moving from place to place. It can be difficult to establish a serious relationship when a man isn't around that often. | |
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 4/13/2008 10:29:01 AM | | Absolutely. I see no reason that one should not date or marry a military person. If they are the one that connects with them on all levels, why should their job hinder it. Yes, the military part of the relationship means they might be deployed or move or whatever Uncle Sam tells them to do. If there is a will, there is a way. It just has to be that both parties are strong and really want the relationship and all that it entails. Obviously if you are the type that is clingy, this is not a relationship for you. | |
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 4/13/2008 10:45:48 AM | Other than being somewhat worried for his safety, I'd love the space although it would be great if he could at least email every few days to check in with me that he's ok and just to be in touch.
He'd also need to really know and understand my character, because then, he'd have no trouble trusting me.
If someone else has not said it here already - absence makes the heart grow fonder.
I'd have no trouble being faithful no matter how long he was away.
Lt Col Hunter - I am truly sorry for the grief a soldier and distraction a soldier would feel knowing his woman is cheating. That's awful and dangerous I would think. I think it's a disgrace to marry someone that you know will be away and then use it as an excuse to be unfaithful but then unfaithfulness is always a disgrace on the cheater. You said it takes a special woman and a damn rare one. I know I am both and I'm sure there are many others out there too. Pity about the others but you know the guys do the same thing so cool it with the gender bashing ok? | |
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 4/13/2008 11:47:07 AM | | never ever, they might be out there fighting for queen and country but when they are back home they are nowt but dirty dawgs. tell you what you want to hear and your happy with it cos you luuuurrrvvveeee them. can you tell ive dated one before lol. | |
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 4/14/2008 4:55:15 PM | | i would consider it, as long as it clicked ther ewould e no reason not to. yeah, is a job, but i would expect him to be willing to work with me if i wanted to travel for job as well. give a little, get a little, ya know? i think it would be awesome to be wih a military guy actually. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2008 5:01:35 PM | Married an Army Officer
I was an Army Officer
My husband retired an Army Officer
He divorced me
I was a career Army Wife, entitled to Half retirement pension, plus investments
Our son is currently serving in Iraq
Son, of course, grew up a military brat
What in the hell was the question? I am so shell-shocked, I can't remember | |
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 4/14/2008 5:09:38 PM | | just looked at some of the responses, some people amaze me at their answers, the military is never the problem, its your relationship!!! most military men do their job if its asked of them, a man working at taco bell is just as apt to cheat on his wife or girlfriend as a military man. actually more so sense he would be working more around women than a man in the military. its not like there are thousands of women in the armed forces. for those who blame the military either male or female you should look at yourself, the military has nothing to do with a marrige failing or succeeding. i was divorced while i was in the military but it was not the militarys fault she found a sugar daddy twice her age.... (lighten up frances) | |
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:51:28 AM | I was in the military, so I have a good idea of what to expect. I know that it is hard for soldiers, Marines, airmen, and sailors when they're deployed. It makes things a lot easier knowing that they have someone at home supporting them, and patiently awaiting their return home. If my partner were in the military, it would not change my thoughts about our future together.
So, to answer your question... yes, I would date/marry a man in the military.
Oorah!! | |
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:15:26 AM | | Yes, of course...I know how I would be when he deployed..so it would be on his shoulders if he wants me there when he returns home..if he is after everything he can tap then no I won't be there waiting, but if he wants a true and faithful wife/girlfriend, he will be waiting just to see me! | |
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:13:53 PM | I would in a heartbeat!
Actually, I guess you can say that it is my intention to date and/or marry a military guy. My dad was a career officer in the military and I grew up on military bases. I have a deep respect for men in uniform and I think the majority has been tainted by the actions of the minority. Not all military men cheat on their spouses nor do they abuse their spouses. In fact, it was my experience that there were more family focused and spiritually sound men in the military than I encountered in civilian life.
I have no problem with the idea of deployment. There were times that my parents were together and other times when they were separated; if you have a strong relationship then this separation should be handled in stride. Yet, if you have a poor relationship, the long detachments will be the straw that breaks the camel's back. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 2:59:43 PM | I personally could say yes, I have not and would not ever cheat on a man especially if he is deployed, I hear that so much and it makes me sick. But Im the type of person that would make it work, if you really cared about him then yes it would be totally worth it. I know its hard, i have a brother in the military and i do see how it effects his family, its hard but it can be done, so i would say if he was totally worth it and we connected then i most definently would. | |
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 2/8/2009 5:58:00 PM | | Yes, I would! In fact I pray that some day I will find a wonderful loving service member to love and respect. They bring stability in every woman's life. As long as there is respect coming from both parties a stable military life is possible. I am an optimist! | |
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| Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military?
Posted: 6/18/2009 9:16:39 PM | I had an army guy ask me tonight if I'd be willing to marry him to help him get more benefits. I wouldn't have to live with him and he is able to make more money. We'd live seperate lives but be married on paper.
I turned the offer down. | |
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