| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 1:25:09 PM | On the flip side, most (but certainly not all) of my closest friends are female. To the best of my recollection, that all started in college. My major required me to take many of the same courses as the nursing students, most of those who were - you guessed it - women. Never thought twice about it.
(It can be a curse though! Water, water everywhere and not a drop to drink!)
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 1:44:40 PM | Fishbill: I'm not involved in any sort of romantic relationship, so I don't really think it's anyone's business what I do with my male friends or what the depth of our friendship is. I suspect most of the people who have responded above are SINGLE like I am, and therefore we're not terribly concerned with what our boyfriends think of all this, since we don't have boyfriends! If I ever find myself wanting a relationship with someone I meet, of course I would re-assess my friendships with other men. I would hope we could all be friends and enjoy each other's company together.
And before anyone makes a suggestion that I'm single because of my male friends, don't bother. I've had plenty of opportunities to have a boyfriend. I prefer to wait for the right person, and for all the other factors like schedules and location to fall into place. I'm not in any hurry. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 1:52:27 PM | | When I've had friends they were all mainly male...I dont see what it would matter as long as they were just friends. Girls just never wanted to hang out with me at all. I guess I have more in common with guys. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 1:57:22 PM | | well, the OP was asking for people who were dating and the date only had guy friends, thats where I'm coming from. If your single, you could have tin cans for friends and no one would judge you. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 2:17:09 PM | Fishbill - the only problem with that argument is that one will not (we hope!) always be single. Once dating and/or in a serious monogamous relationship then does one need to stop being friends with those of the opposite sex?
Of course those friendships will likely change as do same-sex friendships when entering into a new relationship. But they should not have to end... | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 2:38:43 PM | | Dude why do you think a women only has guy friends> They will never come out and admit it however the answer is evident. It has the same relevance as why women always go for ***holes because the women equates being an ***hole with stregnth which is so far from the truth. One other advice tidbit for you. Never beleive what a women says but rather what she does. That is why women have built in bullshit detectors because they are the biggest bullshitters out there.Dude do not get sucked in by the "I only have guy friends trip or you might find yourself beingt the brunt of all jokes in her circle of friends. If you want to be a nice guy here is what you will get REFORMED SLUTS AND FAT GIRLS. DONT DO IT DUDE NO | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 2:49:15 PM | Nope - have to disagree.
Nice guy here. And have had the luck and pleasure have having had relationships with a couple of very extraordinary, classy and beautiful women. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 4:08:18 PM | Fishbill: I don't equate "dating" with a relationship. I go out on dates... and someday maybe one of them will lead to something serious. If that ever happens, I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize the relationship... but rph is right, I wouldn't ditch all my friends for anyone.
Zack: I bet your mailbox is just OVERFLOWING with letters of love!
Let's see... I wonder if I'm a regular slut, reformed slut, fat girl, or reformed fat girl? I also had difficulty following your line of reasoning between having guy friends and always going for a**holes, but I'm sure there's some connection there that I'm just not smart enough to figure out. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 4:59:19 PM | | I like to hang out with guy friends because they do not have any drama. They are funny and we have a good time. Nothing sexual, just buddies. I do have my girl friends which are great ladies and we see each other when we get a chance. It is nothing wrong with having male friends. I'm not jealous. Relationships are based on trust, if we do not have trust, we do not have anything | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 5:04:18 PM | | I do go out on more dates now that I did when I was in my 20's. I choose to be single and not to have a boyfriend at the time. Don't consider my self a player or anything else. Just a single woman having friends to go out once and while. When the right one comes along, I will know. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 5:57:24 PM | | We can have intelligent conversations with women, but some women don't like to talk about the same things the vast majority of women like to talk about. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 6:06:36 PM | Fishbill, I don't consider talking about children, getting my nails and hair done, shopping, and who's doing what with who, interesting most of the time....((I like the outdoors, fun, and spontaneous humor)).. Does that answer it>? We're not all alike... I don't like doing any of those things... I spent over 20 years trying to be like that, and it's not me at all. I can cook, I can clean, I can take care of my family... It's just that most of the conversations the women around me were having totally bored me.. ((they wouldn't even pee behind the trees in the woods, had to drive to the nearest gas station))>>>??? Why are you so shocked by that>? ((that I'm not typical)).. I'm just curious>?   | |
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Posted: 10/11/2005 6:39:15 PM | | I don't usually get a long well with women.. but the women I do get a long with are fantastic... all of my life I have hung with the guys.. it is just who I am.. Have been married twice if my guy can't handle it.. ohhh wellll it is not a sexual thing... if a guy I am hanging with over steps his bounds and is out orf line I let him know.. what is the big deal??? | |
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Posted: 10/11/2005 7:46:13 PM | Suzy...
I coulnd't help but think...
What about the fat slut, the born again slut and the marginally overweight slightly easy girl? Don't they deserve equal treatment?
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 8:05:10 PM | i agree totally,,,,,,,,my roomate is male
Oh no. Not another three's company situation. 
"I don't equate "dating" with a relationship. I go out on dates... and someday maybe one of them will lead to something serious. If that ever happens, I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize the relationship... but rph is right, I wouldn't ditch all my friends for anyone."
What happens if the one that becomes "serious" has his own set of women friends. What then??? | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 8:18:44 PM | I disagree again. Your "boyfriend" should be closer to you then any friend since you share the gift of delightful intimacy which should be reserved for marriage in the first place.
If you look back to all the people you've dated for a relatively significant period of time, and look at the amount of friends you've accumulated from post-secondary (as highschool friends dont count since you havent truly come into yourself until your second year of post-secondary) and ask yourself which relationships mean more to you, you'll likely find that your friends have been the ones you've hung around with more, leaned on for support, and so on.
Plus, even if you and the person you were with had a seriously strong, iron-clad connection, dont you think that connection would be made even more secure with the knowledge that you trust each other not to engage in misconduct with your friends? If someone really cares about you, they dont ask you to make a painful choice like that (between them or your friends) because they truly want what's best for you.
However, if you and your friends tend to flirt (which I happen to do with most of mine, even though it's harmless flirting), then you may have to curtail it a little to make allowences for the newly-changed dating situation you've entered. Other than that, my previous statement stands.
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Posted: 10/11/2005 8:26:24 PM | | I am guessing that the boyfriend status would be a steady date. If that is the case then yes, past strong friendships with the other sex would be a stronger relationship. But if there are women who have a live in boyfriend; it is the same as being married and that relationship should be stronger then friends since you have the ability to have children together forming a family. Family first, friends second. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 8:31:22 PM |
But if there are women who have a live in boyfriend... it is the same as being married and that relationship should should be stronger then friends since you have the ability to have children together forming a family.
But he'd have to make it to the "live-in" status without showing me his distaste for my friends for that situation to be applicable, which isnt likely. I sure as hell am not going to hide my friends from the guy I'm dating, so I'd find out fairly quickly if he had a problem with them, or vice versa.
If he started harrassing me about the way I acted with my friends (flirting subtley and whatnot), I'd take it into consideration and let up on it a bit, but if he persisted further than that, I'd kick him to the curb - whiners arent my cup of tea.
If he refused to say anything and then we moved in and THEN he started bugging me about them, I'd ask him why the heck he hadnt said anything sooner, then cut the ties (someone who cant communicate with you isnt someone you should start a family with).
Maria XOXO | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 8:46:59 PM | Once again we have a woman with stipulations. I can see the checklist now.
_ Must not complain about my flirting with other men.
_ Must not show distaste to my friends
_ If he complains about my behaviour he will be gone. Even if I am pregnant. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 8:56:08 PM |
Once again we have a woman with stipulations. I can see the checklist now.
_ Must not complain about my flirting with other men.
_ Must not show distaste to my friends
_ If he complains about my behaviour he will be gone. Even if I am pregnant.
That's hardly the case - of course he has the right to complain about my flirting with other men. But would you honestly complain if you saw your girlfriend flirting with her female friends (and it happens ALL the time, though it's less noticable)? I doubt it. And if that stands true then why are male friends all that different from female ones? If we wanted to be in a relationship with them, we would be. End of story.
Same goes for the second as goes for above. If you wouldnt complain about the situation if the friend in question didnt have a penis, then dont do it when they do unless you're looking for an argument. It's just common sense, as friends should be considered genderless unless your SO is treating them otherwise.
As for the third, how the heck does a female's choice of friends correlate to her behaviour in general - or the level of her promescuity? A person generally doesnt have sex with their friends (unless they've come to a specific arrangement, which is completely off topic, and which should definitely be contested by the SO), therefore, it can be deduced that in usual circumstances, your third accusation is null and void.
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 9:04:08 PM | From personal experience girls with mainly male friends ... are acutually more girlie then anything. I find the coolest girls generally hangout with everyone. I also find girls that generally hangout with males aren't as agressive about things and they are generally ... and i say generally pretty boring.  | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 10:25:43 PM | I think the best test of trust in a relationship is for the guy to have free sexual reign, its only normal, whats the big deal. Men are supposed to spread their seed. there is no harm in that if he can pay the child support. and a loving trusting spouse is needed. Otherwise, get rid of the non trusting spouse.
I think most professional relationship counselors would agree that it is ok to have friends of the opposite sex, but people in a committed relationship should not spend time alone with the opposite sex, they will tell you. Go ask one. | |
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