| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 10:35:36 PM | Just want to remind you fishbill, that I did post earlier that I don't hang out with guy friends "alone" if I'm in a relationship.... and most of my best guy friends in the recent past were my ex's best friends.. I was lucky enough to be married to someone for almost 20 years who didn't have a jealous bone in his body~~~and I also never gave him a reason to be jealous... If you don't have trust, you don't have squat..... That's a biggie I learned from being in a relationship so long~~~  | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 10:42:50 PM | Guys hanging around a GOOD looking girl= guys waiting in line
Guys hanging around an UGLY Girl=gay or not to be worrying about
I stay clear of women with a ton of guys waiting in line | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 10:57:52 PM | this is a touchy subject... why because i have to deal with it every time i meet a new guy.. It's come to the point, where i tell them straight up, that i have ALOT of guy friends. GUYS: i will tell you this... our guy friends are our friends for a reason.. because they are just friends.. if we wanted to be with them in any shape or form, then we would be... but instead we are with u, and we feel comfortable with introducing u to our guy friends.. because thats what they are.. just friends.. believe me, ive had my fair share of guys who can't deal with me having so many guy friends.. they are fine with it at the start.. but then they get jealous when i hang out with them.. I don't do anything for them to get jealous of.. so, don't get jealous.. as the saying goes.. why would i go out for chopped liver when i have steak at home? | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/11/2005 10:58:28 PM | Just where are they lining up>? At clubs you mean>? My guy friends would usually come to my place and just hang out.. even when I was married. But, when I was married it was my ex's friends who were my best guy friernds, and we all hung out at a local lake ( and there were times I was the only female there, but their wives weren't freaking out)> or someone's house for parties... They could come up and kiss me on the lips when we got together, no big deal.. Even the youngest guy, who was 27 (gorgeous, but married)... We were just that close... I guess it's hard to explain if you haven't had relationships like that with people of the opposite sex...>?? | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 8:36:01 AM | | I have known girls where it was really that they just could not stand the petty games of women, and I have known girls who have a reservoir of back up boyfriends. I used to tease one girlfriend about it, the entourage I used to call it, or the team jen super friends was the other name. Sure enough that is where my replacement came from, there was a real turn over with that girl. I guess to lead that life style she always needed to have a couple of em up her sleeve so to speak. I am sure there are plenty of women where it is somewhere in between the two versions. Really it depends on the girl. On that subject I find generally girls get over break ups faster, and have a better chance of having rebounds that last. I also find in a relationship it tends to be more acceptable for the girl to have male friends, then for the guy to have female friends. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 8:39:51 AM | simple - she's intimidated by other females.
she can tell you she only likes hanging out with guys because girls are ****es, yea ****es because they are intimidated and jealous of one another. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 8:54:49 AM | Speaking from my own female perspective...
I used to like hanging out with the guys...but then realized how valuable talking, sharing and networking is with other women. Men generally do not share the same ability to talk about emotions and experiences nor do they have a willingness to listen without fixing the problem for you!! A good girlfriend will let you talk...get it out...tell you what she thinks or has done in the past...and help you find your own solution!
I think that most (not all) women who deprive themselves of the love and support female friendships provide have intimacy issues. (My opinion, not a judgement) (Emotional intimacy...get your mind out of the gutter!!) Other women can see right through the BS we often heap upon ourselves whereas male friends are not as in touch with their own feelings so why would they be in touch with ours?
I have tried to have friendships with men, but they always fail as soon as the guys realize I wasnt kidding about JUST WANTING TO BE THEIR FRIEND!! If we get to the point where we need to have THE FRIENDSHIP TALK, their voices go up 10 octaves, and I dont hear from them again for quite awhile...Most men tell me that men will only spend time and energy on a friendship with women if they have an agenda...true? who knows...
MEN WILL COME AND GO, BUT GIRLFRIENDS ARE FOREVER!
When my girl friends and I go out to a club, we do at least one shooter together and declare loudly:
Here's to the men we love...here's to the men who love us...if the men we love, don't love us...F*CK the men, AND HERE'S TO US!!
Carpe Diem!
Linda
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 9:21:17 AM | | If you are interested in making friends with someone you have met, you might want to ask yourself, ‘Who are his or her friends?’ The type of close associates someone has tells much about the person himself. Also, what opinion do mature and respectable people in the community have of him? In addition, it is wise to consider not only how potential friends treat us but also how they treat others, particularly those from whom they have nothing to gain. Unless a person displays good qualities—such as honesty, integrity, patience, and consideration—at all times and to all people, what guarantee is there that he will always treat you well? To me, a woman I have found attractive will be more family oriented and have a variety of friends, not just guys as friends. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 9:26:31 AM | The hotter my girlfriends are the more girlfiends they hang out with when partying.
Just an observation from my life.
also see: center of attention with no competition. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 9:35:34 AM | I definitely see the point about emotional intimacy. I don't have a large number of close friends in the first place... I'd say that I have probably five close male friends and two close female friends. My male friends are the ones I go to when I just want to chill, do a lot of laughing, not worry about taking myself seriously, and so on and so on... But yeah, when I really need an ear to talk to my female friends are the ones I always go to and they me. They're the ones who will really show that they care about you. :)
jdepp... I don't compete with women. That's one of the things that annoys me when I am in a big group of girls. There's *such* an air of having to look prettier than everyone else to get the most attention, and that annoys the holy hell out of me. I don't care if I go to a club to see a show or something and nobody looks at me the entire night, and people just don't know how to handle that. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 9:42:51 AM | angelinabee - thats cause you're a pirate
girls that only like to have guy friends also like to be teases and get attention, which is easier if you are the only girl. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 9:45:22 AM |
angelinabee - thats cause you're a pirate
Thanks for reminding me that I need to change that. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 9:48:19 AM | why Jdepp thinks pirates are cool.
They have mates and search the seas for booty. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 9:50:27 AM | | Thank you justaprincess, thank you livewire. When I do things in life, I ask "am I being selfish, self centered, or dishonest" "am I causing jealousy". There are many people who can drive without seat belts on and never get in a wreck. I would just as soon avoid any more wrecks and plan ahead. Hope for the best and plan for the worst. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 11:15:47 AM | A guy isn't likely to talk you into breaking up with your bf when you are having problems and then sleep with him.
That is pretty much why I am just starting to have women for friends and my 2 closest are married. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 11:36:27 AM | | I have never had a sexual relationship with any of my guy friends... No way--that would ruin things.... It's hard to explain I guess, if you haven't had it. So, they're not back-up boyfriends.. I do have a couple of those I can call in desperation But not my "true guy friends">>>>> | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:24:44 PM | Hey virgo girl...
She wasn't a real friend if she did that...I'm sorry you had to deal with that kind of woman...
Linda  | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:26:23 PM | | Don't have any girl "friends" just acquaintances; guys are way less fickle, catty & won't try to tell the new guy why he shouldn't be going out with you; they, on the other hand will not hesitate to tell you that your ass looks great/huge/etc in those jeans...I wouldn't trade my guy friends for anything; in my experience, guys you date are great with that in the beginning, till their jealously gets in the way; and it usually does... | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:28:24 PM | I do have a couple of those I can call in desperation But not my "true guy friends"
So no friends with benefits. I guess it is true that friends don't let friends get drunk and have desperation sex. HaHa! | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:48:42 PM | LMAO~~~~ They're okay "friends", but not like my "true" guy friends.... Just someone to go out with when there's nothing else to do>>>>LOL~~~ They'll forever be unmarried anyway, so they don't mind.. They get tired of always going out with their "guy" friends... What a complicated web we weave, huh>?  | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 1:42:14 PM | OMG! I love my gay guy friends!!! My female friends don't see it the same way I do though...LOL
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 2:00:34 PM | LMAO~~~ I do have a few gay guy friends, but actually, my very best guy friends are not gay~~~~ Just fun, good listeners, and totally cool~~~~ | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 2:03:35 PM |
A guy isn't likely to talk you into breaking up with your bf when you are having problems and then sleep with him.
I am sure that is why they hang around so long. EZ booty. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 2:06:23 PM | | I think thats why my GF likes me, I am a good listener and not afraid to talk about stuff. | |
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