| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 5:15:13 PM | | Yes me and the boys have a women friend that is attractive.We all play cards together on saturday night and talk about the latest fashion. And the 5 of us go out sunday shopping for clothes together.Then me and my male friends are together all we talk about is how can we can beat her in cards this saturday night.Or what kind of fashion we can shop for....And just think sex talk or how attractive she is never comes up...NO !NO! We are good friends.We even try to set her up with more guy friends.Because as you all know most guys that live today is all they are interested in.Especially all the guys in their 20s.Sex is the last thing on their mind.Friends is where it is happening....I know i would rather have a true woman friend.She is better at cards.Especially if she is attractive fellas...Then it is not so awkward..You know with me being single.I mean we do not want anyone to think i am in it for sex....No!NO!It is not like that at all. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 5:27:21 PM | I can just picture my girlfriend with five horney strip poker guy "friends". Not a pretty sight.
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 5:44:02 PM | | Now why would you think like that.They are just friends.I know when i am with the guys i work with all they talk about is how many women friends they can get.To be honest with you sex does not come up at all.They perfer attractive women friends because it is no so awkward.They do not want nobody to give them the wrong ideal...Gosh what is it with people.People think 90% of men are lookings for sex.That is not true.90% of men are looking for a card partner.Somebody to shop with.Get to the lastest fashion....And where did people get the ideal that when a man goes to a night club he is looking for sex.Well i got news for you.That is the last thing on his mind...He is looking for a women to play cards and find out what the lastest fashion is.And the more beer he drinks the more he wants to talk about it...Also when he comes to work on monday all he talks about how he did not do so good on getting a woman to be his friend.Some of the guys i work with i got to set them up on some of my women friends....1 guy is 21 and the other is 24.Never been married.They would prime for friendship. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 5:48:56 PM | It's so true tarheelman...~~ My favorite times are the times I'm alone with the guys, they're drinking, and being "totally" themselves.... They don't talk about women at all~~~LOL~~~ And they really do forget I'm there ((if I can keep my mouth shut))>>> It's made me appreciate men more, for who they really are, and not who they're trying to be when out in public, with their wives, etc....... Know what I mean>?  | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 6:08:52 PM | | And when they are not around you i have observed that they do no change their tone conversation.I mean if it is attractive female that they had activities with them the day before.The word sex does not come up.They just cannot wait for the next card game or even drink a beer together.You know most men that is what they perfer..I work in construction work and all they talk about is over a long weekend is how they play cards with women....Just like the other day there was a attractive looking women at the resturant that we go to at lunch time and one of the single guys was talking about how she would be as a friend..Sex never came up.Poor boy never been married.So you can just imagine him being 21 years old the very first thing came to his mind was is how you guys think she is with cards or shopping.Us guys told him not be shy and ask her if she would like to play cards.....And just think out of 10 guys none of us talk about how attractive she was or the sex word...That is the last thing is talked about on a construction site.We are just looking for women friends.Thats all. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 9:12:37 PM | | Generally, women who think men are better are insecure and highly competitive with other women. At least this has been my experience. I apologize for offending anyone. Your Mileage May Vary. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 9:15:11 PM |
Generally, women who think men are better are insecure and highly competitive with other women. At least this has been my experience. I apologize for offending anyone. Your Mileage May Vary.
Just because someone hangs out with men more doesn't mean they think men are better people. ;) And I have more close male friends because I get *tired* of the competitiveness that abounds in some groups of women. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 10:20:21 PM | I just get very, very bored with typical "women" conversations and activities... it's not me and never has been... Nothing to do with insecurity... I've adopted two 18 year old girls I"ve met online... ((okay, not legally, but I might as well have))~~~ I just don't do all the "chick" stuff.... and don't have any interest in it... (I've been called a bohemian, but maybe it's something else??)~~  | |
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megd
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Joined: 9/26/2005
Msg: 134 | |
| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 10:40:06 PM | | I would venture to say that 98% of my close friends are males...I did grow in a house full of brothers, but not sure if that is the reason why or not. I think the main reason why is becuase in Pharmacy school it is like 80% male...occupational hazard I suppose... | |
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Jan762
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Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 135 | |
| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 11:02:35 PM | | I find exactly the same thing. Most of my women friend's are so catty I can only take them in small doses. One is so lethal I literally avoid her. They say one thing to your face and another thing to your back. I trust my guy friend's, they don't view me as competition or a threat to them. And they do not annoy me by talking about relationships, diets, botox, recipes, whether or not they are going to get a boob job and kids. Some women are great too, I just enjoy most of my guy friends better. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 11:30:24 PM | for the first time EVER i agree with billy crystal.
there is no way for a single guy and a single girl to be mutual freinds.
im not going to run it all down but if you are interested watch "harry met sally" | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/12/2005 11:38:10 PM | .
Today, quite by chance, all of my friends are women. That’s simply because the guys I grew up with are married and none of them play around. The guys, of course, know many of the same women I do. So do their wives.
The benefit is that we all know each other very well and there is never a pretense of anything. Oh sure, I’ll hug them, hold their hands sometimes, kiss them, dance with them, and even remember their birthdays. But, that’s about as far as that goes. Fact is, we are friends who can say anything we wish to each other at any time. And, believe me, they do! LOL
There’s an agreement, though. When someone is “dating” they do what they want to do for that relationship and do not worry about the rest of us. That applies to me, as much as to them. If I find someone interesting, I will tell them and then be gone for as long as that relationship lasts. Otherwise, the only way I will see them is as a couple at some function along with the woman I am interested in at the time.
And, for their part, they’ll wish me “God speed” and send me on my way in hopes I might find happiness. That’s because they are my friends, not my controllers.
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/13/2005 5:33:46 AM |
I just get very, very bored with typical "women" conversations and activities...
I was at a party once and the women were talking about economic models. The men were in the kitchen talking about where to buy the best fitting shirt.
Isn't saying all women are catty, catty?
Not trying to stir the pot.
You can usually tell who the catty people are. They are usually unhappy, insecure, and competitive.
I am very blessed to have many, many female friends who are intelligent, reliable, kind, and fun. It saddens me to think other women have not had a chance to explore and experience the power of female friendships. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/13/2005 6:55:03 AM |
I was at a party once and the women were talking about economic models. The men were in the kitchen talking about where to buy the best fitting shirt.
Please remember that not everyone lives in a big city.
Here in redneck country, there are very few women who went to college... and many didn't graduate from high school.
Lots of the younger girls have collected several "baby's daddies" already, and love discussing their favorite NASCAR celebrities.
There are some divorced women in my age group who are discarded trophy wives, and they seem to enjoy spending their free time spending their support money and looking for someone else to take care of them. Most of them are the catty ones, perhaps because they see other single women as a personal threat.
Then there are the married women with kids, and their interests revolve around the best way to take out grass stains, or exchanging recipes for that lovely chicken dish that hubby liked so much.
If I could find someone who was even vaguely like me, with a few similar interests.. I'd jump at the chance to have a girl friend!!
For all who keep insisting there must be something wrong with me because I have no close female friends, I'd love to hear your ideas about how I'd go about finding one? | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/13/2005 7:59:51 AM | If you women think these guys are completely "just friends" & would never consider getting it on with you:
try this test:
tell them you've been really horny lately and feeling lonely and just need a good man to hold you, and he's right there..and..
See what he does..
Will he say: "oh no way!! we're "just friends"..?
IME, women who have "NO" female friends & "just male friends" is b/c they are B******s (rhymes with witch) and attention ho's and other women can't stand them anyway so can't be their friend, but they love all the male attention..
Ever notice how "the opposite sex" will put up with a lot of BS that the "same sex" won't?
I myself have had female friends that looking back, are really self-absorbed selfish little twits that most other women can't stand, but for some reason I thought at the time their actions were "cute"..
LOL :)
Often people "act different" with the opposite sex than with their own though..
e.g. guys who are into competitive macho one-upmanship games with other guys aren't like that with women..
And women who are catty & b****y with other women are 'sweet' with guys..
so...I can see it to some extent.. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/13/2005 8:05:19 AM | I would prefer to have all female friends (Well not all..) but mostly ,
because to me most men are competitive, macho, overbearing a-holes with other guys, always trying to have a bigger swinging dikk.. (one upmanship)
but I'm sure the same guys seem much 'nicer' to women (b/c they think it might help to get into their pants, maybe?)
Just as the same women that are "catty b*****s" with other women can be sweet as pie to men..
strange, huh? :) | |
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jaxxe
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Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 142 | |
| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/17/2005 12:49:43 PM | | Speaking from my own experience only.... I've only had one girlfriend in my entire 28 years who didn't at some point dissapoint me in some way. Women just don't trust other women, or so it seems. This makes me want to ask... If your boyfriend came on to your best friend, wouldn't it make more sense to direct your anger at the boyfriend? | |
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jaxxe
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Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 143 | |
| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/17/2005 12:58:31 PM | | You're right, Belle, it is sad. However, it's still a reality that women can be catty, (websters- catty = slyly spiteful). | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/18/2005 10:10:18 PM | | My guy friends have always been a problem in every relationship I've ever been in. For what reason I don't know. I just have always found it easier to be one of the guys than one of the girls. I've never been a girly girl... but I'm not so much one of the guys that people would mistake me for gay either. I have one true friend thats a girl and a dozen or so that are guys. Purely because I've grown up with them my entire life and we share more of the same interests than my one girl friend and I do. I would and have never let a friend come between me and a boyfriend, but I'll never let a boyfriend come between me and my friends. Friends are like family... it's a package deal. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 6:12:00 AM | | The majority of my close friends are guys, and who ever thinks men and women can't be platonic friends are wrong. My guy friends are like brothers to me I have no interest in dating them or being involved with them in any way, they know that and feel the same way about me. I always treat their dates nicely and they have always treated guys that I date with respect and include them in any activities we have planned. Now that doesn't mean that if a guy is treating me badly they won't step up to the plate and say something but that is only because they care about me and don't want to see one of their friends get hurt. I have always found it easier to hang around with guys too but my guy friends have NEVER been a problem when it comes to relationships. It probably has something to do with the fact that I only have brothers and was use to their friends always being around when I was younger. I just feel that sometimes it's easier to hang out with them because they are less catty then a lot of women I know. I hate drama and don't want to be part of it and for the most part men think the same way so that is probably why we get a long so well. I am not saying all women are like this, I have a couple of very close friends that are female and we talk almost daily but my female friends are a lot like me and also have a ton of guy friends. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 3:28:42 PM | | I know what you mean.Me and the guys i work with are single.And all we look forward to is to get a girl just to be our friend.We have one that meet up with us a nd play cards on saturday nights.And then on sunday we go shopping together...On monday morning when us guys go back to work all we talk about how can we beat her in cards.Or what kind of clothes did we shop for on sunday...She is rather attractive woman and let me tell you,Not 1 of us even wonder what it would be like to jump her bones No No no .That never comes up on a construction site. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 4:10:57 PM | After reading all about these gals with no female friends because, bottome line, they don't seem to care for the company of other women, how refreshing to see PhyneLiquor hit the nail right on the head! From someone with many sisters, many women friends of all ages, and some good male friends (and I have been a lucky girl to have such great people in my life), I'm so glad some guys out there "get it"!  | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 5:03:26 PM | I think some women only have guy friends because they can't stand or don't like competition ... and it's usually attractive women none the less.......insecutity maybe.. oh gawwd I can almost hear the typing... I can only imagine the comment about this one... lemme get behind the glass...  | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 5:56:25 PM | | I have a best friend that is male..And i can talk to him about everything..i wouldnt change that for the world..Alot of guys cant handle that but girls and guys can be just friends. | |
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