| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 6:05:51 PM |
Shivan, my theory is "the guy friends" are actually acting 3x or 4x as friendly towards the "female friend" cause, well Sigmun Fried knows why. Meanwhile women are just acting normal towards each other or 1x friendly, unless they are bi then its 2x as friendly.
LOL! I'm glad that I'm not the only one who's thought of this (here I thought I was just weird or something  ). Freudian, to be sure, but then again he wasn't COMPLETELY loony.
I have big respect for women who have mostly guys as friends; they tend to be a lot more fun to be around, and you don't have to be as careful with regards to sexist or otherwise offensive jokes that of course all guys like to tell  . | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 6:35:05 PM | yes!
for most of my life; I've mostly had male friends; I think mainly because I've competed in sports where there are mainly men. My best friend is female, but she's like me, most of her friends are male. It's not jealousy, yes, women can be catty; and I don't manipulate any of my friends! When I'm in any sport, I'm not concerned with how I look;(makeup, hair etc.) and I think that makes me a little different.........? | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 6:47:13 PM | | I get along better with men....always have. I grew up with 3 brothers, and was always a tomboy. Women in general, not all, but in general, can be very petty. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 7:10:57 PM | | Yes,I much rather play cards with my women friends.Alot more fun than going out on a date.All the guys i work with in construction agree with me.I love my women friends.They are alot more fun than a regular girlfriend....Went out to lunch the other day at work with the fellas and there was one guy in his 20s wanted to find out if 1 of the attractive waitresses would be his friend.She told him they could be friends.That young fellow was jumping for joy when we went out of the reatuaurant....He told us that i hope she does not want a intimate time.He just wants to be friends.Since she is attractive,He siad it is better for them to be friends......That friday night they played cards...When he came to work monday,All he talked about was how good she was in cards..And the word (sex) never came up.NO!NO!NO! | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/22/2005 11:39:31 PM |
When I've had friends they were all mainly male...I dont see what it would matter as long as they were just friends. Girls just never wanted to hang out with me at all. I guess I have more in common with guys.
Probably because you liked to do things other than gossip, fight over shoes, and show off your clothes.
I don't think you have much in common with guys though. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/23/2005 12:22:41 AM | I forgot to tell you fishbill, that one of my best female friend was one of my ex-husband's good friends.. He introduced us. She now lives in Washington State, because she met her "dream man" last year, and is getting married..... They used to fish together, hike together, and he had tons of pictures of the 2 of them together...((she's been my very best friend for almost 20 years)).
I think it can be a really healthy thing.... If someone thinks otherwise, I think it's like the whole jealousy thing~~ The person that is usually the most jealous is generally the one doing something---and they assume the other person must be doing the same things, or thinking the same things.... Not always the case.... | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/23/2005 12:26:14 AM | Yes, there are rare exceptions. Congratulations, on not following the usual mold. And sometimes I dont wear my seatbelt and didn't get in a car wreck. So its ok not to wear your seatbelt.
And on rare occasions, some people are born with a penis and a vagina, but is that the norm? So what do you folks think "the norm is". Some men are 7 ft tall with | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 3:32:06 PM | I will admit I have many more guy friends then female ones....HOWEVER...I have always had guy friends even in grade school...I hung out with the guy's...as a kid I played with Tonka Trucks etc...Hotrod dinky cars etc...
Was the norm.....Guy's are honest and fun...they call talk about anything... and I value my guy friends...and that alll they are is FRIENDS. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 3:36:59 PM | I tend to be a bit hesitant about women with a platoon of guy friends.
Half if not more of the men want her, some have probably had her, and they will often be a pain in the neck if they see another guy moving in on their woman.
Kinda like trying to light a fire with 6 guys blowing it out when it is still small. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:06:45 PM | ^^^ It always cracks me up when guys always assume that. I have a ton of guy friends..nope they don't want me...nope they haven't had me...and they are only a pain in the neck to a guy moving in on me when the guy is acting like a jerk. People can be friends with the opposite sex...sheesh.
I would never give up any of my friends including the male ones and yes I have the attitude that if someone I meet doesn't like it...they can keep on searching for a fishie that only has female friends. It comes down to trust, I know I am trustworthy and I know my male friends are too. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:21:45 PM | | I know what you all mean..I work in construction work..I work with 99% male..When we go out to eat at lunch time at our favorite resturant...We get to talk to all the good looking waitresses...When we go back to work we talk about how can we go about trying to be friends with them...Gosh this 23 year old young man wanted to play cards with one of the waitresses...he was asking for advise from us...Do you think she would be good at cards...I told him since she is good looking and about your age..It would be much better to go bowling...Or go play bingo...He went out that weekend...He siad they went bowling...He told us he had a good time..In fact he told us she was alot more exciting than his girlfriend.....He siad all his girlfriend wanted to do is have sex....He siad going bowling and gossip all night is alot more better...... | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:22:13 PM | lil,
Some guy friends are fine, others are the creepy ones lurking around hoping for a chance.
As a guy, you can usually spot the latter pretty quickly.
One girl I dated had a friend who set up some alarm bells in me. Guy was married, but kinda trying to interfere in a very possessive way. I brought this up, a fight ensues, but the result is the guy is on a business trip and calls her, and she asked "have you called your wife yet?" him: "no". Her: "maybe you should call your wife before you call me".
Then he faxes her this crazy porno fantasy of them together explaining that to him his wife is an angel and she is his whore. It went on for pages, crazy stuff.
I guess I tend to pass on women who cannot tell the difference. I prefer women to manage the creeps without my involvement, for the most part. And women who cannot spot creeps or who insist that obvious creeps "just want to be friends"? Oh man, next! | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:35:10 PM | Where do I find guy friends because I've come to the conclusion that at my age (36) it's nearly impossible for a guy to be my friend.
As a young girl, as early as elementary school I had TONS of guy friends...way more than half of my friends were of the male persuasion, I preferred them, played with them, sports, marbles. traded hockey cards and all those kids games from way back then. I wasn't a girl jock or anything. That continued into high school, my very best friend was a guy, we hung out constantly, partied.  Never slept together, not even a kiss. Sure i had girlfriends but I preferred my male friends for various reasons i'm sure, but at the time..it just seemed natural for me.
Fast forward to the adult world and i'm constantly pondering why every guy i have met in the online world wants to tell me his penis size and ask me if I'm freaky in bed. In the offline world there is always sexual tension. Why. I totally MISS my male friends but I don't see anyone from school anymore.
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:38:43 PM | | The whole concept of women with only men friends and why that should be so outragous is quite amuzing....I have been in a relationship with such a female and it was one of the most stimulating relationships I've been in. Not because of who her preference in friends were but because I trusted and repected this individual enough to let them run their own life and develope her own sence of who she was without my influence. The relationship between her and I has nothing to do with who she knows and if that is an issue it surely would have been mine and not her's....Trust is a funny thing...it make us judge things we are not qualified to comment on....like other peoples choice of company....clean your own house before you try to straighten up someone elses....peace | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:43:13 PM | dead,
This is fine if the girl in question has good "creepdar" and the ability to vocalize why the guy in question really is "just a friend".
I mean, please, hanging around a pretty girl acting like her friend and hoping it will turn into more is very commonplace, and probably most or all men do it at some stage in their life.
My fiance is best friends with her ex husband. We camp together, he hugs me when he comes over, I like the heck out of him. I could not care less if they hang out together.
He is a fairly rare exception though. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:52:11 PM | | Yes we males do happen to have some wild thoughts from time to time but we are visual creatures and if there is someojne we find attractive we may have some thoughts about them...it's not acting on those thoughts that counts... | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:05:21 PM | Dead,
The only thing stopping the lurkers from acting is fear of disapproval if they let on what their true motives are.
Honestly, if a girl is surrounding herself with these, I tend to doubt her judgement or honesty. And whether she admits it or not, she probably has been with some of her guy friends. Women are capable of some pretty shocking things if they think no one will find out :) Why do you think they go so nuts on vacations? | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:16:49 PM | Jumpy,
I have exceptional male friends and they probably ARE the rare exception. We treat each other with respect and they are like brothers to me and treat me like a sister. Most of them are married and I am friends with their wives as well.
I chose my friends in life very carefully and wouldn't hang out with them if they were creeps. I really do think it's all about trust and maturity though. They have no interest in me other than friendship and I feel the same about them.
This is another one of those topics that will go back and forth. You either think people of the opposite sex can be friends with no romantic interest involved on either part or you don't. I am sure that there are many guys out there who do want more..and will act like they are just friends with a girl but believes and hopes that more will come out of it.
But with my friends that is not the case, I have known some of them from more than 15 yrs...if we had any interest in each other we could at some point explored that possibility...but that has never been something any of us has ever had an interest in. So my point is ..it is possible to have platonic friends of the opposite sex.
Sheesh, that was a long post for me lol...time to make dinner! | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:20:42 PM | | Oh i know what you all mean...Back when i was 20 i had a girlfriend that went on camping trips with my friends from work(I work in construction)All my friends back then drank and partied..So i let her go on camping trips alone with them...Sex never ever came to my mind..Why would i ever think that theses guys would do this...All they talk about at work is how good women are at cards,shopping,gossiping,...The word sex never ever comes in the conversation at work..NO!NO!NO! | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:21:05 PM | lil,
I believe you.
As a guy, however, I have come across my version much more often than yours.
If you are friends with the wives, I can see that being a huge indicator that you have exactly what you think you have - real male friends.
Lots of women have these single guys lurking around. Fine if they want that, but I find it a bit old, and I am definitely becoming crankier and quicker to hit the eject button as I age :)
Plus, as someone often presented to the new boyfriend as a friend, I know for a fact that women tend to um, "understate" the depth of past involvement. | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:22:35 PM | jumpy
Sounds more like personal opinion than fact....eveyone deserves the right to talk to and associate with whom ever they wish...because someone does or acts in a way that you do not make thier actions wrong....very judgemental....people will inheratly disappoint but we have to give them a fighting chance and who is really affected by there actions....not me...to each their own...and good luck...cause I know I don't have that much time to spend on what someone else might do...or is doing or could do....that's pretty exhausting....live and let live...it's easier to breath that way... | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:25:24 PM | dead,
Of course they can associate with whomever they choose.
Their choices simply might make me exit the picture or exclude them from any possibility of getting serious with them :) | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:29:24 PM | | Then the answers simple....if you can change the one you love....love the one your with.....that always was a good song.... | |
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| Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:49:12 PM | | OH!!!Come on guys....Your making me laugh!!!!When a man sees a attractive looking women..The first thing he wants from her is to do hobbys with her..Playing cards,pool,shopping..ETC.....That is why when my girlfriend go off with the fellows i do not have a problem with it.....When i am at work(99%)male...All we talk about how much better women are at shopping,Playing cards,music.......Talking about sex never ever comes up in any conversation..I have been doing my line of work for 22 years i never known a man talk about how good looking a woman is and like to jump her bones...But i must admit it gets kind of old all we talk about is Shoe size of women,,And where they buy there make-up...What kind of cards they buy...What is there average bowling score...BUT sex i guess we refuse to talk about that...Especially if she is a good looking women..NO!NO!NO! | |
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