| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 4/25/2006 11:07:37 PM | | it would be nice if the world would read the book first insted of just looking at the cover. because some times the cover hides the real thing | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 5/12/2006 9:19:26 PM |
it would be nice if the world would read the book first insted of just looking at the cover. because some times the cover hides the real thing
And sometimes the cover is just a mask. I prefer living my life without a mask. What is on the cover is me. If someone wants to read the pages and i am comfortable with them, then the book opens. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 5/12/2006 11:35:23 PM | | most women are after social status and wealth....looks come next......yes we judge a book by it's cover...if we didn't then why do books have those nice glossy, interesting covers? to entice us to open up the book, read, and buy the book...human nature | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 5/12/2006 11:37:02 PM | | wrong...beauty is in the eye of the beholder....some would say cindy crawford is hot..i say not really...but if you asked me about an "average" gal then I would say yes if there is an instant attraction.....we are talking about preferences not standards | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 5/12/2006 11:38:32 PM | | Topiary Cow's first scan the table of contents, and if there are any interesting chapters, then he'll start at the begining and read until he gets bored. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 5/12/2006 11:38:41 PM | | but why "ambitions?" because you want to reap the rewards of your loyalty to that person...$$$$$$......what if the man's ambitions was to give away all of his money to the impoverished and to live like nomads? would you stick around and support his "ambitions?" | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 5/12/2006 11:56:57 PM | | First impressions are very important but what are you talking about here? Are you talking about peoples pictures on POF or meeting them for a date? Then there is a difference. If you see a pic that you're really not sure about but then go out on a first date, you may find you are attracted to that lady or she has a great personality. Pictures aren't everything; You need to find out what's inside too. You may be missing out on the woman of your dreams! I've been reading and everyone's about looks on this site! | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 5/13/2006 1:40:41 AM | Why do men think all us women are looking for are material things?...
Yes,first impressions are important,but,it's about you,the person,not
what you may have (materialistically) to impress with.
And no,I don't judge a book by it's cover or in it's entirety...
opinions,yes...judgements,no...Who am I to judge?...
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/14/2008 9:33:08 AM | No I'll read the book first, then judge. I don't care if you drive a horse cart,for I won't be having an affair with yourBMW or Porche or your horsecart... happy fishing  | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/14/2008 11:41:24 AM | We forgot to mention skin color??? Bring on the stereotypes !!
Send IM ...
Window Open.... 5 seconds later
Window closed ....
Happens very often but if the colored man had some $$ he would be marrying supermodels.
Yes i know a lot of women who look at a guy's car before even considering dating them. Not to forget that on the female side they don't want to disappoint their friends in their choice in a dating partner. Happens all the time.
You know what they say ...once you go brown..you can't calm down  | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/14/2008 12:15:21 PM | | Having been out of the online dating seen for a while, nothing seems to have really changed over the past couple of years. And trying to connect with the right kind of woman is hard work and I do tend to agree, rightly or wrongly, that my experiences as a guy, most of the woman I am attracted to judge me by 1st impressions. I am a professional black guy from Hampshire and consider myself a good catch. Intelligent, confident, very independent and very well presented. But find it difficult to find any women yet on this site or other sites willing to take a chance on someone who comes from a back ground where perception is built by what they see on tv or read about in the papers. I don't wear a hoody and I don't hang around on street corners. I work hard and play hard and have a good reputation at work and amongst my peers. I have strong family virtues which it seems is lacking amongst a lot of the younger generation these days. All I am saying is don't judge a book by its cover as you may miss out on something you have spent a lot of time and effort trying to find in the first place. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/14/2008 12:20:00 PM | First impressions are definitely important.
This is in no way related to "judging a book by the cover"
But I think, yes, many people do judge and by more than just what kind of car is driven. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/14/2008 12:22:24 PM |
do tend to agree, rightly or wrongly, that my experiences as a guy, most of the woman I am attracted to judge me by 1st impressions. I am a professional black guy from Hampshire and consider myself a good catch. Intelligent, confident, very independent and very well presented. But find it difficult to find any women yet on this site or other sites willing to take a chance on someone who comes from a back ground where perception is built by what they see on tv or read about in the papers
Mate, it has very little to do with your background... Free dating sites suck for getting dates for most guys. Period. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/14/2008 12:28:43 PM | | Maybe your right... but it must work for someone or else why would so many people sign up to it. I am not trying to play the race either, just making a point from past experiences. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/14/2008 2:07:25 PM |
Why do so many men assume that women are only after cars and money?
Because a lot of good looking women are often seen with men with fancy cars.
Unless he has a BMW or better they just arent interested. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/14/2008 2:48:21 PM | | Both the cover and the book are important. The only difference is that you can usually determine physical attraction very quickly. It often takes some time to figure out a person's personality. A woman doesn't need to have super model looks in order for me to date her. But there should be at least some physical attraction. If a woman is completely unattractive, then I wouldn't be interested in dating her regardless of her personality. On the other hand, if an attractive woman has a poor personality, then I also wouldn't be interested in dating her. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/14/2008 2:55:02 PM |
but it must work for someone or else why would so many people sign up to it
It's free... Slim to none chance of meeting someone for no cost versus no chance of meeting someone for not signing up... it's a no-brainer
But once you get here, it's like the bar.
Some guys can go to a bar and meet someone every other night.
Other guys can go to a bar and never meet anyone.
It doesn't say anything about their desire, or their personality, or their qualifications to be dated. It just is.
Fact of the matter is MOST guys have next-to-no success on free dating sites. Some do, but they are in the minority. People sign up in droves cause next-to-no success is significantly better than no chance. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/15/2008 9:49:57 AM | I will not fall for a man because he is driving a Porche or BMW but for his good character and personality,and more important he is enterested to me. Women are attracted to guys that drive expensive cars,or posed in a nice car in their profile photos ,and think they are successful and moneyed man. Suppose the guy who drives a Porche is working in a car lot as an assistant to a mechanic , and he is making 8 bucks an hour ? And the guy with a nice car in his profile ,just posed one of the cars in a parking lot ? That is a crashing blow to woman whose only enterest is a man's money,ouch!... | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/18/2008 6:16:05 AM | I think here we are mostly talking about the first impression being a photo of the person. Ssme thing applies for IM'ing on POF. Like I said it's difficult to make a lot of woman go past 'the picture' stage. I'm a guy so I will speak from a guy's perspective. I agree there are some women who are not like this who really are looking for the 'good guy i'e average package'.
Some are based on looks some simply race with stereotypes. You can see a lot of profile saying 'good guy, honest and the works' but there are fine prints that we don't see i.e
1. Must look good in speedo
2. The Tom Brady looks
3. Has his act together (translated into good paying job and a house and will take me to vacations in the carribeans  )
4. Has a car that will make my friends jealous
5. Addition to #3 . I have an average job with some collge but my man should be some engineer with Masters degree. I could never understand this one
Disclaimer: The above exist in many variations and are used in most cases. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/18/2008 6:25:07 AM | I usually judge a book by the back cover, or the inside flap. :P
I'm also aware of my first impressions and never let them bind me into inflexibility of thought, because things/situations/people are not always as we originally perceive them. | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/18/2008 6:27:18 AM | First impressions and book covers are not on the same page... one is about taking charge for your personal info (intrinsic value) on a short matter of time, and the other is about charging you for the info you can get later maybe for nothing... 
BTW...You're definitely not a multimilionaire (or rep or pr thereof)... Millionaires are busy positively and they have a positive outlook in life, and that's what makes them comfortably millionaires...
BTW, a fancy car is by farthest no proof of wealth (much less a healthy mind)... maybe it is been leased, rented, tested or stolen...
If you care, focus on the right gals without bothering in doing the test drive, you might be missing the boat completely by just (he) complaining and whinning... and just because it takes good part of your precious time, when you could have used it for better... for instance, improving your outlook in life... | |
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| Do you judge the book by the cover?
Posted: 8/18/2008 6:39:21 AM | My son would be impressed by the Batmobile at the curb for a date. 
I am an avid reader. LOVE and devour books.
But occasionally, I DO buy a book based on it's cover.
And usually when I do, I don't read it to the end.
Lesson learned. | |
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