| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 9/15/2009 8:34:08 PM | [quoteI know what a cuckoo clock is but what is a RAK?
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 9/15/2009 8:50:36 PM | The other week I had to go to a patient's room and moved some of the furniture to look at something. Before I left I apologized for moving things around and she said she did not mind, it gave her something else to look at as she had been looking at the same tack for two days.
She had her head in a brace and could not move it, and only could look at the opposite wall with a bulletin board with a tack on it. I felt sorry for her.
I tracked down a woman in another building that had a few nice pictures of Japanese gardens on her wall. I explained the situation and she gave me one (was one page of a calender). I went back and pinned it to the bulletin board, the woman thanked me as I left. | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 9/17/2009 6:44:03 AM |
I think everyone does acts of kindness throughout life but doesn't talking about it detract from the kindness?
I'm in absolute agreement, Duds.
Somebody told me a long time ago.......try doing something nice for someone else........and then don't tell anyone else about what you did. I guess one could also say, don't post it on a message board and don't stand on the rooftops and yell to everyone about this great thing that you did.
Sometimes I find this difficult to do....I think I like to be acknowledged for this kind of stuff.......but I've come to understand that as my ego acting up......so I can just try to practice that kind of behavior without having any expectations. And on the occasions when I can do something nice without expecting something in return, it feels pretty good. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 8:43:37 AM | Random acts of kindness usually make the giver feel good about themselves. What I find to be the unexpected reward is the receivers reaction of acknowledgement by how they say thanks, or their smile, or the look in their eyes.
As humans, we need to feel appreciated and unfortunately we are often taken for granted by those we care about the most. For some people their lack of feeling appreciated makes them appear to be looking for a "reward" after showing a random act of kindness to a stranger.
I have bought mittens for kids in the winter who were standing at a bus stop without any and it was -30 with the windchill. I have helped elderly people load groceries from their carts into their cars at the store. I have on 3 or more separate occassions driven elderly ladies home from Polo Park who lived in the area and were either too hot or too tired to walk home. I don't expect anything from any of this and refused money offered to me by the ladies I have driven home. It felt good telling them to go out for coffee, or take a friend to lunch, on me with that money. I think doing these things are good for the soul. When I am sad or feeling sorry for myself, I often think about things I have done for others, what people have done for me and just remembering the smiles and warmth of being appreciated, gets me over it quickly.
Printer, taking the trouble to get that picture for that lady was really nice of you.
Does anyone else have the urge to rent the movie "Pay It Forward" again? | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 9/17/2009 2:03:56 PM |
I think I like to be acknowledged for this kind of stuff.......but I've come to understand that as my ego acting up......so I can just try to practice that kind of behavior without having any expectations. Chuck, I understand what you and Dudley are saying that it somehow cheapens the act of kindness when you have expectations. I believe what you’re experiencing is the inherit guilt associated with religious moral teachings. Regardless if you’ve ever seen the inside of a church or not, most of us grew up with these teachings, they are a part of societal beliefs which no one questions. Being a martyr or a missionary is highly regarded among the religious crowd, but they have no place in a healthy society which seeks equality for all individuals.
All relationships between individuals (family, friends, husbands, wives or just associates) need some degree of equality. If there is no equality, sooner or later, you’re going to feel used and you're going to say, F uck it!. To deny that fact is nothing more than a claim that your behavior is morally above that of everyone else.
Feeding your ego while making someone else happy seems like the way to go, after all, you’re making two people happy instead of one… how can that be bad? | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 9/18/2009 12:05:31 AM |
I think everyone does acts of kindness throughout life but doesn't talking about it detract from the kindness?
I don't see how talking about it detracts; , it'd still be random, it'd still be a kind act and telling others about it may inspire them to do some RAK. | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 9/18/2009 3:52:54 AM | I agree with susan_cd
It doesn't take anything away from the act to share it with others. | |
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