| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:09:21 AM | | I would have made some different decisions and make some different choices. In some ways I am behind where I should be in my life, but in others I am doing well. I focus on working to improve my strengths and try to remedy any weaknesses, especially ignorance in any area(s) of knowledge I need to know. | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 4/24/2008 12:23:57 PM | | I lived at home while going to college...I drove back and forth and saved money. I was in love and did not want to leave my boyfriend who lived in my hometown...he cheated anyway....I did have fun in college, but maybe would have had more fun if I had moved off to go to college. | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 4/24/2008 4:23:04 PM | i caved when someone demanded that i become involved in their issues and solve their problems, not realizing the person has a serious personality disorder. i listened for hours on end to litanies of anguish, then tried, with my best effort to comply with the requests for my problem-solving skills. all my energy, time and best effort resulted in nothing so much as abuse.
i'm still trying to make sense of one of the sickest, most twisted interactions i've ever experienced.
never again. i learned so much from the experience. i've learned to recognize neediness and manipulation for what they are. and they're not my problem and i don't have to deal with the drama, misery and psychotic episodes of a deeply disturbed individual. | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 4/24/2008 7:11:23 PM | juniper,
I totally emphathize with you on that one. I had a problem dealing with a crazy woman who was desperately lonely, constantly complained about everything and basically was disturbed. She was calling me five or more times a day, and finally the straw that broke the camel's back was something really offensive that she said. I talked with her dad, and he was able to get her to accept the fact that I wanted to cut her out of my life completely. Sometimes that's what you have to do with those kinds of people.
Thankfully I am surrounded by lots of wonderful friends in many places, and for their friendship. I hope that all of you are as fortunate as I to have lots of wonderful and supportive friends.
Cheers!! | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 4/25/2008 6:48:49 PM |
juniper,
I totally emphathize with you on that one. I had a problem dealing with a crazy woman who was desperately lonely, constantly complained about everything and basically was disturbed. She was calling me five or more times a day, and finally the straw that broke the camel's back was something really offensive that she said.
wow! we could be talking about the same person!
i sure did learn a tough lesson about the difference between generosity of spirit and manipulation. i've developed a sort of radar to alert me when someone wants to suck me into their dynamic of self-absorption. once you've been there, you become acutely sensitive to it. | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 4/26/2008 2:33:33 PM | | My only regret in life is having a child with someone I can not admire. I was young and before life mattered I thought that for love to be true you have to be true to it. Well all the love in the world didn't change the truth-- he was not the man I could raise a family with. I only feel this way because my son has all the potential in the world to be a man of integrity, impact, and leadership-- and I am too modest for the conviction that I am enough alone. It makes me wonder if I am capable of producing an incredible man without having one to guide me. | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 4/26/2008 5:52:03 PM | What would you have done to change your past?
- I wouldn't have bought so much RRSP's and I would have put that money towards a place to live 5 years earlier than when I did buy my place.... it would have saved me thousands of dollars.
what was your biggest regret?
- giving presents, and being "extra" nice to women that were never interested in me, which happened to be everyone of them..... that would have saved me thousands of dollars too | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 4/28/2008 11:54:48 AM | ^^ Same here. Education, education! I shouldn't have thought I needed a serious boyfriend (4 years older) and missed out on my high school years the way I did, education-wise as well as socially. I was capable of so much more but graduated with just enough credits. I didn't go to a single high school dance! Dumb. I stayed away from drinking and drugs though, therefor nothing more to regret about those years
Other than that, I really have no regrets. Every experience has made me who I am and I love my life. | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 5/3/2008 9:45:15 AM | | As I quickly approach my 50 year mark I am finding it's difficult to get through each day without some sort of reflecting...asking questions and questioning life itself. All the what if's seem to matter no more as I realize that my life took it's turns for very specific reasons and while I am in control of the choices I made, ultimately who I am today was born. Therefore the only question that has any significance is "am I happy?" And to that, I can only answer a simple 'yes.' All of the why's seem to fade with each new day I am allowed to experience and new beginnings are created. Therefore, I have no regrets and would not change a thing. | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:23:01 AM | I don't regret my past, I cannot change it, so why regret it when it will do no good...and I would not change any of it...there are things that I cringe at when I look back, but if I changed it to go in my favor, where would I be today, i could be a totally different person...and I like who I am and where i am, so why jeopardize that...we should stop saying things like, "What would you do if you could..." when we should be saying o youngsters...."What are you going to do when...." so they can make the best decisions when it comes to their turn...just my opinion of course.
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 7/23/2008 2:33:36 AM | my biggest regret is that i did not have children, was married late it did not happen...
i love children and glad that i have a neice and a nephew... love them and i am aunt to my friends children as they have grown up... still not the same, have no problem with someone that has children and or grandchildren... my 2 cents!
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:08:26 AM | I would have told the one girl in high school I liked how I felt about her no matter what happened (well there was 2 girls I liked but one was gone in the middle of grade 10 so she gets cancelled out) I never told thi s girl how I felt and I wish I had no matter what the out cause then at least I'd know
I promised myself after high school I would NEVER make that mistake again. | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 10/8/2008 6:34:50 AM | I regret leaving Illinois. I left because my parents bought a home in Florida (I love the sun and I was sick with a cold all the time from the weather) and also Illinois was becoming so crowded with people.
When I go back home to visit or for dentist visits (I don't trust doctors down here in Florida, they harm more than they help) I always scour the Job Listings section but unless I want to go back to my high school job of working at McDonald's there just isn't a lot available.
But I found the best friendships, most loyal, kindest and ethical people came from there. I wish I never left. The warm sun and convicts, con artists, coke heads and criminals just isn't worth it: it was a really bad move on my part....people in Illinois are so much more ethical, kind and very few have criminal records. They are also normal. If I see one more local Florida senior citizen with a pierced earring, ponytail and wearing a baseball cap backwards I think I'm gonna scream! Everybody down here seems to be a user. It's terrible here but the sun is shining warm and bright. As the saying goes, "Florida is a sunny place for shady people." Forget the sun, I'd rather live in a harsh environment but with warm wonderful people. Most girlfriends I've had in Florida went back to wherever "home" was and never looked back and are so much happier nowadays. As the saying goes "there's no place like home." | |
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| What would you have done to change your past?/what was your biggest regret?
Posted: 10/8/2008 7:11:47 AM | | I would never have gone to college. I learned a lot in my 13 years there, and it was fun, but I have never made a nickel from it. My current job has nothing to do with my degrees, and I would have a lot more money by now if I had spent that time and effort mastering a trade instead. | |
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