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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/4/2006 11:32:16 PM | | i've been raising mykids by myselve for 3 years since my ex leftthey are 17 and 15 now have not seen their mom since she left .she has no desire to see them to busy smoking weed i guess when they go spend the night with family or freinds the house is just to quiet cell phones help alot. just make sure you little girl knows her daddy loves her | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/5/2006 3:46:12 AM | Hey turtle I know what you mean buddy.I use to drive from Toronto to Picton to pick my 2 daughters up and drive back to Toronto,then on Sunday return them to Picton and drive back to Toronto.Did this for parent teacher interviews,school concerts and events.Always broke my heart when I had to say good bye to them.
In order to be closer to them and be in thier lives more I relocated to Belleville from toronto.All we can do is let our kids know we love them and that we are always there for them that is what really matters. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/6/2006 7:16:54 AM | | Man thats no fun. I have two teenage boys and since my seven years of divorce I always search for single moms. Ya know if the children get along it really takes alot of stress away from the adults. I always thought it was part of the approval stage that most men have to pass to gain trust and respect... | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/6/2006 11:01:14 AM |  For all of you men that have stepped up to the plate to take care of your kids...YOUR AWESOME!!!
My ex husband and I have Joint Legal custody of our 12 year old Daughter. Although since our divorce he has never really been there for her...3 years ago after he was remarried he decided that he would walk away from her and never look back. Hedoes pay his child support faithfully but we have not seen or heard from him in 3 years. At first I tried numerous times to contact him and the last time I called his house his wife told me that I would be arrested if I called back again!! I sent a ton of letters and all were returned to me unopened!! I know, he's an ass!!
I have no idea how anyone could do that to there child!! If I go one day without seeing my daughter I go crazy!! In our divorce papers it states that we will alternate claiming her on our taxes each year..when this agreement was made he was atleast seeing her so I was ok with it but now I can't help but feel asthough he really doesn't have a right to claim her...HE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER!! and not to mention he now has another child with his new wife! why should he get that money at the end of the year when I could really use it for our daughter! Am I wrong for feeling this way? Should I just let sleeping dogs lie or should I do something about it ?? Not sure!
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/6/2006 5:36:43 PM | to chances2betaken.
I wouldnt let him get away with it. That money is YOURS and your daughters. NOT HIS.
Tell the tax people that he has removed himself from her and that he is still claiming the taxes. that is fraud and the government will reclaim all of those funds. you might or might not see any of it, but he will have to repay it to the tax man | |
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kelvin
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/6/2006 7:28:19 PM | | I was in the delivery room with all 4 of my great kids to cut their Umbilical cords(with 2 seperate wives). I have 2 full time, a 3 yr old and a 16 yr old, and each weekend we trade kids and I get the other 2 boys 4 and 11 yrs old. I have to drive a round trip of more than 100 miles twice a weekend. I work full time in the oil patch. This is the time that I ask myself.....Maybe I should have been a little more tolerant with my ex wives!! I could sure use a hand. Throw me a fricken bone here. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/6/2006 8:40:25 PM | Hi Strange, Thanks for your reply
I hear what your saying but its in our divorce decree that he and I will alternate..BUT at the time of our divorce he WAS seeing her. This is where I'm a little unclear about what to do...does that makes sense?? | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/6/2006 9:14:05 PM | | You are making that statement out of lies. You can tell by the word "actually". Either you know someone who claims to and doesn't or you don't believe that we do. Either way it matters not. I do what I do to the best that I can. Have since she was born. Why do you want to know anyways. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/7/2006 10:19:26 PM | | I really dont know what to tell ya bud,I have 2 boys 6 and 3 and I see them ft on weekends and get them Wed after work til bed.Its been 2 years almost And i still hate it.Just seems empty,I feel alone.Everyone has a diffrent way of dealing things but if there is an easy answer out there ill let you know,hoping ill get the same in return.Take care man things will turn our way.When is the question? | |
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sindad
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Joined: 1/7/2006
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/7/2006 11:48:03 PM | Good evening, I am new to this site and a single father. I have been for close to 10 years now. I have 4 girls, it has been a great journey through the years being there for their first step, and words. I must say when they were sick being up all night was difficult but somehow I got through those younger years. Now I face the dreaded teenager years! It is fun! and a very active household.
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/8/2006 12:33:18 AM | My son stays with me fulltime basically. He's allowed to choose where he wants to stay since his mom lives 6 blocks away. Makes me proud when always wants to be with me. Especially since I'm the one with the strict rules. My daughter chose to stay with her mom (I have the strict rules  ), which is alright, she leans towards me to talk about stuff she doesn't feel comfy bought talking to mom about. Makes me feel good too | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/8/2006 11:50:53 AM |  Hey dudes!!! I've been seperated with my ex for three years now and when she gave me the boot for some other guy, I took my son with me and he has been living with me since. To top the icing of the cake, my step son left his mom's and asked to move in with me as he didn't want to live with her. The step daughter also asked if she could live with me for a year until she could get her own place and I had absolutely no objections to that. I left my 6 year old daughter behind as I just felt that she needed to spend time with her mother for growing up purposes but I get her on the weekends, holidays and the summer breaks. It always breaks my heart to see her go although she'd really like to live with us. Well, the step son has graduated from high school and the step daughter has found her own place and both are on their own now. My son has never been late nor missed any school during the time he has been with me, unfortunately my daughter does not hold the same record for a perfect attendance. My son visits the mother almost every other month although she just lives a few blocks away just because he doesn't always feel comfortable visiting her mom because her mom's boyfriend. I've always told my son from day one never to forget his mom as she'll always be his mom all the days of his life till the day she dies. I don't regret being a single dad and it gives me every moment to see what I can do for him. He has his own computer and a 4 in one printer hooked to the net so if he can make new friends whenever he needs to. For an 11 year old he's chatting online all over with friends as far as NFL and I'm pretty impressed with that. Just a few months ago, Social Services called me up and asked me if I'd be willing to take in my daughte as they felt "concerned" about her welfare but I had to turn that down although I didn't wish to. I just didn't want to "strip" the mother of all that she really has left and one of these days, she'll just have to wake up and smell the coffee. You dudes are doing good. I also know of one other single dad who has been raising his children on his own and I have been pretty impressed with his style. Keep up the good work!!! | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/8/2006 12:42:56 PM | | I hate the saying "dead beat dads" What about the dads that pay child support for 18 years and never get to see their children. Thats what my father did. Anyway I am a mother of a 3 year old girl and her father is the best. We don't do court stuff. No custody hearings. Everything is worked out between us. We live two blocks away from each other and have her equal amounts of time. They call us Rachel and Ross. Not all dads are a dead beats. I actually know some pretty irresponsable moms that would rather ditch their kid and strip for a living. I guess I never saw cramming blow up my nose more important tham a life. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/8/2006 3:42:34 PM | | I have custody of three children, two girls (11 and 10) and a boy age 7. I was always the primary caretaker and now I still am. I am there for them 24/7. Their mother does have her visitation though and does not provide for them still. I make sure that they take their baths, brush teeth, change underwear, do homework, eat three meals a day among others. I have a great relationship with my children and I would not change the living situation for anything in the world. If custody ever became an issue, I would fight with every breath that I have and every penny that I own. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/8/2006 8:59:13 PM | | My 5 year old son is the best thing that has ever happened to me.My dad ran off when I was 3 and never came back.Someone would have to shoot me for me to be out of his life!I just took him roller skating for his first time and it rocked.I miss him alot cuz I only get him one to three nights a week.Something that help's to cope with lonlieness is to find a hobbie or two that you two can do on a weekly basis like karate or-roller skating.That way when your son or daughter is gone you can sit back and savor the memorie's that you all keep making.Plus find something for your self to do when the little one's are gone,I went back to college and it keep's me from focusing on the lonlieness and before I know it he's at the door running up and jumping into my arm's to give me a hug.Much love to all you other single father's out there not giving up on your kid's.KEEP IT REAL,yo! | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/11/2006 4:57:35 AM | | Hi I'm a single Dad as well. I have been divorce now for about 3 years. I have my daughter. I thank God for that everyday. As far as the rest of you message. I can feel your pain. My daughter to has not seen or hear from her mother in 3years . she is going on 16teen soon and it is sad that her mother has not been there for her at all. But in time she will come around and at that point it is going to be a coin toss. Keep up the good work and love them everyday because he/she is looking at us to show them the way of life!! | |
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| this single dad story isnt a happy ending
Posted: 1/30/2006 2:19:14 AM | wow , I have never seen so many great dads in one place. Every story seems like a fairy tale.
Well let me take this whole topic back to reality. This probally wont be a a fairy tale. The fact is I dont have alot of money. So my options of bringing this woman to court to see my son is not an option. Let me start with the story first. My son joshua is now 6 yrs old. I was with him until he was 4 and then the mom and I split. The mom remianed in the same state so i was able to see him. Honestly he lived in the same state and I only seen him once a week at best, the other time I spent trying to get back with the mom. So my focus was not in the right place.Then I realized that the relationship is not going to happen they moved to maryland and i drove down once a month to keep my son with me for two weeks before I drove him home. The mom would never meet me half way to save me the long drive but never the less always picked my boy up. After a year the mom moves to florida and now instead of being 500 miles away she is 1500 miles away.I havent talked to my son in a year and a half. The mom will not return my phone calls, i dont know where they live in florida. I had two weeks vacation this year and i spent the whole two weeks trying to find them,
The last thing she said to me was I cant hurt our son if you want to see him u have to move to florida. Do i MOVE TO FLORIDA? its been a year and ahalf the only recent picture i have is that one time a year and ahalf ago i flew down to florida for his birthday party and left the same day.I just wanted to be there. Anyone have any idea on what I can do? Do I even have a leg to stand on? Will he even know who I am if i seen him again? I dream about him often and every time its me seeing him and he looks at me like he dosnt know me and then he starts remembering as I keep talking to him. Well in closing, this dad wasnt the greatest dad in the beginning but has developed into a good dad and now I feel like I am helpless and miss my son very much. so much that i would move to florida now if I knew i could see my son again.(and i hate florida) Does any one have any comments( good or bad ) I dont mind. peter | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 1/30/2006 2:28:29 AM | | Hey there i am sorry to hear what you'r going through, i wish i could say that the "single" dad's/mom's down here was like most of yall are. I will soon be a "single mom" this will be my first kid but never give stop loveing you'r kid's even while, she/he is at there mom's. You could do little thing's to show them how much you love and care about them and have it, ready the day before they return back to you or that very day when they return. | |
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