| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/3/2007 5:00:04 PM | When I got my divorce, I told my X she could have the house, the cars, the possessions and anything else she wanted as long as she didn't stick me with only every other weekend vistiations.
Guess what???? I have full custody of the kids and she hasn't seen them in 3 years. I also got the house, the cars, the possessions.
Life is good when "Mom" doesn't feel like being a Mom anymore. Boy did I luck out!!!! | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/3/2007 6:01:50 PM | | I get my girls 2 times during the week for 3 hrs each time and everyother weekend I pay 130. aweek I make 300. aweek I do pay what gets me is why does she have the right to say how and when i can see the girls just so she gets the monney | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/3/2007 8:47:11 PM | I raised my son on my own since he was 3 and he is now 10. I also told his mother when we split up that she could take the house, cars and everything as long as she did not keep me from my son.
Well I did not get the house, cars or anything else except a bag of clothes and left ... 6 months later I get my son and a bag of his clotehs and his mom decides she does not want to be a mom but would rather party.
I think the guy in the above post truly lucked out with the kids and home etc but I believe all us single dads would rather take the children then the material crap!! I know I was happy having seen my son grow up and still get to see him everyday and it's great!
Congrats to you other single dads! It's rare where I am to see it so it's good to know other men stand up and take care of their kids. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/3/2007 9:06:13 PM | 1ST sorry my post last night was a little raw, the ex showed up for the first time in weeks to visit (unanounced) , My son wanted to go so I let him. He missed his trip to the local NFL Training Camp. AND at the time I posted she was over an hour late
2nd NHGUY, send me a note, I spent three years tracking my son down, definately can give you some pointers
And to the Lady with the dad that floats in and out of her childs life. Bite your tongue and let him. Maybe he will grow up ...maybe not. But you really don't want your child to come back and say why did you keep me from dad. In time your child will appreciate your consideration. Mine is ten and is starting to. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/3/2007 9:08:08 PM | | its very rare here where im from for there to be single dads ive got custody of my lovely 2 yr old son. his mother buggered off to the other side of the country. the only stressing thing about this is that shes trying for custody and the wait for it to go to court is the hardest. hes been with me for 5 months and never sees his mam. she can only be bothered to phone on the weekend wich she only started doing the past few week. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/4/2007 3:33:52 AM | | Mine have been with me since the X did the dirty and ran off. I offered her more money the car anything aslong as she did'nt fight me on the kids as they wanted to stay with me. Oh happy days she took the money and i have been lucky to see both my two through school and uni. For this single dad my children are my life. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/4/2007 4:56:14 AM | | I just want to start off by saying to everyone that has thier children and are taking care of them....YOU ARE A HERO!!! It is a sad time that we live in, that people can just toss thier children (our future) away. It takes alot of ourselves to raise children and to those of us that do it , it shows great dedication, , patience, and love. For that I respect each and everyone one of you. Your true reward are your children so be proud of what you do and raise your head high. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2007 8:13:03 AM | vader95nasty ...........Make sure you take those phone bills to court. To show she only started calling after deciding to go to court
Been there................PHONE BILLS GO TO EVERY HEARING WITH ME | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/4/2007 8:16:18 AM | geosc,
Child support and visitation are separate issues. She can't decide "when" you get to see them. You're supposed to come up with equitable arrangements, then if you can't between the two of you, the divorce decree is the default. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/4/2007 4:03:15 PM | Thank-you air14225 ,
And your right about one thing and I don't want to step on any toes with the ladies but,
you never hear about the mom being in the wrong. I'm not saying this to get any credit from anyone but with my daughters so-called mom. My daughters half sister and her where found walking down the side of a major highway my daughter in a stroller and her sister pushing her ( sister was 4 at the time ) and when it came time for court 7 people came and beared witness to this but who was in the wrong ME!! why? you may ask, I did not provide a baby sitter for my x even when the day care provider took the stand and her an another woman gave thier statement that she had brought the child by but would not leave her, the judge stilled ruled in my x's favor my saving grace came when my x discovered she could party do her drug and drinking thing better when she was alone. I do have one some more to say on the subject but just thinking about it makes me sick to my stomach. But I do wish this for every single mom and dad if no one else says it I give you all a pat on the back and a very big thank-you for the job your doing, they did not come with instructions and it's a bump your toe and go on, hoping you do the best you can do for all who are involved. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2007 6:57:39 PM | | Well, I thought Id chime in. not all of us guys are scumbags. My ex had a 40 year old mid life crisis, decided she wanted to party, and not be a mommy. It took me 15,000 bucks, but I won the house and full time custody. She sees him very varely, and then just to hit me up for money. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/4/2007 9:11:41 PM | 711 said;
I'm there for my daughter all the time. She stays with me for like 4 days then we switch off with my baby mamma. It's cool but i hella miss her and i just dropped her off this morning. What could make it easier to cope with her not being here all the time?
I went from wife, kids, dogs, cat, fish, birds, hamsters, and.......a colony of hermit crabs to the kids 9/14. (Nine out of fourteen days, she had them every other Thursday and alternatine Fri, Sat, Sun).
Those nights without someone there were tough. I couldn't sleep and *despised* being in the house alone.
This, too, will pass. I'm with ya, it takes time. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/4/2007 10:00:59 PM | I take care of my son. He usually stays at his mom's 1 or 2 nights a week... sometimes more, sometimes less, depending on either of them.
I've gotten used to his away time, but his mom recently took him on a weeks vacation over to Washington with the schmu... ahem... the guy she's with now, and that was not an enjoyable experience for me.
I believe the trick is to find things to occupy your mind and time with. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/5/2007 6:21:42 AM | This thread has restored my faith in fathers, so much respect from me.
Keep up the great work guys, children are a blessing and bring so many rewards.
To the parents who can't be arsed with their children or use there children to get one over their exs may they forgive themselves cause children are for life and when they grow up the truth will shine through. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2007 9:14:15 AM | I'm a soon-to-be single father. My son is 11. His mother left this past Father's day. We have been trying to follow a schedule. She gets him when I'm at work and on Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights. Thus far the schedule really has been. Friday & Saturday nights are with his mother and I'm with him except when I'm at work. He called me at work yesterday and asked if he could come home. I said, If it's okay with your mother. Sure.
It felt really good to get the call. He'd rather be with me more then his mother.  | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 9:06:20 PM | | It never gets any easier, thats what makes a good father. I've had equal placement for the last 8 years, on the weeks I don't have my two, I call them everyday - that helps some. Stay as involved as you can....I was a Scout leader for 5 years then had to learn about soccer to be an asst. coach. It's a huge demand on your time and makes dating really difficult but the choice is a simple one. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/10/2007 4:03:58 PM | hi everyone...this is my first post.
I was a stay at home dad raising my kids while their mother worked for over 4 years.Don't judge me too harshly, i did work when i had the time.but would rather be with my kids rather then throw them in daycare. We are no longer together, and it breaks my heart not to be with them 24/7. I had to fight in court just to get them on weekends.The courts always seem to favor the mother.If I had my way they would be with me full-time, as she is an unreliable parent and has very poor judgment.During the week they usually call me on the phone a couple times which really helps pass the time till i can see them.Raising my kids is priority in my life, and it is quite difficult to do effectivly when you only have them part-time. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/10/2007 4:53:31 PM | I was given my two daughters on Oct. 14, 2005 and have been there ever since they came into this world. I didn't have children for me not to be involved in their lifes. The ex always tried to use them against me. Through all the stuff that has happened, they have experience more than they should. There are women out there that think children are their's and their's alone. The fact of the matter, the children see the true picture - more than anyone ever gives them credit. My daughters (11 and 12) have watched their mother be someone that they wouldn't want to be. As for me being a full time dad - I wouldn't have it any other way. Women were the gift to man from God but children are the greatest gift.
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/10/2007 7:08:12 PM | i dont think anything can help i miss my son all the time when iam at work i wonder what hes doing and all i couldnt imagine not seeing him before he goes to bed or waking him up in the morning
i actually count my blessings that his father left and i can have my son without having to share | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 8/10/2007 7:11:40 PM | on another note i think its great that all you guys are so involved in your kids lives it gives me alot of hope that me and my son will find a guy that will love us just as much you guys are all awesome  | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 11:43:24 PM | My daughter lives with me fulltime, she's my little angel.
I wouldn't change it for anyone or anything. Amazing how fast they grow up though....seems like yesterday that I was rocking her to sleep at night. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 11:52:33 PM | you men have my fullest respect. Its men like you that i hope OUR SONS will grow up to be like. Men who take responsibility, who step up to the plate and know how to be an all star daddy. Im so glad that your children have at least one fantastic parent to love them. right on guys  | |
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