| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:22:34 AM | To say someone "ugly" does not have opportunity to cheat is plain ignorance! Go to a local bar one night and see who is going home with a new friend, and who leaves alone! LMAO
A lot of unattractive people have self esteem issues (hell...a LOT of PEOPLE, period!) and thus WHY they jump into these opportunities...it gives them a dose of feeling good about themselves, even if false.
A lot of attractive people are such because they have higher intellect levels, more earning potential, and the MONEY to do things to make them attractive. (health clubs, eating right, clothes, make up, surgery)
People who cheat do so for reasons completely unassociated with their looks. Duh! | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:38:19 AM | | she didn't have to tell about all that, shes cruel. what a control freak, someone like that would get one warning from me, and she would be off my rolodex. i have lots of girlfriends, I don't want to know what they do with others, and if they want to see my other girls, I say only if you both agree, and if its in front of me you better be into threesomes. that usually ends that. except once, but they didn't last long after that. | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:48:05 AM | I always felt that for the saying that a man should make an 'ugly woman his wife' was to learn to look beyond the skin.
Looking how I did when I was married I did get compliments quite often. It helped get over the insults and lack of female friends I had. Quite a few women insult good looking women and it hurts the 'beautiful' woman quite badly. I was not insecure, just hurt. I would tell my husban both occurances. His response would be 'what do you expect from women?' Dah... With the men he understood, fortunatly, that I would tell him in order for him to be extra close to me when we were out.
If it was a friend of his that made a compliment I wanted him to know the compliment so he knew who it was and that I was not going near his friend unless I was with him. I liked my husband real close beside me so his friends would know that, alone or with my husband, I am not interested.
That was usually my reason for telling him the compliments, to know I hear what is said but I am NOT interested in anyone but him. People find to many reasons to diagnoise others as secure or insecure, are we all psychologist? | |
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Joined: 4/21/2003
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:54:54 AM | | The reason that i really have a problem with this thread is(who defines ugly and who defines beautiful) Maybe a girl or woman you think is ugly I might think she is beautiful,and you know just because she is beautiful or ugly has nothing to do with whether she is going to cheat or not,might have something to do with her up bringing or whether she has a chip on her shoulder for something the last guy did to her please this is common sense lets think before we post | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 9:12:58 AM | I agree with you on that one. It is such a stereo typical statement, that people cheat because they look 'good'. It is also a sad one to have to fight. If one is the one being told they look good they also have to constantly fight the reputation of cheating. That can be added pressure to a relationship.
If you notice even people that are not in the relationship accuse the 'beautiful' one of cheating even if they don't know them at all.
Try to fight that and keep a relationship going is tough.
p.s.{I can cook a 12 course hot meal on a woodstove (not cooking stove just a old woodstove.). And add cold foods like salad. hehe } | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 9:15:21 AM | | Bravo ! My sentiments totally.Just read my first blog here and yes I kinda thought they would actually let postings like this one thru! lets see now they don't allow porn which defaces individuals however they will allow guy's like ?? to post this crap all in the name of Fun lmao.Hit him below the belt! | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 9:42:14 AM | | there is a fair bit of verbal light porn on here... actually quite a bit | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 9:48:43 AM | Y'know... I know one or two ugly people (men and women) who cheat like nobody's business. Why? Because they've spent their entire lives being called ugly, and they crave the attention.
I also know quite a few beautiful people who are happily monogamous. Yes, they flirt, and get flirted with, but they know who they go home to, and are happy to have someone that appreciates them for more than just their looks.
I'm not saying I'm gorgeous or anything, but I get rather a lot of positive attention.. my honey, when we're out, watches other men and women hit on me, and he enjoys it. He knows I'm not going anywhere, and for those moments, he's proud that he's got someone other people consider beautiful. Women fall all over themselves around my honey. He's freaking gorgeous. I love it! I think it's wonderful for his self-esteem, I think it's great to watch him blush and grin and get all googly. It's so sweet. And I don't worry, because I know he comes home to me.
*shrug* It's all about trust and self-confidence. I'm not the most gorgeous woman in the world... not even close, and I'm not a brilliant thinker, and I'm not... a whole bunch of things... but I like who and what I am, and I know that I'm worth being with. My honey knows this, too. If he cheated, he'd lose me. If I cheat, I'll lose him. And neither of us wants to be apart from the other.
Trust. And a desire to succeed as a couple. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 10:22:37 AM | | What defines a woman as ugly???.....A woman can be sexy on the outside, but on the inside, she could have a black heart, a nasty attitude,.....A woman who may not look like a glamour queen, but may have the kindest heart, charm and personality....I think that in itself makes her very attractive.......Who has the right to call someone ugly anyway??...Thats just cruel, cold-hearted and spiteful..... | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 11:01:16 AM | | I guess if she drives me crazy and has that special "chilly" or sensuality that most beautiful women lack... | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 11:56:16 AM | Hmmm __I now retract my opinion's one thing I've learned is that I could be wrong and another thing is that opinions are like A---holes everybodies got one ! I have surmissed that this forum does serve a purpose and the more controversial the subject the better?(I did read the Enqirer which also served some kinda purpose lol) If nothing else it's given us some entertainment! | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/2/2006 1:20:48 PM | | Perhaps marrying an ugly woman would satisfy the need in you to be praised as often as you need to be. When your ex was telling you about all the men that hit on her was she maybe just looking for more attention from you? Are you perhaps a little too self absorbed with your own good looks to tell your mate what you think of her? Just a thought. | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/2/2006 1:50:34 PM |
What defines a woman as ugly???.....A woman can be sexy on the outside, but on the inside, she could have a black heart, a nasty attitude,.....
I have met this woman. (shiver) | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/2/2006 1:54:35 PM | | I just have to saw in actuality there is no 'ugly' woman. In someone's eye's she is always going to be wanted and lusted after. Yes some people are more cemetrical then others making them appear more attractive then others but that doesn't mean that the other girl isn't disired by anyone. | |
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Joined: 7/26/2005
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/2/2006 3:39:20 PM |  what the **** ever.... cheating is a behavior that has absolutely nothing to do with looks...
my ex... 20 years older than me at the time.. in his early 50's... nothing to look at... was the king of cheating... did it to me... then when I booted him... he cheated on her... several times... all the while trying to get back with me...
if you think an ugly woman won't trash you... you are blinded... if someone doesn't love and respect you they will trash you and that has nothing to do with looks... | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 3:51:07 PM | well it all boils down to trust
maybe there was a part of you that couldn't trust her cus when men would hit on her it drove u nuts........if u trust her is shouldn't of !!!!!!
if you trust them then there is no need to feel like....oh he will get her in time!!!!!
it takes a strong women to walk away and say ' ok i'm happily taken" but if u r young and immature then u will love the attention and every chance you get u will brag about it or rub it in someones face ...sad but true !!!!
i don't think it is really a matter of looks personally....... but if they are true and do respect u and love u ......then no worries ok
it sounds like the girl u are talking about love the attention..... and she knew it bothered u ....and wanted to be in the center of attention all the time
looks isn't everything !!!!!!! its personality and loyality!!!!!! | |
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Joined: 12/22/2005
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/2/2006 4:36:00 PM | | hey us ugly women need love too and as we all know...beauty is in the eye of the beholder | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 12:04:40 AM | | Finally I see a positive coming from the Islamic world. Islamic men are permitted to have as many wives as they want as long as they can support them. Islamic women certainly must be aware that their husband will go to the prettiest wife for satisfaction. Naturally, the best looking wife will receive the most attention. Now I know ladies...that fact gets you all "worked up." You refuse to accept the fact that men are driven by the territorial imperative to spread their DNA as far and wide as possible. I know...I can hear the shreiks already! Look gals; work out, eat much less, and don't complain about everything all the time and certainly your man will stick around! I invite responses from women to my "enlightened comment" on this subject. Bring it on gals....!!! | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 12:17:18 PM |
Look gals; work out, eat much less, and don't complain about everything all the time and certainly your man will stick around! I invite responses from women to my "enlightened comment" on this subject. Bring it on gals....!!!
My jaw actually dropped at this.
I see you're divorced....
related, somehow, maybe? | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/4/2006 1:41:32 PM |
Even though she wore my engagement ring other men would always hit on her, and she would come home and tell me what happend that day, it drove me nutts, I actually had to ask her please stop telling me this everyday. There was always something like competition going on within me, like if I was good enough to keep this woman because so many men wanted her.
That's weak. You should have been thinking about what kind of personality problem your woman has that she has to tell you all this. Competition? Did you think that may be she was telling you that because of her insecurities? "Look, other men want me, even if you were not to, because I'm beautiful." Instead, you were too busy working yourself up over it.
The "Miss Teen" of some state is not the most beautiful girl of that region. She's just the winner among a bunch of girls who actually competed in that contest, and who probably have been groomed in that direction since they were little.
Maybe the "rule" that you should internalize is "don't marry a woman who was groomed since girlhood to be prized for her appearance". That is not the same thing as a "beautiful woman". Or at least, don't do it if you don't know how to handle a woman like that. If you're a guy who has insecurities of his own and falls apart emotionally.
Some beautiful women don't do the clothes, makeup and hair thing. So they are not obvious. They don't attract attention to themselves. Find one of those.
It's hard to be with a beautiful woman.
No, it's just hard to be YOU with a beautiful woman. It's not hard to be ME for instance.
Is that her?
http://www.ninimomo.com/co0finalgownhughes.jpg
Blech, insipid blonde. A bit chubby too. I'm completely not into that face, or her body. Just leaves me cold. I get a white trash vibe from her too. See? Not everyone's cup of tea.
I could go downtown to the biggest city in New Mexico, and in fifteen minutes spot three hotter women than her. | |
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Joined: 9/6/2005
Msg: 273 | |
| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/4/2006 1:56:37 PM | I wish I could marry an ugly women. But I have a bit of an eye for esthetics... My Ex was also a looker.....The last girl I was somewhat serious about was beautiful to me slim, blond great smile awesomely sensual I was told that many did not see her that way??? So much for opinions.... But the personality thing wasn't gonna work. She was insanely Jeluous
I have always been a one at a time guy. This bugged me a lot
If your the type of guy that has his attention averted by a Victorias Secret commercial, even a little bit  It would be unfair to go for girl thats you consider ugly.
PS My two cents, but almost every woman is gonna be beautiful to someone. | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 1/4/2006 2:09:20 PM | I was always called attractive, and was faithfull to my husband, he used to tell me I was beautiful and then cheat on me. He was not what you would realy call a handsome man either. I once took on a babysitter, and made darn sure that she was a real plain jane, skinny, spots, no glamour and not his type at all. Wrong, he got of with her!!
The point being that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and what is ugly to one is beautiful to another, and we cant always choose who we fall in love with.  | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 2:20:20 PM | Just remember.... no matter how attractive / unattractive she is, someone has to put up with her b&*() .... errr. .... games.
And just because she isn't considered a Barbie, don't think that you don't have competition. That's what my ex-boyfriend thought too. I consider myself pretty much of a plain Jane, but I have personality to make up for it. ;) Sometimes Barbies are just not the right kind of woman, even though every man would like to marry a Barbie. | |
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