| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 10/12/2005 6:19:25 PM | | DO NOT BE AFRAID TO FAIL. BE ASSERTIVE< BUT GENUINE AS WELL. | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 10/12/2005 6:19:41 PM | I can't be a bad guy
People have different perceptions of what this means.
When I say bad guy, I dont mean bad with manners or respect.
Its hard to explain, but try to be confident, adventurous, and outgoing.
Dont act anxious or be to eager to please or she will think you are desperate.
Let her know subtely you are interested though.
Figure out what works for you, and try to highlight your strong traits in your personality and appearence.
DO NOT BE AFRAID TO FAIL. BE ASSERTIVE< BUT GENUINE AS WELL
Thats good advice. Every-one gets turned down now and again. It seems this is especially tough on males with our egos. Try and get past that. Some of the most attractive women I have ever met have told me they hardly get asked out, because men think they will fail.
Its trial and error really. You wont get any-where unless you take the risk.
When you get shot down, shrug it off, and keep on trucking.
Eventually you will find one.
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 10/12/2005 6:35:37 PM | Hey double cabin.
I`ve worked you out man.
Your a HOBO !!!
Thats why you defend PROSTITUTS ???
And can not get a woman ! | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/10/2007 5:24:03 PM | | Well one thing that you're doing wrong is looking for sex in the wrong places. If that's all you want you should be looking for people that want an intimate encounter. Otherwise, most women want more than just sex. If you're a nice guy and you want a nice woman then you're going to have to work at a relationship first and then the sex will follow. | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/10/2007 5:40:28 PM | Cultivate the bad boy image a little bit. Part of being a bad boy is not being overy concerned about a womans opinion of you. Be a little nonchalant. Don't return phone calls too quickly. A woman needs a little challenge. Once you have gotten past that initial dating phase you can bring out the tender side. Then she feels like it's specially for her. When you first meet a woman talk casually DON'T go over your heart aches and divorce woas. Don't be pittiful! Tease a little but don't be a jerk. If she's very pretty don't focus on that right away. Talk about other things. Ask about her interests. Her hobbies. Be FUN. Dance, guys that say "I don't dance" just suck.
The main thing is don't just sit around feeling sorry for yourself. Get out there and meet people. That is the only way  | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/10/2007 5:48:24 PM | | ....nice guys finish last....go to www.heartless-****es.com/ and read..... | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/10/2007 11:19:20 PM | | Just a suggestion: Try dating her and making special times together. Romance her and show her how much you love her...it may work? | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/11/2007 12:58:40 AM | I find it very strange that people live there lives trying to be whatever they perceive others want them to be.
Just be the best person that you can be.
1. Keep fit > Join a gym and be committed.
2. Eat well > It's very true what they say. If you eat crap you'll feel and look like crap
3. Take up interesting hobbies, learn new things, ones that others will appreciate > Learn to play an instrument. Aint nothing that will generate more interest than if you can carry a tune.
4. Travel > It will expand your horizons and make you more interesting to talk with.
Has my favorate saying goes: "Get busy living or get busy dying" (What a great film  ) | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/11/2007 4:50:52 AM |
Dating...Ugh...Thats why I got married...so I didnt have to get turned down again
Most of my married friends[OK,the males anyway]brag of their 4 times a year adventures...
X-mas,New Year,Birthday and one other random holiday if they don't forget to plan ahead and ask for it.
That is roughly 1% of the year....Go back to dating.
You have a 50/50 chance just by asking and no limit to how many people you ask..... | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/11/2007 7:28:45 AM |
I am recently divorced. Was married for a total of 7 years and the last 3 have been without sex. We never really had a ton...but inclined to think it was because I am not too good at it.
I am now looking to start over...and find myself thinking about sex alot. I am 37 years old...lost my virginty at 26 and used to be happy that I was a nice guy. Now all I seem to be is a nice guy who is divorced and can't get laid.
It's definitely YOU.
It's a lack of game...
You need to shed your aura of desperation....
Also..you expect people to believe you were a virgin until you were 26?
What were you...home-schooled? | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/11/2007 8:44:34 AM | | First and foremost, let's find out why the sex stopped in the last three years of your marriage. And let's be honest, what that means is cause and effect. What did she do right/wrong, what did you do right/wrong. It's not blame that you are trying to find but causation. Once you realize that, then you can start developing strategies to rediscover the you, you never knew. Or have the discussions about dating that your perhaps politically correct parents and particularly mothers never informed you of. (Thus you not having sex until 26). | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/11/2007 8:51:32 AM | part of what your doing wrong is your belief that intimacy and sex are the same thing. because honestly, they're not. sex is and can be intimate, but you can be intimate without having any sexual contact at all.
you're a good looking guy. you just need some time to figure things out before you find someone. | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/11/2007 9:12:23 AM | Dude... grow some balls! I can smell your lack of confidence from here... don't ya think that women aren't aware of your confidence problem? Seriously... you seem like a nice enough guy... just be yourself, if you want something just ask, allow your humour to come through, don't be arrogant, or an ass. And maybe you aren't any good in the sack... so just ask... women love to tell what they really want and what they really like. Be aware of their needs... be sensitive to their desires. That's what communication is all about.
And where does it say that you shouldn't be thinking about sex? Nothing wrong with thinking about sex, you're a man aren't you... sounds like some conditioning at work here, infer- source of guilt. Now how you act upon those male impulses are another thing... say what you want and have some respect and tact.
And who said that having women as a "friend" is wrong... what bonehead told you that? Some of my best friends are women and I'm proud of it. I don't want to sleep with them, but I value their opinion... and I learn about women from them. I don't have any problem "getting" women, now it's a matter of choosing and selecting the one that I want... but I'm a bit picky. I'm not bragging... I'm saying that women have helped me immensely meet other women. I listen and I learn from other women... grooming, posture, attitude, conversations, taboos, likes & dislikes, and especially how to dress... they can be your best friends too! I love women! oooops... that's another thread! | |
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Posted: 12/11/2007 9:37:26 AM | | I know what your saying about nice guy. I was everything she ever wanted I thought but again I thought wrong. I just treat a women with respect and be yourself, that's important I was married and yes sex was there. our problem was getting along she liked drama and I didn't. | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/11/2007 9:50:26 AM |
Dude... grow some balls! I can smell your lack of confidence from here... don't ya think that women aren't aware of your confidence problem? Seriously... you seem like a nice enough guy... just be yourself, if you want something just ask, allow your humour to come through, don't be arrogant, or an ass. And maybe you aren't any good in the sack... so just ask... women love to tell what they really want and what they really like. Be aware of their needs... be sensitive to their desires. That's what communication is all about.
that's it!  | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/11/2007 11:41:35 AM |
I still am every one's best friend...But that is not what I want.
Jeez - tell me about it! They all want to' be friends', and a then date a total w***er | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/28/2007 2:30:39 PM | nobody in their right mind would turn u done my goodness arent u handome if i was younger oh my goodness ,,just keep looking u will find that specailperson good luck to u if u dont get ahold of me  maybe we can work something out  | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/28/2007 3:37:47 PM | | READ and read about sexuality and relationships. knowlage is power. Also flirt like hell everday everyway.If some chick says not find one that says yes.It takes work alot of it .You know plant the garden then weed then weed it and so on then pooffffffffff wonderful garden you will have | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/28/2007 4:59:39 PM | | DUDE!! Your a guy, stop the nice guy thing. Be nice when you talking to a woman but be a man when it comes to sex. Be honest, upfront, and man it up. We like sex, and being with the right woman she is going to want you as much as you want her. Relax thinking your different. We all think about it no matter what we so. | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/28/2007 5:05:52 PM | "God...I could never pay for sex....defeats the purpopse of intimacy I would think"
You are absoluetly right and soooooooo wrong!!!! You may want to look at in a different light. You need to step up your act and learn to do it right. This may boost yourself confidence. It does a lot for a person to know they are good in bed. Otherwise, you may be caught in a catch 22. If you find a date, then what? If I got you right you said you think you are not that good in bed. In 2008, how many ladies do you think will tolerate that? I know many people frown on paying for sex.. but think of it as education or self-betterment.
Please don't shoot me! lol | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/30/2007 2:06:35 AM |
Now all I seem to be is a nice guy who is divorced and can't get laid. congrats, you managed to sum up yourself in just one sentence. | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 12/30/2007 2:17:28 AM | | Here's what works for me. Just assume that all women want you and act accordingly. Just try not to be egotistical about it, I mean... women love that until they realize its bad like... 2 or 3 months down the line. So ya. No egotism. | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 1/29/2008 4:29:25 PM | | to the OP, if you think you need to bone up on your intimate life (pun intended) may I humbly suggest you do your homework. Bookstores have great books on erotica and maybe get some videos that will help you with technique. I'm serious. There are also tons of books out there where women talk about what they want and like. And then take it slow. If you are comfortable go out and make out. What makes a man a good lover is the attention he spends and learning to please his partner. Oh ya, and lots of foreplay. | |
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