| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/15/2005 11:15:12 PM | hey there!
okay, i thought i was doing okay, but then i read all these forums, and
realized.....WOW.......we're all having a problem, eh?
anyway, i used to work nites, so it wasn't too bad....but now that i only
have one job, it's hell.....i mean, who wants to go to bed alone? | |
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Posted: 10/15/2005 11:40:09 PM | Gosh I love sleeping in my bed, I dislike sleeping on the couch,
I have spent way to many nights sleeping on something other than a comfortable bed,
lets see, during my years in the army, slept on the ground, with the snakes, and other
creepy crawlers, anytime that I had a disagreement with the wife, it was the couch
or floor. so no thanks, I will make good use of the bed, even if I am the only one,
and blaskiss I agree with you about having some space and not having someone breath
in your face. ugg. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2005 11:46:14 PM | I don't miss the days where he would pull the covers over our heads and fart.
So myself I don't mind being alone, but I have my faithfull kitty with me.
Yes I do miss cuddling, and the morning 'how do you do' but I can go to sleep at night knowing that I will once again be in a relationship where all that happens, when I am ready. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 12:21:26 AM | Can I whine with you? Screw the smartass answers like extra pillows and batteries or the condenscending response you get sometime like " Get a dog or cat". There is nothing like a warm heart beating against your back, warm soft breathe drifting across the back of your neck, long strong arms that wrap a round you while his body spoons you in a cradle of protective bliss!. This is the time of the day I relish because all my worries and issues can be checked at the bedroom door when I make my nest and my lover snuggles in with me. I can just see myself running an ad saying, " Bed Buddy wanted: no sex, just a sleep mate". Don't know what kind of nuts would answer the ad, but it might just be a new catagory in the job market!  | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 12:36:45 AM | | The thing is you have to be sure the one sleeping next to you is true. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 5:01:15 AM | | Now why would ya have to make sure the person is true or not? A sleepover is a sleep over not a life-long commitment! Maybe the word you were looking for is dangerous? See that could be in the application for when you ran the ad....you could run a background check, take a D.N.A. sample and of course have them take a physical at your Doc's office, for safety reasons of course! Screw all that! Besides, there isn't a true person in the whole world... and if you think there is I have a bridge or two to sell ya! | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 5:06:13 AM | Oh such bitterness isn't healthy!
Maybe you are looking for quickies - but I am too old for that caca.(hint)
And sex is better when you are with someone for a while - only so much you can do in one night. When you are seeing someone - you can experiment in all sorts of good ways!
When I was younger, and not confident -one night stands were a fix.
I have too much confidence in myself to be bothered with that now. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 5:10:12 AM | It is hard...there's nothing nicer than having a man spoon you from behind or falling asleep on a mans chest....they smell so nice...
*sigh* | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 5:21:53 AM | I too was fine until I read this. Simmah...I'm gonna have to club ya later 
Bob...although a welcome distraction will never replace the "feeling" of having a man with you.
Pillows work for me. I have about 10..I cuddle with all of them. And I also dont' go to bed until I can't keep my eyes open any longer. Plus I have the 2 cats and a dog that think my queen pillowtop is their bed.
Bottom line...Simmah..you are an awesome person as witnessed by your posts..you will NOT be sleeping all lonely like for long. I'm a hopeless romantic...I think there is someone for ya just around the corner. Until then...batteries...shower massager...whatever floats your boat...and an eff load of pillows so you feel all snuggly.
On a funny note...my dad called the other day and said that he thought he had glaucoma..and the best line I could come up with was "Hey...don't you get medical grade weed for that???...Can you just go pick it up and give it to me?" Thought that might put me to sleep as well. hehe. He's fine btw..so no mgw for me :( Kidding | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 5:42:25 AM | Good morning!
I can totally relate to the sleeping alone. I was married 20 yrs. We spooned all the time. Was wonderful. But he became an abusive alcoholic. I finally threw him out so...my 3 cats, my 4 pillows, all my stuffed animals & yes, BOB I'll keep . The peace of mind I have now is worth all the spooning in the world.
Have a sunny, funny day.
Super-sized hugs,
D | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 6:10:05 AM | This is so weird... I just woke up reaching for someone, who wasen't there. Made me wish for a sleep mate too. Not that I have any trouble sleeping... a full time job and three kids take care of that. Having someone there would be nice though!
[my 3 cats, my 4 pillows, all my stuffed animals & yes, BOB]
I have to assume that BOB is an alternative to a real man? (Not sure what I am allowed to say here) I have been told I need one... any recommendations? lol | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 6:35:30 AM | bob=battery operated boyfriend.
Google The Rabbit...or go to adam and eve . com and search the word pearl...these are all awesome! Um...not that I would know or anything...uh..yeah..so um..yeah. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 6:41:59 AM | Sleeping alone can be tough. You might ask yourself, is it better to sleep alone or be in a relationship and feel alone. That is ultimately why we are sleeping alone.
Best wishes,
Puppy Love | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 7:04:06 AM | No problem finding websites... just way too many options.
Sorry if I'm off topic! | |
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Cin4U
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Joined: 9/12/2005
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:41:10 AM | | Ok my response is on topic but adds a little something new to it as well but didnt feel it warrented a new thread. I agree sleeping alone is hard for me, very very hard but then again what if you have a "part-time BF/GF?" and you only see them say every other weekend?. Or let me rephrase the BF/GF thing someone your involved with, care for and like enough to sleep with them and you only see them say twice a month for the weekends. Let me tell you my feelings they both suck. If I am alone I am lonely but whats worse is when he goes home and you had them with you for a few days and it was great because you had that warm body next to you and your loneliness is gone for the time being and comes back even harder when he leaves. You cant stand only seeing that person on a limited basis, but you look forward so much to the time you spend together that you dont want to let it go and have absolutely nothing at all. What do you do?. As for BOB, well hey if it works for you more power to you, but me personally it just reminds me even more just how lonely I am, nothing for me is better then not just the physical feeling of a man I care for not only making love to me, but me snuggeling up close to him, me with my head on his chest his arm around me holding me until I go to sleep, or playing after being goofy and crazy. Its not just the physical intimacy its the blessed feeling of being number one and not being alone even if it is only for a weekend at a time. But again when the weekend is over I sink into a depression and I avoid people all together. What do you do, I have pillows, stuffed animals, a cat that well is to involned in eating, sleepong and going outside. And now I have the loneliness to accompany me at night time. Anyone care to share? | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 8:37:31 AM | Sorry Cin, but I have to disagree. Maybe it's because I've been single for so long, but that sounds like the perfect arrangement to me! lol Great sex and snuggling on a semi-regular basis, but no hair in the sink and socks on the floor! I'm jealous, girl!
To Smile: AWWWWWW girl you just made my day! Big hug! I think you're pretty awesome too, and I will probably always think 'bewbs' every time I see your picture, but I'll try to refrain. Sorry, but that was one of the funnier moments on these forums for me. lol I think if everyone worked that word into each conversation, people would lighten up. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 8:46:28 AM | | Iwould rather sleep alone than be in bed alone not being able to sleep and wondering where is he, is he with someone else, is he drinking to much,was he in an accident? Getting a good nites sleep without worrying about someone making it home is much better for me...now the snuggling spooning factor with the right person is missed. Cant depend on a man or a woman to make you happy. :) | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 11:17:58 AM | yeah working girl!
and it works both ways....there's nothing nicer than wrapping her up in your arms
and holding on tight.....and the kissing, cuddling, and........
and women smell sooooooo nice, too!!! | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 11:33:56 AM | Thought I'd drop this idea to cutematt as an opportunity not only to keep busy with that time you find lonely but also as a way to make new , more accessible friends, and possibly, find that woman of your dreams.
Volunteering. There are so many causes out there. Find something you think is worthwhile and can get passionate about. There are likely quite a few women Matt around that have the same interests and it's a wonderful way to meet females who live in your area.
Don't rule it out. Look around. Red Cross.. lots of women there. Volunteering for adult literacy.
Find out about your town's parade days and get involved with planning committees.
Lots & lots to check into.
Give it some consideration.. you can only benefit big time.
Best of luck to you,
Ireland | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 2:36:28 PM | | yeah sleeping alone sucks but i guess we all have to be patient and sooner or later that person will come along. I would love nothing more than to have a nice woman to cuddle up 2 every night but what else can u do than be patient. But believe me i know how hard that is. | |
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Jlizzy
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Joined: 10/10/2004
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/16/2005 2:41:52 PM | Hey Coastergal -I kinda understand what cutematt meant about not wanting to wake up from dreams..I'm like that too..don't know about you cutematt but for me it's not some kind of suicidal thing or something but I enjoy my dreams so much that when I wake I want to go back to the dreams...and yet when i'm awake I'm bubbly, happy go lucky, postive etc..
Also Coastergal..i think it was you you commented on my thread regarding "Thomas" and how much I enjoyed cuddling with him a week ago,..about how I'm falling for him??
In any case either way...I guess that's the thing..spooning and stuff...I just enjoyed it so much for the cuddling ...and affection since sometimes it gets lonely sleeping on your own..:D
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Posted: 10/16/2005 2:42:39 PM | | you guys are making me want to cry. i have been alone for two months, and sleeping on the couch the intire time. it sucks and i hate it | |
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Jlizzy
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Joined: 10/10/2004
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/16/2005 2:44:22 PM | Ha Dalecam excellent response about "bed buddy wanted:no sex, just a sleep mate" can TOTALLY relate!! Excellent idea!! :D
Though sometimes there are other needs to be fulfilled too...:D
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