| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/16/2005 5:00:49 PM | | I'm against it myself....but getting used to it. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 5:08:45 PM | Hi Simmah...
When I divorced 15+ years ago...the hardest adjustment was actually...the empty bed! LOL And I don't mean the sex at all...just the BODY there in the bed every night...the security it offered!
But in time...you get used to it, actually! Buy LOTS of pillows...the big body hugger ones, and just snuggle up with a pillow with an ice cold pillowcase! ;) | |
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LisaJo
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Joined: 4/23/2005
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/16/2005 5:10:17 PM | I hate sleeping alone!!...Especially in the winter  | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 6:07:09 PM | | it"s allways nice to have somone close, | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 11:33:39 PM | | i luv having my bed to myself.....guess thats just me... | |
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Posted: 10/17/2005 12:10:31 AM | Don't know tongue-in-cheek when you read it? I'm neither bitter nor into quickies. I'm a warm blooded women who doesn't click on and off like a light bulb... but warms up slow like a old fashioned steam iron. We weren't discussing sex by the way... we were sharing the empty, cold feeling of sleeping alone! I'm emphazing the word sleep. Oh and by the way, I discovered years ago (I'm an old broad now) quickies were better served up with batteries..less mess, no hard feelings and a guaranteed orgasm! | |
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Jlizzy
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Joined: 10/10/2004
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Posted: 10/17/2005 9:34:19 AM | Dalecam -you rock! :D
Yeah I think some people somehow missed that point..it wasn't about sex..it's about an empty bed..I remember when i first left my ex that was the worst thing -the cold bed..and considering we were in a long distance relationship I found myself for 3.5 years getting used to a warm bed, cold bed, warm bed and so on | |
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Posted: 10/17/2005 10:48:32 AM | | yeah, i understand where you are coming from...there is nothing really better than falling asleep on a guys shoulder or chest. And then the only thing better than that is rolling over and seeing him there the next morning. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2005 5:01:29 PM | | Thanks Jizzy..... I appreciate the support! | |
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Posted: 10/17/2005 6:21:26 PM | | I agree with you Dalecam, I wonder if they have any cuddle parties nearby? lol I'm tellin ya, I would check one of those out just for kicks and giggles. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2005 6:31:41 PM | simmahdahnnah~ said:
I agree with you Dalecam, I wonder if they have any cuddle parties nearby? lol I'm tellin ya, I would check one of those out just for kicks and giggles.
Gee...that actually sounds pretty good on a cold night when I'm going to bed all by myself! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 10:25:47 AM | Sleeping alone can be a good thing especially if you are a restless sleeper. When you are asleep, who cares if someone is beside you.
However, it is nice to fall asleep in someone's arms and listen to their heart beating, the feeling of their warm flesh, hmmm  | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 1:08:48 PM | My dog is 17 years old, I'm never alone at night. She never wakes me up to ask me if I'm sleeping. Never wakes me up to tell me I was wrong about something that happened 4 days ago. She never askes me to get her a glass of water.
I'm happy with sharing my bed with her. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 3:03:41 PM | | I can see your point, worry, but at least with a man I wouldn't have to take him out at 2am to go poopie in the middle of a Michigan February! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 5:08:55 PM | might be off topic but, what and when do you feed a dog that would make him have to go poopies at 2am?
Well I bet some guys can do a lot worse things at 2am some nights. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 5:33:10 PM | | Honey, I know how you feel. But it isn't just the sleeping alone I hate. I hate coming home to myself, eating by myself, facing problems and good times by myself. I don't mind my "ME" time, and I don't mind having my bed to myself sometimes, but all the time it gets to be too much! I don't have someone to share my life with and after being married twice for a combined total of 20 years, being alone takes ALOT of getting used to. Extra pillows don't help, I killed BOB a long time ago and his two replacements and it just isn't the same as being held and caressed and cared for. Sex is great but it is the intimacy of being a couple that I miss. I miss walking the dogs, sitting in bed reading the Sunday paper, cooking dinner together, going camping, or on vacation, talking about our future, gardening, fixing up the house, going grocery shopping - the simple everyday things. There are some things better done alone, but life is not one of them. I feel your pain because I share it. We as humans are not meant to be alone. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 7:15:44 PM | | Ok, other people have said on here that they started feeling melancholy after reading this thread but I haven't really until I read that post, sunnshyne. :( I am so thankful I have chaos every day when coming home from work! When my kids are gone, which is not often, I mope around like I have no purpose. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 8:10:48 PM | OK I was feeling really bummed reading this whole post but Sunnshynes almost made me cry :( and... I thought I was the only one who felt like this..
Like Smile.. I stay up until I am so exhausted that I will instantly fall asleep, I never get enough sleep because I absolutely hate going to bed alone and avoid it , I have not gotten used to sleeping alone, pillows don't work, it just plain sucks...I have even on many occasions fallen asleep at this stupid computer , then wake up again and my neck hurts LOL, keyboard marks across the face etc
There is nothing like snuggling up with my face on his chest and drifting off to sleep, it is so peaceful and such a safe feeling...ahhh ...right in my own little "spot".....great, now I will be up for another hour LOL | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 8:35:03 PM | What is BOB? Or should I ask? That probably makes me sound totally naive...but what the heck, I know what it is to be alone. Altho, I was a lot MORE alone when I was married! Separated now, so I sleep 'alone' with my beeeeautiful golden retriver puppy who is ever so much more cuddly than he was! I don't miss the warm spot in the bed--I have that--I don't miss the security, seeing as before, I would lie awake nights hoping each snore would be his last. I can totally say I don't miss the sex...lol, what sex?? We were married, married ppl don't have sex... ;) I don't miss the blanket-hogging, or the kicking, or the sweating, or the accidental rolling across me (and he was nearly twice my weight)...lol! I have a huge sound issue, and it feels great to have no snoring anymore!
The only things I miss are daytime stuff, when I get a whiff of his cologne from when I first met him, or seeing a gift he gave me, or eating a food he would have liked. Then I remember how I used to love him and I feel so alone... :(
But lol sleeping alone? Absolutely! | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 3:55:21 AM | sunnshyne1 said:
But it isn't just the sleeping alone I hate. I hate coming home to myself, eating by myself, facing problems and good times by myself. I don't mind my "ME" time, and I don't mind having my bed to myself sometimes, but all the time it gets to be too much! I don't have someone to share my life with and after being married twice for a combined total of 20 years, being alone takes ALOT of getting used to. Extra pillows don't help, I killed BOB a long time ago and his two replacements and it just isn't the same as being held and caressed and cared for. Sex is great but it is the intimacy of being a couple that I miss. I miss walking the dogs, sitting in bed reading the Sunday paper, cooking dinner together, going camping, or on vacation, talking about our future, gardening, fixing up the house, going grocery shopping - the simple everyday things. There are some things better done alone, but life is not one of them.
You said it all for me (except I don't have a BOB.) | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 8:51:39 AM |
What is BOB? Or should I ask?
BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend :) | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 8:53:52 AM | I was a restless sleeper untill I had someone to sleep with at night. I couldn't wait untill I could go to sleep with her and wake up next to her. Every morning I would wake up and kiss her on her forehead and she would give me this smile even though she was still asleep. I miss that smile so much. Now I have trouble sleeping again. Nothing works. I cry every time I lay down in bed. (I am such a girl I know) I hate sleeping alone but I don't know if I want to get that close to anyone ever again. I moved 200 miles away, to my brothers apartment ( which she and I have spent many nights in) same bed, room filled with memories of her, sheets and pillows we bought together, and so many memories of nights in my head. I need to find a chick like me who wants to just fall asleep wit me....I'm not that lucky though....
Sleeping alone sucks..... | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 9:24:52 AM | | been enjoying the whole bed at this time. The darn cat purrs so loudly Than the cat licks my hand and bites my nose. When my hand is exposed he nuzzles it while im asleap so I would pet him. I woke up one morning the cat knocked a heavy object off my head board it came real close to my head. Couldn't sleap to well with the cat. so I tried the dog, The poor dog had this concerned look on his face when I coxed him up to the bed. He is a large dog. he enjoyed the comfort for a while but couldn't take it so the dog did'nt work. So I grab a kid everyonce in a while and cuddle with one of the kids . Really miss the snuggle time however yet enjoy the whole bed. haha | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 10:57:40 AM | I've never had a bed-buddy and this thread is making me all sad-like. :(
I haven't had a good nights sleep in sooo soo soo long because no matter how many blankets I have piled up on me and how many pillows I'm snuggled with I'm always cold.
Waah. *sniff* | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 2:47:13 PM | Funny how you don't realize how common something is until it is posted in a forum and you find out that there are so many of us feeling the exact same way....
It is usually the more talked about things like sex etc that people say they miss, but the things like having someone around, snuggling, making dinner together, hanging out, and falling asleep next to someone are often not as common in conversations....
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