| Sleeping alone
Posted: 8/30/2007 7:52:54 AM | | Funny, as I was married for a long time, and been alone a few years now. I StILL only take up my own space and do not sprawl over the whole bed. I make myself do it sometimes, throw out the excess pillows, sprawl out and crash. I wake up on my side, in a neat little ball. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 8/30/2007 11:35:23 AM | | You should get a big dog. In the winter they can get on the bed and make a big warm spot . In the summer you can listen to them snore and its like having somebody there. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 8/30/2007 11:42:48 AM | | dogs will scratch and grunt too but the down side is ... ya have to put them out to pee.. they can't do it themselves.. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2007 11:47:43 AM | I don't remember the name of the movie but the woman could tell the man was still in a relationship (mentally) because he slept on one side of the bed. She said he would be ready to move on when he could sleep in the middle.
I have a king bed and I love it and I sleep in the middle and the only snoring I hear is mine! lol | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 8/30/2007 12:18:10 PM | a BIG dog, that is it..................................
I had one, lost him in the divorce and he was NEVER allowed in the bed (he did shed horrifically though) A non-shedding BIG dog that does not fart or snore..............and can go all night without peeing.
Man, sounds like a man..............so many SIMPLE requirements.........  | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 8/30/2007 12:27:40 PM | | i sleep alone have done for nearly eight years since my wife died not much fun it`s hard to bare at times | |
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Posted: 8/30/2007 12:28:09 PM |
I actually prefer sleeping alone. I don't like being smothered while I try to sleep and I hate it when someone breathes in my face. I have a big "personal space" thing...and I don't want anyone there unless I invite them in. Once in a while, ok, but all the time...no.
Same here...love having the bed to myself; and I am asleep most of the time I am in bed anyway, so I really don't know if I am alone or not because I am pretty much unconscious. | |
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Renda
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 8/30/2007 8:01:56 PM | | been alone completely for four years now. Even when my last husband was alive, I was alone because he was very ill. I expect to be alone for the rest of my life. It does suck but we sometimes do not have a choice. Life is hard at best. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2007 2:48:12 AM | | A single bed reduces the sense of loneliness in bed. And a laptop PC for posting in the forums when in bed can do wonders!!! lol lol | |
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Posted: 8/31/2007 8:17:29 AM | | Been divorced only a short time but separated and celibate much longer. I have a small single bed..no worries about thinking "she is there". But yes it gets lonely. I have no problem admitting that. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 8/31/2007 9:20:29 AM | | Hell I have slept on the couch for a looooooooong time! I actually prefer sleeping there than a big, empty bed. I want to be able to stretch out and feel someone there with my fingertips or tips of my toes...On the couch, the worst that can happen is I roll over and fall in the floor,lol! | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 8/31/2007 9:51:03 AM | "I do not need him sleeping in my bed, crowding me, taking my covers, moving around, laying any heavy limbs on me, etc when I want to SLEEP. SLEEP is waaaaaaay better alone"
Yep! After my divorce I got to sleep with all my favorite things.... books, novel manuscript, guitar. Things that didn't snore, hog the covers, turn the fan on when it was 60 degrees, etc.
Also, if you want to cuddle, get a nice kitty cat!! | |
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Posted: 8/31/2007 9:58:47 AM | "I miss walking the dogs, sitting in bed reading the Sunday paper, cooking dinner together, going camping, or on vacation, talking about our future, gardening, fixing up the house, going grocery shopping - the simple everyday things."
Me too... but we gotta remind ourselves, there were lots of things about being married we don't miss... like the cold icy stares, the angst-filled nights & weekends (when you are glad to go to work on Monday, you know you had a bad weekend and a bad marriage) , the jealousy, the headgames, things that ruined those vacations and chores etc.
If our marriages were so great, we wouldn't be on this forum. At least going to bed is always peaceful when you're alone and you only have your own troubles to deal with! | |
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Posted: 8/31/2007 10:09:54 AM | | I'm with the staying up all night since that's pretty much what I do anyway! I've decided I've become an insomniac since my brain doesn't want to shut down when I lay down. What's the cure for that?! I have cuddled once or twice in the past ... month... and it was wonderful. I think I got the most sleep (3 -4 hours) than I've had in quite a while. Except drinking a few beers before I go to bed... that does it! | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/5/2007 9:48:52 PM | ^^^ hire a snuggle buddy? I'm still trying hahaha
there are some good points being alone..lol...like i can leave the fan on all night(hot flashes) wooohooo) without someone saying turn the fan off i am cold hahaha then snuggle up or get some clothes on cause I aint turning this fan off. use to get elbows in the face when they rolled over or a knee in the stomache..owie..  when i get into a comfortable position, i usually stay like that all night...so someone who tosses and turns, I loose my sleep. so all is said and done, my big comfy bed is all mine hehehe...for now.
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/5/2007 10:44:39 PM | When I was married, my ex worked nights for 11 yrs, so sleeping alone was no problem for me. So when I am in a relationship, having someone in my bed makes it harder for me to sleep until I get use to it.
You can buy a big body pillow, spray some nice men's cologne on it and have sweet dreams............. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/6/2007 5:22:19 PM | I have been sleeping alone for a few years now. I love rolling all over the bed etc. WhenI am awake but I often wake up on my side of the bed. I have tried the pillows everything,
I guess I need to advertise Have 1/2 of Bed open Only Good looking Men apply.
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/6/2007 5:33:21 PM | I have been sleeping alone for a few years now. I love rolling all over the bed etc. WhenI am awake but I often wake up on my side of the bed. I have tried the pillows everything,
I can relate to this...I got myself a real feather body pillow...it dont fart...is always quiet...no snoaring...kind of a silent partner!!!but none the less...its no good for spooning  scuz me while I go fill out application!!! | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/7/2007 5:35:21 PM | | I been on my sofa since March. My poor bed misses me but I don't miss it. When I am single I do not sleep in bed. My sofa is comfy, yes I miss the companionship and snuggling that comes with a relationship. I don't miss the Drama, Heart ach and break ups.. so it looks like my bed's going to be unused for quite some time | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/7/2007 6:02:35 PM | | now this I can relate to...we have a queen size bed and the distance between us, well you could fit another person there. Sometimes I think being alone would be better. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 6:19:00 PM | | I have slept alone pretty much 99 percent of my life and I will be turning 35 in a few months. The few times I did have someone sleep in the same bed, I couldn't handle the snoring or I felt uncomfortable. My father actually sleeps on the couch regularly. He likes it. I actually like sleeping on a couch too. I just bought a queen size bed a few months ago after sleeping on a twin for all those years. I decided to buy the bed after hearing several women say I should get an upgrade. But I doubt I will have any females join me, so it was probably just a waste. I will probably get a twin when this one wears out. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 6:59:52 PM | sleeping alone for the last three years, yes it does get really lonely at times
part of the reason is that i am alone so much of the day also but I do not intend to relax
my standards just to have a body in bed to cuddle or spoon with
Chris | |
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| Sleeping alone - no problema!
Posted: 9/7/2007 7:25:49 PM | I am celebrating the "Over 1 year since she moved out" mark ( LAST WEEKEND!   ) and sleeping alone does not come CLOSE to the newly rediscovered happiness in my life. I'll GLADLY sleep alone FOREVER rather than have someone like my ex in my life EVER again! 
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| Sleeping alone - no problema!
Posted: 9/7/2007 7:37:14 PM | | I feel that when one goes to sleep at the point they are rather tired after a long or draining day then sleeping alone is welcome. It can be relaxing to stretch out in bed and not have to have someone decide to do a "dutch oven" suddenly..lol. Seriously, I don't even want my dog to sleep on my bed as he lays on or near my legs and it's not comfortable. To deal with the issue of sleeping alone I guess I look forward to resting and can stretch out all I want without someone else complaining of their side of the bed being hogged or crossed over onto. But then again I don't need to "spoon" either . Getting older has it's perks, it makes you appreciate things you didn't before.Like a bed to yourself. ahhh. zzzzzzz Make your bed really comfortable to sleep on for starters. I have a mattress topper and an all season use comforter that is so "inviting" it can be harder to get out of the bed in the a.m. Try having a tv in your room if needed. | |
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