| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/7/2007 7:37:50 PM | | Hey I am 29 and haven't had anyone special in 4 years. The most sleep I get is approximately 2 to 3 hours if I am lucky a night, not for the fact that I don't have anyone but, for the fact that sleep is a luxury that I can't afford. I work all the time to make up for the fact that I don't have anyone and just forget about it. But, I do wish you the best of luck in your ventures and am sure that you will find a solution to your problem. Have faith. | |
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clay71
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Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 202 | |
| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/7/2007 8:03:46 PM | It's starting to get cold at 3:00 A.M. And the couch does'nt retain that much heat. Even with my cats sleeping on my feet. I can't even remember what a comfortable bed feels like, I've been on the couch so long. It was a bad futon before that, so I won't complain.
At least I'm not sleeping in a reheasal studio,with my head on the pillow in my bass drum anymore.  | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/20/2007 8:23:19 AM | One pillow under your head, one pillow next to you to wrap your arms around, and one pillow between your legs...it almost feels like your sleeping next to someone.
Best of all, they don't snore, they don't make weird sounds, and they don't interrupt my sleep with silly things like wanting sex. Yeaaaa! | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/20/2007 9:13:13 AM | | I looked at your profile and you said you werent looking for anybody! Start looking you are a pretty lady and should have no trouble finding someone! In the mean time get a cat! At least you will have someone or something LOL loving you then! Good luck! | |
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Posted: 9/20/2007 1:29:03 PM | grrrr .. Id rather shove bamboo shutes under my fingernails than to sleep alone .. I HATE IT! .. YIKES .. I HATE BEING ALONE IN GENERAL .. nobody to talk to but me ... and even tho Im very interesting there is only so much of myself I can stand ... geeesh ..
I sleep in 3 -4 hour shifts if that some nights .. I wake up missing the hell out of being in a loving relationship then spend the rest of the night re-examining myself and wondering if its all my fault that Im alone and why there isnt anyone for me now .. then I go thru the geee am I that hideous and cold of a person ...  .. Im a lover .. honestly I am .. I hate to fight n argue ... all I want is for someone to hold me ... guess thats askin way too much.
best wishes to all of you who are sleepin alone .. I know someday it will change and I will be forever grateful when it does. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/20/2007 9:09:09 PM | | I love the movie "Groundhog Day", where every day Bill Murray wakes up alone, and every day he tries to get the Andie MacDowel to sleep with him. Yes, this is my story, I love the tragic humor of it all! | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/21/2007 10:06:54 AM | I leave the radio on in the other room because sometimes I wake at 2 in the morning and wish I could hear someone else's breath beside me, making the darkness seem less overwhelming.
On cold winter nights when I turn up the electric blanket instead of having arms wrap around me.
My bed is overloaded with pillows so it feels like my bed isn't massive.
The ways we try to trick ourselves.... | |
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vosche
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Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 208 | |
| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/22/2007 3:25:11 PM | | i was in a 12 year relationship and had gotten used to just having a man sleep next to me. there was something comforting in that by itself. plus, i could use him as a body shield if needed(unspoken protection that goes with a long term relationship). i do miss that feeling of comfort when i go to bed at night. who would have thought the full size bed i have now could seem so big and empty with me in it to boot. i do love it when a man sleeps over at my place, regardless of he's "flooring/couching it" or in the bed beside me. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/23/2007 12:34:46 AM | | Know how that is young lady, i dread it so much lately does not seem to be an easy answer, some light exercise before bed may be (yoga ) or some light stretching can some times help to relax ,or some fine mellow music, (nothing to remind you of the partner thats not there) I know in time it wiil ease but i think there will always be a bit of a void, cause there aint nothing better than to have some one beside you even if you cant cuddle to long before you both get to hot so you have to move. just having that some there, like rest advice, pillows,pillows, pillows. take care and good luck to us all. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/23/2007 4:24:16 AM | | Yes it stinks to high heaven but alot of you are young and still have a great chane to find another true love but think of the people that have lost thier mate they were with for 30 35 40 years and more how they have to deal with it. Thier is not a day that dont go by that i dont wish i was with her. we all take realtionships for granted to some extent and we need to work at them to make them last its not just one workign both have to and talking is the way that is done. | |
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epode
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Joined: 8/16/2007
Msg: 211 | |
| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/23/2007 10:19:01 AM |
plus, i could use him as a body shield if needed
Christ, lady, how many enemies have you made? Have you angered the Korean mafia, or something?
Dammit, next time I sleep over with someone, that quote's going to be running through my head, and I'm gonna wonder if the girl's just sticking around because I make a good human shield...
Either way, seems like a lot of people are genuinely afraid of sleeping alone... that must be a terrible way to go through life, being entirely dependent on having another human near to fulfill such a basic need as rest. Of course, I think society in general has issues with isolation. I think we should all learn how to properly be alone when we feel like we're getting too attached to others. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/23/2007 10:49:11 AM |
Either way, seems like a lot of people are genuinely afraid of sleeping alone... that must be a terrible way to go through life, being entirely dependent on having another human near to fulfill such a basic need as rest. Of course, I think society in general has issues with isolation. I think we should all learn how to properly be alone when we feel like we're getting too attached to others.
Exactly. Sleeping alone is something you get used to by doing a lot - all humans are capable of adapting, and sleeping alone is something you do for the first 18 + years of your life, so you already have default experience.
It's not so much that some can't sleep alone, as they just don't want to. It's a mental thing...you can if you realize that sleep is sleep, no matter what. When you live alone, you get better sleep...take advantage of it. | |
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GEOSC
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Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 213 | |
| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/23/2007 3:18:17 PM | Msg 203 like women dont do that  | |
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Posted: 9/23/2007 3:24:23 PM | sleeping alone isn't bad.
you are sleeping. you aren't concious or aware that someone is beside you until you wake up. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/23/2007 3:26:16 PM | I have been divorced for more than 10 years. I do get lonely but would rather wait for the right one than get something from the wrong one. | |
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GEOSC
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Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 216 | |
| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/23/2007 3:26:38 PM | I have read some of the comments and would like to vounteer to help you ladies out. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/23/2007 4:07:37 PM | | If life hands you a lemon, make adrink with it....if you are single at the moment enjoy being single at the moment...you probably won't be forever..and someday you may be complaining about having someone next to you all the time.. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 9/23/2007 10:08:00 PM | I still haven't gotten used to sleeping alone. During my first marriage, we used a regular sized bed, but you'd think we were in two seperate rooms with the space there was between us. It killed me when he left...being pregnant and wanting someone there, and nights alone were awful. Then I remarried eventually...things were fine for a couple of years, then the distance started there too and I ended up, once again pregnant, sleeping on the couch this time, with him still in the house (long story). I've been on the couch ever since. That was 10 yrs ago. He left 2 1/2 yrs ago, and I could deal with that, because he worked nights and was never here anyway much except to sleep. Still, in all that time, even with him gone now, I've never gotten used to sleeping alone. Like most of you that feel this way, I want the warmth of another body, and God only knows there are nights I would kill to feel a man's arms around me while I snuggle in to sleep, but that doesn't look like it's gonna be in the cards for me . At least no time soon, since I don't do one nighters, and I don't date, and even if I found someone...I'm not comfortable living with someone I'm not married to (yeah, I'm old fashioned, so sue me). It isn't just wanting a warm body though, I only want to feel that warmth from someone I know truly loves ME this time...not just someone to fill a space. Some have said it gets easier with time, well, it hasn't for me...I still cry myself to sleep more nights than not. I can sooooo identify with this....
and even tho Im very interesting there is only so much of myself I can stand ... geeesh ..
I sleep in 3 -4 hour shifts if that some nights .. I wake up missing the hell out of being in a loving relationship then spend the rest of the night re-examining myself and wondering if its all my fault that Im alone and why there isnt anyone for me now .. then I go thru the geee am I that hideous and cold of a person ... .. Im a lover .. honestly I am .. I hate to fight n argue ... all I want is for someone to hold me ... guess thats askin way too much. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/22/2008 10:01:29 PM | Thank God for the search function as I really needed this post tonight.
Its 12:52 a.m. and sleep eludes me for the first time in many, many months. For the second time this year, I’ve learned one of my ex-BFs - an ex-fiancé actually – remarried this summer. This was a bit of a shock as we’ve kept in sporadic touch but he never mentioned he was engaged. So tonight when I tried to focus on the insides of my eyelids, all I could think about was that another ex- is fortunate enough to have a lover right next to him every night, to turn to when he can’t sleep and whisper “Honey… you awake?”
I want to whisper that now when I can’t sleep or in the middle of the night, when thoughts are racing chaotically in my head, trying to figure out the stock market or where my next client is coming from or how my cancer treatment will go next month. I want to feel warm arms around me and the man I love tell me that everything’s gonna be alright because right now, my four cats aren’t cutting it.
There have been several relationships in the 8 years since my husband died and I never sleep better than I do when I am curled up next to my lover.
These lonely, quiet nights remind me why people persevere in their relationships. Many people, myself included, are comfortable being alone during the day. Its another thing completely when you turn off the lights and the only breathing you hear is your own. Your hand reaches across to the other side of the bed only to find a cool emptiness rather than the reassuring warmth of your lover’s hand. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/22/2008 10:25:59 PM | 
I have slept alone for the last 6 years or so mostly in my sons bunk bed he on one me on another or on the couch!I just found a profile in the middle of the night last night and heard a tried and true love song by AL GREEN that suits each and everyone of us TIRED OF BEING ALONE, I clicked on it and then I cried it's weird I have people around me most of the time and yet I am so alone. Anyway it's weird that we cry just water coming down from my eyes no weeping but alone is alone and most people would never think to say they were lonely like it is a disease or some moral sin? So to all who have only gone a year it does not feel anybetter at 6 years and I hope for all that you find your companion, your confidant your lust your forever! | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/23/2008 12:15:06 AM | wcms1963 I can totally relate. It's not that there is not family and friends around during the day, it's that emptiness at night. Just wishing you had someone you could just bury your face in their chest with their arms wrapped around you; to just hold, tell you about their day, talk about your thoughts and fears that will understand, make you feel like it's all going to be ok and just melt the troubles away. That safe feeling that no matter what you can conquer anything. What I think is weird, though, I still have those feelings, but I don't think I would ever want to get remarried.
Damn, what a depressing thread. No wonder I'm still not in bed at 2am. But at least I have my cat to keep my feel warm | |
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Posted: 10/23/2008 2:37:24 AM | | ^^^^^ I'm not even saying I want to get remarried but just knowing there were X-amount of nights each week that my (future) lover would be here is comforting. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/23/2008 4:33:12 AM | | I prefer sleeping alone even if I'm in a relationship most of the time because the girl always falls asleep before I do and if she does for whatever reason I can't fall asleep. And then if they cuddle (And I 99% don't mind cuddling) then I can't sleep. I know it's selfish and most of the time I just put up w/ it but you asked what I prefer. | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/23/2008 7:23:03 AM | RE: 222
Sorry, guess that was misunderstood, I wasn't referring you were. Kind of put it down as a disclaimer cause it seems that just because a woman wants a man my her side, some men automatically think it's to take care of her or be her babies daddy, not just for the companionship :) | |
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| Sleeping alone
Posted: 10/23/2008 7:57:37 PM | | I absolutely hate sleeping alone. I sleep on the couch most of the time just so I don't have to go to bed by myself. | |
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