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 j-man1234
Joined: 4/29/2009
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hey with there is any single women out there
 TAKEN fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
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Posted: 5/8/2009 8:12:30 AM
I started school back when I found out I was pregnant in 2006. I had my associates degree already. I am right now registered for my LAST 2 classes and will graduate in August with my BS in Accounting and will register for Master's classes after that. It is totally do able and worth it!
 innerbeauty58
Joined: 5/3/2009
Msg: 28
Single moms in college
Posted: 5/8/2009 9:48:17 AM
I think you are setting a good example to your children by going back to college it will encourage your children in the long run. I went back to college when I split up with my husband and I enjoyed it and did psychology at uni. My daughter has a degree in science and is going on to do a phd. My son has eight O levels and he is going to college. It sets a good example.
 Xeronna
Joined: 6/22/2008
Msg: 29
Single moms in college
Posted: 5/8/2009 11:06:35 AM
hi, im a single mother of a 5 year old, i have been in college for my RNA class and working at the same time, im gonna be done june 23rd and i am excited about it.

it was pretty tough on me and my son to go through but the satisfaction i have now of finally making it to have a better life for him is great. Congratulations for u hope everything goes well

good luck
 jennyGenie
Joined: 3/9/2009
Msg: 30
Single moms in college
Posted: 5/11/2009 8:51:08 PM
I am a single mom in college and ts very hard. I dont feel like studying when I come home. I have no one to help me out in the evenings. Its tough but its worth it. Its so worth it, thats the only thing that keeps me going.
 simplyme_niki
Joined: 9/23/2008
Msg: 31
Single moms in college
Posted: 5/12/2009 5:41:24 AM
Glad to see I'm not the only one!
I started university in 2005, but stopped because I moved to Calgary and just wan't sure if school was for me
I found out I was pregnant in 2007, moved back to Pickering, and resumed my studies in psychology at the university of Waterloo
Its hard juggling being a full-time student and a full-time mom, and have to worry about money issues, but I know that it will all be worth it in the end !
 brokovich
Joined: 5/9/2009
Msg: 32
Single moms in college
Posted: 5/13/2009 10:54:13 AM
I am a single mom with 3 kids, I was laid off at the beginning of this year so I'm to college in sept. I'm really nervous and a little scared wondering if I can do it. But its nice to hear of other moms doing it and its encouraging.
 kmarie1985
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 33
Single moms in college
Posted: 7/13/2009 6:31:26 PM
I have a 4 1/2 month old and he has had a rough go of it as far as health, and is still having issues, I am desperate to go back to school, unfortunately I am on Ontario Works right now (basically another name for welfar for those not from Canada) and I hate it so much, I want to be back to being financially independent. Unfortunately, my sons father took a lot of money from me and kicked me out of our home and basically made me homeless, so I had to move 2 hours away to be with family. So i suckd it up and filed for bankruptcy because of all the debt my ex accrued that I found out there was no way of salvaging or getting back from him through court, I got myself situated in a place for me and my son, carried through with the pregnancy by myself, had him, and am now raising him 100% alone. I have him 24/7/365 and with health issues it can be draining. But I have decided I am going to now apply for financial aid and scholarships, grants and bursaries to help pay for school and living expenses, do distance education to acquire my bachelor of arts with a double major in history and psychology (to build on my Advanced Honours Child and Youth Worker Diploma I already have) this way I can be at home with my son and deal with the doctors and hospital visits and do school at the same time. Then when I am done that I will apply for family housing at the local university get a space for my son at the university daycare and begin my Masters of Education with my teachables in history and english as well as giving myself the opportunity for doing clinical counseling if I so choose. I have the plan, and as much as I am sick of Ontario Works I am so scared to take that step and get off it for this plan, because it is guarenteed right now that my rent gets paid and my sons medicines etc are covered, the unknown is what scares me. But I will suck it up and do it cuz i know its best for my sons and mines future. Wish me luck :)
 futureshock
Joined: 5/8/2009
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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:55:24 PM

But I will suck it up and do it cuz i know its best for my sons and mines future. Wish me luck :)

GOOD LUCK!!!!!

What kind of health problems does your son have?
 kmarie1985
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/14/2009 8:19:25 PM
when he was initially born he was fine i took him home the next day (thursday) then by sunday i found blood in his diaper, he was screaming and crying non stop from 9pm saturday night till 9am sunday morning then in a matter of 5 minutes he turned bright yellow so Im thinking okay jaundice, so we took him to the family doctor right near by and he checked him out and said he was dehydrated and to take him to the er just for precautionary reasons (he was being breastfed and he was doing it right and no one realized I wasnt producing enough milk), got him there they rushed him in did a catheter, blood work and put an iv in, they found unusual sugar levels in his urine and possible sepsis caused by blood infection. So they said they wanted to test for meningitis too so they did 3 spinal taps on him, none of which worked because he was so dehydrated no fluid would come out, so they decided they would treat him for meningitis on top of everything else, while in the er none of the nurses watched his iv and all of a sudden his arm was turning black and about three times the size it should be so they had to take it out and move it, they took him out of the room for like 45 minutes and came back and to my horror the iv was stuck in the top side of his head...apparently because he was so dehydrated all of his veins were blowing out when they put in the iv, finally they found one in his head that was expressing itself from him screaming so bad, so they stabilized it, put him under the billi lights for the jaundice and put him in a quarentined seperate room in an incubator and I couldn't take him out or anything and everyone coming in had to wear gloves and a gown and mask..i didnt sleep for 3 days, finally after 3 days he was cleared of all the infection the treatments had worked and i was able to take him home. Then it became apparent quickly he had colic, and was having horrible digestive problems, he couldnt digest his food properly and when he did he became horribly constipated and screamed constantly as if he was breaking in half everytime he went to the bathroom, found out he had a lactose allergy and was put on soy formula, and now finally after 3 months I got them to finally admit he has reflux (he can vomit clear like 3 or 4 feet in front of him easy) but they just kept telling me "no babies vomit" and I kept telling them "no not this much!!" so finally they diagnosed him with reflux and we have been waiting for over a month for a specialist appointment at the hospital to get him all tested and checked out and hopefully put on meds...it has been one thing after another and I can't wait till everything is normal and he can be a happy little boy who feels comfortable all the time.
 futureshock
Joined: 5/8/2009
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Posted: 7/14/2009 9:24:39 PM
That is unbelievably horrible. I am so sorry your child has suffered so much and been in such agony. I don't think I could have handled seeing my infant in that much pain.

So was it meningitis in the beginning? How did a newborn catch that? Was it from the hospital?
 kmarie1985
Joined: 4/8/2009
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Posted: 7/15/2009 8:00:44 AM
they never really told me it was meningitis, they said they had to test for it because of the fact he kept coming back with elevated levels or something in his tests, you know how doctors are with no bedside manner they never explain things simply all in weird doctor talk, so they did the spinal taps and when none of them worked they treated him for meningitis but never actually confirmed he had it, more precautionary i think? but thats just my guess...i was too much in shock and scared out of my mind to think straight and ask a lot of questions, my main mentality was just get my son better i want to take him home and live our lives sort of thing. But no one ever told me how he could have gotten an infection in his blood, because obviously they tested his blood before we left the hospital the first time and he was perfectly fine, nothing out of the ordinary happened at home, just him sleeping and eating. No cuts or anything to get infection in so its like all a big puzzle to me. But I was never so happy then when they said on the night of the third day okay you can take him home now. Its a horrible experience, especially if your doing it alone without the other parent (not to say its not as drastically frightening in that case too, just mean its so hard when you dont have that other person there to sort of lean on each other) and especially if you are a first time parent..I have never been more scared about anything in my life.
 futureshock
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Posted: 7/15/2009 8:59:11 AM

especially if your doing it alone without the other parent (not to say its not as drastically frightening in that case too, just mean its so hard when you dont have that other person there to sort of lean on each other) and especially if you are a first time parent..I have never been more scared about anything in my life.


You are absolutely right that it's frightening, but having someone else makes it a lot easier. My daughter, as a newborn, tested positive for strep but it was a false positive. The time in between the first test and when they found it was a false positive was terrifying, so I can only try to imagine what you were going through.

I wish more doctors would take the time to translate what they are saying to us, too.
 kmarie1985
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/15/2009 9:09:39 AM
i know like its hard enough for us to think straight in those situations the last thing needed is the person who can make some sense of it all for us speaking in like pig latin lol our family doctor is awesome though we are so lucky to have him he puts my mind at ease about all the things going on with him :)
 Sacharissa
Joined: 5/7/2009
Msg: 40
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Posted: 7/15/2009 9:38:11 AM
You’re right; it really is worth it! I finished my degree only last year, the final 2 years as a single parent. It was tough at times, but the social aspect of it was amazing! Having other grown up’s to talk to, and achieving my degree made all the hard work worthwhile. After being ‘just a Mum’ for around 10 years, I now have a permanent job and couldn’t be happier. Best of luck with it!
 click this chick
Joined: 8/9/2008
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Posted: 7/15/2009 12:06:17 PM
I decided to go back to school when my son was 7, and it was the best decision I ever made!! Being a single mom was so tough, and I ended up getting into a bad relationship, so when that ended up down the tubes, I had to start from scratch. Before I had my son I worked in a frigging tanning salon, had graduated high school yes, but couldn't decide what I wanted to do with my life.

Then when I had to start again with nothing but the clothes on our backs & a few knick knacks, I knew I had to do something with my life so that I could provide a better life for my son. I decided on a career that would keep my interest, something where I'd enjoy my job every day, and went for it.

It was tough going to school in the morning & then heading straight to work, not getting home until it was almost my boy's bedtime...it was hard, but so worth it. Now I have a career that I love, that also comes with travel perks, so that I've not only been able to give my son a better life, but I've also been able to take him on trips to experience the world.

Unless you've got some serious hook-ups, you do need to have some form of formal education to get a good paying job these days. Think of something you could see yourself being happy doing for the rest of your life, and find a career that's as close to it as possible!
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