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Posted: 10/17/2005 8:43:29 PM | I not only do not see a picture, but I see no PROFILE either!!!
Don't give up!!!! We are all on here to meet and talk. Upload a photo so we will know "who" we are corresponding with and tell us about yourself. Be Positive!! Keep your chin up!! You are NOT alone my friend! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 8:11:54 PM | I totally understand guy ,
i have the same effect , i have profiles on a couple dating sites , with pics, but i have a few frmale friends , but nothing that i can write home about , i am a desent guy , with a great job , have not been in any legal trouble , but i can not get a girl to chat with go out with ,
or anything with ,
im a very nice person , but one i am a little shy, and some girls do not go for shy guys | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 10:40:58 PM | | Just a suggestion, maybe you should check who can send you a message. Maybe you were too strict on it and even if they want to send you a message they can't. I found that a couple of guys had me on their favorites list, but never sent me a message. It was because they were too young! So I changed it, even though they are too young too date I wouldn't mind talking to them. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 10:48:05 PM | | I feel sorry for the guy but by the same token some people take this online nonsense a little too seriously. I've had plenty of unread/deleted but I've also had plenty of people message me. "If you stop looking, they will come"....that's my second quasi-Kevin Costner moment of the day. Shoot me. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 11:24:03 PM |
I feel sorry for the guy but by the same token some people take this online nonsense a little too seriously. I've had plenty of unread/deleted but I've also had plenty of people message me. "If you stop looking, they will come"....that's my second quasi-Kevin Costner moment of the day. Shoot me. father toast
i totaally dissagrree. you gotta act desperate. women love that. post on the forms about how youg et noo responses and then dont put a pic you. they will flock to you.
jaykay (jk)
i didn't read all the posts so i dont really know what is up. i did read the op and i think that my best advice would be to get a little false confidence and try to get a good convo going with an eligible lady. dont be wasting your time on the hottest girls. go for one that isn't super hott but not super ugly either. just cute enough so that she is attractive but won't leave you if you dont satisfy her every need. charm her and tell her she is good looking and that you are interested. but dont belabor that. once you get her hooked a lil then back off and let her think about you and how mysterious you are. then there u go.
if you cant get a single response, then email me. i'll have my of my lady friends email you. best i can do.
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Posted: 10/21/2005 8:58:34 AM | | Honey, I think you need to not base what happens in here on your self worth. This is a way to meet people but not for everyone. We all know there has been tons of online dating nightmares. Although dating services are one method there are many others. I think you are looking too hard. Let's face it. There is nothing better than meeting the love of your life face to face. I would rather be single than have my heart ripped out repeatedly by love lost. Hang in there and don't blame yourself. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2005 6:51:26 AM | I think there are some good points but some seriously flawed ones. Let me tell you, I have been on this site for 4 months, not really looking for someone, trying to honestly find FRIENDS. Here are my little observations, with some musing comments, and just my take on things, not that it is the law but whatever read it and stfu.
1) people expect too much.
Yes you heard it here first, people expect too much out of this site, I am as much an optimist as the next guy, however I am not expecting to find my soul-mate (if there even are those) or a princess, or a millionaire lady who has some terminal illness.
2) 75% of people are hypocrites.
This comes from meeting people, chatting, and "talking" through email. I have gathered this much, because when I become bored at work, I read male and female profiles, just for kicks. Some say "looking for educated, grounded, responsible as myself", then upon further perusing of their profile you find words like "yo, and kick it, and down wit dat" mixed with a thorough butchering of the English Language, and the spelling capabilities of a 4 year old with ADD.
The best example was a "girl" who said under DRUGS PREFER NOT TO SAY..then in the body of her profile proceeded to tell everyone how she loves to "get high"..obviously not in the right state of mind when she wrote that..pathetic.
3) People are masters of the visual lie.
one of my friends on here (a girl) said she talked and met up with this guy who had posted a pic she had really liked.. (pics..plural) she met him..he looked nothing like the pic..i realize people change BUT he had gained 75 pounds and well, dont post pics of your teenage years..if you are 40....have some kind of honesty at least..or tell people..or try to use photoshop to reduce your girth.
4) Say one thing, do another, worse..looking for something, but come across as something totally different.
I absolutely laugh for hours at these profiles.."22 female, i am looking for someone who respects me and will be able to share candlelight dinners, long walks on the beach, values family, is honest (honest outgoing funny...EVERYONE wants that...nobody is going to say..yeah i want a PSYCHO, hmm a little bit STALKER and throw in some BIPOLAR into the mix.)..so then she proceeds to post a picture of her in her underwear, or better yet a picture of her in some suggestive pose...but hey SHE REALLY WANTS TO BE RESPECTED AND VALUED AS A PERSON!......ohhhh boy.
5) Spell check people.
At the very least, know that the first impression you are making is by people reading your personality in a sense, the very least you can do is be comprehensible, i am not asking for a Ernest Hemingway novel, BUT please at least know the difference between here and HEAR or THEIR AND THERE, and refrain from utilizing words you say on BET last night.
i am done for now..
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Posted: 10/26/2005 7:11:57 AM | | Yep, they say they want this or that, and you know you can provide honesty, kindness, etc. but it APPEARS meaningless to them. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2005 7:48:35 AM | | Sometimes it is very hard to give yourself to people. When the most that you can do is to wait for their "proper" reaction. When life has provided you if the care, honesty and kidness. The clues are there but blindly we tried to stop or prospone either because we want to lie to ourselves or to continue to live in a vicious game of games. What is meaningless at this moment is to know what is rathre than what would have become. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2005 4:15:36 AM | | HI Sir, I just wanted to tell you that I have not seen or heard of you before today.I want to give you my sincere respects. I have been single for awhile now.I have been dating men of all ages, sizes, well you name it.When I first started on this site I was very nieve.I will tell you one thing about me I am a very open and honest person .I wish that there were more men like you.It is difficult to find any human being these days that will open up there heart and soul.I feel you have just done that.My Sincere Regards, and please don't give up and is refreshing to know that there are real people with real emotions left in the world..Have a great and wonderful day... | |
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Posted: 10/28/2005 6:24:34 AM | I really feel for you man ... i've been on here for about 7 mounth's and i get one e-mail in a blue moon, I've asked the same question's you have .... what am i doing wrong, i've gotten down on myself too ... i guess it comes down to personal Confidence.
I'll Be honest, i've been told that the way i type needs to change (to Many Capitals) truth be told i type that way for a reason ... even though i'm not a good speller by anymeans. i belive that words speak to the soul. i usuly put Capitals on words i think are important.
I've been told to ditch the pic of a friend and i, because i have my hand around a woman i could be taken as a turn off. (WTF) anyway i wont take it down .. i see alot of pics of girls with themselves Wraped around someone ... honestly i belive it's a friend and i never find it stops me from reading on.
I do belive in posting a picture, and this is why. Yes what is in the inside is what counts the most, i will never dispute that ... but i also belive you must like (love if you will) what you see on the outside. Truth be told, For me ... i want to love the whole package .. and i've never considered my taste to be that picky ... i'm not looking for A runway model. i can't even discribe what i find attractive ... i just know i like it when i see it, lol anyway thats long enough hope it helps | |
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Posted: 10/28/2005 6:31:32 AM | | hello u can reach me at neon6538@yahoo.com hope to hear from u soon sorry have not looked at my messages fro awhile tys | |
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Posted: 10/29/2005 7:35:18 PM | | Why not? Do u message anyone? I usually don't. They message me when I am on writing on a forum. I left this site a few weeks ago. Then I missed the forums and came back. I have written to guys that I thought were sexy and got a no thanks back. Oh well. You can't take what happens on here too personally. There are alot of nuts out there! Hugs,Vix | |
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Posted: 10/29/2005 7:47:59 PM | | I feel the same way. Why don't people give each other a chance to get to know each other. We are being to judgemental of other people. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 11:10:11 AM | I am having the same problem too and that must explain why people think that dating services are fake.
This is a reason I am getting helped by friends and family. They should have a forum for no responses message boards.
People could figure out autism or OCD that they don't respond back. I am getting helped with that as I find girls taken everywhere I go. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 11:29:42 AM | it's a bad time for internet stuff ~ my friend ~ the weather is nice and there is things to do ~ and places to go ~ bad time to fish ~
just hang in there ~ and stay lightly involved ~ dance | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 8:41:24 PM | Well I read your profile and I thought you sounded amazing - too bad there are not more men like you where I live. Someone great will definitely find you!  | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 9:25:02 PM | Isn't it true that what shows on the outside does not reflects what is on the inside? Place a picture that reflects you and only you from within. You are great on the inside so do something for your inside to match the outside and prepare some numbered tickets.
You said that you have done everything so wait, look at your profile, adjust it if necessary, study others profile and make adjustments, etc. If women see you on this forum and realize that you are a quick quitter, they will not come to you. Be who you are, not someone you would like to become and watch for the fruit coming to you.
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Posted: 5/26/2008 9:17:43 AM | From the negative attitude and feelings of several of the posters I can understand why they are not getting any dates.
I would not date or even contact a woman I got the kind of vibe from. Why in gawds name would any one want to go out with someone who would drag them down emotionaly and mentaly?
Work on your self and how about you before inflicting you on others.  | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 12:25:28 PM | | Without a photo, people think you are married. Even on the paying internet sites, you could still be married. People have their own credit cards to pay a site, so the wife or husband cannot detect a cheater. So, put yourself out there. Also, with the free sites, you will usually only get LOSERS. Go to the paying ones.... you know the two most favorite and popular.... you know, the ones that do all the advertising on television. | |
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