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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/7/2008 1:23:33 PM | | On a scale of 1 to 10 meaning 10 is extremely important. I have to say extremely but this is coming from someone who loves the intimacy sex brings. You decide for yourself what you would rate sex and find someone who rates it the same way! | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/7/2008 1:29:49 PM | regarding the OP….
Sex is very important to me, in fact I don’t even consider a relationship a relationship unless a woman and I are having sexual relations with one another, otherwise what we have is a "platonic friendship." All those things you listed such as intimate heartfelt conversations, sharing, taking walks hand-in-hand, cuddling on the couch....etc are all nice and good and comprise many of the ingredients that make a relationship most desirable. However, without sexual relations involved it is akin to going through the trouble of mixing all the ingredients in baking a most splendid cake but never placing it in the oven. Sex is the fire, sex is the coalescing agent that bonds a man to a woman, without it, the bond is too often tentative.
And I am dubious of any woman who longs for the companionship of a virile heterosexual man who but has reservations about putting out on a regular basis. | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/7/2008 1:40:31 PM | In my ideal situation (one which doesn't always jive with reality), sex is very important. However, I place more value on having a high sex drive than I do on how each and every session pans out. If the man has a high sex drive, then we are going to be on the same page. Wanting to be with someone who falls into this category has caused me a number of problems in the past tho -- probably just as many as being with someone whose sex drive was minimal.
The guy is either with me because he knows I'm game, but will ultimately choose someone whose reputation will enhance his image to actually become emotionally involved with. Or he's so far beyond me in his own experiences that I'm just not going to measure up. There never seems to be a happy medium. And of course, by being game - to a degree - in the first place, I contribute nothing to encourage him to think there's more to me than meets the eye in either scenario.
That's why I'm celebate. Comes a time when it's just not worth the tears. Men hate tears IMO. And they hate emotional reactions where you go throw yourself on the first pair of open arms in despair even worse. It always results in an emotional checkmate it seems...and I never did learn how to play chess. (Don't even care to.) So there's no sense putting my heart on the line. Period. End stop. Feeling a tad sorry for myself today? Nope. Just being honest since there are so many threads on here asking why a woman won't tell you how she really feels. Well, I really do feel that way. Take it or leave it.
BTW, as for the celibacy thing, it's been that way for the bulk of the last dozen years or more. And any time I venture out to see if the world has changed, it's just been more of the same. Jaded? Maybe. But at least I'm not heaping more and more reasons for grief upon my head. | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/7/2008 3:40:53 PM | | both me n my fiance both agree that it is important but not THE most important part of a relationship, we enjoy snugglin up n talkin, we are best friends 1st n lovers 2nd, not all men are wimpish if they show a sensitive side like some ppl think. | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/7/2008 3:43:10 PM | | both me n my fiance both agree that it is important but not THE most important part of a relationship, we have a fantastic sex life but we also enjoy snugglin up n talkin, we are best friends 1st n lovers 2nd, not all men are wimpish if they show a sensitive side like some ppl think. | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/12/2008 5:30:53 PM | Sex is important as a stage and addition to the relationship.
The real question is what does everyone think is a correct Quanity per day/week/month before its too much, not enough, or really pushing my needs to the limits. :)
My last seemed to push even my labido to the furthest I'd ever tried to refrain. I'm a guy and I think Once a day might be pushing it for me, on the too much. :)
Might be dependent on whom we're with and/or what their labido is. | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/12/2008 9:14:25 PM | When the sex is good, everything else is good. When everything else is good, the sex is good. Sex is a good barometre of the relationship.
Long, long ago I had a bf who said that sex was 80% important in a realtionship and he was right. When things aren't good in a relationship, it is reflected sexually and go figure - vice versa.
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/12/2008 9:20:45 PM |
The real question is what does everyone think is a correct Quanity per day/week/month before its too much, not enough, or really pushing my needs to the limits. :)
Very individual. You want to find the one who matches your needs/wants. | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/12/2008 9:34:43 PM | Sex isn't the end all be all to a relationship, but it is a natural part of one. A very LARGE part. When you're with the one you love - the one you have warm, mushy thoughts of, you love the way they look, the way they tilt their head, the way they walk, talk, smile, smell, laugh, etc... To have those, it's a natural progression to be aroused.
It's just the way we were made.
Actual 'intercourse' does not have to be the goal. If there are 'issues', then there are other ways to make both people involved happy and satisfied. Little blue pill or not.
It's extremely important. It's a very bonding experience.
And the things you've listed in your opening post, quite frankly, well darlin', that's considered 'foreplay'. It brings you closer together. It's very loving. My relationship absolutely MUST have it.  | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/12/2008 10:30:18 PM | Making love within a committed relationship? Crucial, as is the light touch of my lover's hand as both a sign of affection for what has been & as a prelude to what will follow anon. Ha!
Cheers, Pen | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/13/2008 12:01:36 AM | | Muy importante, but it's got to be part of the whole package. If the rest sucks, but the sex is good, it won't work. If he's an awesome guy but the sex doesn't work, it's not going to go anywhere. I've had both. | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/13/2008 5:15:07 AM | On a scale of 1 - 10, I put sex ( GOOD sex, that is lol ), right at 10. No way would I stay in a sexless, passionless relationship. What's the point otherwise? I have platonic relationships already.
I know as soon as that's read the immediate reaction for some is the old,"Sex isn't everything." thought. I tend to disagree strongly with that. It very much IS the glue that keeps everything clicking along, is the kind of bonding and intimacy you do not share with anyone else except your love interest ( unless you're a particularly casual person ), and as time goes on you are more likely to shift into long term bonding that survives the normal conflicts and trials that arise after what many know as 'the honeymoon period' between two people.
I know for sure that intimate conversations and cuddling and long walks minus a great sex life are just not very interesting ideas. Not to me anyway. | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/13/2008 7:41:56 AM | SEX!! SEX!!! Someone say SEX!!! But really SEX, is just one of the many feelings in a relationship, although an important one, in a deep meaningful relationship.
Making LOVE and showing extreme emotion to each other is a beautiful experience, now one can have sex in a relationship, but if that is all they have, then they are completely doooooooooooom!!! JMO!!! So anyone what to just have SEX!!!!   | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/13/2008 7:49:50 AM | | when you meet and have a connection the sexual tensions alot easier than when youve been in a relationship for a while.the need is still great but the whole things important,ie being good together outside the sheets sharing stuff etc.its important but so are other aspects | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/13/2008 7:55:38 AM | | There are a lot of important components in a relationship. In my opinion, sex is no more important than any of the other parts (trust, communication, interests, values, etc.) but all parts of a relationship have to be great for it to endure the test of time. | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/13/2008 8:26:54 AM | | Ok, I do think sex is an important part in the relationship, however, there has to be more then just in the bedroom. If you are in love with that person, then making love is wonderful. I believe that you have to be compatable in the bedroom and outside the bedroom. I dated this guy, only to find out later, that he was into things that I can not even tell my friends. Don't get me wrong, if that's what you are into, go for it, but should be honest, and upfront about it, before you get too involved. | |
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| How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship
Posted: 2/14/2008 8:03:58 AM | Absolutely . . . YES!!! Note: I'm not referring to the "in & out" type of sex . . .
The touching and caressing of the most intimate sensual spots . . . is the ULTIMATE form of AFFECTION!
Happy V-Day to all!!!
~Myth~ | |
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