| what's the best way to forget someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 12:06:19 AM | | hahaha! of course that's a given...i try not to indulge myself into the point of losing my sanity though...that won't be too smart..might do something that i'll regret | |
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| what's the best way to forget someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 3:31:50 AM | | If you are torn, you are still healing. There's nothing wrong with getting out and about and dating, seeing new people. Only time and thought helps you get over a breakup. | |
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| what's the best way to forget someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 6:00:55 AM | "i know somebody, somewhere may just be going through the same thing right now... "
Keep that thought in mind, always.
You are an adorable looking young man and though you don't deserve to get hurt, it happens.
Nearly a year ago, my ex told me he had met someone else, after 20 years of marriage. This will probably take at least 4 or 5 years to get over completely, but the main thing is remember there will be bad days AND good days. Have a backup plan when the bad days come and ENJOY the good days.
Other wise there is always just to think of them as dead.
I love this phrase... "He/She's just not that into you"
As an aside, if you love music, pour yourself into it. Be all you can be
If you are ever in Fairbanks, AK, visit Ivory Jack's. They have a great audience nearly every night!
All the best, Denise | |
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| what's the best way to forget someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 7:21:51 AM | | thanks denise...i never thought i would ever get the best advices from here but you guys definitely know how to support someone sincerely...rest assured you guys are making me stronger everyday..and yeah if i ever get a chance to be in fairbanks i will grab that mic in ivory banks. | |
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| what's the best way to forget someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 7:56:25 AM | I found for me the best way to get over relationships was to do an inventory of them. What was good, what was bad. What did I like about her, what didn't I like. Where could I have come up higher. This gives me some idea of what I would like to see in my next partner. It also goes a long way to preventing rebounds since rebounds are often people who display characteristics that are completely opposite of the one I'm trying to get over.
Doing this also gives a good indication of why I should or shouldn't get back into that relationship if it were available.
I make a point of not hating the ex because hate causes physical sickness.
I make a point of not hating the ex because it makes me unnattractive
I make a point of not hating the ex because I don't want her renting space in my head.
I make a point of not hating the ex because I don't like feeling crappy.
I make a point of not hating the ex because I get over her much faster that way.
Love heals much faster and completely than hate.
"those not willing to learn from the mistakes of the past are doomed to repeat them." | |
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| what's the best way to forget someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 8:47:03 AM | Evil! Excellent post!
Really, doll, I know you hate it when you think of her and feel that longing and pain. There's nothing, no woman, no drug, no drink, no music, no friend...nothing that will just make it go away. The only thing that will ease it is time.
And how do you find out that she's still checking on your profile? However you're getting that information, stop the flow of information. You don't need to know when/if she's checking on you. Of course, you want to know, but that is part of what will drag out the pain longer. Don't ask people about her. Don't read her old emails, as a matter of fact, if you have the courage right now, delete them.
Read Brawny's post again. Take some time to really examine who you are and what you want in your next relationship. Don't get into another relationship until you're finished grieving over this one; it's not fair to the new woman.
It's tough, I know. Hang in there...it will get better. There will be a day when you can think of her and remember her and not feel any pain or sadness.
-sparkle | |
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| what's the best way to forget someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 2:19:54 PM | | sparkle, that day is all i'm waiting for...i don't intentionally find out things that she does it just so happens that some of our common friends "slip" without me asking anything about her...i've already deleted all her messages and hid all her pictures but a face that lingers would not need an object to remind you of it. it's just embedded in your head.... | |
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| what's the best way to forget someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 10:00:12 PM | | by the look of things, it's relieving to see that most people ahev already gone through (and successfully made it) these kind of situations...again, thanks for everyone who gave their 2 cents and hopefully this thread will also be a guideline for the people who's about to endure or go through this learning experience....SO, KEEP IT FLOWING AND DON'T HESITATE TO SHARE YOUR IDEAS!!! | |
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