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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 10/22/2005 9:06:50 AM | | I suppose everyone is looking for something different on here, but what surprises me is how people seem to want to find instant anything on here and hook up like yesterday. What ever happened to hanging out and getting to know someone, find out what kind of character they have and go from there? A date is a date, afterall, not a marriage proposal. If someone wanted to pin me down after a first date, I'd run for the hills! | |
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 10/31/2005 6:55:47 AM | One date, one 1/2 hour, was all it took for us to know we were into each other. We kept it casual for a month or so, because we were seeing / emailing others... He was patient, very understanding... then it was just obvious that he was the perfect man for me.
He took care of me this weekend while I was sick. Hot bath, candles, lavender scents, water message, body rub, the whole works.... I stayed in bed and on the couch all day Sunday and he sprang into action without asking, just knew when I needed something.
I have NEVER had a man cater to me when I was sick. They just stayed away.
Yeah, I love that guy! Goodfellow is one good fella.
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 10/31/2005 6:56:20 AM | One date, one 1/2 hour, was all it took for us to know we were into each other. We kept it casual for a month or so, because we were seeing / emailing others... He was patient, very understanding... then it was just obvious that he was the perfect man for me.
He took care of me this weekend while I was sick. Hot bath, candles, lavender scents, water message, body rub, the whole works.... I stayed in bed and on the couch all day Sunday and he sprang into action without asking, just knew when I needed something.
I have NEVER had a man cater to me when I was sick. They just stayed away.
Yeah, I love that guy! Goodfellow is one good fella.
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~M.A~
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Joined: 7/26/2005
Msg: 29 | |
| First POF dating experience
Posted: 10/31/2005 5:59:25 PM | ^^^^^^AMEN TO THAT!!!
I am in a new relationship...only a couple weeks but I already know I don't want to date other people and risk losing the catch I have! | |
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Posted: 10/31/2005 10:51:34 PM | | I have met this wonderful guy off of here the only trouble is he is in the Navy and lives 2 hours away...we see eachother as much as we poosibly can and we do have REALLY strong feelings about one another BUT his job does get in the way...I dont want to be that girl that has to worry about her man getting blown up or being away for 6 months at a time...I like him a lot...Any advice? | |
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/1/2005 3:56:31 AM | | Well he is in the navy, so either you accept it or you don't. If you end up together, he'll be away alot, and you may move alot. You have to LOVE him a lot, to do that. | |
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~M.A~
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Joined: 7/26/2005
Msg: 32 | |
| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/1/2005 6:09:16 AM | I agree with ^^^^^
It's one of those....you take it or leave it...it's part of the package.
my 2cents
~M.A~ | |
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Joined: 3/29/2003
Msg: 33 | |
| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/1/2005 5:53:26 PM | OT:
- First meeting... She was pleasant, a reformed drug abuser, but seemed nice, just no spark...
- Coolest meeting: Besides my pal LilMissMaybe, There was this one that was totally cool, but what a chatterbox!
- First date: Well, first real date... She was awesome.. we dated for a little more than a month and as nice as she was, it fizzled.. | |
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/2/2005 12:18:37 PM | | LoL what user name did she have...dont want to run into that one anytime soon.... | |
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/3/2005 2:47:19 AM | Well hun im gonna say sorry for what happened...I do have to say one thing....your on the internet...to find someone that is not crazy in some way shape or form is gonna be hard...i mean come on..you have to be somewhat crazy to have the balls to get on the puter and just starting talkin to complete strangers, puttin your trust in them to believe they are really not lying....in my opinion if you find someone off here and you are just as compatible with them in person as you are in chat...your one lucky person...NOW...it is possible...I met the most beautiful the most wonderful man off this exact site....it was an accident mind you..the only reason i opened this account was to find an email address of a new friend and it just so happened that he popped up...and well i have the account now so i come in once in a while to see how is hangin out you know curiousity killed the cat type deal....i also found an old friend on here...so i have to say hold your head up hun...im sure you will hit the jack pot soon enough..just dont look for it...it will happen..until then HAVE FUN..enjoy it...Good Luck next time.
Smooch
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| Have you ever been victimized by a Succubus?
Posted: 11/5/2005 5:58:32 AM | A what? A succubus. A female demon supposed to descend upon and have sexual intercourse with a man while he sleeps.
Here's an interesting story that will explain what I mean.
A pro at making suckers of men
ROSIE DIMANNO
She takes an arresting picture, does Tracy Lynn Sargent.
Even in the booking photo, snapped at 52 Division the other night, there's a certain sexual allure to the woman.
"We did give her time to get herself cleaned up,'' says Det. Const. George Pearson, one of the fraud officers who came knocking at Sargent's downtown apartment on Halloween. There they say they found, just as they'd been tipped, evidence that the 38-year-old convicted grifter was preparing to leave town — packed suitcases, passport at the ready.
"She looked afraid and was shaking all over,'' Pearson said.
But fearful and all a-tremble is a posture Sargent assumes well. She was similarly distraught at a bail appearance seven years ago, although sufficiently on-the-ball that she asked a bailiff to stand in a spot such that reporters in the courtroom would have an obstructed view of her.
Quavering and contrite would describe how Sargent presented herself to the judge who later imposed a sentence of two years federal penitentiary time, for scamming a slew of men (and three women) of big money, upward of $350,000, including one poor sap's entire life savings, unemployment insurance benefits, and the RRSPs she'd convinced him to cash in.
She was very good at being very bad. Pleading guilty to seven counts of fraud, Sargent told the judge that day: "I'll never be able to say I'm sorry until I meet the people (I defrauded) and say sorry, and become the person I want to be. I apologize.''
It's unclear how much prison time Sargent actually served. That two-year sentence was actually rather gentle punishment, given that the record showed 57 previous fraud convictions, stretching back to 1986, when first she emerged from her hometown of St. Thomas, Ont. Publicity from the '98 arrest had victims leaping out of the woodwork, although investigators could not substantiate more ancient allegations.
"It's been a long time since she got out of jail,'' says Pearson. "I've no doubt there are other people out there that have been duped. I'm hoping that, if there is, they'll put their embarrassment aside and come forward.''
The fraud squad number is 416-808-5207. No one likes admitting they've been duped, particularly by a succubus who stole first their heart and then their money. "There's a whole psychology to people who've been defrauded,'' says Pearson. "They're embarrassed and humiliated. You feel like a dope and that's hard to swallow.''
If it's any comfort, those victims should know they were hosed by a pro.
Back in 1998, one of the investigators told reporters Sargent had even tried to seduce him, turning moist and supplicating eyes towards the detective during his interrogation.
"She was looking for that one friend who could help her and I was the only one in the room,'' said Det. Steve Burnham, since retired from the Toronto police department.
"She was quite flirtatious, very open about it and very charming. But also very manipulative. Of course, I'm a trained police officer.''
Sargent is accustomed to relying on the kindness, and largesse, of strangers.
Which doesn't mean that she is guilty of these new charges, of course. That's for a court to determine, unless she pleads guilty, as she did before.
It was the news reports from her previous arrest and guilty plea that convinced a more recent paramour to contact police. This fellow complained that he'd been stiffed for $35,000 by a woman who claimed to be a) from Switzerland, b) a student at the University of Toronto's faculty of cardiology, and c) practising as an intern at Sunnybrook hospital.
But strapped for cash, couldn't pay the rent or her tuition fees, and was in desperate need of funds for medical trips to France and Dubai. With growing suspicion, this man went on the Internet and found the old stories, including columns written by yours truly, and followed the trail of aliases to Sargent's career as both con artist and escort service freelancer. "He did a significant amount of the detective work for us,'' says Pearson. "But he's devastated.''
They'd met only by chance, running into each other on the street. But, say police, Sargent is a quick worker — can talk her way into a man's apartment in minutes and stay for months.
In short order, another male — this one making contact with Sargent on the Internet — also came forward, alleging he'd been bilked to the tune of $15,000. Together, this pair of marks account for the two fraud charges the accused is now facing. Earlier this week, she was denied bail.
Pearson says he also read the media reports and steeled himself against the suspect's charms when he went to make the arrest.
Seven years ago, Sargent was swanning around town in a white BMW — registered to one of her swains — using a fistful of aliases and putting out a vast array of sucker stories that somehow found credibility with a portfolio of upscale gentlemen.
She claimed to be, variously, the illegitimate daughter of former Lieutenant Governor Hilary Weston and mogul Edgar Bronfman, a horse trainer for Princess Diana, dying of liver cancer — hence those "treatment'' trips to the Mayo Clinic, which her knights in shining armour footed — a model, an heiress who would be coming into a fortune upon turning 30 (lying about her age, too, but we all do that), under the protection of the FBI, and gang-raped by a loan shark and his buddies. (Sargent did apparently, at one time, run her own escort service, this to pay off debts that she did indeed owe a loan shark.)
At one point she moved into the home of a man whose marriage had just broken up and babysat his 12-year-old son while racking up charges to a psychic hotline. She further went through the guy's mail, secured his credit card details, and went on spending sprees at Holt Renfrew and Club Monaco.
Another chap was so smitten by Sargent that he borrowed money from his mother to fly to Dorval airport to meet her. She never showed.
When rousted, in '98, Sargent was living in a posh Queens Quay apartment. The charlatan convinced security staff there that she'd fled from an abusive husband who was still stalking her. That was why she'd routinely call, before coming home, to enquire whether there were any strange men lurking about the lobby, asking after her.
Really, one has to admire her chutzpah. So many tales of woe she spun, and claims of grandeur, preying on sympathy and lust. And is it really a crime, to fabricate so wildly when practising the arts of seduction?
One judge certainly thought so. He brought down the hammer on Sargent's pretty, ever-so-clever head.
On Monday, after making the collar, Pearson also allowed Sargent time to arrange for someone to take temporary custody of her dog, a Pomeranian.
"She named the dog Little Man. I think there's something Freudian there.'' | |
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| Have you ever been victimized by a Succubus?
Posted: 11/5/2005 10:04:32 PM | upward of $350,000
Whoa.
This fellow complained that he'd been stiffed for $35,000
She must have really had her charms FLOWING! And to complain?
hhmm; I wonder if it worked for him.
was preparing to leave town — packed suitcases, passport at the ready.
That's cool.
GOOD timing...haha..ummm...DOH!
"She was quite flirtatious, very open about it and very charming. But also very manipulative. Of course, I'm a trained police officer.''
Brb; I need popcorn. THIS is just getting good.
This guy needs backup apparently. He really thinks he can handle her?
P.S. She is trembling hu? hhmm. (doubtful) ;) She's a pro.
hhmm
She claimed to be, variously, the illegitimate daughter of former Lieutenant Governor Hilary Weston and mogul Edgar Bronfman, a horse trainer for Princess Diana, dying of liver cancer — hence those "treatment'' trips to the Mayo Clinic, which her knights in shining armour footed — a model, an heiress who would be coming into a fortune upon turning 30 (lying about her age, too, but we all do that), under the protection of the FBI, and gang-raped by a loan shark and his buddies. (Sargent did apparently, at one time, run her own escort service, this to pay off debts that she did indeed owe a loan shark.)
THIS is the best sounding movie I have EVER heard!!
*cough*
(promise)
This ONE takes the cake. :D
(promise?)
Another chap was so smitten by Sargent that he borrowed money from his mother to fly to Dorval airport to meet her. She never showed
Note to readers..this happens off of this line. CYA. ^ uh oh
One judge certainly thought so. He brought down the hammer on Sargent's pretty, ever-so-clever head.
ooooo. That has got to hurt. (a hammer!!?? That sounds like a big one) *gulp*
whoa.
THAT has to bring major consequence. Again...of this..I PROMISE you.
this is fun.
"She named the dog Little Man. I think there's something Freudian there.''
Sure feels like that to me.
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/6/2005 1:54:53 PM | aaaaawww sorry to hear about that incident -how utterly rude of her-she was playing games/?
last time I got stood up-was many many years ago-I stood in the rain-no umbrella outside a restaurant for hours-dumb me-I married him in 1979 lol
boy that brings back some memories lol
the only bad experience i have had is omeone thinking that everytime I get on line i should be chatting with them only in IM but as it turns out I do have a life. it is sad the way you were treated-how did she know you were late getting there if she wasn't there? Are you sure she wasn't in the shadows checking you out?what a shame she had to be like that | |
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/8/2005 1:11:59 PM | I finally had my first "meeting" of someone I met here on POF. We spent 2 evenings together, did alot of talking, and she was exactly what she claimed to be in her profile and our subsequent "chats". I enjoyed meeting her, and look forward to our next meeting. She was on her way to a new job site, 6 hours away, so will hope to keep up the communication. At least I (my perception) have made a special new friend.  | |
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/8/2005 8:37:27 PM | | I was stood up the first (and only) time I had arranged to meet someone, and he was also the first one I felt enough of a connection with to give my number to. Not really a good reason behind it either. And to top it off, he claims he's still interested, but doesnt make any effort at all to contact me. Oh, well..I shall keep fishing, surely there's a fish out there that I may actually be able to keep on my line! | |
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/9/2005 12:41:13 PM | I am still waiting for my first meeting on POF, but have "met/talked with lots of interesting people.
Don't like when someone disappears on me that I wanted to meet.... that always hurts especially if we don't know the reason.
So, I am looking forward to my first meeting on POF also. There are some really great guys out there.... good luck to you all.
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/9/2005 1:25:43 PM | It really hurts when someone you felt so close to has disappeared on you...as happened to me recently!
I "met" this super guy on here.... IM many many hours, emailed many more messages each one sweeter than the last... I was looking forward to our meeting. He seemed to be as sincere about the relationship as I was.... I would be willing to have a LTR with this man.
We both expressed a desire to meet, and both felt a kindred spirit with each other....so I thought! He disappeared on me without a reason, warning or anything except that he was having computer problems. OK, so, I know that happens. Then the waiting continued!
This is the only man on here that I have wanted to meet ASAP.. He does live quite a distance away, but we still talked of getting together and I was planning on extending an invitation very soon.
He is still writing on the forums, so I guess I was just being mislead and given a line......don't do this, guys.... as some of us are very sensitive and new to this type of communication.
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/9/2005 4:18:34 PM | Chance.....
BE GRATEFUL that you did get stood up,sounds like there's issues there but then again theres a whole lotta people that really have no intention of meeting you,they just play behind the computer screen.Just find yourself a decent lady to chat to and that's willing to meet you,follow your gut instinct,it usually steers you in the right direction:-)
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/11/2005 12:38:53 PM | My first date showed up in his new yellow convertible at my jobsite an hour late. He sits outside in the car for three or four minutes talking on his cell phone,,,so I went outside and said Hi. He smiled at me and kept talking to whoever in the hell was more important at the time.
I parked my Lincoln Town Car and we took his vette to a sports bar. On the menu, it said "Bucket of Balls",,(meatballs in marinera sauce appetizer." He says "I got your bucket of balls for you later,,,baby" And elbows me in the side.
Then he asks the female bartender "Hey, dont you think people should have sex on their first date? That way, if you dont like it,,,why go on to two or three? She just looks at both of us and shrugs her shoulders. He then proceeds to tell me she has a nice ass.
I drank Coors Light, he drank Jack on the rocks,,,,plenty of them,,,and fast.
Another cell phone call. And another.
When our food arrived, I reached around his leg up onto his plate to snag a french fry. He says "Oh,,,I thought you were reaching for my c.o.c.k."
That was it. It suddenly got real quiet. When he took me back to my Lincoln, I was thinking of how I could ditch him,,,but remembered even though my car has a 405, he still has a new corvette. I'd probably lose the race. Then I remembered, Im not in high school any more. So I told him we didn't have much in common, and Im going home now.
Not a bit of class, not a gentleman, not even that cute. Then he asked me to leave a tip or go halves on the bill,,,,,his drinks were 6 bucks apiece, mine 2.50,,,I dont know,,,I was disappointed,,,but at least not heartbroken! | |
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/11/2005 12:41:58 PM | | Scottsmom, I hope I never have a meeting like that. I'd be gone before the first meatball hit the floor. | |
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/11/2005 5:55:11 PM | ok.. here goes *cracks his fingers as he tries to remember*
ah yes
contacted with Those with profile i liked = lost count after 50
Those contacted me with my profile they liked = 1
Those replied to my contacts = 15
Those never replied and deleted my mail = somewhere after 50
Those agreed to meet = 5
Those said im not their type = 5
Those I met I liked = 2
Those i met are different from what their profile said = 1
Those stood me up = 2
Those who stood me up apologises, but never continue to chat with me = 2
all this happens in the space of 5 years... sheeesh.. im may be fussy but im flexible lol
And here i am.. still fishing for the right girl.. :P
I dont care if ya think im not ya type.. but at least make an effort.. I did!!!
Still talking to the one that contacted me. She's great. But lives in another country. Wondered if this will work?.... | |
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 11/12/2005 1:38:32 PM | My good friend, my advisor, my will power icon has recently burnt herself badly.
She met this guy - absolutely her match - as they had so much in common - he didn't even know that - she told me details.
However, being hurt and misundertsood one too may times on here, she flipped over a simple thing - him not calling her on time when he promised.
Result? Yes, of course he doesn't want anything to do with her now.
But she honestly lost her trust in men here. Not her fault, absolutely.
She is the bestest sweetest person, single Mom of the prettiest 12 yr old, who manages to do 100 things and succeed at all.
She keeps her word in everything she does. To frustrate her like that - means a lot. She doesn't get exited over little things.
She deleted her profile because of this last encounter.
I know her in real life and it hurts.
Lot fo good people get burnt and misunderstood here without doing anything wrong. | |
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