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Posted: 4/9/2006 9:00:45 PM | | I have had my few shares of nuts...I was suppose to meet up w/ a guy at the movies,,,cold as heck outside and i couldnt find him at the meeting spot. The second time around,,,we decided to do it again,,,and a no show again. He said he drove around the parking lot and all looking for me. Then come to find out,,,he said he was sorry for lying and that he never came on both nights. What a loser,,,then he wants to continue talking to me and said he was sorry. He was like,,,"sorry for being such a screw up." then he wanted to start talking about sex and fav positions and stuff. im like why did you do that,,,,what a creep. I just blocked him from my list. Just look for something else | |
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Posted: 5/6/2006 9:16:11 PM | OK, now I have met and dated several guys on here. On the first one, he thought he was all that and a bag of chips, and I was not what he was looking for. So, that's ok with me, after all there are more fish in the sea. ( By the way, he is still looking even tho he is on many favorites lists!)
On the second date, with another man, which lasted SIX DAYS (!!!) by the way... we got along great, laughed, cut up, he came to my city... I went to his city...we had lots in common and I thought I had found a winner. We met again and that date lasted THREE DAYS! I went to his city that time also. Still getting along great at this point.
He turned out to practically refuse to communicate with me, when I stopped doing all the calling. He wanted me to continue to do it all, ended up us saying goodbye... we got along great when together, but he had never had a long distance relationship and did not have a clue that he was supposed to do his share of communication. 
So, heads up guys: when you find a great lady that digs you, and vice versa, at least do your share of the communication. Most everyone you meet will be long distance, most likely, unless you luck up and find her in your home town.
So this here girl is still out there  | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 8:53:58 PM | Yeah I met a woman on here. She came to meet me. We don't live all that far away. She blew me off on phone calls, mentioned getting Valium from Canada etc. I finally figured she had someone else and just kept me along in case it didn't work out. She said she had a house to care for and then told me she hadn't been home much lately. POF........you get what you pay for. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 6:27:23 PM | | god what a diaster met this guy and he turned out to be a total player gabe if your out there cover your tracks if you want to play ***hole | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 6:53:27 PM | | Hey, been there, done that. I met a guy here on POF (no names) and we had been talking about meeting at Tim Hortons. I had some things to take care of but we finally decided on a couple of wks ago Friday nite. Anyways, long story short, I went to meet him there and he was a no show, funny thing is, instinct told me I was going to be stood up. He then IMs me a couple of days later asking where I was. I told him to get a life, lol. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 8:08:46 PM | I have met three guys from this site and I am happy to report that I don't have any horror stories. They were all extremely uneventful.
Sorry that you ran into a crazy.
I am curious what made her think that you didn't show up though. Did I miss that part of the story? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2008 6:17:11 AM | | I have had this happen several times, and it is unfortunately a facet of the system, I actually arranged to meet a lady and travelled over 200miles and waited at the venue and noticed two other guys that seemed agitated who were having a drink at the bar. I asked them were they waiting for someone to be told by both of them they were waiting for the same lady again a no show. She obviously gets a high from arranging the meets and always does it with guys who have long distances to travel, she proably gets a high by sitting in the shadows somewhere and watching the guys arrive. Better luck next time | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 6:21:18 PM | | i'm sorry to hear about your experience.you have to be very,very careful.i met a wing nut on here.she now has me up on three different charges for something i didn't even do.not a good situation.so be careful and the best of luck! chris | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 6:46:54 PM | my ex was in the army deployed a lot ,,, when you date a service guy/girl you have to know what you want and getting your self into ... that life style is not for the weak hearted ... you cant be a velco person ....
you need to be strong and need to be able to be on your own for a bit ....
you need to be able to hole down the home front and survive without them ...
cold hard truth , sorry ...
the last thing a soldier needs no matter male or female is having to worry about somebody at home , esoecialy when they in combat ....
so think 2x about that .....
its a lot of responsibility and heartship ..... I enjoyed every minute of it and I was proud to be an ARmy spouse
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Joined: 9/25/2008
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 10/3/2008 3:12:48 PM | | Boy Howdy have I had a few experiences... with liars. One guy was married. The other one said he wanted long term. We dated steady for 4-months it was wonderful but he was still in love with his ex wife. She came back into the pic after being gone for 2-yrs - only to make his head spin, and everything came crashing down. It was hard because I had really fallen in love with him. We continued to play together for another 4 months and just recently broke it off for good because he was dating others, kept his profile up. So was he a liar the whole time? or? Head is still spinning. | |
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Joined: 8/31/2008
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| First POF dating experience
Posted: 10/3/2008 4:27:43 PM | Very interesting reading, and I do think there is something we all need to keep in mind.
In the online world, unlike IRL, all you know about the other person is through a series of contacts either through E-mail or IM, or both. It's much like reading through a job site online of posted positions. You can compose the initial contact and try to make that as appealing as possible...and you might or might not get a response. Only when you meet in person (or hopefully, be asked to go on that job interview in person) do you get the "complete package" and sense the intangibles which can't come across in digital format.
All that is partly why I have no expectations of meeting anyone from here. Mine is also geographic, but I also have to realize that my profile might not appeal to everyone -- or, to anyone. That's OK, though. Finding that "one person" isn't my sole mission in life. I like to hang out "here" at the forums, and go out in the real world to meet people. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2008 5:16:40 PM | Personally I like the internet for meeting new people. It beats hanging in a bar, coffee shop, or where ever else people go. I'm not a church goer so thats not an option either. I also don't date guys I work with....and in my line of work I meet alot of guys.
So if you look at your options for meeting people in a small town there really isn't much to find. If you go to bars or clubs you meet potential drunks and players. Coffee shops you meet people discussing their work or internet options. Church...well like i said I'm not in to it. Dating from your work place ...if it don't work out you have to deal with the person every day or find another job. So places like POF are awsome. Granted you may meet some losers but you may meet some really great people that in everyday life would never have crossed your path.
I've met some from here and the dates went well for the most part. Some I'm still in contact with others have found the blackhole for whatever reason. But all in all I'll keep till the right guy comes along. Atleast on here I'm not sanctioned to my small area I live in. So don't give up because of a few bad experiences....count your blessings that you have had them. Everything happens for a reason... | |
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Posted: 10/24/2008 3:55:29 PM | well what can i say im not suprised by anything on here, i was chatting to what seemed like a normal straight falward kinda guy on here for about a month when he said he,d like to meet up, so we kinda arranged to meet that weekend nothing fixed but he,d be in touch on friday definatly,
so i kept my weekend free and i didnt hear back from him so i mailed him saturday afternoon ,no reply two weeks later i get him on IM he says:
omg i was decorating the bathroom fell off the bath and knocked myself out ? i said what for 2 weeks he says you,ll never believe it i lost my memory x yer right : i said if you didnt want to meet thats cool you should have just said thats the kinda girl i am .
he say no way hon lets meet on saturday so i gave him the benifit if the dought and agreed silly me he text me the following sunday so sorry i was in a car crash ye REALLY bad luck matey i thought ,thats terrible i said hope your ok now not really he says got a water infection .
so i ask myself is this the guy of your dreams ? i think not
still getting the occational message telling me what a terrible time he,s having and would i like a coffee i really could do with someone to talk too
call me mean if you like but im quite partial to a biscuit with my coffee not a bloody fruit cake lol xxx
anyone met him ?  | |
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Posted: 10/24/2008 4:03:14 PM | me again
in response to bewitching i agree with all you say hon absolutly and lets face it when the weirdos come along it gives us something funny to tell the next date could just be the ice breaker that makes for a great evening and who knows where that might lead
ive thought about giving up on this site many times but here i am still fishing and all im missing is a nice big maggott lol xxx
good luck god bless xxxxx | |
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Posted: 10/24/2008 4:43:19 PM | I started contacting someone here about 2 weeks ago... we met yesterday. Not only was she far FAR prettier than her pictures showed, but she seems really quite nice too. I suspect we'll get together again sometime in the coming week. :)
So ya never know eh! | |
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Posted: 11/22/2008 12:59:33 AM | | that sounds very unfortunate indeed, especially since it sounds like you really didn't do anything wrong from the get go, hopefully it doesn't hinder your future aspirations. :( | |
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Posted: 12/6/2008 8:20:40 PM | | I am sorry that happened to you I woukd of met you for sure I think it is very rude when u make plans and they dont even show up that has happened to me so if you would like to visit me sometime i would show Darlene | |
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Posted: 12/18/2008 9:19:46 AM | | You get what you pay for. I met a woman who made me call HER even though she had free LD and I did not-she lived about 3 hours away. All she did was talk to her 3 yr old while I was on the and my tab was running. She was pretty but enough was enough. When I didn't call her one night she got angry. About 2 years later I ymed her for the hell of it and she wondered why we stopped talking and told me she would have moved to me because she works from home. Another woman I met on here came over to my house had sex with me and then told me she did it to get her ex back. I said why didn't you just lie instead of using me. So it's not just women who should be wary of whackos. I was divorced and looking for love and hadn't sex in a while. So when a beautiful woman wanted me I lowered my guard and said SURE. Just remember: Be wary of people's motivation on any dating site. And if they are looking for someone within 350 miles they most likely are Russian phonies or West African phonies. BEWARE. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2009 10:54:02 PM | | Dude, you have to be careful on this site, if you keep seeing the same people on here for an extended period of time they are probably not on the up and up... I flew all the way in from work in KUWAIT to Calgary and met a lady I had been talking to for 2 months....and she was an absolute fruit-cake...all she wanted was the gifts I brought her, free dinner and THATS WHEN she let me know she was pregnant from her last POF date and that if I was interested she would do a me a favor for money....I hauled ass and went and had a few beers alone. What a freak....although I think most Canadians are pretty cool:) | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 5:31:52 AM | | Oh yes, had similar/same experience......previous phone conversations were convivial and pleasant, eventually arranged time /day etc...........no show. Good manners did not prevail. Any sort of cancellation message would have been appreciated by me. This bulls...t only creates bad feelings and does not help this 'net dating' method. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 12:57:18 PM | | Lina...sad story. So sorry for your friend...but, the real reason I replied (I just couldn't help myself) is because my daughter's name is Lina and she was born in 1976. Didn't expect to see that in my lifetime, lol. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 1:07:26 PM | It's me again.  I'm not sure that this is the place to post this, and I haven't found the answer anywhere, including here...so I'll ask all of you..
I was married for 23 years, divorced, then single but in a commited relationship for 5 years and we got married. After 7 years, I became widowed.  I am soooo out of the loop. I've been widowed now for a year and a half and just beginning to test the waters. I have no clue what the dating protocal is these days.
When you meet up someone, or take that first date, do you take your own vehicles or does the guy pick up the girl? And, who pays? If you meet somewhere just for coffee or a drink  , do you each pay your own way, or is it still like it was in the *old days, lol, when I first began dating? How does this all work?
Thanks for any advice you can give me.  | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 8:50:57 AM | | I think my first POF dating experience was a good and bad one. First date was great, however the person turned out to be a big druggy and needed me to keep her from suicide several times. Our second date was when I visited her in a suicide clinic. Great times! Thanks POF! :-) | |
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