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Posted: 5/7/2009 3:34:43 PM | | My first experience on POF ended up in a financial mess. I financed a truck for him in my name and he decided he wanted his freedom shortly after. Two years now and I am still trying to get it out of my name. After a year of being involved (or just dating like he called it) I found out he was on POF looking and talking to other women the whole time. So ladies, beware of those out there that say they are more than they are. Users and abusers are plenty on fish. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2009 3:45:59 PM | So glad to run across your post. I am a new one on this POF site and have ran into a crazy also. This guy IM's me ....wants to meet?...will not come out to a public place to meet...will not give me his last name or even answer what he does for a living? He continues to IM me with HI? Whay UP? I tell him he is not real and he is a fake? This has been going on for a week. He will send exotic pics of his hunts and big game animals he kills! So people be smart and beware of these psyco type of people out here! I even told this guy that my grilfriend had been murdered and raped by a killer and I was being safe! Did not even remark on that or say I am sorry? changed the subject! This is a local high profile murder case here and he knows of it? No reply or remark?
So I am sorry this has happened to you but trust me it is for the best! This can be a very dangerous place! So everyone please be smart and ask questions! Meet in public places and always let someone know your where abouts and contact numbers when meeting a new person.
Thanks for listening ....LPD | |
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Posted: 5/7/2009 7:19:19 PM | | Whoa, Just don't look back! Let that go and forget it ever happened. Just don't to hook up with something like that EVER again. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2009 8:41:44 PM | | Hey Brother, that cat piss and ammonia smell that was irritating your eyes etc...... can you say "meth lab"....... Supper may not have been the only thing she cooked in there, and you don't have to be skinny to be a "meth head". I learned about it in my continuing ed. classes for real estate.....It is probably a good thing that you got the hell out of there. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2009 3:44:05 PM | | I can relate.. I had a guy invite me to his house, and in all seriousness He was a great guy ,but I have been helping him keep his house clean since I have been hanging out with him for almost 2 months.. And to top it off his wife (so0n to be x) is dating my soon to be x... Is that not messed up? | |
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Posted: 5/24/2009 4:06:34 PM |  Gotta love some of the FREAKS on this site. Yeah, just don't gettoo bent about it, she may have been in a guy mashing mood, or she forgot to take her meds. Either way drive on man. LOL, man I am busting a gut here | |
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Posted: 5/24/2009 6:24:07 PM | What does being African have to do with it?Do you mean she undressed because she is African.Im African mark you..Next time you want to write think about what your typingIm responding to soulthing who posted in 2005.My guess is you are un exposed you are closed minded.   | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:49:02 PM | Well no shows are the norm in this IN dating word. I have had a few my self though awhile back I read some advice that was helpful. The advice was to never fully expect that the person will show up. The general rule being don't go way out of you way to meet this person. If you are meeting at a coffee shop etc have something to do. A book, computer, paper work that can be done while you wait. This way so no real time is wasted waiting for the no show. As a true pessimists, your are either pleasantly surprised, or you get something worthwhile accomplished.
What I think was the best advice was the after the stood-up plan. The advise was to call up the no show and apologize for not showing up yourself and ask for another meeting. One of those white lies. The idea behind this is there are all sorts of reasons that the person could have been an no show. Cold feet, forgot, or you are just one of the masses out there at this point. Don't pay attention if the person tells you they waited for you etc and just try to meet again. We are all a little flaky with strangers but most of use are allot better once that person is known. Romance is still a possibility.
The final advice was don't be a wallflower in all this. If you wind up doing paper work for a second time do the dump. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:09:50 PM | My first experience with dating was when I was quite naive about the process. Went to a nice restaurant for first date. I did notice she didn't look a lot like her photo and was a lot heavier than I thought she would be. After 3 dates I decided to investigate and found she was quite older than depicted. She had the chance to tell me but didn't and I ended it.
The next was quite a ways away and after 3 dates again, she asks me what I am looking for and I tell her a committed exclusive relationship. She says she is not ready for that and proceeds to explore my tonsils. Two down and to go.
The third got the nice restaurant treatment and the next day invites me to stay over. Third and ten.
The next was a great gal. Went for the coffee thing this time. We talked for almost three hours. We dated twice and talked often. Turns out she was also dating another. He got the nod. A couple months later she shows back up and we try a couple more dates and she just isn't interested. We are still friends
The last one lasted 3 months, with numerous dates, trips and me making a lot of effort. Turns out that she has some property for sale out of state and when the money comes in she is off to play with her girlfriends and I am out the door...
Even with all the piss poor results, you have to keep trying. If not it is something that you really don't want. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:59:20 PM | My first experience with POF:
Charming girl, nice face, nice mood, easy to talk to, funny, intelligent, boobs, video games, drinking, labradors, anything a guy could want.
I met her. Everything was beautiful from ribcage up.... O.o
Yeah... She was one of those pear-shaped bbw's, which I don't mind. We had fun together, I helped her with her writing, she looked at my art, we played guitar hero, ventured around. I loved her house handed down to her from her folks as well as her dogs. Her friends are kind of boring suburbanite hipsters, but I don't mind. We get to the bedroom, yeah I'm digging this a lot now. I may have a keeper. A month of awesomeness passes, then she goes from charming to boring and unintelligent reeeeallly fast. Like she still liked me, but it was like all of a sudden, she took off this mask and was really just a spoiled, messy, lazy, overweight, suburbanite just looking for an easy boyfriend for a self-esteem boost. Screw that, you can't fix a person that has crappy self esteem. they have to fix themselves. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 11:12:17 PM | This is the reason I keep the first date simple, and don't change up my schedule for it. You should never have scheduled it at a time that would conflict with your other stuff. Why jump through hoops for a possibly fake picture?
I bet she was someone you know, who put up a fake pic just to lure you to be stood up. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 10:00:12 AM | Mine was almost enough to put me off guys entirely. I had talked to him on the phone for a month and msn almost every single day he seemed like such a nice guy. But things can be deceiving. I was stupid and I admit to this I met him at his place. Things were good a little awkward but I figured the guy's nervous. He tries to make me supper and he can;t cook.. there is liek no food in the whole place and maybe 5 tiny potatoes which he proceeded to peel with a spoon.. but again I don't judge people so I decide to peel them with a knife while he makes the chicken. He asks if I want a drink I say sure, I had one drink and I started to realize he must have put something in it because I start to feel really dizzy and wuzzy. I ask for the phone make an exscuse and say I forgot my key and I have to leave because it's getting late. I call a cab Then he switched from nice guy to****he started to scream and yell and say " WHy are you leaving am I not good enough for you? You're perfect to me , you hate me your a stupid ****, then proceeded to slam me against the wall and scream at me some more he was pretty drunk and his roomates got home just in time to save me. I learned my lesson never ever go to their house for a first meeting you are asking for trouble. Never accept a drink again you are asking for trouble.
I was put off of guys for about a month but then decided I can't judge every single guy on one guys mistake. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 12:20:07 AM | Wow....clearly, you dodged a bullet....thank ye gods above for saving you from this kook and please don't assume that any or all other future 'meets' will end up this way....I wish you luck, you were a nice enuff guy to actually stay around for a while in case she'd had an emergency and was running late....kudos, you'll meet your match.....
JS | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 1:52:21 PM | ...wow.
At least you realize that not all guys are like that. I at least take people out for dinner and maybe a movie before I break out the roofie and duct tape. :P | |
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Posted: 6/18/2009 4:51:38 PM | | i meet this man on pof . hit it off we would talk for two weekssometimes allday. after two we decide two meet in preson .wink wink we was in love well i drove to meet him we talked 3 hours he has to go to wrok . walks me to my car kiss me . have not heard from him he changed phone number took e= mail off sayed part i did care for him | |
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Posted: 7/14/2009 3:30:45 PM | It was awesome,,,I met this girl on POF , we emailed twice, she asked me if I wanted to come visit her in Oxford,Ms. for the 4th of July...I thought about it and said ,,OK,,,,I went and she was great , we hit it off immediatly and I have been seeing her for a couple of weeks now....I have had a few weird experiences with girls on POF but maily it has been a cool thing,,,I still meet girls on my own, off the net, but meeting my gal in Oxford was well worth dealing with a few looneys.....Happy fishing ya'll.... | |
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Posted: 7/14/2009 4:46:39 PM | | I met this girl I've been talking to on POF this past Sunday and had some ice cream. We had great conversations, she looked very beautiful, intelligent, well spoken, and we have a lot in common. The next day, she deleted her account and didn't respond to my email(and still has not). She did the ol' disappearing act on me. I was sort of upset for a few hours because it's so rare to find women(especially black woman) that has nearly every thing in common with me. To be honest, that hurt more than the way the ghetto girls treated me back in school. At least they were more direct, honest, and in your face. Even though I was called all kinds of names...anyway...I'm over it. At least it happened before I was emotionally attached to her. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2009 9:44:19 AM | | blondie900 - Your story gives me the chills! Being drugged and assaulted is a very common tactic these days, and much more likely to happen than threats or physical violence (the way most people think of rape occurring). More women need to know about it and protect themselves. And if it happens, report it, because **being drugged or unconscious is NOT CONSENT! ** Thanks for sharing your story! | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 5:23:46 AM | | I can only imagine, how awful for all of that bad stuff, I myself am getting a Divorce over this online crap I busted my husband of 10YEARS being a Player....I wonder if that was Him. May a Angel bless you all! | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 9:33:32 AM | My first POF dating experience was great...Something I'll always remember..He also was my first date in 8 yrs. since my hubby died.
The spark, magic, butterflies were there.. I felt very special and am thankful to have met him.
Unfortunately our differences were too much, so before I would let myself fall in love with him, I ended it, because I knew that down the road, it just wouldn't or couldn't work out...even though I'm an optimist person and believe that if you want it bad enough, you can get it. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 9:06:48 AM | | Well it's pretty obvious you were dating a married person. I should know..I just don't lie about it. | |
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