| Suggestions to avoid players/con artists
Posted: 12/16/2005 5:59:14 PM | regarding: Post number 2:
People who want to meet immediately.
People who want to exchange phone numbers immediately.
People who want anything immediately, actually...
I don't really see that (or at least in any of my circumstances) as a bad thing unless there is a twist (They want YOUR number won't give you theirs, want to know EXACTLY where you live but are vague about where they live) or they want you to meet at their HOUSE immediately and they don't even know your name yet......
But more importantly a non player/non con will repect you if you don't want to do those things immediately, but the player/con will get abusive when you say no. "Fine, either meet me or I'm not wasting my time with this Bullshit, yes or no?" (Said to me by a guy within 20 minutes of first IM'ng.) When I said 'No" he retorted "Well this certainly explains why you don't have a boyfriend!" Hoping that would offend me enough to show up...
I prefer to meet quickly as well, so I know I'm not being played or lied to about who they are....so those things in themselves are not bad things..... | |
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Posted: 12/16/2005 6:19:33 PM | LMAO!!!! Blast, you could NOT have asked for more of a compliment from Ironline had you paid the man, even though he did it by mistake!!!!
Iron, I have news for you there are many woman who look young for their age and maybe because your skewed you think those are fake photos, but I'd say your wrong...One of my friends looks very much like blast and is a year older than me (42) but guys are sure she's in her late twenties because she’s about 5’4 and weighs about 100 pounds....(only the small laugh lines next to her eyes, tell my friends true age)…… ….
Also I work with 3 women who are in their fifties, and every one would have sworn they were in their late thirties or early forties, until they announced their ages on their consecutive birthdays… | |
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| Suggestions to avoid players/con artists
Posted: 12/16/2005 7:09:09 PM | Never give your date of birth - for it will get used to get into your bank account. It is not a good idea to give out your e-mail address - for it will get used for sending out junk mail. Once they have your name and city they will have little problem getting your social security number. Not all women who claim to be a woman are female. Internet dating sites are used by many as a means of gathering information.
I have come to the conclusion that most profiles tell the truth based on how the writer sees it. We just don't have the time and money to seek what the truth is. So we end up going with blind faith and just discard with a push of a button what could have been a good relationship. Relationships are like loans where credit (relationships) created out of thin air, loaned out at interest suck the life blood out of the unwary. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2005 9:43:10 PM | | I have just been reading these threads.....and wow....i'm not the only one.....feeewww...once i read this blurb....I thought to myself that I know who your talking about....your friends "dream man"....would his name begin with a t....and end.....with a M....he is still hurting people and still riping them off....we need to chat... | |
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Posted: 12/16/2005 10:31:16 PM | | guys who want your number but wont gives his because he is in a process of waiting for one.lol or your place not his dont forget he is waiting for his condo to be renovated but it might take a long time. all this never comes. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2005 11:34:58 AM | amberzamber, you look accurate for your age in your pictures
but still look at least 13 years older than the Blasts pictures.
Dating Game 101 -gold digging women will use whatever
method available and what works to impress and target older men,
because older men have a tendency to have more money and material wealth.
If women want money and material wealth, they will be more
likely to avoid college boys and guys starting out who
have a tendencey to have less money and material wealth.
Anyone who has a brain, experience and intuition can pretty
well guess how old someone is, it may just take a bit of time. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2005 12:57:13 PM | blastkist, you talk about con artists like you're an authority on them
but there is something about you and your profile that seems to be
a con in itself. You claim to be 40 years old but the pictures posted
on your profile are definitely not ones of a 40 year old woman.
They are pictures of a woman in her 20s obviously.
I could suspect any of the following,
-you are a man pretending to be a woman
-a couple pretending to be one person
-a person posting old pictures
-a person posting fake pictures
-someone playing scams over dating sites using misrepresentation
-you are lying about your age
What even further makes me suspicious is that you are from Sudbury.
I have noticed about half a dozen Sudbury profiles with posted womens
pictures that are way too young looking for their age listed.
This is suggestive that there are some con artists from Sudbury
who are going all out on dating sites, probably leading guys on for
money or doing this for kicks...
I know this post is going to upset some of you who want to wallow
in denial. I am amazed that someone else has'nt noticed what I have.
This post is not a flamming or a trolling one. What's wrong with a
bit of reality outside of denial or taking BS profiles for granted?...
and besides it's about suggestions to avoid players/con artists.
Let's start by avoiding the ones with obviously misleading pictures...
Ironline, your posts didn't upset me at all and no I am not a con. I'm about as honest as they come. Sorry about your cynicism, but I think you already know who you are sir. I know I sure have a better picture than what you suspect I do at least.
I do apparently look young for my age. The pictures you see on my profile are all taken within the last year. I showed up at the POF bash and some people recognized me. I am met with shock quite often when I tell people that I am 40. It is inconsequential to me if you believe that or not ...sorry for your luck.
Your personal attack on me here is also very interesting. If my appearing younger than my years warrants that kind of behaviour, I'm truly fortunate I won't need to witness the others you have packed away in that emotional a*rsenall.
I am the anti-con. Being raised by one however, has made me an expert with them. That doesn't make me one. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2005 1:20:00 PM | I'm still not very convinced here... Why all the chronic Sudbury, too young looking for their age profiles?
I also look young for my age. I look late 20s, a lot of people tell me.
There are still not an epidemic of profiles in my vicinity of too young
looking for their age profiles...
A number of the same thing going on, speaks volumes to the observant mind... | |
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Posted: 12/17/2005 1:26:49 PM | Ironline that just sounds completely off the wall. LOL...it being a Sudbury epidemic????? Come on!
Maybe your "observant mind" needs to have its lens cleaned? | |
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Posted: 12/17/2005 8:00:40 PM | Fact of the matter is, you will never know. What may be a sign of him playing you maybe a sign of your own insecurity. I am sorry to say this but there is no guarantee that the person you are with or thinking of being with will not or is not a player. That is just the way it goes. You take a chance, but remeber, the chance of you not getting your heart broken is when you take your time, and by that I mean developing a full relationship with that person over a few years. Not days, weeks or even months. If you do your chances of getting "played" will be considerably higher as they may not be as emotionally attached to you. Spend time getting to know the person. If they are in it for the long haul they will still be around later. Still this is not a guarantee. I think that is why when you find someone you are really attracted to you get butterflies in your stomach, because you just don't know what is going to happen. When those butterflies disappear, it means you are comfortable around the person. I hear it so many time that people think the magic is gone, the problem is that they believe it was magic.
Take care. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2005 10:21:07 PM | | I've been reading the posts to this thread and find them to be very helpful. I think in all honesty, online dating and chat sites are a player/con artist's dream come true. They know they will find all kinds of lonely people looking for companionship and the picking is easy. That doesn't mean that everyone who uses these sites are trying to scheme and scam. There are honest people out there who are sincerely looking for a partner. But there are also those out there just looking to get over, get under, get in your pants, get in your bed, get in your head and take you for all you're worth. If you are lucky, you wont meet anybody like that. But if you are like most ordinary good hearted Janes and Johns, you should be prepared to come across somebody, during sometime in your life, who may not have your best interest at heart. Knowing the warning signs can spare you a lot of humiliation and heartache. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2005 8:25:32 PM | One danger is giving out too much info before or on the first date. By telling a potential romantic interest the things we are most looking for, gives them a lot of ammo to con us with, if they are so inclined. I've met several over the years that seemed to be everything I've ever wanted in a girlfriend only to find out later that they told me exactly what I wanted to hear, based on the clues I had given them beforehand.
@ ironline- I saw Blast a couple weeks ago. Her pictures are a pretty accurate reflection of the girl I met. | |
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mako28
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Joined: 11/25/2005
Msg: 114 | |
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| Suggestions to avoid players/con artists
Posted: 12/18/2005 8:58:51 PM | Quote ;
Ironline that just sounds completely off the wall. LOL...it being a Sudbury epidemic????? Come on!
There is this other epidemic on POF I notice, oftentimes those who accuse others of not posting recent pics or of posting false pics...DONT post a pic themselves......
very strange indeed....
BTW- my pics are 10 years old...and are of my evil twin brother-so sue me | |
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Posted: 12/19/2005 11:01:08 AM | blastkist, I had an 80 year old uncle who lived in a city
in Northern Ontario. The woman he knew was blond 27,
and worked and was related in outlaw bikers.
She provided him with friendship, blow jobs etc.
All to be well paid for of course.
The old guys are easier and faster to take and
usually have more money and materialistic items.
The old guys are also more defenseless.
Lots of women can say they're 40 to lead on the older guys.
Be very leary of these Northern Ontario blastkist types. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2005 6:58:04 AM | | ironline, just because somebody in your family was stupid enough to consider a hooker his girlfriend, doesn't give you the right to make ridiculous accusations of other people for no reason. Are you maybe upset because the outlaw bikers are now spending money that you thought was your rightful inheritance so now you're reacting by lashing out at others? | |
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Posted: 12/20/2005 7:06:46 AM | back to the original topic of this forum....
1 suggestion for avoiding players/con artists would be to listen to/take advice from people close to you. Sometimes a person's judgement can very easily be clouded by their attraction to another person, or by their being flattered by the attention of the other person, that they become blind to warning signs that may be obvious to others around them. If your closests friends are trying to warn you, it's not jealousy, it's concern about something that you may be in denial of. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2005 10:43:03 AM | i got some advice for you all...
DONT DATE ANYONE>.. we all have some player in us... i mean who here doesnt try to put on your best foot forward when you meet someone.. that is playing!!! | |
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Posted: 12/20/2005 12:01:41 PM | single guy 70, you're ignorant. My uncle was'nt stupid at all.
He was just old. There is such a thing as elder abuse.
That would be too advanced of a concept for a Neanderthal
such as yourself.
My uncle was in every Canadian Army part of WWII.
In every country Canadians fought in WWII. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2005 1:40:48 PM | I do sympathise with your uncles situation, I am sorry if I implied that he was stupid or ignorant. However.. the point I was making was that you had no reason, other than your own narrow-minded, bitterness & ignorance to imply that Blastkist had any similarities to the person or people who hustled your uncle. You seem to be making your comparission based only on peoples geographic location.
But hey, what the hell do I no? Apparently I'm the 1 whose forum posts make me look like an ignorant neanderathol. | |
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j-mix
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Joined: 10/4/2005
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| Suggestions to avoid players/con artists
Posted: 12/20/2005 2:03:45 PM |
Garf: People who want to meet immediately.
People who want to exchange phone numbers immediately.
People who want anything immediately, actually...
hi.
i want to to talk by phone and meet immediately, but i'm not a player.
few girls, just asked me to go out immediately, and i cannot call them players...
from point of safety may be you are right, but this is wrong about players... | |
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Posted: 12/20/2005 2:05:25 PM | | Maybe we could all benefit from ironline's resonable, level-headed intelligence. If you meet anybody on here, ask him to use his incredible ability to accurately judge them based entirely on their geographic location, and by looking at a 2"x2" photo. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2005 11:29:07 AM | everyone probably noticed, (except for single guy 70)
that blastkist case (who usually blows her mouth off),
had not one word to say after the mention of outlaw bikers... | |
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Posted: 12/21/2005 12:10:33 PM | blastkist....
Just imagine what it will be like for the con. When his/her last breath comes and they know it...when the cards are stacked against them and they can no longer have the control, imagine being in their minds in that last moment of life when there is no turning back. When they face the bitter truth of death...even for them, such haughty creatures. I pale at the thought. I choose an authentic human experience. The con dies a very lonely death. They cannot grasp their fragile nature as a human being. It will be their first lesson and their last. Death always wins.
Yes, this is so true...it's too bad they can't see it until it's too late.
I am ashamed to say that that very fact gives me a small sense of peace, after being in a relationship with a sociopath(con artist)...it is a surreal experience, and not easily understood by people who have never experienced it.
As far as how to avoid them...someone else here said "don't give anyone too much information about you and what you want too soon" They will take your insecurities and your dreams and use them to play you. Trust should be earned...it is not a given | |
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