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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 5/31/2008 2:15:52 PM | From what I've seen, As this goes with both men and women. Most of whom are older are worried about the "Young'ns" being immature. It seems that everyone wants a partner that is stable and able to handle life and emotion and such.
So, Its not really being scared about dating a younger Age, Its about being scared of someone that doesn't have the mentality to keep up with a more....seasoned dater. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:29:59 PM | | OMG...lol...Carlisleman ...you are one brave person saying that to many of us women who have dignity and worth and are QUITE fine with their 'achieved' wrinkles. Many life contibutions to those so called 'wrinkles' buddy. And do you really think that when your 60 or so that you will not have acquired any? try gettin a date with a 20 yr old then...wow, show some respect for people... | |
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jani1
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:11:03 PM | I'm not "scared" of dating younger men, I am uninterested. Big difference. Not interested in being a teacher, mentor, counselor, or anything else someone with significantly less life experience than I might require.
Not to mention the fact that if the age difference is large enough, you won't even be in the same life stage. No thanks. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:11:04 PM | I'm the opposite -- I'm drawn toward younger men. Aside from the physical attraction, I find that so many younger guys still have a lot of enthusiasm for life, passion and a great sense of humor. This is something I SOMETIMES find missing in men my age (please note that I am trying not to generalize and I'm certainly not saying that that happens all the time).
There is a certain automatic amount of baggage that goes along with being in one's 40s or 50s -- I certainly have lots of my own -- and I generally find that to be absent in younger men or not quite as prominent as in guys my own age.
The downside is that I don't know if I could have a serious relationship with somebody 20 years younger than me. For sure, I could be friends or be sexually attracted, but I'm not looking for a fling, however tempting that may be, so I don't see a future in it. BUT I definitely do find younger guys intriguing | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:11:49 PM | I don't think we are scared to date younger men, but there are issues to be considered if both people are looking for long term relationships. I have found that a lot of the younger men that I may be interested in still want children. While I'd have no problem welcoming any existing children he may have, I don't want to have any more myself.
With the exception of the last 2 guys I dated, I have always dated older men. I was never attracted to younger. I find that changing now and am not sure how I feel about it. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:25:34 PM | I'm far from scared. Not too long ago jumped back into the dating pool after being divorced from my ex for 4 years and was really surprised that my first dates were with a 25 year old and a 27 year old. Also have been recieving email from other guys in their 20's. Actually this is kind of perplexing to me as I will be *gasp* 45 in just a few days, but what the hell. I'm having fun.  | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:32:54 PM | | I am not scared of dating "younger" guys, actually I perfer men whom are younger than myself. I find that I can relate to them better and usually they share the same interests as I do... | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:39:56 PM | | It seems to me that it's the "younger men" who are afraid. It's not the age that matters, it's the mental and physical chemistry that counts...and that has no age limits. I have dated many younger men but the older I get fewer they ask. Most younger men are looking for a woman to "breed with." Since I am well beyond the "childbearing age" I suppose I don't bother with them as much since I know they are temporary. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:43:49 PM | Well, I have dated a younger man and true to form our relationship goals were different. I think older women are aware that younger men often see them as easy sexual partners. In fact, I think it may have been written up in one of those men's health magazines.
It's also a little repetitive - they always say the same thing - I like older women because they know who they are, they are intelligent and have an established life, and they don't play games.
I think the game they are referring to is that they don't have to be courted.
Surprise -- yes they do. | |
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| Why older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 7:00:56 PM | I don't mind dating younger guy, my only concern is what's their motive in dating? is it only for fun? for one night stand ? or whatever it is , is it for good if things work out both ways? I have to meet him first in person, if he looks a lot younger with his age, and I look a lot older in person, then I probably not going to start dating him. But if he looks older in person than I am or almost same age in person then I will give it a try. I definitely will not be only for fun or for a one night stand.   | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 7:08:12 PM | | I dont know why i was scared of dating a younger guy. I guess because your always afraid of them being inmature or not looking for the same things that i am in a relationship. exspecially when they dont have kids and i do.I have tried to be open minded lately. I have had some good converstions with some younger guys. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 7:21:39 PM | I am not 'afraid'. I don't want to waste my time with someone whose looking for bragging rights. I don't want to explain the Beattles or why something is funny.
I ask them "Why an older woman?" "What will you say when some says 'Is that your mother?"
The response has been "older women are better lovers". Not necessarily so. "Older women no what they want." Not all of them. I love this next one "Older women don't play games." A player is a player and if an older woman wants to plays games, she's much better at it.
I prefer a younger man, mainly because he's more likely to be able to keep up with me than someone my age. The youngest man to hit on me was 24 years old. My youngest grandchild is 14; the oldest 27. How can I take him seriously? | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 8:20:47 PM | | i dated a man 9 yrs younger for 4 years. then he started dating a 18 yr old behind my back. i'm trying to not let it effect the way i look at younger men. i guess i need someone to show me that a 20 something can be a grown up. since guys my age all seem to want to date young girls. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 8:22:42 PM | This older woman is not scared about dating younger men. Heavens, at MY age, I'm not very likely to find OLDER men!
I'm healthy, active, vibrant and full of spunk.... Why shouldn't I date anyone with whom I'm compatible...regardless of his age....well, within reason, of course....
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/9/2008 11:02:40 PM | | It has nothing to do with fear. I can't imagine dating someone younger then me, heck five years is pushing it for me. I have been hit on by younger men my son's age. Tho it's flattering, no way. Maturity, life experiences mmmmm. Many reasons but fear is not one of them. And going along with others, I am not into teaching. I prefer older men or atleast near my age. | |
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