| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 3/28/2009 9:29:53 PM | | It really depends how younger...I couldn't date a guy my daughter's age and it also depends on what both are looking for in the relationship. I doubt that a 30 year old guy would want to have a long-term relationship with a 40 something woman..especially if he wants children one day. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 3/28/2009 9:35:46 PM | Personally, I just don't find younger men attractive sexually. They look like children to me. I go for men at least a few years older, and ideally, more like ten. Always have.
I get hit on by younger guys all the time, though. I mean, 20-somethings. It's the strangest thing. Even here, where I have it on my profile that I am seeking someone older than I, I still get mails from men in their 30s (I don't have an age restriction because I want fellow forum posters to be able to contact me).
It's flattering and all, but, no. Just doesn't appeal.
I guess this is as much a preference as the oft-discussed height or weight, really. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 3/29/2009 2:23:29 AM | | Simple answer really. Because we age. While it might be great fun for say a 45 year old woman to date a man who's 35, after 5 years she will be 50 and he'll only be 40 and the fear is that he'll then be attracted to women in their 20s and 30s rather than his 50 year old partner. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 3/29/2009 5:23:04 AM | Of course, each to ones own opinion but I do disagree with you Gloop100, both sexes age. LOTS of older men want to, and many do, date women 25-30 years or more younger without a single thought as to his own aging processes: hearing loss, teeth loss, belly enlargement, wrinkly butt, no driving after dark, prostate problems, Viagra, and no more children. No one ever seems to question that.
You are talking about vital and attractive women in their 40s, who suddenly in five years have aged! I think you are selling them, yourself, short.
In my opinion, a difference of age, within reason for both sexes, should not matter. I'd like to think that we, as women, have over-come that age-hurdle and want to live life to its fullest without that double-standard of yesteryear. I've dated younger men who are lots of fun, energetic, educated, interested, and interesting. Don't sell them short either.
Every one of us comes to the table with something to yet to learn and I never want to feel that I've already learned it all. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 3/29/2009 5:38:40 AM | I'm sort of sitting on the fence with this topic. I'd like to think I'm open-minded enough not to care but it DOES make a difference. My friend's 23 year old brother is dating a woman who is 38 and it really bugs me to be around them. She tries so hard to act younger but then tells him what to do. Then only thing she doesn't do is tuck his napkin into his collar for him at the table!
I met a couple of guys here who were a few years younger than me. They're fun to hang out with... and loads more sexually. But at the end of the day the emotional maturity just isn't there yet cause they haven't had the same life experiences. A lot of them are like puppies that are all about playing. NOT ALL... but most :) | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 3/29/2009 6:02:19 AM | In my case, I'm not scared of dating younger men. I don't find them to be what I am looking for.
I need man that has lived similar or more years than I have to be able to have common grounds to talk about and share. For me dating involves intellectual interaction, emotional connection and of course amazing sex in the end and after a certain conditions are existent.
A man way younger than me can not give me the first two points. I am sure sex per se would probably be great....but I will feel empty in the end.
I can date as much as 5-7 younger....not more.
Of course it also depends on the specific man's level of maturity. Lets not forget some of us could be sixty and the maturity level doesn't exceed that of a 24 years old. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 3/29/2009 6:45:18 AM | Whenandwhere20, granted a 38 year old dating someone in their early 20s is a bit much and that goes both ways and with both sexes. I do agree with you about emotional maturity, but why would any emotionally mature man or woman even want to date too immature, no matter their age? I've met men in their 50s who have made me run for cover... that is, to hide, because they must have some loose screws.
I think that we, as adult women and men, need to stop thinking about a number and start thinking instead of dating responsibly. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 3/29/2009 7:23:46 AM | I had a six month relationship with a woman much older than I was. I met her when I was outside at work and she was at a garage sale ,haha silly me. Anyway, it was okay for me in the beginning personally because the age difference did not bother me at all. Although when we went out we would get a lot of stares, and meeting her friends was awkward.
I broke it off because, as she also admitted, I was much too mature for her! Ironic considering I was the young pup in the romance. Relationships with such an age gap are not meant to last for too long but can be beneficial to both parties in my opinion. As long as there is open communication about how both feel in the relationship. I made it clear from the beginning that, considering the wide age gap, this would not last long but we could still both enjoy what we have for the time being. We had a lot of fun and remain friends to this day. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 4/14/2009 3:16:57 AM | | I don't know that it's true that older women are afraid of dating younger men. For years, when I was younger, I dated mostly older women. When I was 18 I dated an 28 year-old. When I was 21 I dated a 34 year-old. None of them seemed afraid about the relationships they had with me. The relationships ended because the age differences presented challenges they would have been idiots to take on as long-term commitments. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 4/18/2009 8:28:09 PM |
I'm sort of sitting on the fence with this topic. I'd like to think I'm open-minded enough not to care but it DOES make a difference. My friend's 23 year old brother is dating a woman who is 38 and it really bugs me to be around them. She tries so hard to act younger but then tells him what to do. Then only thing she doesn't do is tuck his napkin into his collar for him at the table!
I met a couple of guys here who were a few years younger than me. They're fun to hang out with... and loads more sexually. But at the end of the day the emotional maturity just isn't there yet cause they haven't had the same life experiences. A lot of them are like puppies that are all about playing. NOT ALL... but most :)
Seems though that nowadays with everyone being more sexually active, women realize that they call the shots and so for the better sex they will go younger. As us guys get older we are no longer desired sexually, and especially with it being the norm for women to act and feel younger why not go after the young guys.
Seems the days of men acting younger are gone because we will get 'Grow up and act your age'
More of a double standard is in place these days and it will just get worse in the future.
We lose our hair, get gray, add some weight and we are now no longer "worthwhile" and when women see these hot young guys, how can a guy in his 40's compete with that? Exactly. Emotional maturity may come to mind AFTER the fact, but the great sex will keep any woman around the young guys longer. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 4/19/2009 6:28:22 AM | The youngest I've ever gone is two years younger.  We were a long term relationship and he's my best friend today, but I have always dated guys older than myself. I guess I'm just attracted to older guys. But ...
I know I'm open minded enough to realize that finding that special someone who matches me is a journey and that special someone can come in any shape, size, color, height, age etc, and may not be someone I was looking for or "expecting". With that knowledge I try not to rule anyone out. So ... I've been looking at profiles of the younger guys who have contacted me. I just don't understand why they're contacting me. I have yet to see a profile of someone considerably younger (the youngest was 18, a few in their 20s, the majority in their 30s) who has messaged me, who shares any similar interests or experiences at all. But I wouldn't rule out someone younger I click with simply because of age.
Sexy just is, and what everyone finds sexy is very idividual. Age isn't a factor. A man can be sexy and at his prime in his 20s through his 60s and beyond, it just depends on the man. Same with women. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 4/19/2009 6:45:26 AM | I'm not a woman, but I can answer this because I've dated a few people that were a few years older than me: It's a maturity thing.
Even if you are very mature for your age, most of the time...younger men are not. A lot of guys when they are in their early twenties still act like they did in highschool, and have not made the transition towards being a true adult which is why most women don't like younger men.
Women want a man who can take care of them, they don't want a man they have to take care of themselves, which basically is what they get when they date anyone far younger than them. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 4/19/2009 2:03:20 PM | "scared" isn't the right word.
We have been around the block. I think I am just a better judge of character....and I am getting better at it all the time.
I date who I want to date. Relationships take time to build and not all 'dates' move into the relationship realm. Dates can be one time things or a series of friendly get togethers or like ajob interview where you really hope you have the right candidate to move to the next phase....
It isn't being scared.... | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 4/19/2009 5:30:00 PM | because younger men have the brains of a toad stool. My sister says men dont start growing brain cells until 25 and she may have a point.
Young guys are into mostly one thing; drinking and sex and not in that order.
There are exceptions but not many. | |
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dwf44
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 4/19/2009 8:29:51 PM |
because younger men have the brains of a toad stool. My sister says men dont start growing brain cells until 25 and she may have a point.
Young guys are into mostly one thing; drinking and sex and not in that order.
There are exceptions but not many.
I think you are in the minority on this one. The majority of women will say otherwise. Read the threads, all you ever read is praise for the younger guys, negative comments about us old guys.
According to most, men over 40 it seems are pervs, men under 40 are gentlemen. And when that starts to be the consensus among women over 35 I will say, then we have a huge problem. It becomes a generalization that will stick around for years.
I think almost ALL women would date a younger hot guy if given the chance. What may stop them from acting on it is what thier children or family might think if they found out.
Samething goes for when women in thier 20's would date men 15+ years older, many of them would not want thier family to find out. Now women today in thier 20's don't date much older. But with so many women dating and preferring younger, they will eventually act on it, discreetly if they are scared of anyone finding out.
Ask most of these older women, they would much prefer sex with a young stallion than an old fart 40+ who loses his erection during or before sex. Women are sick of that.
Like I say, why a guy would want to embarrass himself is beyond me, maybe he thinks in his mind he is better? I know I can't compete with a guy 15 years younger than me. So why would I want to try to prove that I am when the women already know that it sure ain't true. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 4/19/2009 10:21:44 PM | Everyone is different and has a preference but really if a woman is Denying you because of your age alone than to me that shows you their matureity level.
Its about time in life that people start individualizing people instead of stereotyping.
Im in the minority of younger men who attract older women all the time and Ive come across a few who werent to fond of dating a younger man and after dating me I changed their whole perspective on the matter.
I agree that most men under 30 are probabaly still figuring their life out and tooling around but not all.
theres men who are 40 who act 20 and men who are 40 that have a young spirit same can be said about men in their 20s, not all of us are out drinking all the time and dont have our heads on straight, Hell Ive dated women 35+ who were to immature for me.
I know that any woman knows when they get a young guy whos mature has his life in order and can please them ultimately sexwise they know they have Gold.... | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 4/20/2009 11:04:48 AM | Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Well, I can only speak for myself, being an older woman.
Here are my reasons:
1. I sold my high chair
2. My last child just left home, and his room is now CLEAN.
3. I don't play well with women in my own age group who are worried about me replacing them as their son's mama.
4. I have graduated college and don't want to help with homework anymore.
5. I have forgotten how to "teach" , and frankly, don't have the patience. | |
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