| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 6/8/2006 5:29:00 PM | If by scared, you mean uninterested... count me in. I want someone on the same page as me.
Sure.. the young things are pretty and all, but the nerves are fried after hanging around them a while. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/24/2007 11:16:03 PM | Women are scared cause there is no future in it. It's fun for a while...but if you get attached to the young man, you're going to get hurt...so better not to even start.
Okay, now having admitted that part, once you do give in to it and actually date a younger guy...then that's all you want. Sorry older guys but it's true. Young men are fun and have ummm....more energy. I imagine it's the same for men dating younger women. It's hard to say no, especially when the only ones asking you out are younger. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/24/2007 11:34:34 PM | In a lot of cases but not all cases, it is more likely for a man to feel less serious or take it as some one just for sex when the woman is a lot older than himself.
I guess its the type of guys who care about sex more than relationships and they find older women as an easier target. These older women can see through this and that's why a lot of older women may seem tedious about the situation. I don’t blame them. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/24/2007 11:39:22 PM | in my opinion it is the fact that most(not all) younger guys act very immature(i.e. slang,music, only about sex) and then you gotta think maybe we aren't scared to do it we don't want to do it.   and younger men are most of the time way to jealous | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/25/2007 2:18:29 PM | The reasons that some women here have stated are that younger men are only looking for sex, younger men are immature, and there is no long term future. I will address each of points.
1. Only looking for sex.
Yes there are some younger men who are ONLY looking for sex, but this can often be a 2 way street. In some cases, an older woman is recently divorced or is too busy with her career and family to have a serious relationship. I have seen some women in their 40s go after men who are 20 yrs younger than them at some bars and clubs. Being with a younger man can be an ego boost to them.
2. Younger Men are Immature.
This may be true if the woman is 30 and the man is 20. If the man is 30 and the woman is 40, then this would be less likely to be factor. In general a 30 yr old man is a lot more mature than a 20 yr old.
3. No Long Term Future
Not always. Some men really appreciate the maturity and wisdom of an older woman. Some older women have the same interests and lifestyle with younger men. There are more attractive and single older women now due to a variety of reasons. If the age difference is between 5-10 yrs, a long term relationship can work out. If the age difference is 15-20 yrs, then a long term relationship would be less likely to work out because the younger man and older woman would have different long term plans and goals in many instances. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/25/2007 2:25:56 PM | I am not scared of dating younger men..
however I won't date them.. becuase I find that i have absolutely nothing in common with a younger man..
I personally prefer older men... many of the younger men who have expressed an interes in me are men who are into hiphop have their pants hanging around their ankles and want to hang out at bars drinking etc.. and i'm just not into that at this point in my life..
but we all have our preferences.. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/25/2007 2:40:16 PM | | I'm not "scared" of dating younger men. In fact, I almost exclusively date ONLY younger men...and most of them significantly younger. Perhaps that is the part of me that doesn't want to "grow up." I have done so since I got divorced at 30. However, I am not really looking for a serious relationship at this point. I am just enjoying having fun and younger guys are definitely lots of fun! Also, most guys as young as you aren't looking to "settle down." At such point that I decide I am, I personally don't see myself getting serious with anyone who is more than 10 years younger. There are always exceptions, though. And, I have learned to "never say never!" | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/25/2007 9:04:59 PM | | I'm with you kido, my last relationship, well, I'm 57 and he was 39, perfecto in every department. Chemistry, mentally and physically. I'm dating another 39 year old. Oh, it helps to have good genetics too. Age has no limits. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/25/2007 9:53:42 PM | After a certain age, it is virtually irrelevant. Of course, that age varies with the individual. Personally, I have enjoyed dating younger men; I love the energy and enthusiasm. Older guys are set in their ways, want to sit around and watch TV and talk about their physical ailments. I want to dance, go out, have nice dinners and wine and good conversation. I can find men who want the same things I do at any age.
For me, however, I notice that many of the younger men have very limited manners, dress poorly and can't carry on a conversation without sexual intonations. Probably has to do with their upbringing and maturity level. I raised one son, so am not going to raise another just so he knows how to act in public.
Take each one as an individual and you will open yourself up to new perspectives and have some fun along the way. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/26/2007 5:58:18 AM | I get a lot of messages from younger guys. And when I say younger, some have been as young as 18. We aren't afraid to date younger men, we are just smart enough to know what most are after. For some reason they view us as easy. I have news for them...I was much easier in my early 20's, lol.
For me, I do tend to date a bit younger as I am not terribly interested in men more than a few years older than I because for some reason they all appear much older than their stated age. I may not pass for a twenty-something, but I don't look 10-15 years older either. I am also still very active. I prefer my men to look and act the same, so early to mid 30's to about 40 is my ideal guy. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/26/2007 7:19:23 AM | Dating a younger guy doesnt bother me at all, I think the issue is more what you have in common. Alot of older women date younger guys for the sex, and if that is all that is wanted then that is fine. I need more of a connection than that, but most that I am interested in are indeed younger than me, I gues s because I dont act or feel my age.
**shrugs** | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/26/2007 9:58:00 AM | I am not afraid to date a younger man,I have done it. He was so great and sweet, The problem was me. He just didn't have the life experiences I have had it made it rough for common ground. I mean he was only 32. He had never been married or had children. He hadn't traveled like I have. etc etc. There just ran out of common ground to talk about. He was areally nice guy just not for me.
I know have changed my dating habits after this experience 10 younger and 10 older. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/27/2007 10:45:07 AM | I have dated a number of women in their early twenties over the last several years and it has inevitably been a failure. The sex is ok, but you need to have some things in common to talk about in between the bouts of sex. I much prefer women in my own age group for sex. I have also found that the young women have incredible jealousy and control issues. They are still kids and are used to fighting and screaming and pouting to get their own way instead of intelligent give and take.
As far as women dating younger guys, well, whatever floats your boat, but when you turn fifty, ready to settle down and tired of the merrygoround, that young guy is going to vanish and go in search of a 35 yr old milf while you are left looking into the mirror and wondering what you are going to do now. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/27/2007 10:49:41 AM | I'm not scared. I'm simply not interested. I don't want to be "with" someone who is not much older than my own kids.
Besides, for you young guys, it's just a "novelty" thing...something to do just so you can say you did it. I don't want to be that to anyone, thanks. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/27/2007 11:01:22 AM | Well here's the thing, Custis...I can't say "all," but "most" of the men in my age group are looking for women in their 20's. Most of the emails I get are from people way younger than me or way, WAY older than me. If I have to choose between someone who is 5 years younger than me or 15-20 years older than me, I'm going with the younger guy. I am not interested in dating my daddy.
However, "too young" and "too old" are the only men who seem to be interested in me. I don't know if it's most women in my age group that have this happening or if it's just me.
My "ideal" would be someone around my own age, maybe a few years older, but those guys just aren't interested in me. So what do you do in that situation? It's not like there are a million men (in my area, anyway) my age who are looking for someone my age. Some of them even have emails from people their own age blocked! "you must be under 40 to email this person," and these guys are anywhere from 40-47.
So what can we do about "settling down" with someone our own age, when the men our own age won't even look in our direction, let alone consider us an option? | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/27/2007 11:19:57 AM | | Not scared at all, I prefer em younger. Not as much baggage, not as judgemental, more active, and not so damn intense and serious about landing someone as the men my age or older seem to be. Works for me... | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/27/2007 11:21:03 AM | Oh boy!that lebanese lion is soooo cheeky!
I have always dated younger men,apart from two guys,older men seem more controlling,you know,hugging the remote etc.i get bored watching TV all the time anyway.
Younger men are so much fun,and tend to be more adventurous,i,m not knocking older guys here,just my own experience,For instance the one older guy,used to say start without me, and i,ll join you later,get the picture???and i need someone to keep up with me,i,m young in heart and mind. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 8/27/2007 6:55:04 PM | | I think because there are alot of younger guys who are going after older woman. I think they feel that its an easier relationship & that the women are more experienced. But ultimately most older woman have and/or dont want children. Honestly, they are women who are just a few years older and dont want a relationship that has no potential, really, they dont want to set themselves up to be hurt. Its like some kind of fad these days. Though younger man/older woman relationships have been around & are actually more successful than the average. I think alot of guys are attracted to older woman, just like younger women are attracted to older guys. It think there are just more guys that allow stigmas to interfere with there choices. I think people should be more open-minded because the divorce rate is so high & the successful/true happy marriage rate is extremely low. Which really couldnt speak any louder! One must find happiness within themselves before they can find happiness with another person. Age isnt an across the board indicator of anything, nothing is promised or definative. Though I do believe there is a reasonable/healthy age difference & differences that are not reasonable/healthy. For me, I think 8-9 years younger or older is healthy, just my take.... | |
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