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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/6/2007 10:40:00 PM | It depends on the 'younger man'. They have often not learned the lessons of a successful relationship.
I have dated, since my divorce- someone 20, someone 27, someone 32, someone 49 and someone 50. However, I found they all had lessons to learn.
I am not afraid of dating a younger man, but the other part is stability. I have a 10 yr old daughter, I own my own home. If I were to engage in such a relationship, I would want him on par financially or at least near it. I don't want another 'kid' just living off of me if the relationship got serious.
That is the logical side of me. If I fell completely in love withsomeone that is 24, the relationship would happem. That is the emotional side of me. Hopeless romantic. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/14/2007 12:36:44 AM | I don't think women are exactly scared, so much as angry from all the young guys on this site who just want sex, with no strings. And if you say NO, you never know what he might have slipped into your drink.
So many male College students claim older women are an easy catch. My former room mate was like that, going from one woman to another, telling me he's just giving them what they want... a young sexy man in their bed. Just look at the young muscular guys on soap operas!
Compare it to young women looking for a Sugar Daddy. Why date a guy her own age if she can get a man with a great job, nice house, money to buy her everything she wants, and all she has to do is have sex with him?
It's wrong, but it's out there. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/14/2007 1:42:50 AM | | I may be wrong, but I think older women tend to look for more serious, stable relationships whereas younger guys just want more mature women for some fun. Most men want relationships with women their own age or younger and women who are older are often seen as a bit of short term fun. Some guys like being toy boys, they love the excitement of being with someone older, but they will not commit to them. I think women realise this, that's why they're cautious of them. I'm just thinking of Liz Hurley.... | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/14/2007 2:17:11 AM | | I don't mind dating younger guys. Recently been dating one who is only 30. It's the maturity/responsibility/sensibility a man has that I look at, not his age. He just happens to like older women. We both are keeping options open. We've talked, laughed, and debated issues openly with each other... even talked about sex. We've only dated a couple weeks now, so we haven't taken things to a sexual level. Just having a good time in each others company! | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/14/2007 3:26:55 AM | Because they are more likely on a whole to be unrealiable, unfocused, selfish and unstable. Oh and cheat with someone younger!
Not always obviously but it is definitely a general rule! | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/14/2007 3:37:47 AM |
I depends on their maturity not their age
This is true, at least dating older women has its rewards, they at least know what they want!
But i guess some don't just because there is more risk with a younger guy, depends how much younger though. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/14/2007 3:38:55 AM | Not scared at all - I choose to date younger guys - men my age do nothing for me!
Have met some lovely guys on this site, all younger, some considerably.
Doesn't scare me - excites me!! | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/14/2007 4:04:37 AM | Scared, isn't an apt description. It is amazing to me the number of younger men who contact older women. If they posess humor, intelligence and are over a consensual age
then the difference is just a number to me. However, I find that men closer to my age are more likely to find the same things funny that I do, in addition to the fact that by virtue of their age alone, they have more experience in many areas. It's really an individuals choice, one that I base on the person, rather than their age. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/14/2007 5:17:02 AM | depends on the age difference as well. If you are speaking of 5 or so.. its no biggie. BUT if you are speaking of 10 or more there are many variables that would cause some concern:
1... We have our children and most likely dont want more. ( not fair to young man)
2.. We are settled.. careers, homes, etc... ( young man may not be her equal in that area and lets face it... who wants to marry "down"?
3... Health issues in years to come... ( do you want to be straddled down to a woman 10 yrs older and 10 yrs more advanced in body falling apart?) lol
You get the drift....  | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/14/2007 6:06:40 AM | I dont think they're scared I think it's a matter of choice. Like many of the women who responded, they are fine with dating younger men, but for myself I prefer someone closer to my own age who shares common experiences.
I don't usually date younger men, although I have done so at times. For a long term relationship, I like to think it will be with an older man, but who knows what will happen if it's the right person. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/17/2007 11:43:26 AM |
depends on the age difference as well. If you are speaking of 5 or so.. its no biggie. BUT if you are speaking of 10 or more there are many variables that would cause some concern:
1... We have our children and most likely dont want more. ( not fair to young man)
2.. We are settled.. careers, homes, etc... ( young man may not be her equal in that area and lets face it... who wants to marry "down"?
3... Health issues in years to come... ( do you want to be straddled down to a woman 10 yrs older and 10 yrs more advanced in body falling apart?) lol
These things could be a concern in SOME cases, but not all cases. Suppose a 30 yr man dates a 40 yr old women.
1. It is possible that the man already has kids or doesn't want kids. It is also possible that a woman in her early 40s might want to have 1 more kid with her current younger husband/boyfriend.
2. A 30 yr old man could have his own house, successful career etc or could make more money than a 40 yr woman especially if he has a better job.
3. An average woman lives about 5-7 years longer than the average man. Therefore on average she would only die 3-5 yrs before he does. Also if a man dates an older woman, in many cases she is very active, has the same interests and lifestyle with younger men and looks younger than her actual age. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/17/2007 12:10:57 PM | | I must admit, I have had a few younger guys contact me but I have never actually dated a younger guy. Maybe I am missing out on something and maybe not I don't know. Now if someone is within 5 years of my age I really don't class that as being a younger man but if they are much younger than me that then I worry that we will be looking for the same things in life. Will he want kids ( I don't want more) I have less than 2 years and both of mine will be in college and it is time for me to do what I want to do. I am 40 now, if I date someone 30 when happens when he is 40 and I am 50, will he feel different then. I also wouldn't feel right dating someone closer to my daughters age than mine. Also to be honest usually when I get an IM from a younger guy he usually very quickly gets sexual in conversation, and I am not looking for a fling or to share my desires with a stranger on the computer. Now of course I know not everyone younger guy out there does this but it has been my experience. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/17/2007 12:15:16 PM | | People are people. I love sex and a lot of older men can't keep up. but a lot of younger men don't have the financial stability to sustain an long term relationship. That's the reality of it. I don't want to support a man - I've done it. I've raised someone else's kids - done. Don't want anymore - most younger guys are either tied down by their own or want to start some. And as for the " teacher" comments I've read below, I want a man who doesn't assume he knows my body and what makes me tick but one who is willing to learn me and that works both ways. I also want someone who I can travel with and not just by tour bus. Age is not important if you have what I'm looking for. I'm always hit on by 30 to 40 year olds on up. So the fact that I have to put the truth of my age, on these sites is a drawback because of the number. Just another form of prejudice. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/17/2007 7:22:05 PM | | I don't know about you guys, but I've been hit on by women much older than me....old enough to be my mom. I don't know what they see in me other than being on the right path in life...maybe that's it. Who knows!? I just find it uncanny and funny when a 40yr old women makes juvenile comments.... | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/17/2007 9:13:29 PM | depends on the age difference as well. If you are speaking of 5 or so.. its no biggie. BUT if you are speaking of 10 or more there are many variables that would cause some concern:
10 yr age difference could be an issue if he is 18/21 and she is 30. An 18/21 yr old man is often immature, naive, still dependent on his parents etc. I don't think a 10 yr age difference is an issue if he is in late 20s/early 30s and she is in her late 30s/early 40s. A man in late 20s/early 30s could be more compatible with older women and vice versa. Or maybe he met a nice woman who happens to be older. I think a 20 yr age difference could be a problem. I doubt a long term relationship would work between a 30 yr old man and a 50 yr old woman. Most likely a 30 yr old man and a 50 yr old woman would have different long term plans. Most likely a relationship between a 30 yr old man and a 50 yr old woman would be a short term casual sexual fling although there are a few exceptions. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/17/2007 9:36:49 PM |
Most likely a relationship between a 30 yr old man and a 50 yr old woman would be a short term casual sexual fling although there are a few exceptions.
Guess my friends are "exceptions" then.
He... 29+. She... 48+. Meet, fall crazy for each other, and move in together.
Now...10 almost 11 years later? Sickeningly, disgustingly,all over each other while the rest of us gag with envy... | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/17/2007 9:48:23 PM | | im only 25 but i wont date anyone younger than me, due to the fact they r either immature or they are superficial or too dependant. and the other factor is if men get a younger woman THEY'S THE MAN......if a woman gets a younger man they r labelled cradle snatchers....... go figure | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/17/2007 9:55:15 PM | not scared it feels wierd when someone with a boys face comes on to you some younger guys just look too young . other than that im twenty seven and i believe you fall in love with the person not age,its who makes you feel unreal that matters | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/17/2007 10:03:45 PM | | I am more scared of woman who date men half their age, usually woman with very underdeveloped brains. They are definitely missing something upstairs, or have deviance and incapability of thinking beyond impulse. Lack of control or no internal compass is frightening. They know the likelihood of long term is less than minus ten percent so I am guessing it is an ego boost and that is scary in my books. Playing with a young persons immaturity of mind is a frighteningly deviant behaviour not unlike a man in the same situation. If my 24 year old daughter was interested in a guy 50 I did something very wrong in raising her, or I would be in jail for murder. This kind of behaviour has strong identifiable markers in poor role modelling in their parental nurturance . Show me a woman who loves the attention of a kid half her age and I can guarantee she was neglected in childhood, there is science to prove this. And for you who are appalled at these statements it is not my opinion this is researched facts proven easily by googling the clinical data on this subject. Go into the scholarly articles on this and then shoot back. Logic outweighs opinions. | |
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| Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 9/18/2007 12:01:36 AM | I'm not scared to date younger guys, but I probably wouldn't want to go much more than 10 years younger. For one, I am looking for something more lasting and two.. if he was too young, it would be like dating one of my son's friends. | |
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