| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 8/29/2009 8:09:45 AM | | I'm 48 and in the best shape of my life.6'4"-258 lbs.,8% body phat.Been this way all my life so dont say,"all fit guys will have a gut by the time their forty".Its called dedication and caring about ones health.You got a problem with us "big guys".Then get into the gym and transform your body and get healthy.You'll feel better than you ever have and its well worth it.I do it for me and no-one else. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 8/29/2009 8:42:25 AM | RUNNING FROM A BEAR rolling round the floor laughing - that was rip roaring funny, thank you poster you cheered me up no end.
Fit for me - as it says on my profile, means @Healthy' you dont have to be thin to be healthy, anyone who is carrying extra weight has the possability of heart failure, strokes, diabetis and many more illnesses that people who keep themselves within the health guidelines for their height, yes yes I know there are exceptions. But who wants to go out with someone who is unhealthy unless like the OP writes you go with it and overlook the health issues involved and take out healthcare insurance.
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 8/29/2009 9:51:18 AM | | I get a good laugh when I read about people claiming it’s for “health” reasons when in fact they couldn’t give a shit. It’s all about physical appearance, nothing else. Man I hate bullshit. At least people, admit that you’re plain shallow and that’s the reason and people will show you respect. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/1/2009 12:33:14 AM | listen i am not Jenny craig...i look good...i want the same
twenty pounds overweight...i can accpet...we can work it out and he can look better...the health part is important
after 40 years of age...there are medical concerns
if i work to look good and eat well...i expect the sme
yes if they have a great body...that is a bonus...i do not want to be pushing anybody in a wheel chair
or be their nurse
if that is the case...i wiould look for sugard daddy
it can be done...men want a women who is gorgeous
so why can we not have the same expectetation
it is fair | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/1/2009 4:57:54 AM | "I get a good laugh when I read about people claiming it’s for “health” reasons when in fact they couldn’t give a shit. It’s all about physical appearance, nothing else. Man I hate bullshit. At least people, admit that you’re plain shallow and that’s the reason and people will show you respect. "
While I don't think it as about "being shallow" (you're attracted to who you're attracted to) I agree that those who argue that their preference for slender men for "health" reasons, or because heavy folks are just too lazy and inactive, are using faulty reasoning or are copping out.
I'm 6'3", just over 300 pounds...by every definition "morbidly obese" or fat.
I'm spending my labor day weekend on a bicycle tour of 400 miles. I ride 40-50 miles several times a week. I also belong to a gym (which I use mainly in the winter months,) cross country ski, hike, disc golf, eat a diet rich in whole grains/fruits/veggies and low in processed foods, drink only water and coffee (no soda.) I'd ask how many of the slender folks are this active or pay this close of attention to their health.
Sure, there are fat folks who sit around eating unhealthy food and living a sedentary lifestyle, but the same can be said about slender people. Trust me, as a cyclist, I regularly see "fat" people out there riding centuries (100 mile rides) which is far more physical activity than most slender people would even attempt. I've dated a number of women who were slender or in the "healthy" weight range who couldn't even come close to keeping up with me (in life AND in the bedroom, to address that point.)
Again, not saying your shallow for being attracted to any particular body type, but if health/activity levels are your true concern, don't automatically discount us big guys,. We might just surprise you.  | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/2/2009 10:18:52 AM | I have tried to read all the post on this but what I seem to get from all the "thin" people is that if you are fat then you are lazy or you eat like a horse
I was 5'6" and 185lb not thin thin but I had 20lb up top and a nice figure
I got sick in 2003 and even though I was not eating I gained weight and gained it fast I went to every type of doctor and at the time I had great if not the best health insurance and at first the dr.s would say "we will figure this out" but with every 20 - 30 lbs and each new dr the tone went to "if you would just lose some weight" or if your cal. intake was less then your cal. burn. you will lose weight. not true
I was happily married and we lost our health insurance when Rob took a diff. job I was not able to cont. seeing any doctor let alone the spec. ones then when my husband past away from an accident last year and I find myself wanting to date well all these men see is a fat lady well that ok because to all you boys out there that look at a woman and say she is not good enough for you -guess what - you did not even rate a look from us. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/2/2009 1:27:14 PM | "There is a whole following for plus size women so why not men ?"
Because female beauty is very arbitrary and men aren't drawn to women for their physical prowess. And no, guys aren't necessarily going to have a gut later; that's dependent on their lifestyle. I don't know why this is worth asking anyway. I see plenty of lovely women of many different sizes arm-in-arm with unhealthy men. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/2/2009 7:13:00 PM | get a good laugh when I read about people claiming it’s for “health” reasons when in fact they couldn’t give a shit. It’s all about physical appearance, nothing else. Man I hate bullshit. At least people, admit that you’re plain shallow and that’s the reason and people will show you respect.
Really? Why don't you come talk to me or some others I know that came back from cancer or extreme back pain and other health issues and joined a gym so we could walk without pain or not feel extremely tired from chronic pain all day. Joining the gym kept and continues to keep us away from the hospital and other possible dibilitating issues.
But I guess you've never had to face anything like that right? Maybe if you did, and experienced what working out does for you - you'd understand. Until then, you should keep your comments to yourself.
The physical appearance part was a bonus.
I guess you don't work out. If you did, then you would understand the whole reasons behind it for some of us. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/1/2009 8:29:01 PM | | well.. that's why as a guy you have to keep in shape. i'm 41 and still at my college weight. i try to eat right, exercise and stay fit. why let yourself go at 40? of course women would rather date someone that keeps themself fit vs a beer gut guy. even if your big when younger, you can still maintain your shape somewhat. would you want to date a fat cow at 40? it's self respect to keep yourself looking okay. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/2/2009 12:04:19 PM | | Sorry, but I don't think your perception is accurate. Sure, some women only want "fit" men. But can we honeslty say men are all that different? In my experience men are, if anything, even MORE hung up on looks than most women. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/2/2009 1:26:44 PM | Well, what theory? The guy that I married looks hotter than the day I met him. Not that I'd take him back.
Big people are not always happy with how they look but they want everyone else to be ok with it.
Most big people won't date big people.
So are you complaining about slim women not wanting a big guy, or big women not wanting a big guy? | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/2/2009 1:56:19 PM | I'd like to date a man who is twice the size of me, but I'd like him to be fit and not unhealthy. Fit means that we can do athletic activities that I like to do together. I've heard that fit men have better sex lives and more stamina. 80% of the men who have erectile dysfunction, are also overweight.
63% of Americans are overweight. The way I see it, they can date each other, share a table and feel comfortable with the other persons appetites. Gluttony is a soft crime. Eating too much causes diabetes, heart disease and expensive grocery/medical bills in the long run. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/2/2009 7:04:59 PM | It's really about personality.
Granted you can't be 900 pounds and expect to be found physically attractive to every woman out there.
But sincerely, it's about how cool you are with how you look, and attraction is every bit as much about personality if not more so.
Eye candy is one thing, but true attraction is personality,and the qualities you have to offer. I've been shocked in my life to have been with extremely gorgeous women for long term relationships, and i was never a skinny person or had a buff body.
That's why internet dating is constraining, you don't really get to have your personality shine like you would in the real world, and this is why there are so many great guys that just are not having luck meeting the right person.
It's not about being slightly over weight, it's about how you make a woman feel, and that isn't always easy to accomplish online. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/2/2009 7:29:53 PM | find it hard to figure out why most women in the world only like "Fit guys"
{....it is for the same reasons most men in the world only like "Fit women"}.
There is a whole following for plus size women so why not men ?
{There is a following for plus size men too...just google it}.
If you think about it all the fit guys will have a gut by the time they are 40 so why not date a guy with one now and get use to it ?
{{Turn this around in the thinking of most women will have that flabby belly by the time they are '40'...so why not date one now and 'get use to it'?}}
This way when you look back on your wedding photos you wont wonder "what happened to the guy that i married?"
{{Geesh...what did happen?}}
This is just some thoughts I have on a rain day downtown
I would like to hear what you have to say :  | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/2/2009 7:55:29 PM |
I find it hard to figure out why most women in the world only like "Fit guys"
There is a whole following for plus size women so why not men ?
If you think about it all the fit guys will have a gut by the time they are 40 so why not date a guy with one now and get use to it ? Because fat and bellies are gross at any age. If you don't care about your health and yourself, how can you care about someone else?
A man that is in his teens, twenties, and thirties that has a gut will probably be even fatter by the time he hits 40, I don't even want to know what kinds of drugs and diagnoses he will have by 60!
I like a whole package, ok, I am in love with a whole package. His exercising is good for me too  | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:07:59 PM | I knew Chris Farley. I worked for WRCX in Chicago the night he died. He was supposed to come to the studio but didn't. He did the drugs and hung out with prostitutes because women wouldn't give him the time of day because of his size. He had his insecurities. The drugs and whores were his only escape to finding "some" kind of companionship. Too many women push away really great guys because of looks. Women piss, **** and moan that guys ONLY want a Barbie Doll type. NOT TRUE. Usually only the douchebag guys want that type of girl. A real man wants a woman who is mature, respectful, compassionate, has family values, is not shallow, not superficial, not materialistic. Unfortunately there are not too many of those women out there. I've lived all over the U.S. working in entertainment. You have a better chance at finding a 2 foot tall African American leprechaun riding the back of a talking openly gay purple unicorn with tourettes syndrome than you do finding the good woman that I described in this forum.  | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/6/2009 3:42:53 PM | Everyone definately has their own preference.Women know what physical attribute makes them tick just as men know what makes them tick.Could you wake every morning and look at something that was not appealing...probably not...i know i could not wake up to a skinny little man in my bed .I am the lover of TALL burly men with that very lovable ponch...with a bit of fur on it...lol.I find them way more appealing then a guy who has to rush to the mirror in the morning and flex his muscle to make sure the fairy didnt steel his 6 pack during the night.Like i said we all know what we want and with the 1000's of singlesand single sites, people are more apt to keep searching for what they deem perfect.  | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/6/2009 4:03:27 PM |
He did the drugs and hung out with prostitutes because women wouldn't give him the time of day because of his size. What a bunch of crap. People don't do drugs or put on weight because women don't give them the time of day, it is because of addictive personalities and mental issues. He had mental issues and physical that he couldn't deal with. To get to his size he ignored his health period. It wasn't because women wouldn't give him the time of day. Belushi had how many women and died how? Elvis had how many women and died how? Heath Ledger wasn't fat and guess what, drugs did him too.
If your health doesn't matter to you, it shows period. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:33:33 PM | | I have been a big guy my whole life.When I was in the Army in the Airborne I still weighed 240 plus,and that is while I was running 10 miles a day.I can throw around 300 plus on the bench and walk 4-5 miles a day.Not all of us are blessed with a great metabolism, and if a girl can't realize that then that is her loss. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 10/19/2009 8:23:29 PM | I say let the women go out with Ricky Roids. When she falls in love with all his gleaming muscles she'll later find out about Limp DikBiz and UniBalls in his pants later. What's the use!? I too am finding out that women have been getting more and more shallow within the past 10 to 15 years. I didn't start gaining weight until 8 years ago. Weight gain is NOT a sign of laziness. People fail to understand that weight loss is also brough on by thyroid, enzymes and a failing metabolism. I went to a gym religiously for 4 years, hired a trainer and everything. Nothing worked. I started nutrional cleansing with enhancing my enzymes and that seems to be working slooooooooooooooowly. But I am still the great guy on the inside but... women want the douchebags. End of story.
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