| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 6/20/2006 11:29:46 PM | | I'm a big guy...not obese but meaty and solid. I don't have any problem with women being attracted to me. I mean sure, there are those women that like skinny guys or the muscle bound guys, but most women have no problem with me being on the bigger side. Shoot, they like it! Good to cuddle with and makes them feel secure! Now if you're just fat and squishy with no muscle tone, maybe you need to hit the gym. But being big in and of itself, is not a bad thing at all, I've found. I wouldn't mind dropping a few pounds for my health, but vanity wise, I have no problem with it. Most women aren't as shallow about weight as guys are. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 6/23/2006 10:12:30 PM | | A "big guy or person" is such a subjective term. It all depends on your definition of the term. Some say he is big because he is tall, some because of the gut, some because of muscles. Women want what they want. You can't fault them. Guys are the same way. We go through life looking always and there is nothing wrong with that. Now as we go through relationships we (Hopefully) refine what we want and in time will find that person (again, Hopefully). Some take longer than others. Women catch my eye for different reasons, but keeping that interest takes more than certain looks. There has to be a connection mentally to keep that interest or you start wondering to your self "Why did I start seeing this person"? Sometimes you start out as just friends and things grow and before you know it your in love and sometimes your walking down the street and a person can catch your eye and you can say to your self "I am going to marry that person". You have to work your way through the people like your walking in a very crowded building, just stay focused on where your going and keep that person in sight and be patient. It will happen when you least expect it (how cliche' but true). So just enjoy the meetings and getting to know various people you never know when they may become life long friends and then "BANG" there they are "The ONE". | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 6/24/2006 12:31:31 AM | | To me,,the poster 2 above me said it well in my perspective " not obese but meaty and solid'. Thats how i like my guys, BUT,,not to say if i met up with a skinny guy and we hit it off really really well i wouldnt date him cuz more'n likely i would. But still,,,my 'preference' is 'big guys'. | |
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scwink
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Joined: 5/21/2006
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 6/24/2006 1:00:31 AM | What about the opposite?
I'm 5' 10" and even in my best shape ever at 18 and playing university basketball I still weighed 170 pounds. I'm a very solid, muscular, athletic woman -- I'm certainly not going to be happy with some 5' 6" stick of a man who I felt might break if my thighs squeeze too hard or whose sweater I can't borrow on a chilly night.
As a woman I definitely feel like men expect more of me in the shapely department than they are willing to give (I just had a guy with a GIANORMOUS beer gut tell me I needed to start doing sit ups!!!), but when I look at it from the reverse spectrum, how many of us are willing to give smaller men a chance?
Maybe the issue isn't muscle v. fat, but mass v. none. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/5/2006 11:33:43 AM | alright alright alright,,, speaking as the subject of this topic,(i'm a big guy) it might be primordal, but how far is the stick dude gonna get with me holding on to his ankle and smearing bbq sauce and honey on his butt... lol jk. I might not be fast , but I evolved cuz I came prepared for that bear.
looks are about physical attraction and that's cool as far as I'm concerned , cuz I get that. But I've found that the more comfortable I am and when given a chance I really have alot of fun with some of the most beautiful women out there.
Women are capable of getting past that when they really dig the man their talking too. trust me  .
It's just the initial part of making that connection thats the real hard part but thanks for starting this topic. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/5/2006 11:39:43 AM |
There is a whole following for plus size women so why not men ?
Oh, but there is. 
My sister is physically everything men drool over. Yet she is only attracted to larger, hairy men. She recently began dating a man from this site who listed his body type as "athletic", and she was disappointed because his face and degree of hairy-ness was perfect for her.
Turns out, he's athletic because he plays sports, but he doesn't have the typical athletic body. He's got extra meat, so she only has to "fatten him up" (as she puts it) a bit more.
So keep looking; there really is someone out there for everyone. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/5/2006 1:26:40 PM | | Years of online dating has taught me a couple of things. First: "fit" is a very subjective term. What I consider fit is not what others consider fit. Likewise, average tends to mean "a few extra pounds" (not in all cases, but a vast generalization.) I don't specify any type because I met someone who was thin, but definitely NOT fit. As for BIG men, I love bigger men ~ but I don't appreciate sloppiness. Overweight (at least for me) is an entirely different thing than someone who is built larger than others. It's whatever works for the individual. Some of the most handsome men I know are neither fit nor thin. BUT, I don't like a large belly. I don't have one and I don't want one by association. That's just me though. I know plenty of women who prefer men with extra size. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/5/2006 2:13:02 PM |
It's just the initial part of making that connection thats the real hard part but thanks for starting this topic.
Ding! Thats really what it is all about. I think people judge and are judged based on the first impressions.
What I think it boils down to is: a fat person will have to work harder in the short term to attract someone by using personality, but may have better luck in the long term over someone that is "hot" but lacks the personality. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/5/2006 7:12:43 PM | Well....In my 20's I was attracted to tall, dark, handsome and fit. Now where did that
get me? Well not married anymore! In my 40's I like some meet on a gentleman, and I even prefer a wee bit of a belly. Hair or no hair I don't care. Attractive, clean, smells nice, knows how to dress and talk.
Too good looking and knowing it tends to be trouble! Something I don't need anymore. | |
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tekrok
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Joined: 6/28/2006
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L`isa
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Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 88 | |
| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/16/2006 7:37:54 PM | I can't help it - I am attracted to bigger men. If you're not 6ft plus and AT LEAST 200 pounds - I'm a little disappointed.
Cant' really explain they whys or wheres about it - simply a biological reaction. Go figure. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/16/2006 11:34:19 PM |
If you think about it all the fit guys will have a gut by the time they are 40 so why not date a guy with one now and get use to it ? ROFLMAO
 get use to it?
I am generaly attracted to big guys, but, I know plenty of guys over 40 who don't have a gut. One who is almost 60 and very fit in fact, and can outdance me any night of the week. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/17/2006 2:30:07 AM | I go with the popeye theory "I yam what I yam, and thats all that I yam. uhg gug gug gug gug gug"
if you like me kool, if you don't thats fine too, you can't please all the people all the time. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/17/2006 9:14:09 AM | aaaaarrrrrrrghhhhhhhhh Alright, I'm back. And I can't deny it any longer. I've been lying to myself for tooooo long, so I'm gonna do it. I just don't wanna look like this anymore.
So I am holding my own POF gettogther next month.It'll be a 5 $ cover.
It's gonna be a LIPO. and trance party and Dr. ********** has his own dj, so no worries there. lol
but I'm not goin first so someone please get there early. And there will be a pro. photographer there for the new pics to add to our profiles... smile. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/17/2006 4:45:55 PM | Sorry, but fit is what I would look for. I just cannot go there with the big guy thing.
So glad you pointed out you were not talking about a big .......! That would have been a interesting post.
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Bree | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/26/2006 5:26:21 PM | | Nothing wrong with bigger guys. I cannot understand the hypocracy. I personally don't like to feel mens hipbones....but thats just me. I am not however into the sloppy look. You can be heavy and still keep it together nicely....the only thing I would be concerned about and with my own extra lbs is the health factor....as long as you are healthy or trying to be healthy, watching your bp, cholesterol etc the extra lbs would not bother me. I would not want to be involved with someone ignoring the signs of deteriorating health or ignoring doctors or avoiding them....I want my man to be around for me...not die a sad death unnecessary like John candys (who by the way would have had my heart........) | |
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Joined: 5/26/2006
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/31/2006 8:59:31 AM | I think I must think differently than most of the ladies,I like a man with some lbs on him , I think a belly is sexy on a man ...... I also find it makes me feel more secure to be with a larger man ..... a six pack does not turn me on ..... | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 7/31/2006 2:09:07 PM |
If you think about it all the fit guys will have a gut by the time they are 40 so why not date a guy with one now and get use to it ?
Oh really? I hadn't noticed!
I don't date fat men or men with big guts. We would have nothing in common. | |
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chinua
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Joined: 9/30/2005
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/4/2008 7:09:04 AM | Well, that doesn't seem to relate to anything at all, does it? This is my first time posting on one of these and I tried to reply to something I saw on page 1, and now I look a little weird. Oh well.
Anyway, I'm a big guy, and I always have been. I remember back in high school all these fit, "pouplar" guys making fun of me for being big. I always told them - "Sure, I'm the fat one now, but in 20 years or so, I'll be the same size, and you'll be wondering what happened to your life." - And guess what? Some of those guys are now in much worse shape than me, and none of them are as comfortable with themselves or have the confidence in their self-worth that I do. | |
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