| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/4/2008 9:13:51 AM | obviously everyone has their own personal preferences... some might not like "big" people of either gender... but in my eyes, (and arms, lol) big guys are lovely to cuddle with 
in the end though, big or little, it's the *inner* stuff, like personality, mutual interests, characteristics, etc.. that outshines everything else, imo | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/4/2008 9:36:30 AM | Lass.....
It is the vessel that holds all those things that attracts you in the first place, and once you open it and enjoy its contents......it becomes the chemistry that brings you back for more and more...... 
The outside might lose some of its shine from use by others and life overall, and what is inside seems to pour out and help make that vessel that much more desirable, but overall, if the container is well maintained, what is inside is that much more protected and preserved...... 
Just my opinion......   | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/4/2008 10:03:01 AM | that's an interesting way of looking at it c deacon.. nice  and i agree that the way the outer shell of the vessel is maintained can indeed affect the inner contents to a degree...
to me the vessel is of a translucent material; held in certain lights it can appear quite opaque and a thing of beauty in it's own right.. but when seen in natural light, the contents are revealed and can add a sparkle heretofore unknown... or can detract from the pleasing shape of the vessel by being murky and repellent... and after the contents are revealed the vessel can never be looked at the same way again, imo - the contents are what enhances/detracts from its' attraction | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/4/2008 1:45:24 PM | As a big guy, I know that my size has turned off some women. I've also dated a number of women and have female friends who very much prefer large men. Just like I'm sure my shaved head has turned some women off, while others are into it. Just like some women like the way I dress and others probably think I'm a fashion dunce. Just like some find my sense of humor hillarious while others find it annoying...
My stance; who cares? In the words of Popeye, "I yam what I yam." Could I lose some poundage? Definitely! Will I ever look like an Abercrombie model? Definitely NOT! People are attracted to what they're attracted to. Even though I'll probably get flamed for this, I'll admit, I'm not attracted to big women (curvy/average/womanly/a few extra pounds are great.) Does that make me a bad person? I don't think it does. Why would I want to date a woman who isn't attracted to me any more than I'd want to convince myself that I'm attracted to someone I'm not?
I agree with the posters who said it isn't so much the size/weight as it is what you do with it. I think nothing of taking a spontaneous 5-10 mile hike even though I'm quite overweight. I've had exes who would be considered an average, thin or fit build who couldn't even come close to keeping up with me.
I'd also say that there is a HUGE cultural component to this debate. I lived overseas on a Pacific island for awhile. In this country, bigger was considered to be more attractive for both men and women. This was a great situation for me because I was considered, as a large guy, to be a hot commodity, while the women I was attracted to were available and happy to be with me because they weren't used to having such an "attractive" guy hit on them. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/4/2008 1:59:45 PM | I couldn't agree with RepoMan more. I am overweight by National Health Standards, but yet it is not from lack of exercise or because I overeat. In fact, I run close to 30 miles to 40 miles a week training for a marathon and I do weight training as well. Yet, I maintain weight - genetics play a role, some people have sluggish thyroids, some people have problems deeply routed in their DNA. Stress plays a major role in all this as well.
I for one look for someone who is fit rather than who is considered skinny. If I'm at a gym and see a girl who may have a few extra pounds, but kicking ass on the treadmill or running laps around the track with ease, she is considered fit in my book. I know females who eat unhealthy, don't exercise and drink like there is none tommorrow, yet gain no weight. Would you consider them fit - what about liver damage etc. Yes weight does make you more prone to certain diseases, but being active is the best way to counter that.
In the end though, it is all about individual tastes. There is no right or wrong.
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/4/2008 4:32:22 PM | | Speaking from experience, at least in the area I live in, the skinnier you are as a male the better chances you have for dating. I am a large man,(6' 4" 265 lbs) but not obese. I have Norwegian heritage which almost always carries some belly fat. I work out 3 - 5 times a week, and consider myself very muscular. Are the women here where I live interested? Not in the least. There was a time when it was beneficial to be a "Man's man", now you are better off with the "crackhead" look. It is somewhat depressing, since I was always taught that men are the "vain" sex and women are the better sex as they look at what is inside, and are not caught up in superficial things. I am sorry but I really do not see that being proved out. Local ladies seem to be out, and no one wants to do a long distance relationship...sooo? | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/4/2008 6:16:43 PM | | feel the same way, much rather have a man with some meat on his bones.... am really not into skinny men....am really not a person who is into looks, but is just something i prefer...i put that in my profile, just would rather have a big teddy bear type of guy than not.... seems to be ok for the men to post no fat women respond (which i do find really rude), I am smart enough to see in profile, how they are and read what they are interested to know what kind of women they are looking for....no need to be rude and bad mannered.. there are nice ways to say things..... everyone is entitled to their own preference..... | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/4/2008 7:12:28 PM | | Funny, as I've noticed the same kind of thing here in the Bay Area. I'm about the same height but carry about 20 more pounds than you so I do have a small gut even though I do kickboxing for 3 to 5 hours a week or more. I feel I'm in very damn good shape and I'm even a bit muscular now too but the look that women seem to be going for around here to me is pretty similar to what you described. Even though I'm in much better shape that alot of those skinny guys, due to the gut and my size (I'll never be slim as I'm WAY too broad shouldered/big framed) I'm passed over a bit.. More time for school, work and my motorcycle then.. :p | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/5/2008 1:31:28 PM | ummm,,,excuse me??? a "gut by...40"!?!?!? Since when did this become mandatory??? Not to be tootin' my own horn but uhhhh......me thinks not.
I may be over 40, smokin' and drankin' but when I pull the shirt off......BAM!
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/5/2008 11:01:41 PM | Everyone has their own standards.
I gotta admit, my own standard is someone just as heavy as I am but not more.
I suspect a good number of us are willing to be with somebody in our weight/BMI range, but will not date someone much, much heavier. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/9/2008 1:25:10 PM | overly obese ... no.
but some amount squishy isn't bad.
i figure, if a guy has the same amount of body fat\muscle as i do, i won't complain.
id prefer stocky , beefy guy to a skinny, boney guy for sure.
guys who are all about the pecs and abs really don't appeal to me.
some average guys look really good, but they are too small.
being a 5'6" big boned girl, i would prefer if a guy has broader shoulders than I do.
I hate feeling like I dwarf a guy. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/9/2008 3:37:24 PM | I haven't read the other posts, so I'll assume that this is hilarious. - There is a following for "plus sized men", they just happened to be other men.
Now, Steely M, before you say no... I have a gay friend who likes the bigger, hairier men. He's a little older (45) and he likes rainy days.
Can I pass along your information?
Alright, Steely, I'm messing with you. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/9/2008 3:48:55 PM |
cuz in ancient times you had to be in-shape in order to be a good provider......you didn't have much of a chance running from a bear if you were too fat!
I think the reasoning here is a bit on the weak side. If you spent your time running from bears, your not likely a good provider. In ancient times if you were fat, you had access to excess food supplies. That would suggest you were an excellent food provider. (unless, of course, you didn't share) Indeed, in primordial times, even more than today, signs of access to regular food supply, trumped looks. It was the scrawny emaciated types, both male and female that got ignored back then. | |
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Indrah
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Joined: 8/22/2008
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| My theory on big guys (no not talking about his *****)
Posted: 9/9/2008 5:26:13 PM | I like big guys.I think everyone is differnt and likes diffrent things .I like tall big guys just not sloppy looking.Personalty is more important to me.But must take carte of self!And take baths!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!lmfao | |
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| My theory on big guys (no not talking about his *****)
Posted: 9/9/2008 7:37:46 PM | You know I also think it has to do with the level of confidence and charisma. I have never been a little boy. They called it husky when I was growing up. Always been a little big. I have never had an issue but little girls like bigger guys makes them feel safe.
Confidence goes a long way and it is very sexy no matter what size you might be. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/9/2008 9:29:17 PM | | I have no problems with a man with a tummy...I have gone on dates with men of all sizes...what I have found it that I am not attracted to obese men. Average men with a tummy or such is all cool. A few extra ibs is cool to..but as I just said I am not attracted to Obese... | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/10/2008 6:42:51 AM | Big men? fat men? Obese men? Fine by me... if they have a face I like, and a personality I like, then its all well and good. I personally look forward to turning 40,.. and buying many kaftans.. and stuffing my face till I burst. I dont want to live all my life watching what I eat, depriving myself of chocolate cake,.. and running myself into the ground, in order to remain 'trim'. Bah!! to Heck with that.. life , if you can enjoy it, is there to be enjoyed. I love food, I love to lounge around... in fact, Ive already ordered my kaftans,.. and I'm storing up stashes of chocolate cake as we speak.
Seriously, people.. as you get older, all this running around, starving and keeping fit will be a lot harder to maintain.. just relax a little, and let people be the way they wanna be. If fat disgusts you so much.. just keep away from obese people.. simple.. problem solved.
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/10/2008 7:19:27 AM | Well, being an overweight person myself (I didn't exactly wake up one morning and decide to add an extra bit of beef on me using photoshop for a giggle..) I do have to agree that us bigger people from both sexes do get overlooked in favour of someone who can REALLY run to the shops for a packet of cancer sticks or someone so thin you can take them out to dinner and then pick the mint out your teeth with them.
We're all human, regardless of whatever shape, size etc. we are. I play sports at least 3 times a week and I'm still waiting for that six pack that's been rumoured to be contained on a man's gut area for centuries..
I do wish more and more people would look at people's traits on the inside rather than how they look, but I guess it's something that's just never gonna go away.
If you want someone with a perfect body, date a mannequin. | |
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bwm419
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Joined: 8/10/2008
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/10/2008 6:25:03 PM | I think what women and men may overlook when considering someone who has some extra weight to lose, is that as we get a bit older, it seems we become more concerned with our health. So just because someone might be 42, and carrying a bit of extra weight, there is a good chance that they are actually trying to do something about it. How many people, both men and women can you recall saying they were or are in the best shape of their life well into thier 40's??
And please, let's all remember, not all people who carry extra weight are the result of poor living choices. Some may actually have had health issues in the past which limited their ability to sustain a typical "healthy lifestyle" yet are doing what they can to make the changes now. | |
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ae1973
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Joined: 9/6/2008
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/10/2008 8:18:09 PM | | I like guys with some meat on them. And if they are tall and big. I like that. Plus, I don't want some guy that is obsessed with his looks. I want to be the prettoer one in the relationship. LOL. Depends on what your taste is. Manly men rule. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/10/2008 8:50:40 PM |
I like guys with some meat on them. And if they are tall and big. I like that. Plus, I don't want some guy that is obsessed with his looks. I want to be the prettoer one in the relationship. LOL. Depends on what your taste is. Manly men rule.
So, ae1973, how YOU doin'... LOL
Back on topic:
This all depends on the person. I know little, skinny boys with as empty of a dance card as myself. I prefer blonds over brunettes, but, I have had one blond gf and several brunette exes. Go figure. Until I moved to a small town in the middle of nowhere, I didn't have too much of a problem finding a date, but once I got here, single women avoid me like the plague. I understand that guys built like a defensive lineman for the Bears that is also their local phlebotomist and has an above normal IQ is somewhat freakish to them, but that's their problem. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 9/10/2008 10:07:43 PM | WTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Is this " Dig Into The Archives Month" or what?
Nearly a 3 yr old thread!!!!
It's pretty simple people!
The face is the part of the person that you will see the most of. Are you attracted to that person's face?
You don't wanna wake up in he middle of the night, rollover, and have a coyote ugly moment. Right????
So, if you are looking for something long term, it is reasonable to expect that your SO's body will go through some changes over a period of time. They may gain or lose weight.
What's important, is whether or not you can be accepting of the person, regardless.
I mean, they are STILL the same person! there's just more/less of them in the physical sense!
I've had sex with a bony woman b4 and erotic is NOT a word that I would use to describe it! | |
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