| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 12/15/2008 4:59:24 AM |
not true at all..ever hear of Clarence Bass?
over 70, and body fat under 10%..
more ripped than most men are at ANY time in their lives..
I'm sick of men who message me, tell me they find me attractive because I keep myself in such good shape, but then tell me it's to be expected that they're not in shape because they're over a certain age (especially when it's younger than me).
Pffft..if I can do, they can do it - and men can stay in shape easier, faster regardless of age - if they want to, that is. It's beyond contradictory to me to say you want a woman who stays in good shape as she gets older, when you don't follow the same theory. WTF?
Being that I do stay in shape, it's only natural to me that I date someone who not only gets it, but also does it. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 12/15/2008 7:21:53 AM | I second that^^^^
I would point out though, that I have mostly dated average to on the thin side guys. Most of the men I dated have had a similar body type to mine. Their genes made them on the thin side. Yes, they did have some fat on them, but one could not see a belly and they could still tuck their shirt in.
The point being is that I've been working out since I was in my 20's. Due to circumstances, I haven't always been able to keep it constant, but I always return. I want a lifestyle like that.
I can expect what I can offer. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 12/15/2008 8:30:36 AM | One thing I would like to add to this post ... so many people, both men and women, may be very fit and healthy but will always carry a little more weight or body fat simply because of their genetic structure ... this is just how their bodies are meant to be ... some people will NEVER be lean despite the fact that they are very healthy just as some people will FOREVER be skinny and will not be able to put on much muscle mass or weight.
Also, for folks who are very quick to judge someone by their "heavy" appearance ... sometimes, previous injury or sickness can be the cause for someone who appears to be a bit overweight. I know this from personal experience as I suffered a closed head injury in an automobile accident many years ago ... at that time, I was in the best shape of my life ... but you know what? It all went away ... all of the hours and years I spent working out in order to project a certain image was for naught as my body changed due to that injury and the amount of time it took for me to heal ... or it can be a result of the medications that they are taking ... steroids are a prime example and can change the body image in so many ways.
I see this often, too, as I do bodywork on people who have been injured or who are in recovery from an illness ... it's just a natural thing. Hopefully, for those who fit under this catagory, they will do what they need to do in order to live a HEALTHY lifestyle and foresake the need to look a certain way ...
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 12/16/2008 6:03:19 PM | if a person can't take care of their body, did they take care of anything else?
It is a sign they are usually taking care of too much. Many people don't have the energy or the time to make a workout. Working 40 plus hrs a week, chasing after the children, cooking meals, and looking after the needs of aging parents and still can't make ends meet. So they cut the grocery budget and end up eating cheaper less nourishing calories.
It is a known fact that stress is related to weight gain especially in the abdomenal area.
It is not always a case of lazy. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 1/12/2009 11:22:24 PM | I think that anyone deserves for thier partner in life to strive to be the person you fell for to start with. Yes there are circumstances for some people to grow larger at some point in their lives. If you are someone who has a partner that has grown out of their original proportions, then you also know if it was self induced by glutteny and laziness, or of it truly was not within their power to control it. Our national size as people is rapidy enlarging , and I don't think it is because we all suddenly have health issues. It is I believe the cause of health issues far more often than the resultof health issues.
The consequences are not yet esculated to show the real toll it will take on our healthcare systems, not to mention what I predict to be a decline in the average lifespan. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:09:29 PM | I find this topic a bit ironic coming from a Man!
Most Men are by nature "visual" Human Beings! Far more so than Women who, for the most part, are "emotional" Human Beings.
Women have to compete with all of the Air-Brushed photos in magazines that Men look at. They can air brush just about every bulge, cellulite, wrinkle and blemish! Get real...have you seen some of the "Real" photos of these so call "Beautiful" people???
I, personally am not attracted to skinny Men...if they can't pick me up and toss me on a bed, I am sure not going to pick Them up instead!
On the other hand...I am also not attracted to sloppy fat...there are many men out there that are over weight without looking sloppy fat!
This goes both ways...I have seen many over weight Women that dress and carry themselves in a very attractive and sexy way. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 1/13/2009 7:18:03 PM | I'm sure there is some biological (e.g. strong = good hunter) and social (e.g. media) explanations but basically it depends on the persons preference overall. Some are visually stimulated, some are emotionally stimulated, and some are mentally stimulated. Personally I like looking at "fit" men but I'm usually attracted to men with a little "man girth" as I call it, aka some meat on their bones. I like someone I can cuddle up to. But recently I fell for someone totally outside that type. In the end what really matters to me is their personality and how we get along.
I think everyone expects some physical changes in their partner as we age but sometimes the changes are drastic and that often changes their personality too. That's when they start wondering where the person they married went. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/23/2009 11:47:40 PM | I heard a comedian make a great comment on the "obesity epidemic" recently:
Influenza is an epidemic, the plague was an epidemic... you're never going to hear your grandchild ask "What was the obesity epidemic like, grandpa?" 'Oh son, it was terrible, there were pizza and cheeseburgers everywhere!' 
Personally I don't think we're that much lazier... Americans tend to work more hours now than they did 30 years ago and usually that's done at a desk with little or no time left over for keeping in shape. Couple that with the increase in processed food, an increase in the amount of fast food and a reduction of lunch hours and you've got a recipe for weight gain.
Although it seems a bit off the point, it's actually not. The fact this topic went from an inquiry about big guys to gluttony and laziness is part of the problem. Extra pounds seem to label you as being lazy, over-indulgent, and unhealthy. In reality, I could lift your average male model off the ground one-handed and vault him halfway across the room. Without the body fat or muscle tone to protect his bones and vital organs, he'd be helpless, useless, and frail. Who's healthier now, stick boy?  | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/24/2009 4:14:25 AM | For me fit is fit - seen some pretty beefy rugby players and they are fit men and healthy too, dont think it is about the size of the man - its about the health of the man.
Healthy people tend to be tidier people and have more confidence and a good approach to life.
Rolls of blubber, sweat collecting on the face, sprawled in front of the tv, eating copious amounts of food, no no no not for me thanks. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/24/2009 9:25:58 AM | To all of you ldies out there saying it is the being active not the size that matters that is 100% BS. Know how I know this, you cannot tell how active a person is from their online profile, but you can tell the person is big. What you see is what you respond to, and you cannot see activity level. No where in that process do you make an effort to find out anything about the activity level because they do no attract you. Therefore, do not get on here and say it is not size it is activity, because you are starting out any potential relationship with a lie.
Bill
ps there is nothing wrong with dating what attracts you and by all means that is important, just don't get on here and say size is not it activity level is it. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/24/2009 10:01:28 AM | Who says women only want fit guys and that guys over 40 are not fit?
I happen to like a man who is solid and I don't mind a few lbs as long as it won't harm his ability to "get it up" and live without dis-ease! I want a healty feller who can at least keep up with me, even better, push me!
As for men over 40 not being fit, just bullshyt. They may not always look like body builders, but I've come across quite a few that are absolutely beautiful. They're strong and fit and have gained some bulk so that they don't look like they'd blow away in the first good wind. Damn!  | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/24/2009 8:11:19 PM | | I've dated overweight guys through the yrs. I have found that they just don't seem to take pride in taking care of their bodies. When they have the beer gut it gets in the way of intimacy. Not to mention his manhood is tiny | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/25/2009 2:09:37 AM | so i just completed a quick poll of those women who have posted (and whose profiles could be viewed):
there were 8 thin/athletic women (self described). of those 4 were attracted to thin/athletic men; 1 found avg/a few extra lbs attractive and 3 didnt really give an answer.
of the 19 avg/a few extra lbs women, 3 looked for thin/athletic; 8 would go for average; 6 appeared attracted to larger men and 2 didnt answer
and of the 8 BBW, only ONE was attracted to thin men or average or a few extra lbs or large, and the other 7 were all attracted to large men.
Disclaimer... most described themselves rather accurately but a few (no i wont say who) downsized themselves in their profile
two things that we can surmise from this..... first... i have waaaay to much time on my hands and second.... most women (on this post) look for a man close to their own body type
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/25/2009 2:27:47 PM | | I actually prefer some extra weight on a man. Like them big, strong, but cuddly. If need be, prefer a man who can protect me rather than the other way around, and YES, I've been in that position. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/25/2009 2:31:25 PM | | Bill: Not 100% BS. I prefer larger men not just because I have a few extra pounds, but because I've always been the tomboy type, and I play rough, and I don't want to "break" the man I'm with. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/27/2009 2:30:04 AM | i actually prefer a guy on the stocky/chunky side.. not necessarily morbidly obese, but definately a thinck set fella with some chest shoulders and bit of a belly..
and you can say all you like its because im a bigger girl, but i was quite slim to average build when younger and still preferred a thicker set guy.... | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/27/2009 11:34:09 AM | | I don't mind men with a few extra pounds, but hugely obese men turn me off - just as hyper-skinny men do. I don't find either extreme attractive. That doesn't mean I won't consider them, but they do have the 'too much'/'not enough' flesh issues to overcome. The thing I find sad is that many people seem to have more sympathy or understanding for alcoholics or drug addicts than they do for food addicts. Anorexia is recognized as a disease and treated, yet even though we know some types of obesity are disease related, we lump all 'fat' people into the same boat and call them all lazy? I think it is much more complicated than that, and we are letting some people in need of medical/psychological care go untreated. | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:46:11 PM | Wow...20-40 even 50 or 60 pounds most ladies can deal with.
When a guy is 60 - 150 or more pounds overweight, he is not healthy.
Not healthy = medical issues
Not healthy = sexual issues
Not healthy = emotional issues
Not healthy means you are going to leave her all alone way before she wants you to go.
Try and get healthy! It does a body good! | |
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| My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****)
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:50:06 PM | | My profile specifically states I am looking for a big guy. I happen to be one of those women who does not find skinny, thin or even average attractive, and heavy, muscular, and endowed in the belly area incredibly much! | |
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