sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/25/2005 3:11:33 PM | | I usually answer the questions before they are asked , then many of them say mmmmm interesting , got to word it just right not to sound show offy... hehehehe gets them everytime , even theones that say , "I make my own money" , too bad that spending it on guys does not feel natuaral or normal to them , i would have saved alot of money , hehehehe | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 77 | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 5/14/2007 5:14:29 PM | I cannot believe some of you have never asked any of those questions.
If you are being asked them and think the motivation behind them is all about money, you're paranoid.
I'd like to know if a guy works so I know he isn't sitting around all day being lazy.
I like to know if a guy has a car so I know I won't have to be driving his ass around.
And the living situation... are we gonna be hanging with his rommies, his parents... or have alone time?
SHEESH!!! | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 1/29/2008 8:32:58 AM | | Beause we want to know that you can afford to treat us nicely, I would not date a man without him having a decent job I certainly am not going to pay for anything | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 1/29/2008 8:46:39 AM | | ok i ask two of those questions...partially.....i ask, what do you do, but NEVER how much do you make....... and i ask what do you drive, gives me an idea of what kind of guy he is (i like country boys with trucks)! lol........i know this is shallow in a backwards way, but if a guy told me he drove a 60,000 mercedes, that would totally turn me off...... i could careless where the man shops and spends his money. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 1/29/2008 9:20:15 AM | Not all females....are like this. Saying it the way you did makes it seem ALL females are wanting is a guy with money,good job nice house..ect.Like its all a person is.
I have never asked,nor cared what someone drives or how much they make or if they have a nice home.
To me,can have all that and look good on the outside and have all the comforts that "things" can provide. But if im unhappy with them as a person and have nothing in connection but "things" id be unhappy.
Id take someone im attracted to,and have fun with and have all the "things" a relationship makes you feel alive,he can be broke and live in a camper and id be totaly content. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 1/29/2008 3:30:57 PM |
I ask what they do for work, because you can usually find something to talk about when you know how someone spends most of thier time, but I have never asked how much they make or what kind of car they drive. I would say though, that when someone starts asking you questions like that, it's a pretty nice red flag for you.
Thank you Simmah, I totally agree. I love to know what kind of work people do, it tells me a lot about them...I ask that a lot, whether it's someone I'm dating or not. Generally it gets a conversation started. I also want to know if they enjoy their work because 8 hours a day is a lot of time to spend doing something you don't like. THAT tells me a lot about a guy. I would never, have never and will never ask what a guy makes - how crass!!!! I have a job. I support myself...I don't want a guy's money. I've met a few who have thought I should be terribly impressed with their incomes, and seemed pretty shocked to find out I wasn't.
Most guys I've met enjoy talking about their work...and they're damned proud of their cars - I don't ask but usually they want to tell me all about their cars. (just try to shut them up.) | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 2/1/2008 12:00:06 PM | Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
for the same reason men put dollar amounts on everything. Please don't tell me that there aren't men on the hunt for a woman with money.....because I've met more than my share.
A woman would have to be a fool to live common-law or marry and have children with a man that could barely afford to keep his family fed. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 2/1/2008 12:18:56 PM | Many women I have known "put dollar amounts on everything" because of a variety of reasons.
Many women my own age (I'm 56) grew up in an environment that socialized them to believe that they had to find a man who would "take care of them" - and therefore how much he made/had is very important. My ex-wife was that way - it was how she had been raised by her mother. When she did work, her mantra was "What you earn is mine - and what I earn is mine, too."
I remember my late girlfriend's parents judging me on the quanity and quality of the material things I provided her, because they were of that mindset. But she was too independant. My late girlfriend spoiled me for my next relationship - she and I split things 50/50 (and, on occasion, she put in 60 and I put in 40). So, in a potential future relationship, I'll look at that potential significant other and "put dollar amounts on everything" - because I want someone more like my late girlfriend than my ex-wife. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 2/1/2008 2:39:33 PM |
Do you work ? -- but how much do you make
Do you drive ? - what type of car and is it paid for
Do you live on your own ? rent/own - how much
Where do you shop ? spending habits
How often can you afford to go out - spending cash
The first & third are usually asked to me first not by me though I might follow up with and "what about you". I have always figured they are just trying to lead into a conversation not an interrogation. I have never been asked if I have a car I think it is usually assumed when I agree to meet and I pull up in it, same with my “date”. Never been asked about shopping or if I can afford to go out, but have been asked if I have dated recently or do I date often or something along those lines. In my opinion some people will make an attempt to see more into what is probably a harmless question just to have an excuse to stay home. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 2/1/2008 2:49:55 PM | He went to "Jared's"....... 
OT.........Not all women put dollar amounts on everything, and I do despise such generalizations........
Some will put dollar amounts to many things and that includes both women and men. We can be a product of our environment, and that includes forced marketing concepts that push dollar values as the main way to show caring, stability, availability, attractiveness, and security on many levels and in many ways..........thus, we have artificial days made up like "Valentines Day", along with all the pressure, expectations, and money to make some statement that means little in the long run, and truly does not show the depth or ability of either person.
If you have it.....use it.....just do not flaunt it in such a way as to create a false pretense on either person for any reason......
Just my opinion.......   | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 2/1/2008 3:11:06 PM | I don't ask those questions either. I have a good job and take care of myself...."All the honeys making money, throw your hands up at me". I have no problem 'treating' a man to a night on the town. I do have a problem with men who constantly talk about how much they make, what they own, yada yada yada.....if I really wanted it, I'd get it  | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 2/1/2008 4:33:48 PM | | i have never asked a man what he does for a living becuase i am not a gold digger. so i do not put a price tag on a relationship. my relationshiops are based off what they should be and thats how u feel aobut the person. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 2/1/2008 6:05:07 PM | I never ask that of a man or anyone else. How insulting. The difference might be thst I am in a situation that I don't need a meal ticket.
Try looking for women that are less crass and perhaps a little better off in their financial situations. Women that can stand alone don't carry those concerns around on notecards. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 4/7/2008 5:38:24 PM | In my profile I have written that I am high maintenance in no uncertain terms so I assume that if a man has read my profile and wants to meet then he is willing to indulge me financially. With that in mind I would never run down a list of questions like the ones you describe. Personally I don't care about what kind of car he drives or where he shops. Those are silly questions that have nothing to do with a man of means. Some people make good money but they drive a modest car so they have more money for fun and relaxation. So what? | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 4/7/2008 8:48:57 PM | I've never been asked those questions either. And for VirgoGrl I don't have a problem with her profile either. She's just stating what she is expecting or looking for in a relationship, and it's up to me to either be down with it or not. (natrually, assuming there was any sort of mutual attraction etc. etc.)
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 4/7/2008 9:03:16 PM |
I'd like to know if a guy works so I know he isn't sitting around all day being lazy.
Or that I won't have to financially support him...
I like to know if a guy has a car so I know I won't have to be driving his ass around.
And the living situation... are we gonna be hanging with his roomies, his parents... or have alone time?
Exactly. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 4/7/2008 9:54:52 PM | Because many women want a provider at least the women who want a long term relationship leading to marriage OR if the woman
is just a gold digger than assets to be obtained from a man. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 4/8/2008 12:06:32 AM |
Moreover, did you know that women make their OWN money? Yes, they do! No, I'm not kidding! Really! They're not out to get your last dime. I swear.
And they want to KEEP their money. I have been dating for 4 years and have yet to have a woman pay for ANYTHING when we go out. And they haven't offered either. Had a couple of semi long term relationships. Sometimes I felt like I was the di*k with pockets.It would have been cheaper if I had been with hookers.I enjoyed their company for sure, but I would have appreciated it if they had offered once in awhile. And two of them made more than I did.Don't kid yourself,women definitely think Cash is King. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 6/26/2008 6:48:46 AM | just got one of those IM's from someone on here... a teacher in windsor I told her I printed shirts: she said you must not make much doing that :) I said not getting rich and she said goodbye :)
maybe i should lie :) | |
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