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Posted: 10/20/2005 12:48:27 AM | I believe people tend to be more loose and not afraid to say anything when they are behind the screen.Corresponding through emails and forums is different from conversing with them in real life-you can't edit,erase and take back a word.
This guy is probably shy and has a hard time talking to women except through a keyboard.So he might have gotten freaked out when you said you wanted to meet.Maybe this forum was a place for his other personality ....like me for example-I can't seem to shut up.. I don't normally talk this much | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 4:10:59 AM | prolibertate said:
he may have had something come up like a family emergency, he had to go out of town for work, his computer isn't working.
I guess that's on a planet where there are no phones, no email access, he's being held captive by relatives who are refusing to let him out of the house so he can't get to a pay phone or a library where there is internet access....yeah right. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 5:38:15 AM | Don't judge yet, a women i knew through another site, well we kind of fell in love at that site, we were perfect for each other in every way, she was very well off, was going to fly here to see me and stay for a month, if things went ok. Well guess what?, no emails, no phone, nothing. This is the sad part, the train that she commuted on to teach at the university every day was bombed, over 300 killed, including her, so don't jump to a final conclusion until you know all the facts.
And if you were closer, older, me younger, well you get the point, lol
John | |
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| I am so frustrated!
Posted: 10/20/2005 5:54:13 AM | | just curious underherfeet...how did you find out that she was killed? | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 6:04:10 AM | | I tend to agree with you on the idea that something came up. I have shared parenting so every other week is pretty crazy around here. I definately chat more on the off weeks, however after regularly chatting with someone I do tend to let my situation be known. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 2:22:33 PM | .... I think it was too late to date!!! When you finally desided to date him he was allready in coma or dead maybe.... that happen all the time | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 7:03:14 PM |
I guess that's on a planet where there are no phones, no email access, he's being held captive by relatives who are refusing to let him out of the house so he can't get to a pay phone or a library where there is internet access....yeah right.
My comment was said before knowing how long it had been since she had contact from him...if it had only been a day or two, that's nothing...and as I'd like to think there are more good people in this world than not, I try to be more optimistic...but I'm also not naive.
I've spent the last 5 days in the hospital with my father after he had a heart attack...no one got called because you can't use a cell phone in the cardiac unit and I didn't even have to leave his room to use a bathroom...by the time I left the hospital, it was generally too late to call people anyway...the most I did, as I couldn't sleep, was come on these forums...and I never bothered to check my emails...I wanted to just relax and that's what the forums did for me...but yes, he may have had email access, but no phone access, who knows; for all anyone knows, he could be in the hospital...or he could just be too chicken to say he's not interested anymore. But I can't see being negative right out of the gate. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 7:17:28 PM | but yes, he may have had email access, but no phone access, who knows; for all anyone knows, he could be in the hospital...or he could just be too chicken to say he's not interested anymore. But I can't see being negative right out of the gate.
Possibly, but then there are those people who get a charge out of having others wonder and worry about them- this would be my guess.
Then again with the proliferation of chat cancer, internet bombings and online vehicular homicide these days who really knows? -Or maybe it was just a virus? Give him time to do a full recovery and he'll back......
Being online is like being a midget at a urinal- you have to stay on your toes.......... | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 9:16:29 PM | | I got an email today LOL! He said that he answered my email... but I didn't get it... not really sure what to believe, but oh well... I think he's full of crap, but I will give him the benefit of the doubt. I guess we will see if he asks me out this weekend or not! This brings me to another question... does a girl wait for the guy to ask her, or does she just bite the bullet and ask him? Being an old fashioned girl myself, I wait, but I'm starting to think that I may be waiting until I'm too old to date! | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 9:18:28 PM | John, I'm SO sorry to hear that... it makes my story look so unimportant and insignificant (which it is, compared to what's really important in life).
How come you don't live closer? P | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 9:19:30 PM | | A sick family member in the hospital, or something so important would be the only ligit reason for not calling in my book. | |
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| I am so frustrated!
Posted: 10/20/2005 9:20:30 PM | @adventuregirl
If he's on AOL, then you might not have gotten it...their email stinks!
Let us know what happens! And best of luck to you! | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 9:21:55 PM | We are both on hotmail... I have yet to have this experience (not getting messages).
Thank you so much everyone... will keep you all posted!
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Posted: 10/20/2005 10:41:03 PM | Hey adventuregirl73,
I've sent some emails through hotmail recently and it said that they sent but the people did not receive them, so he may not be lying. I'm being 100% honest. I got the idea that they didn't send because I looked in the sent messages and there were none there. I was only using hotmail so I didn't have to give out my regular email address.
By the way, if you want to go out with him, ask him. | |
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| I am so frustrated!
Posted: 10/20/2005 10:50:35 PM |
Being online is like being a midget at a urinal- you have to stay on your toes..........
omg passinthru....your wit is so sharp today...ouch.... | |
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Posted: 10/21/2005 1:22:16 PM | You have made the common mistake that most women make when dealing with a man that you either want to date or are dating.
We men are very simple creatures. We do enjoy sending emails back and forth, going out on dates, and perhaps even conversing with women. In order to understand the situation, you need to understand a man. Men want sex, and women like to play games because you have the vaginas. It is very understandable that you would like to get to know someone extremely well before you meet them, but at the same time you risk losing that person because as time goes on they will lose interest in you. They will find someone else, which is most likely the case here.
It's like you dating a man that you really like, and then you silently set a rule with yourself that I will NOT sleep with him until I really get to know him. So, you end up dating this man for two or three months maybe even longer without any sex. Many women say to themselves how great it is that this man is so patient. Guess what? He's out banging other women while he's waiting for you. Eventually, while you're holding out, he will probably leave you midstream because while waiting for you to put out he found someone else. It's that simple. The moral of the story is you need to get to the point quickly when dealing with men. I personally don't have the patience for it... after a few emails if you think you like one another then meet someplace and quit wasting one anothers time with bull$hit emails. Besides dating = porking anyways. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2005 7:54:05 PM | OKAY THEN!
I think you may have misunderstood my first post... he is the one that has not made an effort to meet... If you read my profile, it states, in fact, the absolute opposite to what you are suggesting! My whole point of posting this thread was to merely ask opinions and vent my feelings on this subject.
I appreciate your honesty, I'm just not sure that your opinion (albeit a valid one in some cases) is truly unbiased or objective. Maybe I am pre-judging you, or assuming something I shouldn't, but your voice comes across as bitter and angry... is there a particular reason for this? Did I hit a nerve? I know for a fact that not all men think dating=porking, as you put it, and I also know that just because a woman wants to wait doesn't mean she is playing games of any kind. Maybe it means that she thinks this man is special, and to hop into bed with him would ruin a chance at connecting emotionally?
I know I'm opening a can of worms with that last statement LOL!
If he's out "banging" other women, so be it... How would I ever know, or why would I care much at this point, since we haven't even met, which brings us right back to the beginning. | |
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| I am so frustrated!
Posted: 10/21/2005 9:02:01 PM | | I think you should just go with your gut feeling. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2005 9:22:48 PM | | I, personally, don`t have alot of faith in internet dating...WHY??? Because it is very transient...it`s the nature of the beast....You can put a picture up (hopefully it`s your picture)...talk to some one for weeks and then they just disappear into thin air because someone else has come along...In my opinion, people need to push themselves away from the computer and get back out into the real world!!! That`s where I date, and life is good....You see the person and there are no surpirses!!! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2005 9:28:36 PM | adventuregirl73,
He has something to hide...consider yourself fortunate | |
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Posted: 10/21/2005 9:59:37 PM | | well honey welcome to pc dating, it happens and it sucks, i went through it, the guy you think likes you tags you along as far as he can, and then bammm,nothing. Recently i went through it, except, i kept asking him up to the last day, are you interested, his responce, yes, then, as quickly as that, they turn into demens, rude, and frankly with no rationale behind it. so not only do they have a profession such as lets see a firefighter, but their other profession is to see how many they can get, and hurt, and lay....its all a game, but there are good menout there,,, | |
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| I am so frustrated!
Posted: 10/22/2005 6:08:57 PM | WHERE ARE THEY? And how come I can't seem to find them? I'm tired of the game... what's the point in chatting and emailing if this is going to be the end result?
He's calling now by the way LOL! Still no meeting though. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2005 12:33:36 AM | I agree with what someone else here said. He's found someone else who he deems more suitable for what ever reason. I'm assuming you're back on the market again?  | |
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Posted: 10/23/2005 1:54:51 AM | Maybe his wife got back in town.  lol!
On a serious note, whatever the case, the guy's already brought confusion and uncertanity into your life. What do you think he will do when you actually meet him.
My advice? Don't put all your "emails and phone calls" in one basket.
Happy fishing sis. 
lucY | |
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